Why a Virgo guy turns into an asshole....

Confessed to my Virgo guy friend that I had fallen for him about 6 months ago. He told me he had the same feelings, and never wanted to lose my friendship. He moved away and about a week ago came back. He will be here for two to three weeks. He has not called me or anything to hang out. I called and left a message to say hi and see what is up and that I have not heard from him for a while. He has not returned my phone call. I am not planning to call him back, since he is being rude and inconsiderate for not calling me back.

He became different after he realized that I had feelings for him. It turned out to be a completely different ball game for him. He stopped calling as much, does not answer when I call him, complains when I do not answer my phone, calls back sometimes the same day sometimes 3 or 4 days later. He comes off as indifferent about me. I asked him about why he is like that and he said that he is not. He seemed like he became closed off and I do not believe him in anything he says anymore. I can understand that he might have found a girlfriend or whatever, because we were not dating or having sex, but that still does not give anyone a reason to treat people with disrespect. He is always curious about whether I was sleeping with someone or not, because he kept asking me whether I was promiscuous. The point is that I do not sleep around and I want to find trust, loyalty and love before the physical intimacy comes into play. He knows that my fiance cheated on me a month before the wedding because I would not put out and wanted it to be something special. He told me good luck finding someone like that. It seems like as soon as he figured out that he had to love me before he can sleep with me, he changed his demeanor also.

I have always been nice and honest to him.

The point is I am moving away to another state next week due to work. Can you please explain to me why after he tells me he feels the same way about me but he acts like this.

I am tired of putting an effort into this friendship or whatever it is. I do have feelings for him, but I have to live my life and pursue my career and goals.

Is it likely that he may come around or he is gone without a trace? I am very upset that he is disrespecting me and I was thinking about sending him a nasty email or text telling him that he is an asshole for thinking that he is better than me by not returning my phone call.

...It seems like as soon as he figured out that he had to love me before he can sleep with me, he changed his demeanor also....Is it likely that he may come around or he is gone without a trace? I am very upset that he is disrespecting me

- we had another girl (lives in UK and a Libra girl I recall) who had the same problem.

- you must see that Virgos need a long time to decide whether someone is the right one for them. And sex is including I guess.

- he may be disappeared because in most cases it is correct to disconnect totally in order to close the case.

- I hope he won't call you any more. it will bring only confusion.

- this other girl from UK called her Virgo one day and got a bad conversation cause he had a female guest in his room. He told her he is enjoying life. He hinted to her decision on waiting for sex after marriage and that she won't experience such moments like he did.

- I am not saying "change your plans". I just say people who wait for sex after marriage will be a few times hurt until they marry. Cause there are many people out there who wants to know it before.

^^^^^ This is so true. Why do they do that?

It's like...they don't want you but they don't want anyone else to have you.

Happened to me too, taurus. He turned 180 on me when I announced him I could spend the rest of my live with him. That was 9 months ago. He actually completely stopped replying to me. Same attitude with phone calls throughout our relation when things started turning more serious; that is when HE became emotional as well but was in denial. It wore me out.


Believe me... it's not worth the effort. If you turn cold on him, you'd be surprised how fast he shows up. Don't even mention love anymore.

Also the part with sex, I agree with Dwelling's comment. However, depends on how old you are. Let's say if you past your Age 30, then waiting for sex after marriage would be ludicrous. I waited for marriage too, but in my early 20s.



Honey, move on! Really.. you don't want to be play-tool for such guy who can't make up his mind. If he decides to come around in the future after he made up his mind, then you can re-evaluate how you feel at the time. A relation can only move forward; it shouldn't get stuck in a rut.

6 months is long enough to know...

Believe me... it's not worth the effort. If you turn cold on him, you'd be surprised how fast he shows up. Don't even mention love anymore.

hahahaha, you know I have to say, this is true.

I can be meaner than a rattle-snake ... and I have no problems out of Virguys. The moment I get sweet, thats when they go nuts. When I ignore them, they want attention like you wouldn't believe. I'm not sure what the deal is but yeah I've noticed that.

The problem arises when I stop caring, then I look like the bad one. What the hell—

Never be nice to a virguy, you give them an inch, they will stump all over you.

You tell them to kiss your ass, then they'll stick to you like glue.

Don't believe me? Give it shot 😉

Just because a guy says he feels the same does not mean he wants to act on those feelings. There is too much reality with you, no sex before marriage is not that appealing to some guys, guess he's one of them, good thing you know so you can move on to a man that can handle the responsibilities and expectations required to be in your life.

Thanks to all of your answers.

I am not saying that I want to wait until marriage but I want to be in a relationship before I have to put out. I am not into the whole one night stand thing.

I am too afraid of getting an STD. Several people that I know were sleeping around and end up with genital herpes even after they used protection.

Virgotime- I am moving to the west coast and he lives on the east coast.

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Posted by cappysweetie
Never be nice to a virguy, you give them an inch, they will stump all over you.

You tell them to kiss your ass, then they'll stick to you like glue.

LMAO! So funny, CS, and yes . . . true!

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Oh yeah, I know from first-second-third hand experience. Its just not my nature to be a bitch all the time, so I'm like whatever, the hell with it lol.