why do Virgos influence me so deeply ( like any other sign)?

Hello,

i have a question to all Virgo men!!!

I am aries 27 years old ARIES. ALmost all my life I attract Fire signs and VIRGOS.

I am attractive but a bit shy. I do not come to the party or a business meeting loudly, i am reserved, not shy but i know how to behave.

All of my life, and my younger years i have been surrouded by party girls, my friends who were 'friends' with Virgos. There have been groups of a lot of people and so one. Those girls ( in my example, two companies, the same situation occured after 2-3 years) wanted to be the best in a company, were drinking like men, partying like men, were very ironical, but on the other hand intelligent, sarcastic, SAD and possesive.

I have a tendency that when i am in some group after 2-3 meeting when i get comfortable, i open up . I do not open up straight like other people at the 1st meeting. I like to keep the reserve, distance.

So after opening up, being a little reserved, in all of those companies, most VIRGO MEN were attracted to me.

Usually there was some kind of an great aura around me , they liked me as a person and etc. But those relations didnt work out . Usually it was just few months.

Virgos in those groups turned out to be unpleasant men, very cocky and prone to popularity. And i have never understood it.

One of my Virgo ex that i was describing here, came back to me several times because I GAINED popularity, i was in a different environment.

I remember that after a break up he saw i was giving a d---amn about it ( like other girls would not do). I took some things personally and he started to worry. He told me to be the best and went away - to seek other chicks hehehe. ( in general) Left me like that.

So i told myself to be the best, some time after when i started being the best and i gained my new skills that i have been working for, and i gained new friends' circle he came back.

It was the same with my 1st platonic Virgo crush from High School. He came back when he saw i 'fixed'(?) myself, repaired myself in a way that i started to work with other people, i was not 'working alone' in a misery thinking of him.

WHy is that?

I thought that men usually meet women in random places. Some fire signs do not care of popularity. Sagittarius friends and Leo friends talk to me, were dating me before when i didnt have friends, when i was alone, doing my things... When i was an individual unit.



With Virgos i feel a pressure to be the best and to be the most popular in a company surrounded by people. All of the virgos i know are very professional in their work, but SINGLE ( maybe some girl friends but not official) and they are popular, they crave for popularity like noone else.



Last year, 2017 when i was abroad working on my university internship my boss was Virgo.Very popular and very professional in our profession. I learnt a lot from him but he had a pressure to be the best. He didnt treat me well like a student, only like a robot to FIX. HE TOLD ME THE SAME AS MY EX- to be the best and not care about the others.

BUt the way he does things is not my way. He is kind of a cocky , maybe not liar or cheater but a cool , popular guy surrounded by others, like a king...

My ex was also like that. AND i didnt give him my attention so he started to freak out... WHY?

So my question to all Virgos is : if i want to date a Virgo man should i be the best in my profession, workaholic, good looking and the most popular in my environment?

What is in me that at the beginning virgos are attracted to me and after some time the leave me, to be back after 4-7months when i gain professional skills and popularity?

And its not normal, i have felt so much pressurebecause of my virgo exes and my virgo boss last years. I could not leave it or ignore it. I do not know wht VIRGOS have something in them that makes me so weak, the mask of ARIES that i have of a strong woman is actually taken off.

I am 'naked inside' when i meet Virgo men. I can not fake.

Really i am like that , They are ONLY signs that i feel like that being surrounded by them. And i can feel , i can see who is VIRGO OR NOT.

Thank you Virgos for understanding and blessed 2018 🙂

Joanne.

It's because we sound like we know what we're talking about. So most ppl automatically assume we do.

Editor's note : I didn't read all of the OP, just the highlights.

Posted by TomSawyer

Posted by joanne_p
So after opening up, being a little reserved, in all of those companies, most VIRGO MEN were attracted to me.

Lol

Anyway,

Most of this is happening because you don't come off as a total idiot.

It's like.....Imagine you're gonna rob a big bank and you need 4-6 people to execute it.

So you're on a look out for potential all the time(not seeking it but if it happens to come your way, you see what it's all about)

Majority of people tend to not be very bright..like at all.

And that's the problem.

Now, you see a good candidate for a good partner and start observing.

In your case, attractive - check, reserved - check, doesn't run on impulse - check.

That's already more than most people have at any given time.

So this makes you stand out.



Popularity: - It's status in hierarchy.

Elevating yourself in a hierarchy is doable.

In this case, it's easier to get an A than to keep an A, understand?

Once you become the top dog, you don't really wanna go back to being nothing.

I'm gonna elaborate on something and you can take a deeper look.

"Chickeny": betrayal/survival/ = Smart = will ensure another day, if played right.

(Not nescessarily sexy or manly but...)

Then again, they may just be peacocking. If that's the case, their foundation is weak.

"Prone to popularity" = understanding the dynamics and manipulating it when it suits you = again, smart.

(It is what it is)

This is a topic for another day.



The thing with coming in and out of someones life varies.

In your case it's probably the following:

Since you stand out, they keep you in mind.

They leave you alone for the time being (you need to figure out certain things on your own in life) and after a while they return to check up on you.

This is why they tell you to be the best regardless of what's going on.

They see the potential.

If i want to date a Virgo man, should I be the best, the prettiest etc?

^Men don't think like this.

Just be yourself.



Last question: Why do Virgos influence me so deeply?

Idk...Cappy moon or something.

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yeah, thank you.

it was the same twice with my Virgo Ex'es.

the 1st one treated me badly, it was kind of manipulation from his side and at the end some kind of violence.

i cut the contact.

he was also very sharp in language and emotions.

it was when i was 16 until 20 years old.



the 2nd Virgo came into my life almost suddenly. he was a friend of a friend. i was introduced to the group. i was writing about him before.

its like he was immidiately fascinated by me, i saw him chasing me until we had a short romance.

i didnt know he was Virgo then. i didnt know that he was such a difficult person.

when he left me and started not replying to my texts and just pulled away i pulled back twice. then he was silcent as hell. but only was meeting me at the parties.

he had other part time girlfriends even two at the same time. but he was always going to the parties and meetings with friends alone when i was there. and he was kind of checking on me.

now i know i realised that after 2 years.

before i didnt know. i was only doing my thing. i knew that he was kindof interested in me but i didnt know why he didnt talk to me and he didnt even want to communicate with me on a normal , human basis but only appear on parties or random meetings. then was asking about my career and projects ( i told him before what was my dream to become and i was wokring hard to achieve it).

and i was getting popular and popular. i was doing this job very well and he got scared that his friends started to be interested in me not as a worker but as a female.

i just see that now. his behaviour and actions were so weird to me, he was such a duch*** bag, always swearing, unpleasant to me but didnt want anyone to 'touchme' in a way that i couldnt meet new people at work.

like he would treat me as his 'project' that was pulling away from him.

i didnt know that it was like that. i was moving on slowly with my life and i was doing my job. working with new clients, designers - that was what i told him at the beginning. it was the thing that i wanted to do. so i was fulfilling my dream.

but he was silent. sometimes i was trying to ask him out. i was even so determined to chase him on parties or at work. he was getting scared.

sometimes i saw he was scared of me at work, or among people. that was weird.

he was scared when i was getting popular and more accepted by the work environment.

so before i left to another country for my work. i forgot about him. because it was still about 1.5 years after our romance. so in a normal daily basis i would have had 2 boyfriends after him in that period of time.

but i was blocked. i dont know why. mentally. only focused on work. every flirt was finished badly,

he even started to block me ( asi described before in some later threads) as he would be territorial or jealous.

EVEN when he didnt want me.

when i came back after 6-7 months to my city he saw me twice. when 1st i saw him in a centre of the city in some bar in a mirror. he was observing me but quickly faded away with a friend.

and then checked my social media just to make sure it was me and it was me who actually returned.



after some weeks it was in october he saw me on a party. was very nice to me and my sister, even hugged me, we had a talk and he was a bit scared(?) weird, shy but also drunk and wanted me to give him a high 5 . so i got him that and he quickly faded away.

since that moment since october i sent him ( LOL IT WOULD BE FUNNY) 3 snapchats, the latest from my new years party - but he didnt open the latest one.

and i liked his 2 pictures on facebook.

when i was abroad he was liking every one of my pictures from school from beach, from work...

when came back- didnt say anything.

i have a good freelance job for the february and for march. i will have to post some thread in a common group forum on facebook. he and his work friends are also involved in that group.

so i just wonder if he notices that or not.

i just wonder why when i wast taking the initiative and when i was super confident he was running away. why was he chasing me all the time 1 year ago at parties.



now, in 2018 i do not have the paranoia, i do not want him to come back. i am just curious why was he behaving like that to me.

after 1 year i realised he was playing games, was shady, had other 2 girlfriends but still he was kind of interested in me. i didnt know why.

i felt i was kind of an open project that was resisting of him. maybe all of his girlfriends or close girl friends usually are very quick and open to his propositions.

and i wanted someone to be with me, just to hang out and be normal like friends and then maybe couple.



he was always pulling back but then blocking me before other men interested.

when i was abroad i was thinking if he will ever come back.

i even told my mum about this story and she thinks the chapter is not over yet because our affair was very short.

and she thinks he will come back.

now i am looking for someone else, maybe more nice and responsible.

i do not know.

but i will have an eye on this situation.

i just wonder after reading many virgo threads here why you, virgos act almost the same. appear and dissapear all the time.

and its not about typical men behavior of getting hot and cold.

its different. really

thank you. 🙂

the problem is...

all of the women that throw themselves at him are party women. party rich girls that can get laid in order to get a job or not. popular instagram women in my work environment that actually are writing on instagram whith whom they slept before.take sexy pictures of their as---ses to get 100 likes. and show others ( and him) how sporty they are.

since me ( 2 years ago) he had 3 girlfriends. almost the same type. party girls, they go for techno parties, like hardcore parties ( i dont). they are kind of artistic - BUT NOT PROFESSIONAL.( i am )

and he encourages them to work hard to get the job done.

with me i think he missunderstood my intensions 2 years ago. i didnt search for a sponsor or a 'daddy' . i was searching for a boyfriend.

i am artistic. i have professional artistic parents.im finishing two cool artistic faculties. so i am professional. i get the job done as well myself but i have never thought i needed to put everything on facebook to prove him i work... 😛

yea, after my diploma in 2-3 months im moving to different city for a new job.

i dont need someone who thinks im not professional. i have a Father who can 'father me' - i need a boyfriend on the same level of understanding.

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Posted by greylatern
This is karmic. Your projecting something that attracts Virgos.

I'll give you a great example my last 3 relationships they had Venus in Scorpio and would always aques me of shit. Turns out they were right I didn't know my own heart but they did.

You might have something similar going on. Virgoes love fixing and analyzing problems. Nurtures but yes we can be assholes about it or at least insensitive. We probably see a lot of potential so we want to fix/grow you. However this could all be karmic or you might be a Virgo magnet like I am with libras.

My guess would be that. You have something in your chart that aspects Virgo especially sun placements and draws them in. Like my Libra Venus.

The hot and cold thing Virgos do is because we tend to have to process our emotions mentally.

hello, thank you for the answer.

yes it is the same! because he was always telling me 'be the best' and then didnt want to be my boyfriend and was pulling away. he was only appearing when i was doing some 'famous' projects as he would be glad i was doing what i wanted always to do.

when i met him in october the last time , he asked me if i wanted to go back to being a freelancer with my freelance job that i was doing before my going abroad.

i dont know why he said that and asked me that question.

i said: i dont know i must write my diploma and graduate first.

and yea i have some propositions for a future timing but he doesnt know about that.

i know that virgo fixes people. maybe because i have a nice, polite and attractive face?i also do not make drama. i do not have to and i am not jerky like some other people.

i am fragile and sometimes melancholic. i am 21.03 so i am pisces aries cusp- and i was always wondering why i felt like 2 sided- sometimes like firey aries and sometimes as innocet pisces.

now i know.

he liked me being fragile but confident.

he likes watching people being fixed . maybe he puts people as projects to grow, to do.

with me - it didnt work out. i am not a project. i can do everything by myself or I CAN do HOW I WANT.

and i felt closedminded, and pressured because of him. really i felt like he would stare at me last 1.5 year and being a 'daddy' . when didnt even see him.

i had a pressure he was observing me and i wanted to do things because i felt uncomfortable in some way. that he can judge me.

i am aries sun ( pisces aries cusp), leo asc, capricorn moon, venus mars in aquarius.

Posted by TomSawyer

Posted by joanne_p
the problem is...

all of the women that throw themselves at him are party women. party rich girls that can get laid in order to get a job or not. popular instagram women in my work environment that actually are writing on instagram whith whom they slept before.take sexy pictures of their as---ses to get 100 likes. and show others ( and him) how sporty they are.

since me ( 2 years ago) he had 3 girlfriends. almost the same type. party girls, they go for techno parties, like hardcore parties ( i dont). they are kind of artistic - BUT NOT PROFESSIONAL.( i am )

and he encourages them to work hard to get the job done.

with me i think he missunderstood my intensions 2 years ago. i didnt search for a sponsor or a 'daddy' . i was searching for a boyfriend.

i am artistic. i have professional artistic parents.im finishing two cool artistic faculties. so i am professional. i get the job done as well myself but i have never thought i needed to put everything on facebook to prove him i work... 😛

yea, after my diploma in 2-3 months im moving to different city for a new job.

i dont need someone who thinks im not professional. i have a Father who can 'father me' - i need a boyfriend on the same level of understanding.

.

To each it's own.

Good luck to you, Joanne.

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thank you 🙂

ps. sometimes i think that maybe i have been too stubborn and proud.

dont know.

yea but anyway.

he is partying in india with our common friend.

3.5 weeks.

so good to him 🙂

and i am doing my master thesis at home listening to rolling stones at 00:50

🙂 🙂