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Posted by jeane
i guess as an "older" woman on the board, i would advise a bit of caution, op.
i'm not necessarily talking about the age difference. you're both consenting adults so no judgement here.
but there does seem like a disparity in experience. fwbs take a lot of emotional experience to handle in a healthy way. if you've had sex 4 times with different partners and now a guy who, without question, has had a greater amount of sexual experience than you - be careful. fwb is no strings, no feelings, no obligation. if you are writing about concern if you've turned him off or appearing clingy or annoying then i fear that you might not be ready for fwb.
and yeah, i am old school. sex to me is meaningful and intimate and something to be shared with someone you care about as an expression of that feeling. i'm no prude and i get the need to scratch an itch but it can come with a price if that's where you place it's value for any long period of time.
I don’t want anything serious right now at all. I just want to explore sexually. And the reason I was worried cause I’ve known him for years and I’ve never had sex with someone that I was friends with and I respected him. I was worried that I had messed up the friendship. If he wasn’t already a friend I wouldn’t care at all. I’m just a crying person and care about all of my friends. When I’m ready I will get in a seriously relationship and hopefully find someone I love to only have sex with. But I just started being sexually active and I honestly just want to have fun for now.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibra
Again, I didn't say sex I said dating. If your life has been too busy to I understand. It's just that most young women like to get asked out and go out to have a good time with guys at your age. You said you go out with young guys but I see you've only been out like 3 times. Was the 4th time with the older man?
I never said I don’t like to get asked out. I like getting asked out and go on dates. And no All times were with men my age. I get asked in dates all the time I’ve been busy lately but if I’m not busy and if I like the person I will accept it. I just chose to have sex with a older man that I found attractive. It was fun to release some sexual frustration with no strings attached until I find the right guy to be in a relationship with. And I would have sex with him again even I visit my hometown again if I have time.
Okay you're confusing me. You keep talking about sex and I'm talking about dating. Have you been on more than 4 dates in your life?click to expand
What’s the big deal if I’ve only been in 4 dates? I’m doing good in school, I’m focused on my career, I’m happy. I’m just not in a rush to really date or anything. I’m only 22 I have plenty of time.
Posted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibra
Again, I didn't say sex I said dating. If your life has been too busy to I understand. It's just that most young women like to get asked out and go out to have a good time with guys at your age. You said you go out with young guys but I see you've only been out like 3 times. Was the 4th time with the older man?
I never said I don’t like to get asked out. I like getting asked out and go on dates. And no All times were with men my age. I get asked in dates all the time I’ve been busy lately but if I’m not busy and if I like the person I will accept it. I just chose to have sex with a older man that I found attractive. It was fun to release some sexual frustration with no strings attached until I find the right guy to be in a relationship with. And I would have sex with him again even I visit my hometown again if I have time.
Okay you're confusing me. You keep talking about sex and I'm talking about dating. Have you been on more than 4 dates in your life?
What’s the big deal if I’ve only been in 4 dates? I’m doing good in school, I’m focused on my career, I’m happy. I’m just not in a rush to really date or anything. I’m only 22 I have plenty of time.click to expand
Oh I see you're just looking for sex. I was just curious because most ladies your age do date, go to school and work. But if your life is too busy I certainly understand.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibra
Again, I didn't say sex I said dating. If your life has been too busy to I understand. It's just that most young women like to get asked out and go out to have a good time with guys at your age. You said you go out with young guys but I see you've only been out like 3 times. Was the 4th time with the older man?
I never said I don’t like to get asked out. I like getting asked out and go on dates. And no All times were with men my age. I get asked in dates all the time I’ve been busy lately but if I’m not busy and if I like the person I will accept it. I just chose to have sex with a older man that I found attractive. It was fun to release some sexual frustration with no strings attached until I find the right guy to be in a relationship with. And I would have sex with him again even I visit my hometown again if I have time.
Okay you're confusing me. You keep talking about sex and I'm talking about dating. Have you been on more than 4 dates in your life?
What’s the big deal if I’ve only been in 4 dates? I’m doing good in school, I’m focused on my career, I’m happy. I’m just not in a rush to really date or anything. I’m only 22 I have plenty of time.
Oh I see you're just looking for sex. I was just curious because most ladies your age do date, go to school and work. But if your life is too busy I certainly understand.click to expand
I think honestly I never dated cause so didn’t trust guys at all. My mom had a abusive husband in the past when I was growing up and I didn’t have a lot of good male influences growing up so that’s probably why I wasn’t in a rush to date. I actually like being single but I’m gonna slowly start dating. I’m just not in a rush I’m happy either way, I don’t need men to make my life happy.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibra
Again, I didn't say sex I said dating. If your life has been too busy to I understand. It's just that most young women like to get asked out and go out to have a good time with guys at your age. You said you go out with young guys but I see you've only been out like 3 times. Was the 4th time with the older man?
I never said I don’t like to get asked out. I like getting asked out and go on dates. And no All times were with men my age. I get asked in dates all the time I’ve been busy lately but if I’m not busy and if I like the person I will accept it. I just chose to have sex with a older man that I found attractive. It was fun to release some sexual frustration with no strings attached until I find the right guy to be in a relationship with. And I would have sex with him again even I visit my hometown again if I have time.
Okay you're confusing me. You keep talking about sex and I'm talking about dating. Have you been on more than 4 dates in your life?
What’s the big deal if I’ve only been in 4 dates? I’m doing good in school, I’m focused on my career, I’m happy. I’m just not in a rush to really date or anything. I’m only 22 I have plenty of time.
Oh I see you're just looking for sex. I was just curious because most ladies your age do date, go to school and work. But if your life is too busy I certainly understand.click to expand
Plus right now I got to school full time and work 60 hours a week at USPS
Posted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Ram23533Posted by DonnaLibra
Again, I didn't say sex I said dating. If your life has been too busy to I understand. It's just that most young women like to get asked out and go out to have a good time with guys at your age. You said you go out with young guys but I see you've only been out like 3 times. Was the 4th time with the older man?
I never said I don’t like to get asked out. I like getting asked out and go on dates. And no All times were with men my age. I get asked in dates all the time I’ve been busy lately but if I’m not busy and if I like the person I will accept it. I just chose to have sex with a older man that I found attractive. It was fun to release some sexual frustration with no strings attached until I find the right guy to be in a relationship with. And I would have sex with him again even I visit my hometown again if I have time.
Okay you're confusing me. You keep talking about sex and I'm talking about dating. Have you been on more than 4 dates in your life?
What’s the big deal if I’ve only been in 4 dates? I’m doing good in school, I’m focused on my career, I’m happy. I’m just not in a rush to really date or anything. I’m only 22 I have plenty of time.
Oh I see you're just looking for sex. I was just curious because most ladies your age do date, go to school and work. But if your life is too busy I certainly understand.
I think honestly I never dated cause so didn’t trust guys at all. My mom had a abusive husband in the past when I was growing up and I didn’t have a lot of good male influences growing up so that’s probably why I wasn’t in a rush to date. I actually like being single but I’m gonna slowly start dating. I’m just not in a rush I’m happy either way, I don’t need men to make my life happy.click to expand
Well you're better off doing what you're doing now. You do have plenty of time to get in a relationship.
Posted by Ram23533Posted by jeane
i guess as an "older" woman on the board, i would advise a bit of caution, op.
i'm not necessarily talking about the age difference. you're both consenting adults so no judgement here.
but there does seem like a disparity in experience. fwbs take a lot of emotional experience to handle in a healthy way. if you've had sex 4 times with different partners and now a guy who, without question, has had a greater amount of sexual experience than you - be careful. fwb is no strings, no feelings, no obligation. if you are writing about concern if you've turned him off or appearing clingy or annoying then i fear that you might not be ready for fwb.
and yeah, i am old school. sex to me is meaningful and intimate and something to be shared with someone you care about as an expression of that feeling. i'm no prude and i get the need to scratch an itch but it can come with a price if that's where you place it's value for any long period of time.
I don’t want anything serious right now at all. I just want to explore sexually. And the reason I was worried cause I’ve known him for years and I’ve never had sex with someone that I was friends with and I respected him. I was worried that I had messed up the friendship. If he wasn’t already a friend I wouldn’t care at all. I’m just a crying person and care about all of my friends. When I’m ready I will get in a seriously relationship and hopefully find someone I love to only have sex with. But I just started being sexually active and I honestly just want to have fun for now.click to expand
it's not about being in a relationship. it's about having the sense of self. it's about understanding sex, the place of sex in the world/culture and your role you play.
that you describe yourself as a "crying person and care about all of my friends" shows your youth. women in their 20's worry about appearing clingy/annoying. look at dxp, the site is littered with women who are unsure of themselves. with 35+ comes confidence. you stop caring what other people think of you - friends included - you appear as you appear. anyone who doesn't like it knows where the door is.
so all i am saying is be careful. sex can be abused and be abusive. it can skew the way you look at the world. you already said you don't trust men and have experience of being in an abusive household. none of that helps when trying to make healthy connections and choices.
Posted by jeanePosted by Ram23533Posted by jeane
i guess as an "older" woman on the board, i would advise a bit of caution, op.
i'm not necessarily talking about the age difference. you're both consenting adults so no judgement here.
but there does seem like a disparity in experience. fwbs take a lot of emotional experience to handle in a healthy way. if you've had sex 4 times with different partners and now a guy who, without question, has had a greater amount of sexual experience than you - be careful. fwb is no strings, no feelings, no obligation. if you are writing about concern if you've turned him off or appearing clingy or annoying then i fear that you might not be ready for fwb.
and yeah, i am old school. sex to me is meaningful and intimate and something to be shared with someone you care about as an expression of that feeling. i'm no prude and i get the need to scratch an itch but it can come with a price if that's where you place it's value for any long period of time.
I don’t want anything serious right now at all. I just want to explore sexually. And the reason I was worried cause I’ve known him for years and I’ve never had sex with someone that I was friends with and I respected him. I was worried that I had messed up the friendship. If he wasn’t already a friend I wouldn’t care at all. I’m just a crying person and care about all of my friends. When I’m ready I will get in a seriously relationship and hopefully find someone I love to only have sex with. But I just started being sexually active and I honestly just want to have fun for now.
it's not about being in a relationship. it's about having the sense of self. it's about understanding sex, the place of sex in the world/culture and your role you play.
that you describe yourself as a "crying person and care about all of my friends" shows your youth. women in their 20's worry about appearing clingy/annoying. look at dxp, the site is littered with women who are unsure of themselves. with 35+ comes confidence. you stop caring what other people think of you - friends included - you appear as you appear. anyone who doesn't like it knows where the door is.
so all i am saying is be careful. sex can be abused and be abusive. it can skew the way you look at the world. you already said you don't trust men and have experience of being in an abusive household. none of that helps when trying to make healthy connections and choices.click to expand
Ive had counseling for my lack of trust in men cause of what’s happened in the past. I have healthy relationships with men in my life now. And even though I’ve chosen to have casual sex I’m still happy and healthy. I’m a happy single woman who’s doing good in college and with my job. I will continue enjoying sex and when I find the right guy, I will settle down and spend the rest of my life with him. I’m not in a rush, and until then I will enjoy my sex life. I know
People in committed relationships who aren’t happy. I’m just glad I’m happy. I’ve been learning a lot about my body and what I like also.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
He’s been grooming her since she was a teenclick to expand
I'd not be surprised
Any decent older bloke would discourage a girl half his age
Ewwww...😐
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.click to expand
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.click to expand
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
No I was 6 and it was 1989. She was an older teenager.click to expand
Sorry you went through that 😞
Enjoy yourself and be cautious...keep one foot on land...don’t dive all the way in. (Unless you’re having pool sex or something. 😉)
Good luck.
Good luck.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
No I was 6 and it was 1989. She was an older teenager.
Sorry you went through that 😞
Watching this episode of 48 hours made me flashback.
Kristen went to a high school that had two predators, but they were covered up or had too much popularity to be believable.
Science teacher, Mr Witters, raped her, but she felt responsible and confused. She actually blacked out what specifically happened so she didn’t know how to express the assault. https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.mercurynews.com/2013/01/30/moraga-new-lawsuits-expose-district-cover-up-in-sex-abuse-scandal/amp/
So Kristen went to her female gym coach who she trusted. Slowly the married mother and gym teacher groomed her just like the male teacher.
It became an obsession on the gym teachers side, while Kristen felt coerced and confused.
The 48 hr episode is amazing because she reconnects with the teacher while recording her to admit to the abuse.
The teacher was still obsessed with her.
You can find the 48 hours episode somewhere on YouTube or cbsclick to expand
Thanks for the vid but i won’t watch it, as i’m a mum it would turn my stomach and anger me.
🤮😡
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
No I was 6 and it was 1989. She was an older teenager.
Sorry you went through that 😞
Watching this episode of 48 hours made me flashback.
Kristen went to a high school that had two predators, but they were covered up or had too much popularity to be believable.
Science teacher, Mr Witters, raped her, but she felt responsible and confused. She actually blacked out what specifically happened so she didn’t know how to express the assault. https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.mercurynews.com/2013/01/30/moraga-new-lawsuits-expose-district-cover-up-in-sex-abuse-scandal/amp/
So Kristen went to her female gym coach who she trusted. Slowly the married mother and gym teacher groomed her just like the male teacher.
It became an obsession on the gym teachers side, while Kristen felt coerced and confused.
The 48 hr episode is amazing because she reconnects with the teacher while recording her to admit to the abuse.
The teacher was still obsessed with her.
You can find the 48 hours episode somewhere on YouTube or cbs
Thanks for the vid but i won’t watch it, as i’m a mum it would turn my stomach and anger me.
🤮😡
I feel I watch all these things to be aware of manipulationclick to expand
I’m very aware of it and would speak out and take action if i knew a child was a victim but don’t need to watch this stuff ...
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
No I was 6 and it was 1989. She was an older teenager.click to expand
No one should have had to have dealt with that. It's such a shame that part of your innocence as a child was robbed and hindered in such a way, especially in the development of trust in and comfort in older people as helpers.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Piscis_HominisPosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
What's a bloke pushing 50 doing knocking off a 23 year old?
😬
loving life?
Extended MLC
🥴
I wouldn't have any idea about that....
but its odd to hear you say that because I'm pretty sure I've seen you on here approving of relationships with older women/younger men....
So?
Women arent predators. Its not the same thing .... old men with pedo vibes looking for girls half their age and more is different territory altogether is what i find gross
seems hypocritical in the extreme...If you're saying this guy is a predator with "pedo vibes" because he's in his late 40s seeing someone in her mid-20s, you don't understand what a pedophile is.
Just the statement "women aren't predators" is extremely naive. There are of course women who molest other men and women, some their own children....
Lets try it this way - if the genders were reversed here, but the ages the same, you'd be ok with it?
I don’t know of any pedo women so cant pass comment
Big age gaps either way can be tricky....
I was molested by a Female teacher’s helper when I was 6.
I only realized it a few years ago.
Gross....did you do anything about it Arielle?
No I was 6.
She’d insist on taking me to the toilet and wiping me everytime Id pee. She’d go in the stall with me. I remember closing the door on her once, but she’d insist on coming in and scaring me that I might get a bladder infection if she didn’t wipe me properly.
I told my mom a few years ago and she said that is not sounding right and she’d wished she’d knew.
She basically touched me down there everytime I had to pee at summer gym camp.
She was overly attentive and would give me juicy fruit packs.
Can you trace her now? She may have gone on to do it to others
No I was 6 and it was 1989. She was an older teenager.
No one should have had to have dealt with that. It's such a shame that part of your innocence as a child was robbed and hindered in such a way, especially in the development of trust in and comfort in older people as helpers.
I don’t know if I’ve been affected since I only recently recalled it. Maybe it felt like one of those things that happens when you’re young, but it’s a vague confusion.
I think I’d just feel more aware, as a parent to talk to my kids about people invading space and talking about their body as if they own it.click to expand
I'm not suggesting you need to do anything, but bear with me as I offer some insight.
My first memory was from when I was around 2 or 3. I think I might have left my yard and wandered a bit in my neighbourhood. I kind of remember having a feeling of wonder, escape, and mischief. I know I was around this age because we moved to a different city and completely different type of neighbourhood a few months after my 3rd birthday so I'm feeling I was about it was the summer when I was about 2 1/2.
Anyway, I'm just thinking that we have memories that we repeat over and over in our heads. It keeps some details firmly entrenched while others are not so important. These memories are associated with the senses, where we might remember a song, a smell, a taste, etc.
These actions would have been repeated toward you as this is what you are remembering. At some point you likely felt uncomfortable, violated, weird, etc. about the event, and perhaps you blocked it off to protect yourself. I think that something kept the memory there, meaning it was important. We don't remember things that aren't significant to us, especially when we are so young.
Perhaps you might entertain something like hypnosis to open things up for you a bit. You might not feel the need or desire to do this, and you might be risking more and deeper acknowledgement of trauma. All I'm suggesting is that you might achieve something from this, if you gain some clarity on this, and then are able to address whatever transpires within you, assuming you gain this clarity, if you will.
It is admirable that you are looking at it in a way that you became more cognizant and perhaps more protective of others, especially your children.
Just offering some thoughts. I don't mean to disrupt.
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