@virgoOPPP
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is this a mutable thing?
or maybe it's mercury-related come to think of it
Ironically I see this a lot in fixed-fixed relations. A lot of the times neither side even aknowledges that something happened because each side worked through it on their own. The requirement seems to be that both denuinely care about the relationship and the other person tho. Not sure how it plays out in a different context because I have no data on this.
meh maybe it's just how it is when you care about each other in general
I can’t relate to the problem, but dam I remember you told a story about your aunt way back
yeah it's been a while but i'm still overthinking it lol
I also relate. I’m just typically not a fan of rehashing shit in general. I said what I said, you said what you said...we moved on...why go back? So somebody can get reoffended? It’s not that I’m pretending it didn’t happen... just rather not go back there. Don’t see the value in that
Maybe it’s a forgiving nature?
But I look at it like if we had a disagreement - that’s fine. We can disagree. Now we both know where the other stands. Nothing to talk about.
Maybe you said some messed up shit...so did I probably. We all have our moments. Nothing to talk about.
If you’re just not my type of person and I just don’t like you or the way you operate. Still nothing to talk about.
🤷🏼♀️ If I’m talking to you again it either means I’m over it or I have no choice (family or professionally)
Don’t need to talk about it!
I don’t know if this is a mutable thing though...
My Aqua sister is like this...while my Gemini father-in-law has this incessant need to rehash shit repeatedly for all of eternity. Can’t even have a normal relationship with the man cause he’s always so fuckin offended and HAS to talk about it or he can’t talk to you at all.
Sad
I can relate as well.
I'm upset with a relative when it happened. Life is too short for keeping grunges.
Never understood how a few Taurus relatives could bring up shit that happened years ago, and act like they are about to kill that person....
I also relate. I’m just typically not a fan of rehashing shit in general. I said what I said, you said what you said...we moved on...why go back? So somebody can get reoffended? It’s not that I’m pretending it didn’t happen... just rather not go back there. Don’t see the value in that
Maybe it’s a forgiving nature?
But I look at it like if we had a disagreement - that’s fine. We can disagree. Now we both know where the other stands. Nothing to talk about.
Maybe you said some messed up shit...so did I probably. We all have our moments. Nothing to talk about.
If you’re just not my type of person and I just don’t like you or the way you operate. Still nothing to talk about.
🤷🏼♀️ If I’m talking to you again it either means I’m over it or I have no choice (family or professionally)
Don’t need to talk about it!
same
don't you hate it when people start acting different around you just coz you guys had a bad exchange last time?
like i'm already over it
i throw like a crazy emotional tantrum when it happens though
but i will hate a reminder of it coz it's so awkward
For those bringing Aquas again and again.....
Aquas DON"T CARE. They don't care about any petty, personal shit.
I don’t know if this is a mutable thing though...
My Aqua sister is like this...while my Gemini father-in-law has this incessant need to rehash shit repeatedly for all of eternity. Can’t even have a normal relationship with the man cause he’s always so fuckin offended and HAS to talk about it or he can’t talk to you at all.
Sad
maybe he's got a non-mutable moon
personally, i'm easy to offend but i can just as easily let it go
I also relate. I’m just typically not a fan of rehashing shit in general. I said what I said, you said what you said...we moved on...why go back? So somebody can get reoffended? It’s not that I’m pretending it didn’t happen... just rather not go back there. Don’t see the value in that
Maybe it’s a forgiving nature?
But I look at it like if we had a disagreement - that’s fine. We can disagree. Now we both know where the other stands. Nothing to talk about.
Maybe you said some messed up shit...so did I probably. We all have our moments. Nothing to talk about.
If you’re just not my type of person and I just don’t like you or the way you operate. Still nothing to talk about.
🤷🏼♀️ If I’m talking to you again it either means I’m over it or I have no choice (family or professionally)
Don’t need to talk about it!
same
don't you hate it when people start acting different around you just coz you guys had a bad exchange last time?
like i'm already over it
i throw like a crazy emotional tantrum when it happens though
but i will hate a reminder of it coz it's so awkward
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Yeah I feel it’s so tacky honestly !
Like get over it 🙄
I totally overreact too. I will literally leave.
Like if you can’t get over it long enough to be in my presence without fucking up my vibe then I’m removing myself from your presence because I just don’t have time for it.
For those bringing Aquas again and again.....
Aquas DON"T CARE. They don't care about any petty, personal shit.
Lol it’s so true
They’re totally the “deal with it” people
I can relate as well.
I'm upset with a relative when it happened. Life is too short for keeping grunges.
Never understood how a few Taurus relatives could bring up shit that happened years ago, and act like they are about to kill that person....
yeah i mean i was very dramatic about how hurt i was when it happened
but if we can just both go on like it never happened,
i can live with it
my gemini aunt suddenly unblocked me from messenger and asking me help on filling up some kinda paper for some work-related stuff
we had a fallout before this but now she's acting like it didn't happen
so now i'm also just gonna let it go and act like it didn't happen
but i noticed that this is something i also prefer like i'd rather shrug things off in general
...you notice the same behavior among mutables?
No if I block someone nine times out of ten they gone stay blocked. Im not gonna unblock to talk or ask for help. For one I don't like talking and last but not least no longer want any connections with them.
Mutable and mercury dude here.
I also relate. I’m just typically not a fan of rehashing shit in general. I said what I said, you said what you said...we moved on...why go back? So somebody can get reoffended? It’s not that I’m pretending it didn’t happen... just rather not go back there. Don’t see the value in that
Maybe it’s a forgiving nature?
But I look at it like if we had a disagreement - that’s fine. We can disagree. Now we both know where the other stands. Nothing to talk about.
Maybe you said some messed up shit...so did I probably. We all have our moments. Nothing to talk about.
If you’re just not my type of person and I just don’t like you or the way you operate. Still nothing to talk about.
🤷🏼♀️ If I’m talking to you again it either means I’m over it or I have no choice (family or professionally)
Don’t need to talk about it!
same
don't you hate it when people start acting different around you just coz you guys had a bad exchange last time?
like i'm already over it
i throw like a crazy emotional tantrum when it happens though
but i will hate a reminder of it coz it's so awkward
Yeah I feel it’s so tacky honestly !
Like get over it 🙄
I totally overreact too. I will literally leave.
Like if you can’t get over it long enough to be in my presence without fucking up my vibe then I’m removing myself from your presence because I just don’t have time for it.
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i was like ' i will turn my back on family FOREVAHHHH'
well, that lasted less than a month lmfao
but sometimes i wish i was more passionate like a wuthering heights character, swearing vengeance but whatevs
my gemini aunt suddenly unblocked me from messenger and asking me help on filling up some kinda paper for some work-related stuff
we had a fallout before this but now she's acting like it didn't happen
so now i'm also just gonna let it go and act like it didn't happen
but i noticed that this is something i also prefer like i'd rather shrug things off in general
...you notice the same behavior among mutables?
No if I block someone nine times out of ten they gone stay blocked. Im not gonna unblock to talk or ask for help. For one I don't like talking and last but not least no longer want any connections with them.
Mutable and mercury dude here.
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sometimes i even forget people i blocked
then remember 'oh yeah i blocked this guy haha but like why?'
like did i block this guy coz of grammar issues or was it like one word he used i don't know
*memory loss ensues
then i feel like i kinda regret it but i'm too lazy to look at my settings or whatever
only reason i regret it is that i don't think i've ever hated someone like 100%
i usually have mixed feelings and thoughts about people
Probably why I keep forgetting I'm not supposed to comment on your posts.
*memory loss ensues
I don’t know if this is a mutable thing though...
My Aqua sister is like this...while my Gemini father-in-law has this incessant need to rehash shit repeatedly for all of eternity. Can’t even have a normal relationship with the man cause he’s always so fuckin offended and HAS to talk about it or he can’t talk to you at all.
Sad
maybe he's got a non-mutable moon
personally, i'm easy to offend but i can just as easily let it go
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Yea I definitely think the moon plays a role
My boyfriend takes things way more lightly and let go faster than me. Its his Sag moon
But then I don't dwell that long neither, I swear like 10hrs the most and I'm over it... lol............
Even if I said the most harsh words ever 😁
I don’t know if this is a mutable thing though...
My Aqua sister is like this...while my Gemini father-in-law has this incessant need to rehash shit repeatedly for all of eternity. Can’t even have a normal relationship with the man cause he’s always so fuckin offended and HAS to talk about it or he can’t talk to you at all.
Sad
maybe he's got a non-mutable moon
personally, i'm easy to offend but i can just as easily let it go
Yea I definitely think the moon plays a role
My boyfriend takes things way more lightly and let go faster than me. Its his Sag moon
But then I don't dwell that long neither, I swear like 10hrs the most and I'm over it... lol............
Even if I said the most harsh words ever 😁
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cap sun/pisces moon is the same
we're both so easy to upset but best to let go
my gemini aunt suddenly unblocked me from messenger and asking me help on filling up some kinda paper for some work-related stuff
we had a fallout before this but now she's acting like it didn't happen
so now i'm also just gonna let it go and act like it didn't happen
but i noticed that this is something i also prefer like i'd rather shrug things off in general
...you notice the same behavior among mutables?
with mutables, i'd expect unpredictability. like forgetting a slight just to remember it again because a recent experience triggered a memory, or a detail of the memory, related to once-forgotten slight. or forgetting (almost) all about it.
this behaviour though, i would see it as convenient. likely had no one else within reach to ask for the favour. and your fallout with her weighed less.
or she couldn't bring herself to resolve the issue with you. talk it out. high walls of pride. doing what she did, the topic was expertly avoided.
these are mere suppositions. all I know about the situation is in your post.
and, yeah. mercury... and moon are good options to start with.
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it's very odd only coz our last exchange recorded in messenger was REALLY BAD
we insulted each other
then next line she's asking for help with a cute emoji lmao
and i just don't feel mad anymore
Its not a mutable thing for me. I usually do better with people coming to me, I never reach out, I'm too stubborn. I will act like nothing happened though. I just want to move past whatever the issue is.
But she is family and she's the one who blocked you, so it's only right for her to make a move towards you to talk again.
I don’t know if this is a mutable thing though...
My Aqua sister is like this...while my Gemini father-in-law has this incessant need to rehash shit repeatedly for all of eternity. Can’t even have a normal relationship with the man cause he’s always so fuckin offended and HAS to talk about it or he can’t talk to you at all.
Sad
maybe he's got a non-mutable moon
personally, i'm easy to offend but i can just as easily let it go
Yea I definitely think the moon plays a role
My boyfriend takes things way more lightly and let go faster than me. Its his Sag moon
But then I don't dwell that long neither, I swear like 10hrs the most and I'm over it... lol............
Even if I said the most harsh words ever 😁
cap sun/pisces moon is the same
we're both so easy to upset but best to let go
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Earthy love.... stay strong lol 💕💕💞💘
Honestly I'm loving it
And I love that my sag moon is so lighthearted because I don't think any taurus without mutable placements can deal with me... 😂😂🙊
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my gemini aunt suddenly unblocked me from messenger and asking me help on filling up some kinda paper for some work-related stuff
we had a fallout before this but now she's acting like it didn't happen
so now i'm also just gonna let it go and act like it didn't happen
but i noticed that this is something i also prefer like i'd rather shrug things off in general
...you notice the same behavior among mutables?