What attracts you to someone?

And doesn’t?

As an Aqua I’ve realized recently that what causes me to be really attracted to someone is one who keeps me guessing. It sends me into a mental back and forth of should I, shouldn’t I.

What doesn’t attract me is clingyness, complaints about my “distant” nature or a show off, overly confident

How much Aqua do you have in you? I have lots and it takes a lot to attract me! Sensible, intelligence or knowledge of topical issues, a good sense of humour and social grace (knowing conversation is a two way street and communication skills) is what it takes for me.

Hm I really don't know🤷‍♂️all I can come up with is personality that attracts me. These days people doesn't attract me anymore. People have shown their nasty and ugliness as of late. I'm attracted to food, money and beer.

99% of all women I dated had dark hair and brown eyes. So that's a start. Next I honestly don't really know. I like when it's some random chemistry that appears out of nowhere. Like it's so in the moment and spontaneous we both can't resist. Because of that we both find it hard to hold back, and the feeling of lust/ sex drive goes from 0 to 100 and we can't explain it. No matter where our lives are at that moment.

Everything else to me is boring. Like I rather be alone then attempt small talk and try to work my way up with something. I want it to be instant, and irresistible. Otherwise I won't even notice them to begin with.

Posted by aquarius09
How much Aqua do you have in you? I have lots and it takes a lot to attract me! Sensible, intelligence or knowledge of topical issues, a good sense of humour and social grace (knowing conversation is a two way street and communication skills) is what it takes for me.

Not much. Moon in Libra, Venus in Aries. A lot of Cap placements

A lot of cap and even an air moon would make you detached and hard to please. People with detached placements like Aqua, Cap and Virgo make people apathetic.

Posted by aquarius09
A lot of cap and even an air moon would make you detached and hard to please. People with detached placements like Aqua, Cap and Virgo make people apathetic.

I’ve actually heard that one before too “hard to please”.

I’m not sure where it comes from because in my head I feel like I wear my heart on my sleeve and I’m very direct.

Maybe I should spend less time in my head lol

Posted by MonaLisa26
Aqua told me what he likes about me is that it’s no drama easy and he will always come back when he is in my area.

I loved the guy but I blocked him. Too tempting. And I am…easy…lmao

Great story of how I met your father

That block would piss off an Aqua guy and maybe make him obsessed at the same time. Joe Goldberg vibes…without the other stuff of course

I’m direct too and that comes across as intimidating to most people. As for hard to please, we are though because not a lot amuses us romantically. We’re like emotionally numb to things that would amuse most people.

For example, basic cajolery doesn’t flatter me one bit.

And here I am wondering how I married one and have dated mostly aquas throughout my life. There must be something in my chart lol

If they have tamed their animal nature and can frolic with other humans in a jovial manner and are gentle, warm. Not defensive.

I could be attracted to a shitload of different things, but what I really want for a romantic partner is to be stable (mentally, emotionally, financially), intelligent, keen (to be with me) and kind.

Deal breakers would be if someone is disrespectful, unable to apologise or take accountability for their actions, lacks empathy, is negative about most things, nit picking, shows little initiative, has low emotional intelligence and poor conflict managing skills.

As for OP's attraction to someone "who keeps her guessing", I may have had this when I was a student and everything was provided for me, but luckily snapped out of this. Life is going to throw plenty of challenges at us, and a good life partner should have your back. If he's with one foot out of the door during good times, imagine how he will react during bad times.

Consistency, communication, and commitment.

Posted by BaeMaxx
And here I am wondering how I married one and have dated mostly aquas throughout my life. There must be something in my chart lol

Lol I agree. A lot of fire or air? A water sign could never

Compassion, intelligence, humour, someone who's intuitive and gets me.

Quite a lot of things if we're just talking pure attraction part. From the vain like their looks, eyes, shape to you know the smaller things or weird things. Their laugh, hair, name, weird tells and quirks, their hobbies, how they walk or sit, how they pronounce a word, how they dress... how they were twirling fire and burnt themselves lol (true story).

Mainly I think I don't know the line between attraction vs curiosty, interest, intrigue or amazement. Got me in trouble when I was young. Those that I generally hold dear and close are funny enough not the ones who play guessing games with me. I find once I unravel the mystery then it's gone. I prefer honesty in that regard rather build something solid with them rather than always second guessing.

I'm just like you. As long as I don't have them figured out I'm all into them. Once it gets into routine I get bored. I don't fall for looks, status, power or whatever...it's mainly intelligence, wits and mystery. However I don't like the mystery kind that Scorps have, they tend to act mysterious while they're very transparent in fact and I never found them to have enough depth like some other people I liked. I mention this because people tend to believe they're the most mysterious of all signs for some reason.

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Posted by BaeMaxx
And here I am wondering how I married one and have dated mostly aquas throughout my life. There must be something in my chart lol

Lol I agree. A lot of fire or air? A water sign could never

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I'm an earthy gemini. I've dated aqua with cancer moon, aries moon, Leo moon etc. But I married the one with gemini moon. Haha