Gemini going cold after two amazing dates...

I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I don't think I see any red flags other than his hot and cold behaviour, really. What is happening to his ex doesn't really have anything to do with him tbh.

And he does show me he likes me. Like I said, one day he seems crazy about me, the next day he acts cold and then two days later he's crazy about me again... I'm just trying to figure out if this is a normal behaviour of men and Gemini men particularly.

I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

He’s talking about his ex on a date with you and that’s a big no no. He’s obviously not over her. He’s a cap moon, I doubt he’ll ever get over her

Posted by Sunmoonrising

I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

I agree with you. I am leaving him up to himself now. I will let him do things at his own pace and see where he goes. I don't want to put any pressure on him. But I am slightly scared that he will go back to her tbh.

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Posted by Sunmoonrising

I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

I agree with you. I am leaving him up to himself now. I will let him do things at his own pace and see where he goes. I don't want to put any pressure on him. But I am slightly scared that he will go back to her tbh.

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I know it's a horrible thought but in all honesty I doubt it will work long term so you can keep that thought in your head lol x

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

He wants revenge. That should be a red flag for two reasons. One, he still has strong feelings for his ex, or he would not care about revenge. Two, if you guys don't work out, he's probably gonna try to take revenge on you or tell people he's glad you're getting beat up by your new dude.

I know he still has feelings for her. And I understand that. It also took me a long time to forget about my ex. But I believe he will eventually get over her. My friend's boyfriend who is really close to him told me the other day "I don't know what you're doing, but you're doing it well".

As for the revenge, I am not scared of his revenge against me. I'm a venus scorpio. 😏

Posted by Biboroon

He’s talking about his ex on a date with you and that’s a big no no. He’s obviously not over her. He’s a cap moon, I doubt he’ll ever get over her

I thought of it as a way to be honest with me? So that I wouldn't feel betrayed if I found out the truth through someone else.

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I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

I agree with you. I am leaving him up to himself now. I will let him do things at his own pace and see where he goes. I don't want to put any pressure on him. But I am slightly scared that he will go back to her tbh.

I know it's a horrible thought but in all honesty I doubt it will work long term so you can keep that thought in your head lol x

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Well, I honestly don't wanna think that far into the future... I would like things to work out for now. But I don't know what will happen next year so...

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I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

I agree with you. I am leaving him up to himself now. I will let him do things at his own pace and see where he goes. I don't want to put any pressure on him. But I am slightly scared that he will go back to her tbh.

I know it's a horrible thought but in all honesty I doubt it will work long term so you can keep that thought in your head lol x

Well, I honestly don't wanna think that far into the future... I would like things to work out for now. But I don't know what will happen next year so...

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Its best to try and not think of him or message or anything. Just pretend like it's a dream and move on. If it's right he will come back

He spent your first date talking about his ex.

Don't invest your energy here.

Posted by queeneemy

I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I must have missed the description of "amazing dates."

He told you out right that he is still involved with his ex:He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her...

Whatever he has going on with his ex has shown to take precedence over his involvement with you.

This is not "going cold." It was never hot to begin with.

He talked in details about his relationship with his ex and her relationship with another man... to you. I hope that wasn't one of your amazing dates.

Why do you care? It was a passing interest on both your parts. No revelations of love or intimacy. It amounts to an interaction simple enough to shrug off.

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I think he's still thinking of his ex. Had she not come back you would have both been fine but I think it's taking up his time.

I think you should leave it now as trust me bring made to feel 2nd place is poo. He he wants you hell text you but he's busy sorting out an ex that will eventually fall apart and he will be back. I know it's hurtful but that is how I see it x

I agree with you. I am leaving him up to himself now. I will let him do things at his own pace and see where he goes. I don't want to put any pressure on him. But I am slightly scared that he will go back to her tbh.

I know it's a horrible thought but in all honesty I doubt it will work long term so you can keep that thought in your head lol x

Well, I honestly don't wanna think that far into the future... I would like things to work out for now. But I don't know what will happen next year so...

Its best to try and not think of him or message or anything. Just pretend like it's a dream and move on. If it's right he will come back

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Yeah... that's what I'm doing. I've ruined what could have been the perfect relationship when I was younger because of my insecurities. I don't want to repeat that. I'm going to follow his pace and let him do things the way he feels comfortable. I just asked this question because, you know, I needed some reassurance 😅

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I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I must have missed the description of "amazing dates."

He told you out right that he is still involved with his ex:He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her...

Whatever he has going on with his ex has shown to take precedence over his involvement with you.

This is not "going cold." It was never hot to begin with.

He talked in details about his relationship with his ex and her relationship with another man... to you. I hope that wasn't one of your amazing dates.

Why do you care? It was a passing interest on both your parts. No revelations of love or intimacy. It amounts to an interaction simple enough to shrug off.

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Well, I don't know what an amazing date is to you. To me, it's when two people talk for hours about everything, laugh, have fun and get to know each other. There was some hand holding but I am really happy that he hasn't tried to kiss me. To me it means he's serious about me and doesn't want to get on my pants and then leave me like it has happened with other guys who were all "perfect".

Would it be better for him to lie to me about his ex knowing that I know his entire family and that I would eventually find out about it?

It was hot though. In the beginning it was really hot. He was texting me all the time, calling me, inviting me on dates all the time. Then he went cold for two days, then it became hot again and now it's cold.

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I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I must have missed the description of "amazing dates."

He told you out right that he is still involved with his ex:He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her...

Whatever he has going on with his ex has shown to take precedence over his involvement with you.

This is not "going cold." It was never hot to begin with.

He talked in details about his relationship with his ex and her relationship with another man... to you. I hope that wasn't one of your amazing dates.

Why do you care? It was a passing interest on both your parts. No revelations of love or intimacy. It amounts to an interaction simple enough to shrug off.

Well, I don't know what an amazing date is to you. To me, it's when two people talk for hours about everything, laugh, have fun and get to know each other. There was some hand holding but I am really happy that he hasn't tried to kiss me. To me it means he's serious about me and doesn't want to get on my pants and then leave me like it has happened with other guys who were all "perfect".

Would it be better for him to lie to me about his ex knowing that I know his entire family and that I would eventually find out about it?

It was hot though. In the beginning it was really hot. He was texting me all the time, calling me, inviting me on dates all the time. Then he went cold for two days, then it became hot again and now it's cold.

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It's interesting how you've obfuscated from the main point of your own thread. It's similar to how you obfuscated from your own post. You actually wrote the answers. See here, I've underlined the answers:

"...he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her.However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me."

He seems crazy over his ex. I do not see anything crazy over you in your posts.

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I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I must have missed the description of "amazing dates."

He told you out right that he is still involved with his ex:He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her...

Whatever he has going on with his ex has shown to take precedence over his involvement with you.

This is not "going cold." It was never hot to begin with.

He talked in details about his relationship with his ex and her relationship with another man... to you. I hope that wasn't one of your amazing dates.

Why do you care? It was a passing interest on both your parts. No revelations of love or intimacy. It amounts to an interaction simple enough to shrug off.

Well, I don't know what an amazing date is to you. To me, it's when two people talk for hours about everything, laugh, have fun and get to know each other. There was some hand holding but I am really happy that he hasn't tried to kiss me. To me it means he's serious about me and doesn't want to get on my pants and then leave me like it has happened with other guys who were all "perfect".

Would it be better for him to lie to me about his ex knowing that I know his entire family and that I would eventually find out about it?

It was hot though. In the beginning it was really hot. He was texting me all the time, calling me, inviting me on dates all the time. Then he went cold for two days, then it became hot again and now it's cold.

It's interesting how you've obfuscated from the main point of your own thread. It's similar to how you obfuscated from your own post. You actually wrote the answers. See here, I've underlined the answers:"...he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her.However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me."

He seems crazy over his ex. I do not see anything crazy over you in your posts.

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Sorry, I don't get what you're saying. Your over reading has gotten way too confusing. I appreciate your help though. Thank you.

What is your placements?

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What is your placements?

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Posted by Haruuka

What is your placements?

Virgo sun, aquarius moon, libra mercury, scorpio venus, cancer mars.

Posted by queeneemy

I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I hate he has confused you like this.

Gemini's are fickle.

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Let me break this shit down. As a Gemini - even IF I've gone on 2 amazing dates, if I've *grown cold* - I don't want you!

^^^^ This

Typical insecure venus in Taurus...

For the men their go to is talking about other women while out with someone they like.

Block him.

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Posted by queeneemy

I will try to explain this in the less confusing way possible while including all the details I think are important.

I live in a foreign country and have a friend who has a restaurant. One day I was there and met my friend's cousin who moved here a few months ago. My friend's boyfriend and another friend started making jokes and me and my friend's cousin. A few days later he asked my friend's boyfriend for my number. He texted me and at first I wasn't interested in him but I still texted him back. We kept texting, he would invite me every day for some star gazing but I always said no. I asked my friend to tell me a few things about her cousin and she's told me that he's a really good person and that he has an ex girlfriend in our home country. They broke up before he came here and a month later she was engaged to another guy which made him think that she was already cheating on him way before he came here. She recently started texting him again and he now wants revenge. Men from my country, specially from his region, are a little bit on the prideful and vengeful side (but not violent).

We kept texting and I eventually agreed to the stargazing. We talked for more than 2 hours under the stars. He told me about his ex. He said she was asking for help because her new bf was beating her up and locked her in the house and she wanted to escape, so him, along with one friend of his are helping her. He said he doesn't really care as the whole situation is teaching her a lesson but he was still helping her because she was too young to live like that and she's had a difficult past.

When I got home he texted me saying he really enjoyed our time together and that I was a very nice person and that he would like us to do it again and for him it would be the very next day. The next day, I got a good morning text. He was really sweet and all and so that night we went stargazing again. We talked for 3 hours and a half inside the car. It was really cool. It seemed to me that he was actually trying to look more appealing to me, telling me things like how he despises men who cheat on women and what a good boyfriend he was, etc. Before I left he told me to text him when I got home and that's what I did. He said "ok" and then I said "I'm going to sleep. sleep tight" and he didn't text me back. The next day, no texts. I texted him "hi" and he texted back. Then I asked him if he was fine and I got no answer. We had agreed to see each other again that night so I texted him again saying "Don't you want me to come over?" And he said "I have a terrible stomach ache I'm going to bed. I'm sorry" and then another text "I'm really sorry". And I said "ok" and he said "you won't be mad?" And I said "no". It is true that he hasn't been feeling well and has been feeling pain in his stomach for a few days and to add up, there was a special event at his work place and I know how much they work that day 'cause I worked there too in the past. But why didn't he reply when I asked how we was?

So, today he texted me "Hi" and I replied back and then he didn't say anything else. And then, me, like a stupid dumb ass texted him something that was meant for my mom. And I said "sorry, that was for my mom" and he said "it's okay" and didn't say anything else. Why does he text me first and then nothing?

So, he hasn't kissed me yet. I was thinking that he was being a gentleman and taking things slow but I have another friend who thinks he's using me to get over his ex. First, because of his desire for revenge and second because he posted something on Facebook saying "Only losers go back to their ex. Strong ones find someone better". She thinks that if he posts this it's because he's not over her. However, they're not friends on Facebook so he has no guarantee that she would see it. Also, he posts a lot of romantic songs about break ups.

I understand he might still have feelings for her. You don't get over someone overnight but I am really confused by his hot and cold attitude. He even mentioned things like meeting my friends, us going to out home country so that he could take me on a ride in his car (he's passionate about cars), he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook. You know... making it seem like he actually wanted something serious with me. He seems crazy for me at times and the next day he seems like he couldn't care less about me.

His placements are: Gemini sun, Capricorn moon, Taurus mercury and venus, Aries mars.

I'm sorry for the long text but if any of you could help me I would really appreciate. Thanks in advance.

I hate he has confused you like this.

Gemini's are fickle.

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Thank you 😊 Yeah... I know geminis... I seem to attract geminis a lot and to be attracted to them a lot. Like... A LOT 😅 My last Gemini tho... he... HE was a hot mess! I had a really hard time dealing with him ahaha but he had venus, sun and mercury in Gemini so... However, I do have to have to admit that this time, I thought he was going to be a little different. He was so clingy at first and has some earth placements... Guess Gemini will always be a Gemini 😅

Posted by DMV

Typical insecure venus in Taurus...

For the men their go to is talking about other women while out with someone they like.

Block him.

Can you tell me a little bit more about that? I didn't know they were like that 🙏

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Posted by DMV

Typical insecure venus in Taurus...

For the men their go to is talking about other women while out with someone they like.

Block him.

Can you tell me a little bit more about that? I didn't know they were like that 🙏

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From what I've experienced, cause I currently have 3 blocked one of which is a Gemini and 2 are Aries. They have the same approach. Similar to venus in scorpio.

They fall fast but wear a mask.

This is a venus that does not like to work for their food. They're very used to lookin pretty, sitting back, and waiting for people to approach them. Receivers. One could call it lazy.

Here's what they will do to make you jump.

They come on strong with moreso words, get semi involved in your life, plan for the future and then when it seems like you are not throwing yourself at them...they talk about other women to you.

They attempt to make themselves seem popular and attractive. Theyee letting you know they have options and you're one of them. Cough harem. So what are you going to do about it?

If you dont jump and run after them, it intensifies. They will post on social media about their "real" love or shower another women with praise instead of you. Right in your face. Again, to make you jump and ask how high.

They'll start out with being the picture of "amazing" but look closer. It's not really amazing at all. Break it down. Just cleverly waisting your time. If you dont see that nothing was amazing then he did a good job painting a pretty picture.

Then the indifference comes into play. And no longer responding to messages timely.

They want you to act at their command. They like to call the shots. Makes them feel secure when they have the upper hand.

Either you weren't jumping for joy at their little offers or you yourself were being indifferent.

He cant fully gauge your desire for him which leads to games.

What are your placements? You dont seem aloof so either you picked up on something not making sense or him talking about other girls turned your stomach and didnt fice him the reaction he was looking for. Either way, the good news is, this is the only game they really know.how to play; show attention elsewhere. They will keep attempting different versions but the root is the same. Show attention elsewhere.

My advice stands...block him.

He will grow vindictive and mixed with that Gemini sun, it wont be fun.

A interested man who has his head on straight will NOT talk about other women to you or shower another woman with praise while on a date with you. He will not risk losing what he wants.

The moment he had to resort to a game, hes no longer interested like you think. It becomes about getting the upper hand. That's not love

It becomes about winning.

Ahh just saw your venus in scorpio lol.

Yup. Power struggles are the name of the game.

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Posted by queeneemy

Posted by DMV

Typical insecure venus in Taurus...

For the men their go to is talking about other women while out with someone they like.

Block him.

Can you tell me a little bit more about that? I didn't know they were like that 🙏

From what I've experienced, cause I currently have 3 blocked one of which is a Gemini and 2 are Aries. They have the same approach. Similar to venus in scorpio.

They fall fast but wear a mask.

This is a venus that does not like to work for their food. They're very used to lookin pretty, sitting back, and waiting for people to approach them. Receivers. One could call it lazy.

Here's what they will do to make you jump.

They come on strong with moreso words, get semi involved in your life, plan for the future and then when it seems like you are not throwing yourself at them...they talk about other women to you.

They attempt to make themselves seem popular and attractive. Theyee letting you know they have options and you're one of them. Cough harem. So what are you going to do about it?

If you dont jump and run after them, it intensifies. They will post on social media about their "real" love or shower another women with praise instead of you. Right in your face. Again, to make you jump and ask how high.

They'll start out with being the picture of "amazing" but look closer. It's not really amazing at all. Break it down. Just cleverly waisting your time. If you dont see that nothing was amazing then he did a good job painting a pretty picture.

Then the indifference comes into play. And no longer responding to messages timely.

They want you to act at their command. They like to call the shots. Makes them feel secure when they have the upper hand.

Either you weren't jumping for joy at their little offers or you yourself were being indifferent.

He cant fully gauge your desire for him which leads to games.

What are your placements? You dont seem aloof so either you picked up on something not making sense or him talking about other girls turned your stomach and didnt fice him the reaction he was looking for. Either way, the good news is, this is the only game they really know.how to play; show attention elsewhere. They will keep attempting different versions but the root is the same. Show attention elsewhere.

My advice stands...block him.

He will grow vindictive and mixed with that Gemini sun, it wont be fun.

A interested man who has his head on straight will NOT talk about other women to you or shower another woman with praise while on a date with you. He will not risk losing what he wants.

The moment he had to resort to a game, hes no longer interested like you think. It becomes about getting the upper hand. That's not love

It becomes about winning.

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Omg! Thank you so much for this. Well, for my placements I have sun in Virgo, moon in Aquarius, mercury in Libra, venus in Scorpio and mars in Cancer and ascendant in Aries.

I think you're right, I never gave him the reaction he wanted. When he first texted me I was even angry at my friend's boyfriend for giving him my number. But I still replied for compassion for him but specially for my friend (she's one of my best friends). I didn't want to hurt her cousin you know? Then he would call me and I wouldn't answer the phone and he was quick to invite me to the star gazing and I always found an excuse not to go. I didn't want to have the talk and tell him that I wasn't interested in him. Then one day I called him accidentally and we talked on the phone and that's when I thought "Oh... he's sweet, let's give him a chance". That's when he went cold the first time. Then he was "normal" and we went on that date and he went hot again. When he talked to me about his ex I was really calm, just saying things like "okay..." or "oh that sucks". I really didn't jump at all. My venus scorpio was burning with jealousy inside but I kept my cool and it was at night so he couldn't clearly see my facial expressions. And now that he's not texting me, I'm not texting either. And I won't do it.

The thing about me is that, unfortunately, I complain about not finding a good guy, but I always go to guys like him. Always. I think I am attracted to people with this kind of dark side. When my friend told me he was planning a revenge on his ex I was secretly turned on. I know this is terrible... I wonder if it's my scorpio venus... That's why I was so turned off by his "perfect" behaviour in the beginning. Now, it's almost as his game is working. I'm burning on the inside, but I won't go to him. Never. I can already see some improvement in myself. A few months ago I would run to a guy who's doing this and try to please him at all costs. Now, I forbade myself from do it. If he wants me, he will come. If he doesn't come, that's his problem.

Anyway, thank you so much for your insight. It was really helpful. Thank you so much 🙏