CancerLeoDynamite
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You know something though, if the two of you are just dating I wouldn't sweat it. I went through that before when dating, later it got serious. But if he returns don't give him the 3rd degree, you know ask him a bunch of questions about his whereabouts. Act like you don't even care & like you haven't noticed a thing.
If you bombard him with questions, he's gonna have it in his head that you were waiting on his call/text whatever. Just act cool, unphased.
If you bombard him with questions, he's gonna have it in his head that you were waiting on his call/text whatever. Just act cool, unphased.
Posted by RealTalk
You know something though, if the two of you are just dating I wouldn't sweat it. I went through that before when dating, later it got serious. But if he returns don't give him the 3rd degree, you know ask him a bunch of questions about his whereabouts. Act like you don't even care & like you haven't noticed a thing.
If you bombard him with questions, he's gonna have it in his head that you were waiting on his call/text whatever. Just act cool, unphased.
heh I guess u didnt read the thread (thats ok) heh its lame.. we were not dating.. we had not even met irl. We -were- dating, in an online not admitting we were doing it, but definitely doing it kinda way... Got to the point we were doing all nighters until late the next afternoon, talking about how wed be in a relationship, how wed raise our kids.. This was 6 months in..
at 3 months he was giving mixed signals, telling me he had "love feelings" for me, but explaining he was scared to meet me because he knew we'd end up in a relationship and he was scared of those, after the breakup between him and hix x (FIVE YEARS AGO)
he and I have both been celibate for the past 5 years after fucked up relationship endings.
obv theres issues here :/
anyway hes a typical aqua and im aqua rising so it worked out fine, wed get real close, freak out and disappear (I disappeared just as often, and tbh up until now, I had been the one to stay gone the longest) believe me whenever we'd reconnect there were no questions or drama, we just hung out and had a good time..we have prettymuch never done aything but hang out and have great times.
anyway I was no longer willing to invest my emotions into an online thing, I casually let him know he needed to ask me to meet soon, and he did. We were supposed to meet for drinks in November.. With another friend...
so it turns out this other friend was never actually gonna be in the city and I let aqua know this, and that I was still holding him to this meeting because "it wouldnt be cool to reneg now" as I put it. and then dropped it..
he was already pulling disappearing acts left right and centre at this point.. we went from talking EVERY DAY , to couple times a week..when he did show up hed tell me he missed me, that he only came back for me etc etc but it got shorter and shorter..
I just let him do his thing, I never questioned him, never IM'd him firs
I just let him do his thing, I never questioned him, never IM'd him first, I let him come to me, and I acted casual Maybe even kinda ignored him a bit to laugh with other friends around us.
In my head, I had told myself he had til the 14th of November and if he hadn't asked me out again I was gonna ask him one time "when do you wanna hang out" and if his answer was something other than when we were gonna hang out I was simply going to say OK, and log off. Move on.
I never got the chance, cause I havent seen him since Saturday the tenth
😢
Like We all know what happened here, classic case of, he liked me too much and got scared.. if a guy bails after a few weeks, he didnt like you, when a guy bails after 6 months and "I have love feelings" it's plain old bawk bawk.
I take -some- small comfort in that, and in knowing I never chased him down. I am hurt that he didnt even respect me enough to tell me he was chickening out.. what a fucking coward.
But that makes it a little easier to move on from anyway, so
Buhbye disappearing aqua
cause seriously even if he came back now, I'm pissed, and I no longer trust him.
3 weeks without contact is disrespectful, and I deserve better.
I deserved a goodbye, closure.
-shrug-
not gonna get it though and I guess thats ok too.
I take -some- small comfort in that, and in knowing I never chased him down. I am hurt that he didnt even respect me enough to tell me he was chickening out.. what a fucking coward.
But that makes it a little easier to move on from anyway, so
Buhbye disappearing aqua
cause seriously even if he came back now, I'm pissed, and I no longer trust him.
3 weeks without contact is disrespectful, and I deserve better.
I deserved a goodbye, closure.
-shrug-
not gonna get it though and I guess thats ok too.
Dont bet on it, i got this from aqua yesterday...
"lol! x" .... and... "twaaaaaaaaaaaat! x"
Eh hemm! well yeah?? O_o lmao the idiot! 😄
"lol! x" .... and... "twaaaaaaaaaaaat! x"
Eh hemm! well yeah?? O_o lmao the idiot! 😄
Posted by guccigemini55
Dont bet on it, i got this from aqua yesterday...
"lol! x" .... and... "twaaaaaaaaaaaat! x"
Eh hemm! well yeah?? O_o lmao the idiot! 😄
Im not as cool about this shit as you , remember I am cancer/LEO cusp with LEO moon..
so while I can talk a good aqaua talk about moving on and being chill about shit.. -any- hope is actually quite painful to me.
Its true I am half expecting him to show up outta the blue, (so many of our friends, think so too) but
it's not so healthy for me to be thinkin that way.
I want it just a little too much for comfort.
What I really want is to be -sooooooo- content in life that this is SMALL POTATOS
cause it really is
but it does not feel like it 😢
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
awwwwe :/ look at it this way, you owe him nothing, you can do what you want in this time 🙂 live it large even if you have to force yourself, when is the last time you contacted him and what did you say?..
two of my best friends theyve been together for over 20 years, shes libra he is aqua, they live together and have 3 children, still to this day he has his disapearing stints, last time he didnt come home for four weeks, but you know what, he has messed up, he has cheated, but you know what that man is with her forever, he loves her from the deepest part of his heart I see it and hear it, he knows it will never be better than her 🙂
two of my best friends theyve been together for over 20 years, shes libra he is aqua, they live together and have 3 children, still to this day he has his disapearing stints, last time he didnt come home for four weeks, but you know what, he has messed up, he has cheated, but you know what that man is with her forever, he loves her from the deepest part of his heart I see it and hear it, he knows it will never be better than her 🙂
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by guccigemini55
Dont bet on it, i got this from aqua yesterday...
"lol! x" .... and... "twaaaaaaaaaaaat! x"
Eh hemm! well yeah?? O_o lmao the idiot! 😄
Im not as cool about this shit as you , remember I am cancer/LEO cusp with LEO moon..
so while I can talk a good aqaua talk about moving on and being chill about shit.. -any- hope is actually quite painful to me.
click to expand
i dont believe in 'hope' in the relationship part in aquarius 11th house. That's more for HUMANITY stuff. i mean, loving your fellow man is not about loving your next door neighbor intimately. 😕 There's boundaries you know.
and a guy disappearing on you like that without saying something? that's DISRESPECT. Sorry but it is. But again, depending on your venus sign too, you want respect. I dont know. there's some vids on youtube about venus signs and what types of relationships they actually choose.
Don't be fooled by any guy, regardless of sign.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by guccigemini55
Dont bet on it, i got this from aqua yesterday...
"lol! x" .... and... "twaaaaaaaaaaaat! x"
Eh hemm! well yeah?? O_o lmao the idiot! 😄
Im not as cool about this shit as you , remember I am cancer/LEO cusp with LEO moon..
so while I can talk a good aqaua talk about moving on and being chill about shit.. -any- hope is actually quite painful to me.
i dont believe in 'hope' in the relationship part in aquarius 11th house. That's more for HUMANITY stuff. i mean, loving your fellow man is not about loving your next door neighbor intimately. 😕 There's boundaries you know.
and a guy disappearing on you like that without saying something? that's DISRESPECT. Sorry but it is. But again, depending on your venus sign too, you want respect. I dont know. there's some vids on youtube about venus signs and what types of relationships they actually choose.
Don't be fooled by any guy, regardless of sign.click to expand
This ^^. You can love anyone. Put your love out there into the Universe and it's great. But, you can't build a life with everybody. So, decide whether you want to waste time pining and singing "Rolling in the Deep" at the top of your lungs OR keep it movin' and be open to a man whom is to respect you enough to not disappear.
^^ thank you and AMEN! high five.
I dont believe people actually believe that the vids on the age of Aquarius, "spreading the love" stuff is about intimacy. That's absolutely not what that's about. That's about fighting INJUSTICE, and bringing the world together and a better place.
Loving people as a whole community. But they are separate in their relationships with eachother. Meaning, they have their own families to build and grow. Personally i dont believe any RESPECTING woman would want their man disappearing on them either.
http://www.astrologyzone.com/tools/sector11.html<BR>
Friendships and all your platonic relationships fall in this house, as do memberships in any kind of group or club. Even attendance at a trade show or a theme park -- presence in any congregation of people sharing an interest -- would constitute an eleventh house activity. In that regard, even casual contacts, associations and networking efforts come in here.
The action in this house can reveal clues about your employer's financial reality. It can show you where you are most likely to make profits. This house governs humanitarian causes and any efforts to correct social ills and injustices.
I dont believe people actually believe that the vids on the age of Aquarius, "spreading the love" stuff is about intimacy. That's absolutely not what that's about. That's about fighting INJUSTICE, and bringing the world together and a better place.
Loving people as a whole community. But they are separate in their relationships with eachother. Meaning, they have their own families to build and grow. Personally i dont believe any RESPECTING woman would want their man disappearing on them either.
http://www.astrologyzone.com/tools/sector11.html<BR>
Friendships and all your platonic relationships fall in this house, as do memberships in any kind of group or club. Even attendance at a trade show or a theme park -- presence in any congregation of people sharing an interest -- would constitute an eleventh house activity. In that regard, even casual contacts, associations and networking efforts come in here.
The action in this house can reveal clues about your employer's financial reality. It can show you where you are most likely to make profits. This house governs humanitarian causes and any efforts to correct social ills and injustices.
Posted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.click to expand
it is Gross! 😕 It's just an opinion but if people LOVE it, go on right ahead. Knock yourself out.
Seriously if a man did that all the time and you married him and he kept on doing it, he'd never respect you as an individual and a human being. Much less a woman who he is supposed to adore. He isn't respecting you at all, because he has already been taking advantage of you being stepped on (as an example)
Posted by guccigemini55
awwwwe :/ look at it this way, you owe him nothing, you can do what you want in this time 🙂 live it large even if you have to force yourself, when is the last time you contacted him and what did you say?..
two of my best friends theyve been together for over 20 years, shes libra he is aqua, they live together and have 3 children, still to this day he has his disapearing stints, last time he didnt come home for four weeks, but you know what, he has messed up, he has cheated, but you know what that man is with her forever, he loves her from the deepest part of his heart I see it and hear it, he knows it will never be better than her 🙂
Yeh..I simply wouldnt tolerate that shit.
I -really- understand needing to get away, I could happily live without my sig other for four weeks so long as he gave me the heads up, and wasnt fucking some other broad, but randomly disappearing on me and kids?? cheating??
nuuuuu way!
anyway this feels a lot like he just ran away for good, then again I remember thinking that one time when he was gone for 3 days and i wrote a post and the moment I hit enter, on that post he came back.. literally the very moment i hit enter..so I guess what im saying is that my intuition is shit.. also this guys got in my head pretty deep
Oh and I nevr contact him I let him contact me, last time we had the worst conversation ever cause my net was being shit, and my voice kept cutting out, and I was trying not to freak out and be like WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU SLOWLY DISAPPEARING WHATS GOIG ON HOW DO YOU FEEL WHAT R U THINKING
so I just kept it really casual..and he told me he had been playing this game, called borderlands a lot, and he told me I should get it when I get better internet.
(its a coop game we could play together - so it seems strange to invite me to play a gamewith you, and then disappear)
anyway I went afk to go do laundry and he logged off while i was gone to play, and I havent seen him since.
i have 0 intention of buying the game, or of getting better internet..Ionly used the more expensive internet to talk to him and I moved on the first of nov, and decided fuckit, my money could be better spent elsewhere.. if he wants to talk so bad he can call my phone, or ask me out irl (which he has never done)
the whole thing is just fag
I wanted it to be done on the 14th,, well i didnt want it to be but I was prepared to end it, and now its just this ..its.. open.. its so open and has no closure and .. wtf so gay
so I just kept it really casual..and he told me he had been playing this game, called borderlands a lot, and he told me I should get it when I get better internet.
(its a coop game we could play together - so it seems strange to invite me to play a gamewith you, and then disappear)
anyway I went afk to go do laundry and he logged off while i was gone to play, and I havent seen him since.
i have 0 intention of buying the game, or of getting better internet..Ionly used the more expensive internet to talk to him and I moved on the first of nov, and decided fuckit, my money could be better spent elsewhere.. if he wants to talk so bad he can call my phone, or ask me out irl (which he has never done)
the whole thing is just fag
I wanted it to be done on the 14th,, well i didnt want it to be but I was prepared to end it, and now its just this ..its.. open.. its so open and has no closure and .. wtf so gay
i think what Im trying to say here is that I kinda pushed him away..
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
i think what Im trying to say here is that I kinda pushed him away..
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
15 mins away? lol
you two are hilarious. 😛
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
it is Gross! 😕 It's just an opinion but if people LOVE it, go on right ahead. Knock yourself out.
Seriously if a man did that all the time and you married him and he kept on doing it, he'd never respect you as an individual and a human being. Much less a woman who he is supposed to adore. He isn't respecting you at all, because he has already been taking advantage of you being stepped on (as an example)click to expand
You are right, its not respectful and its selfish to be that rude... the way i see it is for your love to be sustained or to grow it has to be fed, if its not then you are going to feel less for them, the less i feel about them then the less it hurts and the less im bothered, i can move on but i can detach my feelings thats where both you and i feeling a different experience.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by guccigemini55
awwwwe :/ look at it this way, you owe him nothing, you can do what you want in this time 🙂 live it large even if you have to force yourself, when is the last time you contacted him and what did you say?..
two of my best friends theyve been together for over 20 years, shes libra he is aqua, they live together and have 3 children, still to this day he has his disapearing stints, last time he didnt come home for four weeks, but you know what, he has messed up, he has cheated, but you know what that man is with her forever, he loves her from the deepest part of his heart I see it and hear it, he knows it will never be better than her 🙂
Yeh..I simply wouldnt tolerate that shit.
I -really- understand needing to get away, I could happily live without my sig other for four weeks so long as he gave me the heads up, and wasnt fucking some other broad, but randomly disappearing on me and kids?? cheating??
nuuuuu way!
anyway this feels a lot like he just ran away for good, then again I remember thinking that one time when he was gone for 3 days and i wrote a post and the moment I hit enter, on that post he came back.. literally the very moment i hit enter..so I guess what im saying is that my intuition is shit.. also this guys got in my head pretty deepclick to expand
i wouldnt tolerate that either
Posted by guccigemini55
You are right, its not respectful and its selfish to be that rude... the way i see it is for your love to be sustained or to grow it has to be fed, if its not then you are going to feel less for them, the less i feel about them then the less it hurts and the less im bothered, i can move on but i can detach my feelings thats where both you and i feeling a different experience.
You lay down the LAW before you get into a serious relationship. Saturn speaking here.
I was just reminded of some incident I read awhile back about how the religion Latter Day Saints (Mormon?) went to the "dark side" ....while in many cases, the religion itself has been a benefit, there are those who actually take advantage of it and use and misuse the "weaker sex". That is not respecting your wives and children. You place them on pedastal so to speak and give them honour and in return you get a lot of love back, honouring your man back. it is a love that is binding and unbreakable. that's strength.
I realise the rest of the world thinks differently and yeah go on and knock yourself out. Because there will always be a higher authority that will ENFORCE this kind of communal so-called free love. (ie, having many wives)
And yeah i realise it is not just in the western world either. Better to be single then. Seriously. much MUCH better to be single. And if you want children, there's in vitro or something.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
i think what Im trying to say here is that I kinda pushed him away..
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
why dont you just drive over to him? could be over with and out of limbo in 10 minutes
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
i think what Im trying to say here is that I kinda pushed him away..
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
15 mins away? lol
you two are hilarious. 😛click to expand
haha
oh man
I know
AAAGHHHH
lol
-shakes head-
sooo ridiculous I just dont even know what to say, do, or even think about any of it.
He talked a good talk, "when we meet we will blah blah blah"
seriously the guy wanted to wait until Next july.. On my birthday this year(july 21)he told me "if we are still friends in a year from now we'll meet and see what happens".. this was during a discussion inwhich he was trying to convince me how compatible we were, and how he was sure wed end up a couple and my response was a big eye roll and basically to tell him hes a retard and has NO idea if I will even so much as like him, irl.
"I could hate you"
is what I said, but what I was thinking was
"you could hate me"
I mean we -probably- would have got along just as well irl, and he said as much, but I told him he was a cocky bastard and that he has NO idea if we would have any irl chemistry, so he brought up this one year shit.. I had only known him 3 months at this point, I wasnt particularily invested in any of it at that point so I just shrugged and said sure.. I didnt believe he'd really last a year anyway...
soo yeh by 6 months (now) I was just not having it anymore.
I dont wanna jump into anything with anyone, but this was getting stupid.
anyway if i had to make a guess as to why he disappeared..uhm..
seems kinda obvious right?
😢
he still coulda just told me!
Posted by guccigemini55Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
i think what Im trying to say here is that I kinda pushed him away..
he pushed me away so I got fed up and pushed back..not in a mean way I wasnt feeling bitter towards him , I understand hes just not over his x and hes not ready for where we were going, but I made it kinda clear i was just sick of the status quo and checking out so long as it was gonna continue to be an online thing and not a real life thing
I mean for fucks sakes he lives no more than 15 minutes from me.
why dont you just drive over to him? could be over with and out of limbo in 10 minutesclick to expand
hahah drive over where??
I don't even have this mans phone number chica
I know hes fifteen min from me but in what direction only he knows haha..
He told me what pub he goes to on the weekend..I dunno it felt like a test he was giving me to see if im psycho enough to stalk him there.. im not..Im nto desperate i aint chasin him..if I go to that pub it will be to PIE HIM IN THE FACE
seriously, my bff's and I have a plan to go to the pub and pie him in the face.
I simply cannot think of a better way to give myself closure on this.
as I said days ago, it changes this from a sad story of
"he disappeared"
to a hilarious ending of
"he disappeared.. so I pied him in the face"
There really is no better ending IMHO
haha thinking of starting a new thread
To pie or not to pie?
To pie or not to pie?
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.click to expand
Same time. Wasn't a huge deal to me.
Posted by RealTalkPosted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
Same time. Wasn't a huge deal to me.click to expand
Oh
hrm
well idunno then.
This is a big deal to me only because I dont know if he just needed some space, or if hes being a huge shithead and is done with me but too cowardly to say so..
I'm not incapable of living and enjoying life for three weeks without some guy, buttttt
I'm just eaten up with what ifs.
See Im gonna cling to this now.. Damnit I am my own worst enemy. I knew if I posted in an aqua board someone would come around with a "oh that happened to me and it worked out fine..i didnt mind"
and then i could justify still wanting this guy and snaking little peaks to see if hes logged in.
*smacks self hard*
Im just really into this idea (and have read it so many places) that he is taking a mental vacation from all this, to recharge himself, think through logically and come back ready to jump in!!
Thats what I want in my heart of hearts..
Thats my Christmas wish.
Oh just a kiss would be sublime!
but its not good to want that from this man if he actually just fucked off for ever.
Expect the best
Prepare for the worst
Prepare for the worst
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
it is Gross! 😕 It's just an opinion but if people LOVE it, go on right ahead. Knock yourself out.
Seriously if a man did that all the time and you married him and he kept on doing it, he'd never respect you as an individual and a human being. Much less a woman who he is supposed to adore. He isn't respecting you at all, because he has already been taking advantage of you being stepped on (as an example)click to expand
Who said I "loved" it? I said it's not a huge deal. There's a difference. When I'm dating someone we're not exclusive so that means I have other options before or IF I decide to get exclusive. WHEN or IF he becomes MY MAN, disappearing IS NOT tolerated...you know because the relationship has become serious.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
Expect the best
Prepare for the worst
Hahaha. IDK hun. My Venus is in Libra 😛
Some people think 3 weeks is a crime, others think it's passing time. IDK what happened with the gem but he did a 180. We lasted for 2 years after that, but we broke up this past Summer. 😢
Anywho...when if he contacts you tomorrow or next week? Are you REALLY going to tell him to fuck off?
All I'm saying is that this guy isn't your man so why would you care? You don't even have his phone #. I can see if he was your man doing this, that would be a problem. But I mean, you guys weren't even serious. Just go about your business as usual. If/when he returns if it bothers you that much, tell him. If he doesn't stop doing it, fuck him.
Posted by RealTalk
All I'm saying is that this guy isn't your man so why would you care? You don't even have his phone #. I can see if he was your man doing this, that would be a problem. But I mean, you guys weren't even serious. Just go about your business as usual. If/when he returns if it bothers you that much, tell him. If he doesn't stop doing it, fuck him.
-nod-
I hear ya
I dont feel like it is a crime, no. It's more than passing time though 🙂
IF he is gone -for ever- and he did so by disappearing..yeh I really look down on that..
If he simply just needed this time, youre right I am not going to tell him to fuck off lol. I mean especially if he came back all clear headed and wanting to meet me and stop with the crap.
Otherwise, Im not gonna use the words fuck off, but I am going to have to tell him goodbye. Emotional investment into some internet bullshit? no i cant do it anymore. I need substance.
I want to smell him, not hear his voice on a mic.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
I want to smell him, not hear his voice on a mic.
haha that sounds weird to me, like I wanna go up to him and start sniffing around his crotch.
I think it's bedtime.
Posted by RealTalkPosted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
it is Gross! 😕 It's just an opinion but if people LOVE it, go on right ahead. Knock yourself out.
Seriously if a man did that all the time and you married him and he kept on doing it, he'd never respect you as an individual and a human being. Much less a woman who he is supposed to adore. He isn't respecting you at all, because he has already been taking advantage of you being stepped on (as an example)
Who said I "loved" it? I said it's not a huge deal. There's a difference. When I'm dating someone we're not exclusive so that means I have other options before or IF I decide to get exclusive. WHEN or IF he becomes MY MAN, disappearing IS NOT tolerated...you know because the relationship has become serious.click to expand
everyone has different ways of loving people.
I was just stating my own opinion. Sorry if it's too loud and out there. But it's my own "law" in my own little world. But, everyone is entitled to their own way of accepting their "love" type. 🙂
Posted by lisabethur8
everyone has different ways of loving people.
I was just stating my own opinion. Sorry if it's too loud and out there. But it's my own "law" in my own little world. But, everyone is entitled to their own way of accepting their "love" type. 🙂
I hear you too;
There's a fine line between allowing someone their freedom and space, and allowing them to step on you, and its up to us to define where that line is. It's personal -nod-
For me, the distance thing doesn't really bother me. I have an aqua moon and I'm far more detached than him. We can go, say 4-6 days with little/no communication then its back on. I feel he misses me a teeny bit more than I do. For us we have each other??s back, it's like unspoken trust and the concept of time apart/together isn't important. We just live in the moment. The longest we've been apart is about 3-4 months, again, no problems but by the end we were both behaving like idiots because we both missed each other. We soon got that out of our system 😉
And I find the more I detach the more he comes to me...it seems to turn him on almost LOL
And I find the more I detach the more he comes to me...it seems to turn him on almost LOL
I'd like to you and your bff's to pie him in the face. that would be hilarious, and you'd get your revenge. BUT I don't think it would be closure as he would see it as him winning. He got you to come out, he got to you enough for you do that, and lastly he'll just say or think you really like him, IMO. I see relationship closure more along the lines of messing up his car or throwing out his belongings etc., though i don't condone it lol.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by lisabethur8
everyone has different ways of loving people.
I was just stating my own opinion. Sorry if it's too loud and out there. But it's my own "law" in my own little world. But, everyone is entitled to their own way of accepting their "love" type. 🙂
I hear you too;
There's a fine line between allowing someone their freedom and space, and allowing them to step on you, and its up to us to define where that line is. It's personal -nod-click to expand
Agree! **big thumbs up**
yeah i love it when I can resonate similar views on love with certain people. And if it doesn't resonate with me, it just doesn't. I love the closeness, even my loved one is right next to me, all up into my business, making sure i'm possessed. lol I don't like it with anyone else, only my loved one.
And I wager not all Aquarius men are like this, though. Your relationship sounds like a LOL 😄
Posted by cellardoor
I'd like to you and your bff's to pie him in the face. that would be hilarious, and you'd get your revenge. BUT I don't think it would be closure as he would see it as him winning. He got you to come out, he got to you enough for you do that, and lastly he'll just say or think you really like him, IMO. I see relationship closure more along the lines of messing up his car or throwing out his belongings etc., though i don't condone it lol.
"BUT I don't think it would be closure as he would see it as him winning."
Posted by lisabethur8
Your relationship sounds like a LOL 😄
haha You don't even know.
-SMH-
He is the funniest person I have probably ever met, we spent 6 months running around being completely obnoxious to other people online..
Theres a poster on the boards here who reminds me of him a lot.. Caligula. haha
My Aqua uses a very similar user pic, and gruff manner with everyone around him to illustrate that
a) He is far superior in intellect to you (but he is, so it's funny)
b) that he's a tough sonofabitch who does not give a fuck about anything (I don't buy that part but he plays it well)
Anyway he enjoys an opportunity to verbally masturbate into the ether and I am the type of person who enjoys listening to hilarious assholes verbally masturbate.
All the better if people around him are getting upset about it too.
haha
yes, it is psycho-ish. i've never done it myself. but i still don't think it's closure, in fact i think he'd return the favor and itll go back and forth and lead to make-up sex haha
Posted by cellardoor
yes, it is psycho-ish. i've never done it myself. but i still don't think it's closure, in fact i think he'd return the favor and itll go back and forth and lead to make-up sex haha
HOT!
Something about 11PM makes me kinda anxious about the whole sitch.
I can almost set my clock by it.. randomly feel kinda odd and sure enough, it's 11pm
I guess cause typically on weeknight's that is when I log off, so if I havent seen him by then I won't.
All this is doing really is convincing me I wasn't ready for a healthy relationship.. co dependency is still there, detachment is fail.
Seems unfair, I have been single for 5 years working on myself, focusing on me and my family rather than relationships.. That's a long time and yet clearly not there yet..
Sometimes i worry I simply will never be the completely independent, and strong woman I aspire to be. That I will spend the rest of my days single. (Because frankly, I would rather be single, than in a co dependent and or unhealthy relationship.
I don't even want to be with a man who would want me any other way than independent and strong and healthy.
Kinda feels like a catch 22, cause the longer I'm single the more I long for companionship and the more I long for companionship the more work I know I need to put into myself.
On the bright side, I had a girls night in and we made really fab cupcakes and Indian food.
I can almost set my clock by it.. randomly feel kinda odd and sure enough, it's 11pm
I guess cause typically on weeknight's that is when I log off, so if I havent seen him by then I won't.
All this is doing really is convincing me I wasn't ready for a healthy relationship.. co dependency is still there, detachment is fail.
Seems unfair, I have been single for 5 years working on myself, focusing on me and my family rather than relationships.. That's a long time and yet clearly not there yet..
Sometimes i worry I simply will never be the completely independent, and strong woman I aspire to be. That I will spend the rest of my days single. (Because frankly, I would rather be single, than in a co dependent and or unhealthy relationship.
I don't even want to be with a man who would want me any other way than independent and strong and healthy.
Kinda feels like a catch 22, cause the longer I'm single the more I long for companionship and the more I long for companionship the more work I know I need to put into myself.
On the bright side, I had a girls night in and we made really fab cupcakes and Indian food.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
Something about 11PM makes me kinda anxious about the whole sitch.
I can almost set my clock by it.. randomly feel kinda odd and sure enough, it's 11pm
I guess cause typically on weeknight's that is when I log off, so if I havent seen him by then I won't.
All this is doing really is convincing me I wasn't ready for a healthy relationship.. co dependency is still there, detachment is fail.
Seems unfair, I have been single for 5 years working on myself, focusing on me and my family rather than relationships.. That's a long time and yet clearly not there yet..
Sometimes i worry I simply will never be the completely independent, and strong woman I aspire to be. That I will spend the rest of my days single. (Because frankly, I would rather be single, than in a co dependent and or unhealthy relationship.
I don't even want to be with a man who would want me any other way than independent and strong and healthy.
Kinda feels like a catch 22, cause the longer I'm single the more I long for companionship and the more I long for companionship the more work I know I need to put into myself.
On the bright side, I had a girls night in and we made really fab cupcakes and Indian food.
i'm telling you, you should send him love songs, or maybe listen to Warren Zevon's love songs: (particularly this one, tiny messages)
Posted by Ninjagirl
For me, the distance thing doesn't really bother me. I have an aqua moon and I'm far more detached than him. We can go, say 4-6 days with little/no communication then its back on. I feel he misses me a teeny bit more than I do. For us we have each other??s back, it's like unspoken trust and the concept of time apart/together isn't important. We just live in the moment. The longest we've been apart is about 3-4 months, again, no problems but by the end we were both behaving like idiots because we both missed each other. We soon got that out of our system 😉
And I find the more I detach the more he comes to me...it seems to turn him on almost LOL
This.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by RealTalkPosted by lisabethur8Posted by CancerLeoDynamitePosted by RealTalk
Awwwww...I know how you feel. I was with a gemini who would disappear, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. It bothered me a little at first, but I wasn't sweating it. I had my own life & was pretty busy doing my own thing. Hahahaha...eventually he stopped disappearing. 🙂
IDK...like Gucci said, don't bet on him being gone because he'll pop back up when you least expect it. He may have a reason for it, you never know. Disappearing doesn't always = negativity. Some people say I disappear for a while (3rd decan Virgo) so I can relate. Sometimes I need time to re-charge. Freedom. My sag rising doesn't help it either...lol.
disappear for how long though??
it's almost 3 weeks now, this is disrespectful and gross and even if he were to return I am left no choice but to tell him to piss off, for my own dignity.
it is Gross! 😕 It's just an opinion but if people LOVE it, go on right ahead. Knock yourself out.
Seriously if a man did that all the time and you married him and he kept on doing it, he'd never respect you as an individual and a human being. Much less a woman who he is supposed to adore. He isn't respecting you at all, because he has already been taking advantage of you being stepped on (as an example)
Who said I "loved" it? I said it's not a huge deal. There's a difference. When I'm dating someone we're not exclusive so that means I have other options before or IF I decide to get exclusive. WHEN or IF he becomes MY MAN, disappearing IS NOT tolerated...you know because the relationship has become serious.
everyone has different ways of loving people.
I was just stating my own opinion. Sorry if it's too loud and out there. But it's my own "law" in my own little world. But, everyone is entitled to their own way of accepting their "love" type. 🙂click to expand
Yup.
I just don't need constant attention 24/7.
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Fucker :p
Oh well I got plenty of ice cream and booze left, and the flowers still look gorgeous!