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Aqua Babies/Children
Well I was an aqua child so I guess I can speak here.
My parents were leo (dad), my mom was pisces. I thought they were wonderful parents, but a bit over protective. I wish now they'd taught us more about sex & been more open about such matters but I guess we did ok.
I remember always getting so mad about early curfews, not being able to date till I was 16 & those things.
I just used to always say how they were from another generation & they haven't changed 1 bit but I luv them to death anyway 🙂
My parents were leo (dad), my mom was pisces. I thought they were wonderful parents, but a bit over protective. I wish now they'd taught us more about sex & been more open about such matters but I guess we did ok.
I remember always getting so mad about early curfews, not being able to date till I was 16 & those things.
I just used to always say how they were from another generation & they haven't changed 1 bit but I luv them to death anyway 🙂
Only Aqua child here with two aquarians!! for parents....yes dotty house when all three together :-)
The best thing they probably thought me, even though they didn't intend to, was never to be afraid of being alone and independent.......I seem to remember lots of "alone" time where I lived in my own fantasy land -
There seems to be two types of aquarians....one very gregarious which was my mam and the other type very quiet and reflective which was my dad.....but he always followed his own code of ethics - and no matter how unpopular his stance seemed to be with outsiders, he stuck to his own rules.
Their house was an open house for everyone in the neighbourhood and I mean everyone!!! (it still is - I go to visit and I never know who's gonna knock at the door - about five years ago they had an African man and some of his family come stay with them for two weeks...they'd never met them before in thier lives, they just got to know about them through their Church and invited them to stay!!!) - anyone from the richest to the poorest was always welcome in our house.
Also nothing seemed to shock them!!!! - they just took everything with a grain of salt.......
They also encouraged me to have lots of friends.......a wide circle of pals......:-)
Probably the one thing that wasn't great is that they didn't show much emotion or affection, yes, I got kissed at nite and in the morning - but I don't remember too many real hugs and as a result I had problems later expressing my emotions and affection in realtionships......actually needed professional counselling in the past for this issue.
Anyway, there you go CL, no matter what sign your beauties turn out to be, they've got a special mum in you:-)
A x
The best thing they probably thought me, even though they didn't intend to, was never to be afraid of being alone and independent.......I seem to remember lots of "alone" time where I lived in my own fantasy land -
There seems to be two types of aquarians....one very gregarious which was my mam and the other type very quiet and reflective which was my dad.....but he always followed his own code of ethics - and no matter how unpopular his stance seemed to be with outsiders, he stuck to his own rules.
Their house was an open house for everyone in the neighbourhood and I mean everyone!!! (it still is - I go to visit and I never know who's gonna knock at the door - about five years ago they had an African man and some of his family come stay with them for two weeks...they'd never met them before in thier lives, they just got to know about them through their Church and invited them to stay!!!) - anyone from the richest to the poorest was always welcome in our house.
Also nothing seemed to shock them!!!! - they just took everything with a grain of salt.......
They also encouraged me to have lots of friends.......a wide circle of pals......:-)
Probably the one thing that wasn't great is that they didn't show much emotion or affection, yes, I got kissed at nite and in the morning - but I don't remember too many real hugs and as a result I had problems later expressing my emotions and affection in realtionships......actually needed professional counselling in the past for this issue.
Anyway, there you go CL, no matter what sign your beauties turn out to be, they've got a special mum in you:-)
A x
Awww...Alana, you are too nice! THANK YOU!
I have NO doubt my children will get loads of affection (I am the QUEEN of kisses & hugs!) I'll probably smother them with it! LOL
I asked this because I know I've heard to never try to restrict an Aqua...I mean children must have rules, guidelines, and discipline, but still allow them to be the individuals they are. I am just scared that as a Cancer...we might have some run-ins because these are not the most compatible of signs!
I have always been a bit rebellious & offbeat myself, so I think I will do fine with that...I mean if they want to dye their hair pink...I would just help them pick the color that best suits their complexion 😉
PrimeGen you were ESPECIALLY helpful as far as school goes. I went through something similar...There was no such thing as "ADD" then, but if there were...they would have diagnosed me with it! Really my behavior all boiled down to me being unchallenged and BORED with the curriculum. I would NEVER put my child on those stupid medicines because I know what it is like for the teachers to say you have problems & are hyperactive. ...don't worry about that! All in all, I just want to be a good mother.
If you think of anything else...Holla back! CL/Cm2 THANKS EVERYONE!
I have NO doubt my children will get loads of affection (I am the QUEEN of kisses & hugs!) I'll probably smother them with it! LOL
I asked this because I know I've heard to never try to restrict an Aqua...I mean children must have rules, guidelines, and discipline, but still allow them to be the individuals they are. I am just scared that as a Cancer...we might have some run-ins because these are not the most compatible of signs!
I have always been a bit rebellious & offbeat myself, so I think I will do fine with that...I mean if they want to dye their hair pink...I would just help them pick the color that best suits their complexion 😉
PrimeGen you were ESPECIALLY helpful as far as school goes. I went through something similar...There was no such thing as "ADD" then, but if there were...they would have diagnosed me with it! Really my behavior all boiled down to me being unchallenged and BORED with the curriculum. I would NEVER put my child on those stupid medicines because I know what it is like for the teachers to say you have problems & are hyperactive. ...don't worry about that! All in all, I just want to be a good mother.
If you think of anything else...Holla back! CL/Cm2 THANKS EVERYONE!
Oh yeah...OneFineAquarius
I know in the past you have had issues with Cancer people...What specific things did they do that you totally didn't understand or which made them some of your least favorite people? Thanks!
I know in the past you have had issues with Cancer people...What specific things did they do that you totally didn't understand or which made them some of your least favorite people? Thanks!
Maybe I am the exception that disproves the rule or my friends call me whiny behind my back, but it always seems to me like I am LISTENING to everyone else's problems all the time rather than talking about mine.
I guess that's half the reason I post my issues here because in real life...I call my sisters...they want to talk about their drama...I call my best friend, she wants to talk about her drama...Mr. Pisces always wants to talk about his drama & won't let me get a word in edgewise.
BUT I must say, I haven't been above using emotional manipulation to get what I want...ie guilt trips.
I think what you two are not understanding is that sometimes when a Cancer is telling you about their problems...it's not because they want a solution from you, it's because they just want a sympathetic ear. Whether this is "wrong" or "annoying" is dependent on the receiver, but that's just the way we are!
I guess that's half the reason I post my issues here because in real life...I call my sisters...they want to talk about their drama...I call my best friend, she wants to talk about her drama...Mr. Pisces always wants to talk about his drama & won't let me get a word in edgewise.
BUT I must say, I haven't been above using emotional manipulation to get what I want...ie guilt trips.
I think what you two are not understanding is that sometimes when a Cancer is telling you about their problems...it's not because they want a solution from you, it's because they just want a sympathetic ear. Whether this is "wrong" or "annoying" is dependent on the receiver, but that's just the way we are!
Oh and OneFineAquarius...
As far as the Cancerboy you were seeing, I read that and I think the problem is that you Aquarians are not the most affectionate sign and if you were being "cold" whether you realized it or not...he picked up on that. He probably mistook it as disinterest on your part and if we sense ANY rejection...real or imagined, we will withdraw. I had the same problem with a Libra.
I guess I was confusing to him, but he was also confusing to me! I think it has alot to do with air & water's VASTLY different communication style s and outlooks on life.
Now that I think about it...I had an Aqua guy I was seeing for a hot min. and just recently he told me he really liked me at the time we were seeing each other but for WHATEVER reason he didn't tell me. I was like WHY NOT? He said he didn't know. Just confusing! But it was okay because I wasn't seriously into him like that although I really enjoyed his company!
CL/Cm2
As far as the Cancerboy you were seeing, I read that and I think the problem is that you Aquarians are not the most affectionate sign and if you were being "cold" whether you realized it or not...he picked up on that. He probably mistook it as disinterest on your part and if we sense ANY rejection...real or imagined, we will withdraw. I had the same problem with a Libra.
I guess I was confusing to him, but he was also confusing to me! I think it has alot to do with air & water's VASTLY different communication style s and outlooks on life.
Now that I think about it...I had an Aqua guy I was seeing for a hot min. and just recently he told me he really liked me at the time we were seeing each other but for WHATEVER reason he didn't tell me. I was like WHY NOT? He said he didn't know. Just confusing! But it was okay because I wasn't seriously into him like that although I really enjoyed his company!
CL/Cm2
PrimeGen
I just wanted to clear up that I wasn't saying that Aqua's are cold per se...Just that their actions may be PERCEIVED as cold by some of the more emotional signs because of their inherent differences. Which is why I wrote...
"I guess I was confusing to him, but he was also confusing to me! I think it has alot to do with air & water's VASTLY different communication style s and outlooks on life."
and
"He probably mistook it as disinterest on your part and if we sense ANY rejection...real or imagined, we will withdraw."
Notice the real or imagined section in the quote? Now, I really don't know that many Aqua's on a deep level but one of your own said...
"Definitely not lol I hate to admit it, but aquas rarely show affection"
while Alana also substantiated my claim by saying about her two Aqua parents...
"Probably the one thing that wasn't great is that they didn't show much emotion or affection, yes, I got kissed at nite and in the morning - but I don't remember too many real hugs and as a result I had problems later expressing my emotions and affection in realtionships"
So it seems like there may be some validity to the statement that "Aqua's are cold" but YOU might be the exception that disproves the rule...kinda like how I said that I don't really burden alot of my close friends with my problems so it kinda irritates me when people keep saying Cancers are whiny.
Just like with the whole solution thing...That's also why I said Cancers usually don't want a solution regardless of who we are talking to. We are a cardinal sign, so we usually have a definite idea on how we want things done and we DON'T usually like advice...good or bad. Some people understand it, some think we are just whiny...again all a matter of perception.
All in all, I appreciate your input as it gives me a glimpse into the mind of an Aqua and even though we kinda got off the subject of children, I can see all of what was written will be paramount in helping me understand my children should they indeed turn out to be Aqua babies.
Thanks guys, keep the advice coming!
CL/Cm2
I just wanted to clear up that I wasn't saying that Aqua's are cold per se...Just that their actions may be PERCEIVED as cold by some of the more emotional signs because of their inherent differences. Which is why I wrote...
"I guess I was confusing to him, but he was also confusing to me! I think it has alot to do with air & water's VASTLY different communication style s and outlooks on life."
and
"He probably mistook it as disinterest on your part and if we sense ANY rejection...real or imagined, we will withdraw."
Notice the real or imagined section in the quote? Now, I really don't know that many Aqua's on a deep level but one of your own said...
"Definitely not lol I hate to admit it, but aquas rarely show affection"
while Alana also substantiated my claim by saying about her two Aqua parents...
"Probably the one thing that wasn't great is that they didn't show much emotion or affection, yes, I got kissed at nite and in the morning - but I don't remember too many real hugs and as a result I had problems later expressing my emotions and affection in realtionships"
So it seems like there may be some validity to the statement that "Aqua's are cold" but YOU might be the exception that disproves the rule...kinda like how I said that I don't really burden alot of my close friends with my problems so it kinda irritates me when people keep saying Cancers are whiny.
Just like with the whole solution thing...That's also why I said Cancers usually don't want a solution regardless of who we are talking to. We are a cardinal sign, so we usually have a definite idea on how we want things done and we DON'T usually like advice...good or bad. Some people understand it, some think we are just whiny...again all a matter of perception.
All in all, I appreciate your input as it gives me a glimpse into the mind of an Aqua and even though we kinda got off the subject of children, I can see all of what was written will be paramount in helping me understand my children should they indeed turn out to be Aqua babies.
Thanks guys, keep the advice coming!
CL/Cm2
First of all...LMAO at this line
"make us sound some employee of the month at a concentration camp."
I just wanted to say something to you about the Cancer sister...It seems a bit hypocritical (Not trying to be mean) for you to say that just because your Taurus sister enjoys the same food as you that she is more considerate and caring. I say this because regardless as to the TYPE of food we serve...Cancers show their love by cooking. Now it may not be the type of food you want, but I seriously doubt she did it to offend you. She probably just wanted to show you she cares in the best way she knows how.
Now I am in a similar situation with my family as far as pork...I won't touch the stuff and my sisters make fun of me saying that I have lost my roots or whatever. I haven't I just don't like pork b/c it is bad for you and tastes disgusting to me now. Now when my sister cooks ribs at a bbq, I don't make a big deal out of it...I just eat the chicken. I don't thin she is inconsiderate even if she only cooks bacon, sausage and ham for breakfast, I appreciate the fact that she THOUGHT of me enough to even cook and I tell her, oh I'm not hungry or I really want some cereal this morning. See what I mean...it is the thought behind it, not the actual food that counts. Just my opinion but it seems like you are "accusing her of being a jerk" just because HER thinking is different from yours.
This is from a Cancer perspective...not trying to bash you though just trying to give you an idea of where she might be coming from. I do think however, in your defense, that she SHOULD try to respect your wishes to eat food without corn syrup (LOL I love your description) BECAUSE you are so passionate about it. I could tell just by how you wrote the post how much it means to you. Just don't make her out to be such a bad person if she doesn't because it is probably coming from a good place in her heart.
I have a question though...if you didn't get that affection as a child, does that effect your desires in a relationship or is the mental stimulation inherent in all Aqua's?
CL/Cm2
"make us sound some employee of the month at a concentration camp."
I just wanted to say something to you about the Cancer sister...It seems a bit hypocritical (Not trying to be mean) for you to say that just because your Taurus sister enjoys the same food as you that she is more considerate and caring. I say this because regardless as to the TYPE of food we serve...Cancers show their love by cooking. Now it may not be the type of food you want, but I seriously doubt she did it to offend you. She probably just wanted to show you she cares in the best way she knows how.
Now I am in a similar situation with my family as far as pork...I won't touch the stuff and my sisters make fun of me saying that I have lost my roots or whatever. I haven't I just don't like pork b/c it is bad for you and tastes disgusting to me now. Now when my sister cooks ribs at a bbq, I don't make a big deal out of it...I just eat the chicken. I don't thin she is inconsiderate even if she only cooks bacon, sausage and ham for breakfast, I appreciate the fact that she THOUGHT of me enough to even cook and I tell her, oh I'm not hungry or I really want some cereal this morning. See what I mean...it is the thought behind it, not the actual food that counts. Just my opinion but it seems like you are "accusing her of being a jerk" just because HER thinking is different from yours.
This is from a Cancer perspective...not trying to bash you though just trying to give you an idea of where she might be coming from. I do think however, in your defense, that she SHOULD try to respect your wishes to eat food without corn syrup (LOL I love your description) BECAUSE you are so passionate about it. I could tell just by how you wrote the post how much it means to you. Just don't make her out to be such a bad person if she doesn't because it is probably coming from a good place in her heart.
I have a question though...if you didn't get that affection as a child, does that effect your desires in a relationship or is the mental stimulation inherent in all Aqua's?
CL/Cm2
PrimeGen...
Thanks for clearing that up because for a minute there, I was like dang this guy seems to really not like his sister and I can't understand why! Your reation to her doesn't surprise me now because of this statement...
I like my independence and I hate when someone feels like they need to take care of me or show me feelings and all.
This is scary to me because I already know that I am extremely affectionate as an Auntie, so I would be ridiculous as a mother! My two sister's kids love it though, so hopefully it I won't get a child like you...by saying that I mean one who doesn't want me to dote on them and kiss & hug them bunches! Cause I can't help it!
Thanks for clearing that up because for a minute there, I was like dang this guy seems to really not like his sister and I can't understand why! Your reation to her doesn't surprise me now because of this statement...
I like my independence and I hate when someone feels like they need to take care of me or show me feelings and all.
This is scary to me because I already know that I am extremely affectionate as an Auntie, so I would be ridiculous as a mother! My two sister's kids love it though, so hopefully it I won't get a child like you...by saying that I mean one who doesn't want me to dote on them and kiss & hug them bunches! Cause I can't help it!
It makes me want affection, yet I'm afraid of it.
I felt cheated and jealous often of my sister ( a pisces) because she got a lot of it and I did not.
OneFineAquarius...It seems like I have read that first statement numerous times in the horoscope descriptions of the Aqua...and about the second one...Maybe because you were so independent (as most Aqua's are) and your sister may have exhibited more neediness which your parents responded to and that's why she received more?
I know an Aries/Aries couple who had a Aqua daughter that was pulling away by six months, so if you were anything like that, maybe they said, She doesn't really need us as much and since you aren't really a "show your emotions or need for affection" type person...they didn't give it to you. Just a theory...I have those about EVERYTHING! LOL
I felt cheated and jealous often of my sister ( a pisces) because she got a lot of it and I did not.
OneFineAquarius...It seems like I have read that first statement numerous times in the horoscope descriptions of the Aqua...and about the second one...Maybe because you were so independent (as most Aqua's are) and your sister may have exhibited more neediness which your parents responded to and that's why she received more?
I know an Aries/Aries couple who had a Aqua daughter that was pulling away by six months, so if you were anything like that, maybe they said, She doesn't really need us as much and since you aren't really a "show your emotions or need for affection" type person...they didn't give it to you. Just a theory...I have those about EVERYTHING! LOL
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I am pretty sure now that my twins will be Aquas because 83% of all twin pregnancies do not go to term and although I am technically due March 10...I am sure I won't go all the way.
ANYWAY...what sign were your parents?
What things did they do to enrich your lives?
What things did they do to piss you off or make you feel restricted?
What things could they have taught you that would have made you a better person.
Any other advice etc. for an Aqua child (even if you HAVE one and are NOT one) is welcome.
THANKS!
Cancerlady/CancerMamaDeuce