Need male aquarius advice!

Just wondering.....

I have been seeing an aquarius on and off for about 8 months. In this time we have also seen other people and he is away for work every few weeks. Its a fairly casual thing. He is know for not staying with one girl for long yet he always comes back to me every few weeks and I go back to him. Ive never had that kind of chemistry with someone before either! We get along really well with eachother (obviously).

In the beginning I found it hard to not be emotionally involved with him and he said he couldnt 'do' anything more than mates at the moment then I came to realise that that was just him and maybe it wasnt such a bad thing. Im doing okay with it now and it sometimes does seem for the best.

I was just curious how to tell if he would ever get serious with me or if in his mind, he does think of me with long term potential. I know that Im in love with him but I dont need alot of emotional stuff in relationships either but wanted to know if it were one of you in his shoes, after 8 months could it be that he has strong feelings for me and thats why were still at it or if he was in love with me or whatever, would we be more than casual by now?

Just curious 🙂

Hello Librachicky.......8 months and you are still together....well for one thing, if he wasn't interested and very interested!, he wouldn't keep coming back to you no matter what, albeit on his own terms...which us aquarians are masters at...at the moment you are both getting out of the relationship what you want....a little freedom, a little fun with others and then the nice reunion with you guys:-) but who's calling the shots here? I guess it's Mr. Aquarius...when he's free he will call, when he wants to see you he will let you know, when it suits him he will get in touch etc.
I may be wrong but if you were the one to initiate the meetings, I bet a negative reponse would be the outcome.......Mr. Aquarius will continue on with his casualness as long as he is is allowed to by you.

Now giving ultimatums to Mr. Aq. will so not work - so you Missy have to get into his mind-set!
Next time he calls for you to meet, no matter how hard it is for you, you decline! You manufacture some "fantastic nite out you have planned with some exotic friends scenario" - dropping a few male and female names into the conversation! You've got to make yourself appear to have a "file! (I'm not saying you don't already!) but to snare Mr. A. you have got to make yourself slightly unavailable and appear to have so little time...so many things to do and so many guys to meet:-)

It will drive him crazy...for first few days you may get total cut-off but in a few days times, he will be texting, emailing, calling just to be with you and once again, if you choose to meet, make sure you get oh so interesting calls on your cell phone at least three or four times during the nite...and oh excuse yourself from his presense to take these calls....all the time you are becoming more and more of a mystery and mysterious to Mr. A. - and that is the allure for Mr. A - to "almost have and know" his lady but never quite......

Good luck my pal.

A x

Hey Alana,

Thanks heaps for your reply! I'll give it a go and see what happens - Im actually kinda excited to have a little plan. It is him calling the shots mostly because he's away so much I dont really know when he's here etc til he calls which is usually a day or two after he comes back. I dont mind so much..as long as I get to see him its all good.

Im going to try soo hard to say no next time he calls to get together...itll be hard! I have tried to keep mystery he's always asking what Im thinking and Ill never say but thats pretty much the extent of my willpower haha. He also questions me alot on whether Im in love with my ex. I say I love him but Im not in love with him anymore and he wont believe me, then will say things like you know theres nothing wrong with loving someone...or he will be like just say whats on your mind just tell me how you feel...its like he wants me to tell him I love him but I know what would happen if I did.

Well Im sure it will all sort itself and I am willing to wait. He's a really gorgeous guy and I know he wouldnt hurt me on purpose and sometimes he's the typical distant aquarian but theres moments with him that are so perfect and tranquil I wouldnt swap it for anything in the world - some days I feel like he doesnt care if Im alive and a week later he'll kiss my eyelids and tell me how perfect I am but well...thats just him! Makes it all a bit exciting....and of all the starsigns apart from my own, aquarians are my fave.

Thanks for your help
🙂

I wish you all the best, Librachicky! If you've read the other posts regarding women's problems with aquarius men, you'd know to be careful. For real I would love to hear a woman that can get the aquarius man where SHE wants him! 🙂 Keep us posted!

I have to say that my Aquarius BF is very attentive, especially now. In fact, I have never met anyone as nice or as sweet as he is in my life. When we first started going out, we hardly talked, both of us are very busy. Maybe we talked 2 times a week, but we did see each other once a week. Now, after going out for 6 months, he calls me everyday, sometimes twice a day. We both only have time to see each other once or twice a week though. On that note, he only just started calling me his girlfriend. I am an Aquarius too, and I don't think that if he played hard to get I would like him anymore than I do! I don't know if this helps.

Hey chickies 🙂

Yeah most aquarian guys Ive met have been real sweet and real gentlemen too.
This guy makes sure I put my seatbelt on and opens doors for me and stuff and
not in a wussy way either its a natural thing...its so hot I think haha.

Thanks for all the help so far..Ill keep yous posted.
Have great weekends!! Ciao Librachicky xo

His saturn is in Scorpio...that cant be good haha jk. Im just going to wait and see what happens I decided - Im in no rush its been a great 8 months and if it goes somewhere thats great but if not....oh well 🙂 And primegen you said all Libras are emotionally unstable? That's just wayyy harsh haha. Im only slightly unstable you know....

Hahahaha wow. Yeah I agree definately something wrong there! Um nah Im not like any of them really maybe cause my moon is in aquarius and Im a bit more balanced or something but judging by those librans I dont blame your point of view...come to think of it Ive met a few unstable ones myself. And I dont like libran guys either. They are a bit fake for me...ahh well I guess every sign has some bad apples hey.

I think the only thing that drives people crazy about me is I cant make up my mind on anything its sooooo frustrating even for myself grrrrrr

Bless your libra heart! That's okay. Aquarians love you guys. We can make the decisions as long as you continue to be pleasant, fun and beautiful.

like the one who told me that a one night stands is not cheat because it is only one night (her way of making it ok for her to do it), yet funny thing was when her boyfriend did that, she really thought it was cheating, go figure!

That's just pure entitlement you know? If it's wrong for one, then it's wrong for all. When it comes to cheating that is...unless you have an agreement of some sort..yuk.

I have no problem letting you lovely aquarians make the decisions anything so I dont have to! My best mate is Libra and you should see us deciding what to have for lunch or what wine to get. Somebody shoot me hahaha.

Well I was just updating - Mr Aquarius got back the other day and sent me a few msgs. And i was totally strong! I just told him Ive had a sh*t week and I might catch up with him sometime soon..and he was all like yeah soon for sure and that. But I think he will be out tonite at a mates going-away thing so I will have to see him anyways. Damn you boys why cant you just be easy to figure out!! Haha. Nahh not really what fun would that be hey I kinda like the chase.

But I am looking forward to seeing him hes fun and Its like finally someone with a brain to have a fun convo with..yay.

Primegen do you really hate libra girls that much? *sighhh*

Hi, I just happened upon this sight and was really interested in your comments. I am an Aquarius female and have just had an Aquarius male fall in love with me and he has not been that interested in anyone for years. I understand a lot how the Aquarius mind thinks and feels. We like everyone to be our friend. We like to keep our options open and we care about people but we don't like to be tied down. Now if we meet someone that totally intrigues us, and connects to us on this high mental level then we love to be with them as much as possible. We get frustrated with people who create an emotional drain on us, we like fun, and we like to have a good time. We don't commit easily but if you had an Aquarius committment, you would have all of them without any doubts. It's easy for us to go for a long time with people we like but that does not mean we are committed to them for life. If you really want to connect with an Aquarius, always be your true self, don't make stuff up and play manipulative games cuz we can see right through that, don't hold anything back in your thoughts and ideas. The more ideas the better. Be interesting to know. Sometimes we get bored with others and need a break from them to seek out new experiences, we stay close to those who truly excite us and are fun to be with.

Hey y'all

Well aquarius boy got back from being away, msged/called everyday, slept over on the weekend then went away back to work. I give up!

I think how Aquarius guys keep coming and going is not because they are scared or care too much etc....I think they just know that the person isnt the one. I was reading this article and it said people with a commitment problem are just with the wrong person and subconsiously know it and thats why they cant commit. I think if the guy met the right girl..he'd commit. Therefore...I give up 🙂

Still it was nice having him sleep there for a change...even if I didnt get much sleep at all haahaha

Ciao xo