Aqua guy/Gemini girl

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elcamina
@elcamina
10 Years

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So I feel that I am pretty well versed in astrology, but this whole situation has just baffled me. I met this guy online and we talked for about a month through text and phone before we decided to meet. We went on a couple dates and they were amazing. We had so much in common and everything seemed to be going quite smoothly. Then we slept together after the last date and everything went to hell. I know it was early, but I've dated Aquas before and it was never an issue before (I know every person is different obviously) and he was the one that instigated it. We talk the day after and he says he feels "weird" about sleeping together so soon and he needs time to think. I back off for about a week and we start chatting again, about everything except what happened. Then he starts going on this thing about how he wants to move out of state to look for a new job and just get a change of scenery and that he still feels weird about us. Finally, after a few more weeks of just chatting, he says that the sex ruined things and that he does have feelings for me but that he doesn't know why he feels the way he does about it. This man was not a virgin either. I still have feelings for him and I know I should just move on, but being the typical Gemini, I either don't give a shit about someone or I care too damn much. This situation clearly fits into the latter. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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elcamina
@elcamina
10 Years

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Posted by febaqua
A gem aqua relationship brought me here. 🙂

We aqua guys do tend to move too fast only to realize we did after.

So looks like he is emotionally drained right now. Its not your fault. Have you been trying to text him more than him after the incident?
Yeah I did for awhile. I tried to keep it light, not show too much emotion and such. He said the last bit at the beginning of the month in this like super long message on fb about how it made him feel ashamed and other things like that. I have expressed a few times that I would be more than happy to just start over, hang out, go on dates, and not have sex again until we both feel ready as I am also now freaked out by his reaction and not wanting this to happen again. I replied to his long message with an equally long message and said that I don't think I could go to just being friends as I now have feelings and it would be too hard for me. We haven't spoken since and I messaged him on my bday (two days ago) expressing that I missed him and I wish I could have talked to him or seen him on my birthday. I also told him not to reply as writing to him is hard enough. So I don't know if I am just digging my own grave faster by being conflicted or if things are really ruined and I should just delete him from my fb and move on. This whole situation makes me feel quite pathetic considering we only met a couple times and then I am this emotional baby about it all.