AQUA HOW SHOULD I REACT WHEN YOU BECOME ALOOF? (Page 2)

hi aquasnoz 🙂 lol we have been together everyday last and this week although his idea...kindly elaborate on hints and reminders 🙂
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haha well I really don't know the dynamics the other way around so my subtle is actually just going in and give him a big kiss. If you feel daring and up to the task of course!

If not you can always play the damsel in distress, if it's too cold or any reason to get more 'intimate' so to speak in terms of physical contact but this is me thinking he's idealised you and has put you on the pedestal and that he's TOO afraid to reach out until you do. So this is the part I can't relate to.

When you guys were together what did you guys do? Was it just all friendly chat and he didn't initiate any kind of romance? If so you might need a male cap moon opinion on it.

he's idealised you and has put you on the pedestal and that he's TOO afraid to reach out until you do.

^^^this seems to be my thinking too...esp that im 4yrs older and i can be very opinionated and vocal...aquasnoz he wont even look me in the eyes without shying off...he wants to see me everyday i just said bye to him and he says see you tommorow...lol

i have a cap moon too and its like he can read my mind...i dont know if he knows that i like him too...

Posted by lovelytaurus
heres his chart dunno what to make of it though...
Sun Aquarius
Ascendant Scorpio
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Pisces
Mars Pisces
Jupiter Sagittarius
Saturn Scorpio

Just in my opinion seeing as I'm a Sun Cap/Aqua cusp and have a Moon in Virgo, if I like someone I will definitely take my time in expressing my feelings to them. I take frickin FOREVER to not only finalize how I feel, but I take a long time reading the other person and what hints/signs they give. I never waste my time expressing my feelings or interest in someone else if I don't know without a shadow of a doubt they have the same feelings, I find it to leave me vulnerable in ways I'm not willing to be. His aloofness may be from the simple fact that he is constantly evaluating his feelings and his standing with you, but if he has discussed settling down...then he probably means it.

Concerning having multiple female friends, I myself have nothing but male friends. Some I fancy, but not because I wish to be with them...they intrigue me and stimulate me on a mental level. I wouldn't necessarily see this as threatening as just based on some of his placements, it looks like he is a rather private and emotional indiviual which could mean he has a lot of female friends cause they tend to "jive" with him better. Maybe he feels more comfortable with females...just guessing.

if I like someone I will definitely take my time in expressing my feelings to them. I take frickin FOREVER to not only finalize how I feel, but I take a long time reading the other person and what hints/signs they give. I never waste my time expressing my feelings or interest in someone else if I don't know without a shadow of a doubt they have the same feelings

thanks taggize,^^^this seems to be a biiiiig factor here...

im confused...

I don't know why everytime i get close to someone, i end up taking off
^^^ his words how can i avoid this—

Posted by lovelytaurus
if I like someone I will definitely take my time in expressing my feelings to them. I take frickin FOREVER to not only finalize how I feel, but I take a long time reading the other person and what hints/signs they give. I never waste my time expressing my feelings or interest in someone else if I don't know without a shadow of a doubt they have the same feelings

thanks taggize,^^^this seems to be a biiiiig factor here...

sounds like you both are very very slow. It will take forever allright. Both patient and waiting. It might even be ten years or more before you two finally even go on a date. *whew*

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by lovelytaurus
if I like someone I will definitely take my time in expressing my feelings to them. I take frickin FOREVER to not only finalize how I feel, but I take a long time reading the other person and what hints/signs they give. I never waste my time expressing my feelings or interest in someone else if I don't know without a shadow of a doubt they have the same feelings

thanks taggize,^^^this seems to be a biiiiig factor here...

sounds like you both are very very slow. It will take forever allright. Both patient and waiting. It might even be ten years or more before you two finally even go on a date. *whew*

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lol lisa this is one tough aqua...and im literally pulling my hair out...😢

Posted by lovelytaurus

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by lovelytaurus
if I like someone I will definitely take my time in expressing my feelings to them. I take frickin FOREVER to not only finalize how I feel, but I take a long time reading the other person and what hints/signs they give. I never waste my time expressing my feelings or interest in someone else if I don't know without a shadow of a doubt they have the same feelings

thanks taggize,^^^this seems to be a biiiiig factor here...

sounds like you both are very very slow. It will take forever allright. Both patient and waiting. It might even be ten years or more before you two finally even go on a date. *whew*

lol lisa this is one tough aqua...and im literally pulling my hair out...😢

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from what i can decipher in relationships, one has to be the hunter, the other the prey. If both are preys.....

although both can be hunter and the other hunter is hunted? weird.
of course, it has to be both ways. If the hunter is chasing a prey and the prey calls the cops (stalking) the hunter turns into the hunted by the big law men.

just go do stuff together. No need to sweat the big stuff. You both are single. Take it easy, don't waste your life worrying what will be, what may come. It's the pre-dating stage. If you both go on like this, it might even be 20 years. By then, so many many wasted years.

tell me about it hun...im really happy that were spending lots of time together and all but theres no contact hes really shy when it comes to physical contact and i obviously cant initiate it because i want him to...so yeah were doomed
*sigh*

hmmmm just read this somewhere...
Aquarius feel expressing their emotions will make them look weak.

Posted by lovelytaurus
hmmmm just read this somewhere...
Aquarius feel expressing their emotions will make them look weak.

I disagree, but then this is just general characteristic, i guess. I dont know why people believe showing emotion is weak, it's a great strength in my opinion. How are people suppose to know or to "get" how one feels of the other? They're just going to sit together talking about physics? It doesn't sound very appealing does it? Might as well just get a robot. LOL

Posted by lovelytaurus
tell me about it hun...im really happy that were spending lots of time together and all but theres no contact hes really shy when it comes to physical contact and i obviously cant initiate it because i want him to...so yeah were doomed
*sigh*

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no contact? >.> he really is just shy or afraid of cooties. *shakes head*

i'm reminded of that song "black velveteen" by Lenny Kravitz:

for a taurus its pure torture...

Posted by lovelytaurus
for a taurus its pure torture...

patience is a virtue they say. If it takes a decade...years, until you start having grey hairs. Going to check into an old folks home? You're both sitting there look at eachother, maybe enjoying a cup of tea together, still wondering and then playing Bingo.
Even beyond the grave. Your tombstone says: "here lies two people who never even touched."
J/k. Hopefully that scenerio isn't really happening. Someone should write a story or something about it. Two people who couldn't even go beyond.
Like I said earlier, one of you needs to be the Mars, the other Venus. Or Moon/Mars. It's a weird dichotomy but it works.

Too bad Taurus Uma Thurman isn't here to help you out (since she's married to an Aqua man) He got her pregnant too, so he wasn't afraid of cooties.

lisa ure killing meeeeeeeeeeee...lol i cant be the mars it always works against me...

Posted by lovelytaurus
lisa ure killing meeeeeeeeeeee...lol i cant be the mars it always works against me...

Same. Lol. My ex's were the chasers (Mars/Sun ruled chart) Do you flirt at least? Flirt with him. And only him. I guess that's the only way. You know, Venus ruled women usually know how to SUBTLY flirt. Nothing blatant like some women are. Wear something beautiful, a sensual dress, a bit of perfume. You know how to work it, lady. Work it like a slow-moving belly dancer. Sensual and smooth. Eye to eye. If he can't even get those hints. He's just a clod. *shakes head*

Work it like Jessica Alba, woman:

*sigh* If only your guy could scream to the stars and express himself like Nicholas Cage here (Aqua Venus) to Laura Dern in WILD HEART:

haha im sure hes thinking about it alot...

having been friends all these years makes it hard to flirt...and i like that he respects me and our frienship enough to be this shy...🙂

Aquas how do you know THE ONE? how do you let them know?

where are all the aquas?

Been hiding 😛 But I never truly know 'the one' and that's an honest answer. All I do know is when I feel it in my gut I just come out and say it. This can take anywhere between a month or two to possibly a year. It all depends I guess 😛

hi there.....ooooohhhhh give me more....im getting abit closer to him but heres the scary part...i read his tweet that he says hes taking his sisters advice on settling down and now new girl...
im confused...is it me?

haha it might be a hint OR he might just be agreeing with his sister just for the sake of agreeing on a social network. I wouldn't read too much into it and just let things flow.

haha yes i read did read too much afterall silly me...because he meant new girl the show....

oops sorry for the typo

*sigh*

how can we get to the next stage?

I don't seem to mesh well with Aqua's I clash with the females because they seem to open and look at me, and the guys are really sensitive and wishy washy... idk it's the ones I've encountered..

hi there....hmmmm i love having aqua friends they're so easy to be with just don't get too attached and you will gain the best gift of friendship ....
dating them im just starting to find out ...lol

im falling for him...

help me please ....

🙂 hi metoo...... thanks for those words i would love to take it further were heading nowhere like this...im 4yrs older than him do you think its a factor here ?

haha metoo...it's everything you mentioned above...i feel like a high school girl with butterflies in my tummy lol...
yes i do like him ALOT...
i would love if he asked me out atleast.
i don't feel like im wasting my time because i love spending time with him even if just as friends it's always fun ...yes i can be patient... but not forever ...
how do i lure him any suggestions—

I'll say this... I think it takes a confident female who can show how she feels and be vulnerable... Obvious to the point that only an idiot would have to question and then some. But at the same time showing strength and independence. The better aware he is of how you feel about him the easier it will be period.

Now there is no guarantee that showing will mean he will reciprocate in the way you would like because he really may not feel the same way.... I think as we get older we learn that our personalities are just not good for being friends with girls unless we're interested. Women generally get the wrong idea when I'm friends with them so I'm only friends with the ones I actually like nowadays to ward off drama. So if he's immature it could be bad, but better to know early then later. Could be too that even if he is interested maybe he has important things he still wants to do and is not ready for that I dunno and if your not wanting to wait around for that... Then like I already said good to know earlier on.

Your a Taurus though I am certain that's plenty of all the independence crap I already said so yeah just be more obvious I guess. A mature Aquarius man that is not a sociopath is quite a great lover when they show love and when they feel loved by another. When they feel someone excepts that Alice in wonderland mind they have. Funny thing is if you really are falling for him he already knows because we are uncanny at reading people usually... He just doesn't trust it when it comes to love. He will only make a move when he absolutely has to have you no matter the cost or you prove to him what he already knows and show him not tell him how you feel.

I think it might do you some good to look into why Aqua male - Leo female relationships tend to work so well. I really think despite leo being the opposite fixed sign its the fact they are very open about how they are feeling.... The exact opposite to us. Their maybe other things too dunno just look it up if your interested.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I'll say this... I think it takes a confident female who can show how she feels and be vulnerable... Obvious to the point that only an idiot would have to question and then some. But at the same time showing strength and independence. The better aware he is of how you feel about him the easier it will be period.

Now there is no guarantee that showing will mean he will reciprocate in the way you would like because he really may not feel the same way.... I think as we get older we learn that our personalities are just not good for being friends with girls unless we're interested. Women generally get the wrong idea when I'm friends with them so I'm only friends with the ones I actually like nowadays to ward off drama. So if he's immature it could be bad, but better to know early then later. Could be too that even if he is interested maybe he has important things he still wants to do and is not ready for that I dunno and if your not wanting to wait around for that... Then like I already said good to know earlier on.

Your a Taurus though I am certain that's plenty of all the independence crap I already said so yeah just be more obvious I guess. A mature Aquarius man that is not a sociopath is quite a great lover when they show love and when they feel loved by another. When they feel someone excepts that Alice in wonderland mind they have. Funny thing is if you really are falling for him he already knows because we are uncanny at reading people usually... He just doesn't trust it when it comes to love. He will only make a move when he absolutely has to have you no matter the cost or you prove to him what he already knows and show him not tell him how you feel.

I think it might do you some good to look into why Aqua male - Leo female relationships tend to work so well. I really think despite leo being the opposite fixed sign its the fact they are very open about how they are feeling.... The exact opposite to us. Their maybe other things too dunno just look it up if your interested.

super... 🙂

Posted by Metoo
In other words I am not a fan of rushing when you have just been chatting here and there but it seems he is interested and its not a light thing for an aqua to decide to see you every day. If you really like him, make that clear, and just find out if his head space is platonic or if he has intentions of dating you. If you allow him to live in the gray and be complacent not really going anywhere he will.

You dont have to shove relationship pie down his throat but you can ask him lightly, do you like me? Can we have a real date, I'd love that? At least add a little gasoline to the flame, he is too shy. Your not so make it happen already if you want it. He needs a glaring GREEN light! Then from there you can still take it slow and steady but common already!

really great ideas metoo thx...
although NYAA has a point about mistaking his friendship for love ...and losing both .... 😢 sigh

Posted by Metoo
NYAA could be dead on. In the me and aqua just stayed friends.
We may have had more there but could never quite mutually get it off the ground.

I think many aquas DO fall in love with their friends.
But its not usually that forever love.
Its a love like, right now in time I am fascinated by you, feel warm toward you and need to reach out to you and be with you all the time.

Then they get spooked or bored, or scared, or fickle, or the breeze blows them away...and you are left chasing butterflies. They are the best of sunshine and rain...and wind! xoxo

Enjoy this time, but dont read into maybe and dont get attached!

absolutely metoo its really that simple yet that complicated ...hes gone MIA right now and we had plans this w/end ...i just give him a wide berth when this happens because i have known him for years and i am used to it.... when he resurfaces i just pick up where we left off ....

"Then they get spooked or bored, or scared, or fickle, or the breeze blows them away...and you are left chasing butterflies. They are the best of sunshine and rain...and wind!" xoxo
this is so true... its time to do something .... wish me luck ...lol

Aquas gone MIA His friend called me looking for him and he's gone off radar ... hope he's ok.
hmmm hope to hear from him soon ...

whew i found him....missed him like crazy ...o no im hooked ...

lol...metoo thats an evil laugh.i think this w.end i will. any tips/advice or words of encouragment will be welcomed ... 🙂

^^^ *ask him to take me out *

Posted by rgh1
I didn't read through the entirety of the posts. But, I know this. When you won't choose...you lose both. That's my experience.

hi there 🙂
pls elaborate if you could thx....

Good Golly Miss Molly!!! Taurus, just make a move already!!!! He's not going to, obviously, so you have to do it!

Just pass him a note in study hall. haha! 😛

Really, though, next time you hang out and are saying bye, just give him a hug and kiss on the cheek. How hard is that?? Take a risk. I betcha it will work out in a good way. All you have to do is give the green light and I am sure he'll take the lead after that.

Ehhh, then again, I'm a cardinal sign. lol!

Good luck with it! Hope it works out.

"Really, though, next time you hang out and are saying bye, just give him a hug and kiss on the cheek. How hard is that?? Take a risk. I betcha it will work out in a good way. All you have to do is give the green light and I am sure he'll take the lead after that".

hi truecap this is a great idea it sounds simple yet im also wondering how to begin knowing how these gents are with display of affection...lol

If it's in private and he's into you like you feel he his, he will like it. Aquas like directness and women who are individual enough and comfortable enough in themselves to make a bold move. He will respect you for it however it goes.

Stop being so scared!!!!

And stop thinking and analyzing so much!!!

lol truecap... i feel it alright and i want to be bold yet something keeps holding me back...our friendship i guess...knowing i never saw him this way before hes met both my ex husbands...
im alittle guilty that he's always felt this way but i never even noticed until now ...he's always been there for me and i don't want to loose that ....hope it makes sense