Aqua man getting distant.... (Page 2)

I stayed for the kids, and because I didn't believe in divorce...... but I was becoming depressed and I couldn't do it anymore. Now I just wish I had done it sooner, but at least my kids are a little older now, and I think the timing is better than if they had been little.

Well, I haven't heard from him since Monday night..... not sure if I will. I'm trying to just forget about him. The problem is that we really connected, and I really really liked this guy. But it sounds like this is typical Aqua behavior? Very affectionate, then runs away if you give the affection back? I don't like playing the cold fish. I love the attention. I eat it up. I guess I have to learn how to play hard to get..... not act too interested. I just hate playing games.
And I just hate the way it ended. He was getting distant, but still affectionate. I wasn't picking up the signs that I was coming on too strong. Monday night he just walked me out to my car like he usually did, gave me a little kiss..... sent me a text thanking me for spending my evening with him.... he even put a kiss smiley in the text.....then that was it. Haven't heard from him since. Is this typical? Do they just drop you like a hot potato? No talking about it.... nothing??

I have another date Monday with a new guy. Don't know what his sign is, so I'll just see how it goes.

Yes, I'm okay..... my heart is pretty guarded these days 🙂

Posted by SagHaert2
Well, I haven't heard from him since Monday night..... not sure if I will. I'm trying to just forget about him. The problem is that we really connected, and I really really liked this guy. But it sounds like this is typical Aqua behavior? Very affectionate, then runs away if you give the affection back? I don't like playing the cold fish. I love the attention. I eat it up. I guess I have to learn how to play hard to get..... not act too interested. I just hate playing games.
And I just hate the way it ended. He was getting distant, but still affectionate. I wasn't picking up the signs that I was coming on too strong. Monday night he just walked me out to my car like he usually did, gave me a little kiss..... sent me a text thanking me for spending my evening with him.... he even put a kiss smiley in the text.....then that was it. Haven't heard from him since. Is this typical? Do they just drop you like a hot potato? No talking about it.... nothing??

I have another date Monday with a new guy. Don't know what his sign is, so I'll just see how it goes.

Yes, I'm okay..... my heart is pretty guarded these days 🙂

The Aqua behaviour that you describe is EXACTLY what I experienced when I first dated my Aqua ex. He blew hot and cold on me to the point where it drove me crazy! I put up with it for too long and to be honest I wish I hadn't - I should have heeded the warning signs and run in the other direction from the start.

I hope things work out with your new guy - you probably dodged a bullet if my Aqua man experience is anything to go by. Incidentally, my Aqua ex has been trying to get back with me but hell will freeze over before I take him back

Well, my date last night was a bust. He was too much of a "nerd" for me. I found out his is a Taurus, which is not a good match for me anyway.... and when I got home, I started thinking about my Aqua guy again. I sent him a message on the dating site where I met him. I told him I wanted to apologize for being insensitive about something I had said to him on his birthday..... and that I just hoped he was doing good. I guess I'll wait and see if I get a response.

My Aqua guy is a moon Cancer, so from what I've read, he should be very attached to his mother. I'm also a moon Cancer, but I was adopted and never bonded with my adopted mom, so I never had that closeness, which has left me somewhat detached..... and as a Sag, I can be a little unemotional anyway. Well, what happened on his birthday is that he wore a sweater that was given to him by his mom. He was showing it to me and how it was all falling apart. I responded by saying that we should get him a new sweater.....I was being very insensitive. I know that was exactly the wrong thing to say. I didn't even ask about his mom. I'm assuming that she passed away, and honoring her on his birthday was something very close to his heart. So, in my email to him this morning, I apologized for that. I don't know if it will make a difference or not.

I'm also not good at affirmations..... I never complimented him on anything..... even when he threw out all of the hints, like how he always told me he was wearing his "skinny jeans", and kept saying his hair was getting too long. I should have told him he was sexy in his skinny jeans, and that his long hair was sexy.....

So, I messed up. I know I have to work on my affirmations. My Leo guy pointed that out to me. I think that's why he dumped me last year. He really needed the affirmations, and he wasn't getting that from me.

So, can an old dog learn new tricks? I hope so. I really do want to give my guy what he needs from me..... I guess I just need to practice......

Well, I also sent him a text.... and NOTHING.... not a word..... so I guess I'll move on.