BAV
@BAV
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Aqua normality?
Um that sounds like an abnormal Aqua with lots of Gemini, Pisces or Cancer placements prob.
"she will tell me "what attitude to have with her, in order for her to stay in the rs". I got angry at her selfishness, told her that I dont like that superior tone."
Like it or not, you've got to listen to what she needs to be happy. In fact, you have to encourage her to open up to you!
Similarly, she has to listen to your needs...why don't you put them in writing: how much and how often do you need reassurance, attention, sex, conversation, quality time, acts of service, love declarations, dates....anything from her or with her! Make that list reasonable, since she's got a job and a child to look after.
At this stage, you need to know if and how much you two need to compromise in the name of love, and if you two are willing to.
Like it or not, you've got to listen to what she needs to be happy. In fact, you have to encourage her to open up to you!
Similarly, she has to listen to your needs...why don't you put them in writing: how much and how often do you need reassurance, attention, sex, conversation, quality time, acts of service, love declarations, dates....anything from her or with her! Make that list reasonable, since she's got a job and a child to look after.
At this stage, you need to know if and how much you two need to compromise in the name of love, and if you two are willing to.
Posted by ClassyAquarius
Dude, when we work, we seriously don't have time to talk. It has nothing to do with you. She is focusing on her work. I can't do two things at once so I don't text people at work neither. Stop freaking out.
Give her space otherwise she will run away.
Its not that! Its not like I dont understand that she works. I work too and dont like to be asked and pressured. We havent talked for 3-4 days at all, AFTER she said we would come back to the "sweet loving" thing that we had. And I am pretty sure that she will not come back đ) I gave her space. I will give her more space. At the same time, I am detaching myself.
Posted by Phantum
You're free now, so there is the potential for it to really be something, so now it's scary. Also, you backed off and said you didn't want to hop from one relationship to another, so she's probably bracing herself for whatever that means.
Isnt it normal? It was the very next day after leaving my ex, that she insinuated that we move together.. It was a bit much for a healthy start. I have my doubts, so why rent an apartment and maybe stay for a month and then if it doesnt work out.. what?
Talked to her about it. We dated 3 days ago. She basically told me that she has made up her mind, took the decisions that she needed to take. She meant that she wants to move out of the country. Again, when we saw eachother, we were like before (this always happens when we see eachother), we could stay for hours and days together, not bothered by anything and just feel good. But, yet, she is not inlove..
Texted her right after that because this is not 100% from her side I will take a step back from all. That I want us to plan for the future, living here or where she plans on moving, not casual dates weekly and maybe a weekend every month or 2. Her reply: I love you, we will find the way.
And then nothing. No contact since then.
I think she is just focusing now on her new job prospect, outside the country. A month ago, she implied that we should get married and go together. I havent said anything meaningful. If things would be different and I would see a desire from her side, I would consider this.
The point is that I think she doesnt see a future here and wants to move AND knowing that I wouldnt go with her, she backs away, not to get involved in something for which she doesnt see a future.
Texted her right after that because this is not 100% from her side I will take a step back from all. That I want us to plan for the future, living here or where she plans on moving, not casual dates weekly and maybe a weekend every month or 2. Her reply: I love you, we will find the way.
And then nothing. No contact since then.
I think she is just focusing now on her new job prospect, outside the country. A month ago, she implied that we should get married and go together. I havent said anything meaningful. If things would be different and I would see a desire from her side, I would consider this.
The point is that I think she doesnt see a future here and wants to move AND knowing that I wouldnt go with her, she backs away, not to get involved in something for which she doesnt see a future.
I donât think you listen very well, itâs not always about words.. also you seem to have a bad temper.. but in general you are right when you say you are a Taurus who likes stability and she is an Aqua so it would be like trying to hit a square into a circular hole if you carry on with this relationship. Just donât be angry, thereâs no need, itâs not your fault or her fault that you want different things.
Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
The irony of the cheating Taurus claiming he likes stability.
Bro you left your stable situation to get involved with someone who has been inconsistent from the start. You knew what it was.
So don't play victim now that you realize you can't change her. After all, your certainly not willing to change for her.
Stubborn is as stubborn does. Or something equally prophetic, idk.
Bro you left your stable situation to get involved with someone who has been inconsistent from the start. You knew what it was.
So don't play victim now that you realize you can't change her. After all, your certainly not willing to change for her.
Stubborn is as stubborn does. Or something equally prophetic, idk.
Posted by PhantumPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?click to expand
I didnât know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and Iâm the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.
Posted by peachy06Posted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP âclick to expand
I know. Iâm referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lol
Posted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06Posted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP â
I know. Iâm referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lolclick to expand
I thought you were the Aqua the OP was talking about! And you were explaining your point of view to us all.
Posted by AriesJoPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06Posted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP â
I know. Iâm referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lol
I thought you were the Aqua the OP was talking about! And you were explaining your point of view to us all.click to expand
LOL! Nope. If I were the Aqua he was talking about, he wouldnât have advice to seek on dxp.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by PhantumPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?
I didnât know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and Iâm the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.click to expand
It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).
After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...
So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?
Posted by BAVPosted by aquarius09Posted by PhantumPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. đđź
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I donât think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about âwinningâ such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesnât know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I canât stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesnât trust you and thatâs why sheâs inconsistent.
Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?
I didnât know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and Iâm the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.
It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).
After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...
So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?click to expand
You told HER youâre leaving your gf (independent of Aqua)? Who are you lying to? Me or yourself. Youâre a typical Gem venus. You left your girlfriend because you were entertained by another woman. Jokes on you because you left consistency (a stable gf)for an inconsistent side chick. Youâre a rookie cheater though. Experienced cheaters secure something with a side chick and then leave the previous relationship.
As for her inconsistency, pay attention. Sheâs not that into you. As an Aqua, I wonât lift a finger for anyone unless Iâm genuinely into you but I will sweet talk people because itâs effortless. Her I love yous donât mean anything if sheâs not putting the action.
So basically you two went through all the dramatics for nothing.
Nothing worse than fruitless efforts.
Nothing worse than fruitless efforts.
All this for lust. Your making all these mistakes for sex. You canât possible truly love a person that tricks you the way she does.
This woman is playing you like a fool. Her stories are all full of lies. Her claiming to move out of town for work is a lie to create a since of urgency so that you could hurry up and leave your gf for her. Now that youâve done everything that she asked, she skips town because of the Coronavirus! Another BOGUS story. If you are not a troll and this story is true, this woman is EXTREMELY dangerous and needs to be left alone. My gut tells me She has some type an ulterior motive. Block her and never look back.
This woman is playing you like a fool. Her stories are all full of lies. Her claiming to move out of town for work is a lie to create a since of urgency so that you could hurry up and leave your gf for her. Now that youâve done everything that she asked, she skips town because of the Coronavirus! Another BOGUS story. If you are not a troll and this story is true, this woman is EXTREMELY dangerous and needs to be left alone. My gut tells me She has some type an ulterior motive. Block her and never look back.
Posted by CreativeCap
All this for lust. Your making all these mistakes for sex. You canât possible truly love a person that tricks you the way she does.
This woman is playing you like a fool. Her stories are all full of lies. Her claiming to move out of town for work is a lie to create a since of urgency so that you could hurry up and leave your gf for her. Now that youâve done everything that she asked, she skips town because of the Coronavirus! Another BOGUS story. If you are not a troll and this story is true, this woman is EXTREMELY dangerous and needs to be left alone. My gut tells me She has some type an ulterior motive. Block her and never look back.
What makes you so sure thatâs what up?
Fyi, heâs been posting about her for years.
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