Aqua teasing....how to deal with it.

Hello mysterious Aquarians,

My Aqua man teases me from time to time -- especially about not liking me, liking other girls etc. I tried to play it cool at first, but my true Scorp nature has to emerge sooner or later -- I don't really like it! At the same time, I have a funny feeling that he likes provoking me, and does it to see how much I care. In that case, I'll handle it.

Any thoughts?

?Are you absolutely SURE he's teasing you about this??

-- lol, UC, since when you become so skeptical! Certainly he is teasing her. No guy in his right mind would tell his girl friend that he was liking other girls, lol.

?Aquas are notorious about giving people they care about a hard time. My aqua guy ACTUALLY admitted that to me when he teased me and debated me till the end of the evening one time. When I got frustrated, he laughed and said sorry but he is known to give all his friends and loved ones a hard time. He told me he does it to see how they will react. He gets a kick out of it and he told me he means no harm by it.?

-- So true! I am guilty as charged!

yes, this is how they are...always joking, teasing, pushing buttons...always trying to get a reaction!!! they thrive on it...and if you can keep up with it, joke back, and not take it seriously...they will love you even more 🙂

Funny this cos me an my Aqua had a bit of a fight the other night, we were watching a comedy sketch on tv where the bride was staggering around with a bottle of champagne. I turned to my Aqua and jokingly said. "That will be me on our wedding night"...His reply was "I'll never marry you...i want to be with you forever but i'll never marry you."

I was really upset and as a typical cancerian created a big drama about it.He ended up leaving my house in a huff cos he couldnt see why i was upset. THREE days later he calls me up and we talk. H

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THREE days later he calls me up to say he is upset that i said "That will be ME on my wedding night" and seemingly excluded him from my future plans and thats why he said what he said to me. Now i know for a FACT these were not my words.I am a woman and i remember coversations word for word !!! I know that he sensed i was fishing and intentionally said the opposite to what i wanted to hear, and he has since
admitted this.If he senses i want to hear something he will say something completely the opposite to what i want to hear...crazy!!

oh geez...lunarlady, you two sound just like my aqua and i...battle of aquarian nature vs. cancerian nature!!! gotta love it...
i tend to create unnecessary drama at times, which my aqua HATES! and in turn, he can definitely dwell on things i say just like yours did for THREE days!!!

so HLG, have you heard from him then?

3 1/2 weeks...i am sure i can beat that...LOL!

Thanks for your helpful comments!

UC and Aquaguy, I think you're both right. I think he is a lot like Clark Gable in all of his movies -- Mr. Debonair, wise-cracking, tough guy. On the other hand, it is a subtle way of distancing himself, and letting me know that he's still "free".

I am way too serious like many Scorps, and it's an effort to lighten up and go with his jokes. But I guess that's part of the fascination of opposite temperaments!

Moonchild, i think deep down they know the drama is not really drama,its just showing how much we care 🙂

lunarlady, i hope you are right!

but, even though we don't always see eye to eye on things...there is a very deep connection between us. i am sure you feel the same about you and your aqua.

I tease everyone all the time. I'm always overly critical over them because I expect so much more from them than I expect from myself. Especially from Family. That and my overly competitive nature forces me to expect only the best and a 110% effort from anyone and everyone although I should really learn to relax and tone down a bit more. Probably why I suffer from Burnout too.

What does it mean if my aqua guy doesn't tease or provoke me at all? He never really makes jokes!

*sigh*

Well, I guess the teasing was all about our tiff last week. Because after our romantic evening together...

*heaves another sigh*

I think we both realise that chemistry like this isn't easily found.

Sakesumo,

Be grateful that he doesn't tease you! When that defensive shield goes up it can be nerve-wracking!

But you did say he was shy.

Shy people are more serious, hence the lack of teasing 🙂

"Aqua men tend to get close to women as friends and will even hang out with them a lot and call them a lot."

-- This is true, at least for me and my aqua guy friends. We treat everyone equally. Everyone is a friend (level 1) . Status, wealth, life style , political view, and even gender does not matter much. We are independent and accentric, so we respect everyone's differences. After we get to know you, and like you a little bit more, you move up to be level-2 friends. Level-2 friends are friends that we deem worthy to invite over for parties. Once we know you for a while, you move up to level-3 friends. Level-3 friends are the ones that go on road trips with us, stay over until 4-5 in the moring after we kick everyone out of our parties, listen to our relationship problems. It's a long process but once you get to level-3, you are pretty much our friends until the day we die.

The problem with this (we ourselves don't think it's a problem, since we are pretty rational) is that our female friends sometimes think we are leading them on. We may move a female friend up to level-3, but not in a romatic sense.

Now it does happen that we sometimes develope romantic feelings for our female friends, but it is entirely unplanned. It just happens. It's not like we string them all along and then pick one of them.

I have quite a few female friends that thought I am a biggest flirt/tease/player. Some of them resent me for leading them on. But once they got to know me better, they realize that I am just genuinely interested in people, male or female. I have to admit, that sometimes, I do fall for one of my "little sisters" (that's what I call my female friends), but it's proven to be more troubles than it's worth. The ones that thought I was leading them on became bitter, and the one I liked felt like she betrayed her friends by stealing me for herself. Jealousy and dramma between friends are not my cup of tea.

So yeah, there you have it.

UnusualCancer,

I certainly admire you Cancers for your fantastic intuition and willingness to trust it. My Cancer-ex was a very intuitive guy....and one of the good things I learned in our relationship was how to trust my own intuition. We Scorps do have it, but being more fixed than the other water signs, we don't listen to it at times.

I think I do take things too literally, and am not giggly. There is certainly a heaviness about me (not physically, thank God!) -- perhaps this comes from having a pretty serious career and being a single parent besides. Responsibility carries a certain weight. However, sex with my Aqua guy seems to open me up in many ways. It's more than just physical, as it is for many of my sign 🙂

This is why we are least compatible with water.

Nah.

I'm a happy person who lets others have their opinions. We all have the right to create our own lives.

Stop that Bling.😛


We just come from a totally different place/schools of thought.
It clashes and then frustration builds (water tends to get frudtrated quickly tho😛).