Aquarius men?

Aquarius men: what are they like in relationships? I've never actually known an Aquarius male in my life except for one. But it was platonic. What are they like in relationships? As detached with others. Occasionally romantic? Not all Aquarius men are the same? Too busy to be on an astrology forum?

_??' just go back to the Aquarius threads and read ALL the posts or just about 5 of them and you should get all of your answers!

I had an aqua boyfriend for nearly 2 years. It was the most fun relationship I had ever been in, but also the most heartbreaking.
I think aqua's are romantic, thoughtful, unpredictable, like their space, think more with logic rather than emotions- so they dislike any emotional drama.. I think they're loyal.. However if you are too clingy or too emotional you can push him away.

I should have added very arrogant and KNOWS they are good looking and can have anyone they want. AND very intelligent and stubborn and you cannot outsmart them. ZelaleZ has got the Aqua down to a tee..

You worried me about the cheating there though ZelaleZ. I always liked to think my ex could never cheat on me.

I've dated one aqua and it was a short romance. He was good to me, brought me roses to work and we would go out with his friends. We got a long great and he told a mutual friend that he wanted to marry me. Unfortunately, I did not feel the same, I mean we were only dated for 2 weeks, but had known each other for 7 years before that. I didn't find out until later that he had another girlfriend. hahaha!

Now, I love my aqua brothers and they're not all the same, but that was pretty funny ^. I have great aqua male friends and the one's I know (except from the one I dated) are committed and loyal. I'm sure the aqua men will be able to give a more accurate description on why they do the things they do, if they do indeed do it.

For myself, I'm very loyal in a relationship, but again, I know what it's like to be cheated on (by an Aries). I don't think all Aries are the same, I'm sure age and environment played a big role into that.

I'm an aquarius female, dated an aquarius guy for 2 years & it ended because he cheated. We were very young then, though.

The one I dated was not romantic at all. However, he made up for it by his cute ways, ie. calling me "mistress". As in, a school teacher lol. Very strange man with strange habits, for an example, we slept in separate beds if I was spending the night at his house. We'd have sex & he'd go sleep on the other bed as soon as we were done. Come to think of it, we've never even kissed. Only hugs. Or handshakes. LMAO. Very grandfatherly acting for a guy of 22.

He was very funny, tall & handsome. Also had a mean side for absolutely no reason. Very aloof at times but I undestood him very well to not be bothered by it. They are also full of surprises, act out their usual character. Example, my ex made me a recording of love songs, directly from the radio lol because parts of it you could hear the dj gets cut off. I thought it was cute. He also begged me when I broke up with him...very unexpected since he projected an "I dont care" kind of vibe. Also they are very stingy & cheap, at least mine was lol. He gave me a packet of gum for Valentine...it had hearts on the box, though, so I guess it counted in his mind 🙂

We're pretty good if you ask me.

Posted by Aquadeer
I've dated one aqua and it was a short romance. He was good to me, brought me roses to work and we would go out with his friends. We got a long great and he told a mutual friend that he wanted to marry me. Unfortunately, I did not feel the same, I mean we were only dated for 2 weeks, but had known each other for 7 years before that. I didn't find out until later that he had another girlfriend. hahaha!

Now, I love my aqua brothers and they're not all the same, but that was pretty funny ^. I have great aqua male friends and the one's I know (except from the one I dated) are committed and loyal. I'm sure the aqua men will be able to give a more accurate description on why they do the things they do, if they do indeed do it.

For myself, I'm very loyal in a relationship, but again, I know what it's like to be cheated on (by an Aries). I don't think all Aries are the same, I'm sure age and environment played a big role into that.

Was cheated on multiple times by my aries ex hes now my childs father but it was alot i went thru so i can relate that aries men r notorious cheaters

A rollercoaster. lol!

They will give you emotional ups, downs, highs, lows, fast, slow and it's all mixed up. You never know what you're going to get.

Even the most confident, emotionally strong and independent woman can become insecure with an an aquarius man.

However, in my opinion, it is very much worth the ride. 🙂

They will come on strong in the beginning. Tell you the sweet things, be openly affectionate and often, will wine and dine you, show you a good time. Then, all of a sudden they will back up and recharge and regroup. They will detach. Aloof one minute, affectionate and sweet the next, then aloof, etc. You will feel they are inconsistent, but if you stick around, you will begin to notice there is consistency within the inconsistency.

They are not romantic and won't say the romantic, loving things you want to hear. You have to be able to read between the lines (don't ever overread or think you have them figured out. You have to be able to read the actions. The ACTIONS will speak louder than words and stand on their own. You will constantly be wondering what he's thinking, because he won't tell you.

You have to address them directly, logically, rationally and never, ever be overly emotional in your conversations with them, especially when its a serious conversation. They react to logic, not emotions. They will run from an overly emotional woman like a camper runs from a grizzly bear.

All that said, you can actually be yourself. You can present your off the wall thoughts to them and they will enjoy the conversation. You can be goofy, clutzy, dingy, sweet, funny, caring and they will like that about you. They will respect that you are you you are. The only catch, you have to respect them for being who they are.

They will give you space and allow you to be independent, yet, they will expect the same freedoms they have granted you.

If you ask them a question, you will receive an honest answer. It may not be the answer you want, so ask your questions sparingly if you don't want the truth. But you can respect the honesty.

Aquas are great boyfriends, but you have to ride the rollercoaster. You have to think outside the box before presenting your issues to them. They will discuss your issues, but present them logically.

Aquas are fun, loyal, honest, action oriented, task oriented, exciting, great in the sack, adventurous. But don't expect adventure and humor everyday. Aquas can be quiet and serious once they g

get to know you and it will be a complement that they don't have to be "on" all the time with you.

Oh, you'll get frustrated. You'll get fed up, then they will do something so extraordinary that you will forget your frustrations. Don't expect I love you from them for at least a year, maybe two. Don't rush them to open up, they will on their own time.

But, yeah, the rollercoaster is worth the ride if you are strong enough to stick with it. It's not for the faint hearted or insecure - must be strong emotionally, independent, confident, have your own life, and be willing to give them freedom.

Love my aqua!!!!

Posted by Sugarfoot
ZaleleZ pretty much nailed it for me. I'll only add that they don't see themselves as they actually are, but as the person they wish they were. There were times I repeated back to my ex something especially effed up he may have said or done and he would totally deny it. He literally had no recollection of the event occurring. It's like they have blinders on when it comes to themselves although they can perceive everyone else very accurately.

Good in bed.

Very sensitive but the most emotionally guarded of the zodiac.

Makes things harder than they have to be by not communicating problems as they arrive, preferring to pretend there is no problem.

The aqua i know does the saem thing. Does something fucked up and when i confront him, he denies it or makes excuses or justifies it.

Wtf is up with that.

Posted by truecap
get to know you and it will be a complement that they don't have to be "on" all the time with you.

Oh, you'll get frustrated. You'll get fed up, then they will do something so extraordinary that you will forget your frustrations. Don't expect I love you from them for at least a year, maybe two. Don't rush them to open up, they will on their own time.

But, yeah, the rollercoaster is worth the ride if you are strong enough to stick with it. It's not for the faint hearted or insecure - must be strong emotionally, independent, confident, have your own life, and be willing to give them freedom.

Love my aqua!!!!

Im already frustrated cause I want the ON. THe other problem is I don't understand the actions. Explain the actions part more.

Well a man's actions way overpower their words.

For instance:

A man can tell you they love you all day long.
Then, they stand you up, don't consider your feelings, don't call when they're supposed to, make promises and don't deliver, will tune you out and not listen when you're talking, they flirt with other women, they disrepect you, etc.
Their actions don't show love.


A man who loves you will be there when he's supposed to be, will care about your feelings, will listen to your problems, will fix things for you, call when he says he will, make sure you are protected by checking the locks in your house and walking you to the car at night, will be there for you when you need him, remember to invite you to his friends and family functions, won't even look at another girl much less flirt with one, you'll see love in their eyes.
They may not tell you, but the actions SHOW you how they feel about you.

I don't know if you understand what I mean by "on". I mean like a light bulb, so to speak.

I mean aquarius is "on" when they are entertaining, being outgoing, being friendly, making jokes and wisecracks, holding court for his admirers, being adventurous.

Sometimes, though, people need to chill, even aquarius. They do have a quiet, serious side. They do get down in the dumps. They get tired. If you ever get to see the serious side, you are lucky, because you're in like Flynn. They don't show that side to just anyone.

Seriously, you don't want "on" all the time. You want him to be able to relax and be his true self. You want him to feel comfortable around you.

A lot of people get frustrated when they aqua changes their persona. They don't see it as a good thing and miss the old one. You have to be able to accept the whole man, not just part of the man. If you can't accept the deep part, you don't deserve the fun part. Once he figures out you just want him when he's "on", he will walk away because he will be disappointed that you don't understand him and don't accept all of him.

He needs to feel accepted. This is big for aquas.

He will go back and forth being "on" and "off". Everyone deserves a little downtime.

If I've got this wrong, aquas, please correct me.

Posted by truecap
I don't know if you understand what I mean by "on". I mean like a light bulb, so to speak.

I mean aquarius is "on" when they are entertaining, being outgoing, being friendly, making jokes and wisecracks, holding court for his admirers, being adventurous.

Sometimes, though, people need to chill, even aquarius. They do have a quiet, serious side. They do get down in the dumps. They get tired. If you ever get to see the serious side, you are lucky, because you're in like Flynn. They don't show that side to just anyone.

Seriously, you don't want "on" all the time. You want him to be able to relax and be his true self. You want him to feel comfortable around you.

A lot of people get frustrated when they aqua changes their persona. They don't see it as a good thing and miss the old one. You have to be able to accept the whole man, not just part of the man. If you can't accept the deep part, you don't deserve the fun part. Once he figures out you just want him when he's "on", he will walk away because he will be disappointed that you don't understand him and don't accept all of him.

He needs to feel accepted. This is big for aquas.

He will go back and forth being "on" and "off". Everyone deserves a little downtime.

Mystified, based on your previous threads, I think you already lost because you didn't accept the whole man.

Sorry. 😢

Posted by true cap
If I've got this wrong, aquas, please correct me.

Truecap,

You know your Aqua's :-) I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been able to explain myself as well as you did. How long have you been with your Aqua?

Almost 2 1/2 years.

Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

Posted by truecap
I don't know if you understand what I mean by "on". I mean like a light bulb, so to speak.

I mean aquarius is "on" when they are entertaining, being outgoing, being friendly, making jokes and wisecracks, holding court for his admirers, being adventurous.

Sometimes, though, people need to chill, even aquarius. They do have a quiet, serious side. They do get down in the dumps. They get tired. If you ever get to see the serious side, you are lucky, because you're in like Flynn. They don't show that side to just anyone.

Seriously, you don't want "on" all the time. You want him to be able to relax and be his true self. You want him to feel comfortable around you.

A lot of people get frustrated when they aqua changes their persona. They don't see it as a good thing and miss the old one. You have to be able to accept the whole man, not just part of the man. If you can't accept the deep part, you don't deserve the fun part. Once he figures out you just want him when he's "on", he will walk away because he will be disappointed that you don't understand him and don't accept all of him.

He needs to feel accepted. This is big for aquas.

He will go back and forth being "on" and "off". Everyone deserves a little downtime.

OMG you just described our situation exactly. He just stopped being ON around me and has been off and on since then. I'd say 60% off and 40% on and that's what i've been frustrated with because I did exactly that. I missed the old one...i've even mentioned those exact words to him and he was like wtf ?!?!?!

Omg. Epiphany. I guess I'm in like flynn in whatever way possible.

I guess being a scorpio, human connection is important to me and i need human connection to feel like everything is alright in the world and for an aqua to be off is something i never understood.

He said once that he kinda has to be "on" (he used other words) to build rapport with people, not cuase he wants to but because he has to and its human ettiquitte.

Hmm. you just solved it all for me spiderman!

Posted by truecap
Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

Friggin genius. That's why i read your posts alot. You break things down in a way alot of people will understand.

Posted by truecap
Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

One more final question though. How do you handle his "ON" behavior. I mean you said he's on with people who aren't "In like flynn"

But the problem is when aquas are "entertaining and are "On" they come across as disclusion of those who are in like flynn to the point where people like me where human interaction is everything feels shunned.

I mean I hang around people like him or people in general to continue getting to know them. How can i get to know them when they are so busy entertaining.

Posted by true cap
Almost 2 1/2 years.

Wow, that's great. I have a capricorn placement, too. I can't remember which planet.

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Posted by truecap
I don't know if you understand what I mean by "on". I mean like a light bulb, so to speak.

I mean aquarius is "on" when they are entertaining, being outgoing, being friendly, making jokes and wisecracks, holding court for his admirers, being adventurous.

Sometimes, though, people need to chill, even aquarius. They do have a quiet, serious side. They do get down in the dumps. They get tired. If you ever get to see the serious side, you are lucky, because you're in like Flynn. They don't show that side to just anyone.

Seriously, you don't want "on" all the time. You want him to be able to relax and be his true self. You want him to feel comfortable around you.

A lot of people get frustrated when they aqua changes their persona. They don't see it as a good thing and miss the old one. You have to be able to accept the whole man, not just part of the man. If you can't accept the deep part, you don't deserve the fun part. Once he figures out you just want him when he's "on", he will walk away because he will be disappointed that you don't understand him and don't accept all of him.

He needs to feel accepted. This is big for aquas.

He will go back and forth being "on" and "off". Everyone deserves a little downtime.

OMG you just described our situation exactly. He just stopped being ON around me and has been off and on since then. I'd say 60% off and 40% on and that's what i've been frustrated with because I did exactly that. I missed the old one...i've even mentioned those exact words to him and he was like wtf ?!?!?!

Omg. Epiphany. I guess I'm in like flynn in whatever way possible.

I guess being a scorpio, human connection is important to me and i need human connection to feel like everything is alright in the world and for an aqua to be off is something i never understood.

He said once that he kinda has to be "on" (he used other words) to build rapport with people, not cuase he wants to but because he has to and its human ettiquitte.

Hmm. you just solved it all for me spiderman!

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Good. Glad I could help.

It's exhausting to be "on" ALL the time. See? He's glad he doesn't have to do that with you.

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Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

Friggin genius. That's why i read your posts alot. You break things down in a way alot of people will understand.

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Thank you.

That capricorn mercury is pretty to the point. lol!

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Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

Friggin genius. That's why i read your posts alot. You break things down in a way alot of people will understand.

Thank you.

That capricorn mercury is pretty to the point. lol!

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He doesn't have to be on with me all the time I understand but when he's off. He doesn't talk, he stays busy with his "tasks"

How the hell will i get to know him then.

Or when he's "ON" he's busy entertaining.

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Posted by truecap
Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

One more final question though. How do you handle his "ON" behavior. I mean you said he's on with people who aren't "In like flynn"

But the problem is when aquas are "entertaining and are "On" they come across as disclusion of those who are in like flynn to the point where people like me where human interaction is everything feels shunned.

I mean I hang around people like him or people in general to continue getting to know them. How can i get to know them when they are so busy entertaining.

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And you just described what I believe is misconceived as the aqua aloofness and detachment. It's that change that comes across that way.

When getting to know people, realize, when they change, perhaps they are starting to feel comfortable with you. It's all in perception. With aquas, it feels like a cold change. With cancers or gems, it feels moody. With capricorns it's a coldness. Whatever the sign, when people don't have to put on a false front with you, try to look at that change as something positive.

Of course, some people just decide they don't like you and stop being friendly, but who cares, if our perception is positive, then we feel better about ourselves. Life is all about perception. 😉

How to deal when your aqua is "on"? Well, hun, he's courting the crowd again. Just sit back and enjoy it, enjoy the qualities that attracted you to him in the first place. And then think to yourself, "I know the REAL him and they don't".

Oh, it's not fake what they do. I may be speaking out of turn here, but aquas sometimes feel like they don't fit in. When they are "on", they're just fitting in by what society has taught them is an acceptable way to do so.

Just my theory on it, anyway.

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Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

Friggin genius. That's why i read your posts alot. You break things down in a way alot of people will understand.

Thank you.

That capricorn mercury is pretty to the point. lol!

He doesn't have to be on with me all the time I understand but when he's off. He doesn't talk, he stays busy with his "tasks"

How the hell will i get to know him then.

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He will let you in a little at a time, but it will be on his terms.

I learned that from the aquas on this board. 🙂

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Posted by truecap
Plus I have some strong aqua placements; mars, for instance.

One more final question though. How do you handle his "ON" behavior. I mean you said he's on with people who aren't "In like flynn"

But the problem is when aquas are "entertaining and are "On" they come across as disclusion of those who are in like flynn to the point where people like me where human interaction is everything feels shunned.

I mean I hang around people like him or people in general to continue getting to know them. How can i get to know them when they are so busy entertaining.

And you just described what I believe is misconceived as the aqua aloofness and detachment. It's that change that comes across that way.

When getting to know people, realize, when they change, perhaps they are starting to feel comfortable with you. It's all in perception. With aquas, it feels like a cold change. With cancers or gems, it feels moody. With capricorns it's a coldness. Whatever the sign, when people don't have to put on a false front with you, try to look at that change as something positive.

Of course, some people just decide they don't like you and stop being friendly, but who cares, if our perception is positive, then we feel better about ourselves. Life is all about perception. 😉

How to deal when your aqua is "on"? Well, hun, he's courting the crowd again. Just sit back and enjoy it, enjoy the qualities that attracted you to him in the first place. And then think to yourself, "I know the REAL him and they don't".

Oh, it's not fake what they do. I may be speaking out of turn here, but aquas sometimes feel like they don't fit in. When they are "on", they're just fitting in by what society has taught them is an acceptable way to do so.

Just my theory on it, anyway.

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HAHAHA he's said the same thing...or at least that's what I think. He's said more than once that he was always shy growing up and he's not so much anymore but the one thing i know about him is he use "entertaining" with jokes and wisecracks to ease the situation but I never realized it was to ease the situaiton for himself. I have thought that about him when you say

Woop sorry this thing kept cutting parts off.

What i was saying was:

HAHAHA he's said the same thing...or at least that's what I think. He's said more than once that he was always shy growing up and he's not so much anymore but the one thing i know about him is he use "entertaining" with jokes and wisecracks to ease the situation but I never realized it was to ease the situaiton for himself. I always thought of it has him being fake exactly.

When we had that tennis thing the other day he beefed up the "entertaining" to where I felt disincluded and I thought to myself, why am I here. He practically begged me to come to just be shunned but as you put it, he wants me there cuase i'm his safety blanket or something similar thereof.

But I did sit back and let him do his thing...for different reasons. I was upset that I was being ignored and well I took a step back and pouted internally. Good thing he didn't notice and he must not have cuase instead of running away from my emotional ness he ranted to me and whined that they were teasing us for losing.

So I guess I'm in like flynn and I should be happy about that cuase its hard to be in with an aqua i suppose.

Well, no, it's not fake. That entertaining IS who they are, but it is not ALL of who they are. The public only gets to see one side. You get to see both. Hope that makes sense.

Aquas need freedom. If you go to those events, you're going to have to give him freedom to smooze his public. He's going to feel more secure with you there, but he's got to be able to move around and socialize. Aquas are very social. If this is a type of social event where he can network and make contacts for his career, realize we are all a little shy on the inside and he needs to be able to be free enough to make those contacts. He can't be tied to a date during the whole thing, but he wants a date there for moral support. Of course, this may be my capricorn side coming out on that example. lol!

He explained to you about the safety issue. He feels secure with you there. I'm glad you can understand now.

Next time you go to an event just try to socialize yourself and talk to people. He will be proud of you if all the others are impressed by you. I know it's hard. It's hard for me too. Just put on that smile and not worry about him, maybe make eye contact occasionally and meet some new people. Who knows you might make a work contact of your own.

Okay, my cap side is taking over. lol! I know that not every social event is a networking event - but it can be. 🙂

Also remember this, if he begged you to go, feel secure that he wanted you there. He did explain. You're just going to have to take it at face value.

Posted by IAmMystified
Woop sorry this thing kept cutting parts off.

What i was saying was:

HAHAHA he's said the same thing...or at least that's what I think. He's said more than once that he was always shy growing up and he's not so much anymore but the one thing i know about him is he use "entertaining" with jokes and wisecracks to ease the situation but I never realized it was to ease the situaiton for himself. I always thought of it has him being fake exactly.

When we had that tennis thing the other day he beefed up the "entertaining" to where I felt disincluded and I thought to myself, why am I here. He practically begged me to come to just be shunned but as you put it, he wants me there cuase i'm his safety blanket or something similar thereof.

But I did sit back and let him do his thing...for different reasons. I was upset that I was being ignored and well I took a step back and pouted internally. Good thing he didn't notice and he must not have cuase instead of running away from my emotional ness he ranted to me and whined that they were teasing us for losing.

So I guess I'm in like flynn and I should be happy about that cuase its hard to be in with an aqua i suppose.

Also, this ^^ is why aquas need confident, secure, independent partners who can hold their own in any social gathering.

Oh gosh, mystified, we hijacked the OP's thread.

Well, it's not too far gone, you've gotten two view points what it's like to be with an aqua. 🙂

Yeah we hijacked it but i'm sure it helps everyone.

But yeah I should be happy that i was begged to come haha!

I'll just let him roam around and do his thing. Which is also why he tends to touch base with me at the end of the night or when im leaving huh?

We aren't dating but i guess in his head I represent that sense of security.

@LilMeow

I'm glad you told that story. Although Mr Aqua and I are just friends or this void between friends and dating, I've already the mistake and was up his but for not being there for me when he's never been obligated to do so.

Although he may spend 75% of his free time with other people when were all hanging out I failed to remember all those times where I was the last person he said goodbye to before he went home or all those times he stopped me for conversation as I was saying goodbye.

Or no matter how much I've been up his ass yelling he still has a "we" mentality.

Sure he may not be traditionally way I expect but he still covers his bases.

@LilMeow

There are some days where I whine " why can't he be normal?" But aquas probably wonder why isn't everyone else normal. Thing is none of us are. People can't understand why after a certain level of scorn why can't I let go and forgive. That's something only other scorpios will understand but I don't go forcing ppl to understand it.

Aquas may never explain why they do things a certain way and they may not even know why but it's like she said, it's not just what they say but can they back it up too.

Today aquAman was quiet and I couldn't understand y he can just be near me and just not day anything. But I did kinda remembered 2 things and said:

1. They always need to focus or simply just down time to themselves.

2. They don't know what to do slot of the time

So I just approached him and coincidentally he started mumbling random shit through the day and even started talking to himself. But he's really talking to me subconsciously.

Even if none of this aqua astrology stuff was correct. Doesn't matter... Everyone needs freedom to be themselves free from expectation and worries of failure.

I have no clue what its like to date an aqua but from what I gather we superficially appear to have dementia but its really just our version of being "aloof".

We don't like slavery, any attempts of heated oppression will be met by the full brute force of pure, cold, aquarian, detachment.

We like to "chat". Haven't made up a proper word for what we do but when you get an aquarian rolling with the right reciprocator suddenly the 4th dimension seems tangible.

We are very sexual and horny people

Posted by LilMeow
I'm in the same boat, IAmMystified! My guy and I, next month it will be a year of us knowing each other. We were "official" for a while, then we broke up and we've pretty much been "titleless" since then lol I've told him that titles don't matter to me just as long as we're on the same page, you know? I mean, I don't expect us to be "whatever" forever, but right now I'm not going to push it. I'm just going to take it for what it is and enjoy still having him in my life. As strong as my romantic feelings for him are, his friendship means a lot to me and this last fight we had, I told him that I realized that my behavior up until then was not showing that.

You said the magic word: Traditional. I find that my Aqua and the Aquas mentioned on this board are not traditional lovers at all and that has taken me some time to adapt to because I'm traditional when it comes to some of the lovey dovey stuff and that's not my guy at all lol. My horoscope one day said, "Just because someone does not show they care the way you do, does not mean they do not care for you."

No, aquas are not traditional. Dating an aqua is so different than dating any other sign. Have heart, if a traditional ole cap can find bliss with an untraditional aqua, then there is hope!

Just remember:

He'll accept your quirks unconditionally and expects you to accept his.
He'll give you your space and expects you to give him space.
He'll support your goals and expects you to support his.
He'll attend events with you and expects you to attend his.
He'll be there for you and expects you to be there for him.
He won't offer unsolicited advice and expects none from you.
He will listen to your problems and allow you to vent but he will expect you to do the same for him.
Whatever he gives to you he expects you to give to him.
He won't tell you how to dress or wear your hair, he will expect you to accept his appearance.
He will forgive your dementia, but expects you to forgive his.
He won't enslave you and expects you not to enslave him.
He will offer information on a variety of topics and he will be interested in hearing yours too.
He will accept your off the wall ideas and thoughts, he expects you to accept his.

Basically, it goes both ways. So many women want it their way only and can only view the relationship from their point of view that we tend to forget there is another partner in the relationship thus another point of view as well.

My aqua says all the time, "it takes two to tango". This can be a response to great sex, a disagreement, a happy relationship, great teamwork on completing a project or just sharing a relaxing evening in front of the tube.

Aquas are amazing partners. They are not controlling, nor demanding, nor smothering. We tend to get so caught up on the negative side what they're not telling us (feelings, what's going on in their heads), that we forget what they're not telling us (what to do or how to do it, etc).

Remember these gifts aquas bring to a relationship, think of alternate points of views (there are two in a relationship, afterall), learn patience and understanding, fasten your seatbelt, enjoy the adventure of the ride and you can find happiness with an aqua.

@LilMeow

Gotta forgive yourself. I mean I r done the same thing. I've yelled at him so many times over the years wondering why isn't talking to me. I've had so many sleepless nights wondering why he was distant and why I was on the bottom of his list.

Then cap made me realize I never was on the bottom of his list. I just was easier to approach that he didn't have the stress of having to anymore. So he focused on other people. I didn't notice how at the end of the day I was usually the last person he spoke to. And btw despite the millionth argument or yelling at him, he's still there. He could have ran away anytime but he didn't.

I think it'll take a while for me to get used to the fact that 75-80% he'll run off to charm other people and not worry they'll one day impress him. Bit if they do I gotta accept they make him happy and I gotta let him go. All they ever want is acceptance and if he finds it with someone else I should be happy he finally found it.

I also gotta accept that until he figures me out, special words, actions or compliments will be rare.

But in the mean time I will occassionally show him I care so that he realizes I don't hate him like he probably thinks I do.

Posted by truecap
I don't know if you understand what I mean by "on". I mean like a light bulb, so to speak.

I mean aquarius is "on" when they are entertaining, being outgoing, being friendly, making jokes and wisecracks, holding court for his admirers, being adventurous.

Sometimes, though, people need to chill, even aquarius. They do have a quiet, serious side. They do get down in the dumps. They get tired. If you ever get to see the serious side, you are lucky, because you're in like Flynn. They don't show that side to just anyone.

Seriously, you don't want "on" all the time. You want him to be able to relax and be his true self. You want him to feel comfortable around you.

A lot of people get frustrated when they aqua changes their persona. They don't see it as a good thing and miss the old one. You have to be able to accept the whole man, not just part of the man. If you can't accept the deep part, you don't deserve the fun part. Once he figures out you just want him when he's "on", he will walk away because he will be disappointed that you don't understand him and don't accept all of him.

He needs to feel accepted. This is big for aquas.

He will go back and forth being "on" and "off". Everyone deserves a little downtime.

This is so true.

I am constantly on... I don't to want burden others with my issues. I would rather put a smile on their faces. When I feel real low, I don't go out or take phone calls.

When you're really low, are there certain people you will talk to and let know what's going on? Do they have to seek you out first or do you go to them? How do you climb out of the lows?

For me, there are maybe three people in this world I will let in and confide in when I'm in the capricorn dark zone, depressive mode, whatever you want to call it. But, I will waller in it alone for a few days first while I analyze what triggered it. I only confide when I can't climb out of it or figure out the trigger.

I know aquas are different than us stoic old goats, but just curious how aquas handle the lows.

Posted by truecap
When you're really low, are there certain people you will talk to and let know what's going on? Do they have to seek you out first or do you go to them? How do you climb out of the lows?

For me, there are maybe three people in this world I will let in and confide in when I'm in the capricorn dark zone, depressive mode, whatever you want to call it. But, I will waller in it alone for a few days first while I analyze what triggered it. I only confide when I can't climb out of it or figure out the trigger.

I know aquas are different than us stoic old goats, but just curious how aquas handle the lows.

The weird thing abotu aqua i don't understand to is sometimes he'll make indirect complaint remarks about people he knows to strangers as part of their discussion. I over hear it and im thinking...okkaaaaaaaaaaaaay that's awkward.

Not that the stranger notices cause he's being jokey about it but its weird to gripe about other people to strangers.

To be honest truecap, I would rather deal with it alone. There are a few key people I confide in, after the fact though. While I am going through it, I would rather not involve anyone. I'm afraid to be perceived as weak or worse yet, burden you. Good friends know when it's time for a get together... It's almost instinctive.

I've had some incredible lows in my life but experience has taught me to look ahead, it will pass. I believe it. My closest friends do tell me I'm too hard on myself.

My Capricorn girlfriend gets in way darker places than me. I feel there's nothing I can do to help her when she's like that, well maybe my sense of humor helps!

Life is filled with ups and downs. I have come to accept this without trying to constantly adjust.

Thanks for explaining. I don't like to be perceived as weak or burden anyone either. It's a treasure to have good friends that can read when you need to get together.

Your cap friend will definitely appreciate your sense of humor when she gets like that. Not much you can do but just be there and offer some lightness to her world. That helps a lot. 🙂

Anytime truecap.

🙂

Aqua men. Are just as emotional if not more emotional than any sign they just hide their bullshit in stalkerish ways. I'm not surprised if my aqua is reading this post right now thru some time of spy cam which is why you can't get anything over on then and they stay on step ahead. ...they stalk and follow you so of course they are a head of you . . I love that man. 🙂

Lilmeow he loves hearing that you love him. He gets a kick out of it. But stop saying it and talking to people about him. Because the more you keep saying it the more time he will think he has to keep playing around .m

Posted by Blackvirgo
Lilmeow he loves hearing that you love him. He gets a kick out of it. But stop saying it and talking to people about him. Because the more you keep saying it the more time he will think he has to keep playing around .m

Do you mean that the more they hear it, the more they will drag their feet or the lazier they will become in the relationship?