Aquarius the most difficult sign to be in a relationship with

I say this because I've never been in a relationship where I had to prove myself constantly and any small thing I say gets blown out of proportion. Also being in a relationship with Aquarius means also not being in a relationship with them because one day they're all full of emotion and the next they treat you like a stranger.

It's a challenge to be in a relationship with one and most of the time you will lose because they always try to find faults in everything. Once they win you over then they get bored and look elsewhere while still telling you now and then that they love you. They put in no effort whatsoever and expect you to pull your weight while they disappear or need breaks. Imagine the inconsistency and uncertainty in a relationship with them... It's just weird to me that is how they love someone.

your cat profile is cute!!! that cat is sooo cute.



and naw....I do notice the differences of decan aquarius's....

at least my mother who is starting to get into a bit of astrology cause she's more open to it than my sisters,

said that she has noticed the January, February types. She said the February types are quicker, like more smarter quick-witted....and I told her....that's Gemini DECAN!!

and the later ones, are Neptuney decan types. I think that's libra decan.



the one you describe sounds fickle, like they have some strong mercurial Gemini influence. and some water. emotional and then treat you like a stanger.



aren't you an aquarius riser??

that's your chart ruler and I know aquarius rising peeps in my family. I don't have any aqua sun family members, none.....mostly Capricorn, virgo, Taurus ect.

but we hardly have any Gemini and aquarius suns, but aquarius rising...YEP.

mostly water and earth peeps.



and your description sounds kind of lacking detail.

give us examples and detailed version of the sign/background of the aquarius peeps you were with.

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your cat profile is cute!!! that cat is sooo cute.



and naw....I do notice the differences of decan aquarius's....

at least my mother who is starting to get into a bit of astrology cause she's more open to it than my sisters,

said that she has noticed the January, February types. She said the February types are quicker, like more smarter quick-witted....and I told her....that's Gemini DECAN!!

and the later ones, are Neptuney decan types. I think that's libra decan.



the one you describe sounds fickle, like they have some strong mercurial Gemini influence. and some water. emotional and then treat you like a stanger.



aren't you an aquarius riser??

that's your chart ruler and I know aquarius rising peeps in my family. I don't have any aqua sun family members, none.....mostly Capricorn, virgo, Taurus ect.

but we hardly have any Gemini and aquarius suns, but aquarius rising...YEP.

mostly water and earth peeps.



and your description sounds kind of lacking detail.

give us examples and detailed version of the sign/background of the aquarius peeps you were with.

Thank you ? the cat is cute haha.



The Aquarius I know has an ascendent sigh of Taurus. I forgot his moon sign but yeah.



I'm Leo sun sign, moon in Virgo and ascendent is Aquarius. But honestly I don't understand how Aquarians can love others like they mean absolutely nothing to them.

I don't get the inconsistency and uncertainty that goes in being in a relationship with them. It's almost like they cannot make up there minds and leave you hanging to figure it out on your own. He also told me he loves me yet I see him following other girls from his area and liking their photos. It seems he treats me like I am nothing to him while giving the love to others.

For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

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I know. This is the most difficult part. But for them, true feelings develop in time and based on the response of the other one, because they need to make 1000% sure you are what they need. They are an air sign after all. The definition of detached, logic and mindful thinking. Not good for a Leo. But you got a glimpse of what an Aquarius in love can be, because they are the way they act in the initial courting initial phase. Imagine a lifelong time with someone like that 🙂

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

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You need to talk. If he already told you he loves you, you shouldn't doubt it. What is it that makes you insecure? Aquas tend to be lovely to everybody, but aloof towards the people they love the most.. We're paradox and illogical at times and we know it.

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

You need to talk. If he already told you he loves you, you shouldn't doubt it. What is it that makes you insecure? Aquas tend to be lovely to everybody, but aloof towards the people they love the most.. We're paradox and illogical at times and we know it.

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hm my husband doesn't complain. I have been loved before by other men in the past and my husband loves me a lot; he doesn't think i'm aloof to him, he knows how to get to me and make me warm and lovely.

I think everyone is lovely to everyone because if you're mean to people and bitter, then that's not good either you know?

but if they are mean to you first, you just go what the fuck?? ok...*shoves arm sleeves up* let's find out whats going on here!!

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

You need to talk. If he already told you he loves you, you shouldn't doubt it. What is it that makes you insecure? Aquas tend to be lovely to everybody, but aloof towards the people they love the most.. We're paradox and illogical at times and we know it.

hm my husband doesn't complain. I have been loved before by other men in the past and my husband loves me a lot; he doesn't think i'm aloof to him, he knows how to get to me and make me warm and lovely.

I think everyone is lovely to everyone because if you're mean to people and bitter, then that's not good either you know?

but if they are mean to you first, you just go what the fuck?? ok...*shoves arm sleeves up* let's find out whats going on here!!

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That's cute! LOL.. I know what you mean, I was talking about the initial stage, comparing to the Aquarian humanitarian traits. Every Aqua male in a relationship I know is really sweet and dedicated, but it takes time to persuade them.. I'm sure we can agree on that. 😉

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

You need to talk. If he already told you he loves you, you shouldn't doubt it. What is it that makes you insecure? Aquas tend to be lovely to everybody, but aloof towards the people they love the most.. We're paradox and illogical at times and we know it.

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Well when we do talk he constantly changes his mind about us. One week he loves me and the next I'm left to wonder whether this is going anywhere. Actions do prove though where his mind is at and most of the time it's following new women who live around his hometown. So ofcourse it leaves me wondering where do I stand?

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

You need to talk. If he already told you he loves you, you shouldn't doubt it. What is it that makes you insecure? Aquas tend to be lovely to everybody, but aloof towards the people they love the most.. We're paradox and illogical at times and we know it.

hm my husband doesn't complain. I have been loved before by other men in the past and my husband loves me a lot; he doesn't think i'm aloof to him, he knows how to get to me and make me warm and lovely.

I think everyone is lovely to everyone because if you're mean to people and bitter, then that's not good either you know?

but if they are mean to you first, you just go what the fuck?? ok...*shoves arm sleeves up* let's find out whats going on here!!

That's cute! LOL.. I know what you mean, I was talking about the initial stage, comparing to the Aquarian humanitarian traits. Every Aqua male in a relationship I know is really sweet and dedicated, but it takes time to persuade them.. I'm sure we can agree on that. 😉

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Time.. hmm how much time? Years probably or after they had their fun of distractions ?

You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

I would definitely mark a difference - Aquas - the most difficult sign to date - vs the sweetest sign to have a relationship with 🙂

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

How can she trust him if he likes all the girls photos and following girls around town lol.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

How can she trust him if he likes all the girls photos and following girls around town lol.

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Life is beyond virtual likes. I had the PC of my crush at my disposal a couple of times This is trust! Yes, he likes good looks! Yes, he likes a good conversation! But I have never doubted him!

(Also rocking a Virgo Moon). Well really when an Aqua loves you, you won't doubt it. They love deeply. Having witnessed Aquas in love, there is no doubt of their intentions. Yes they can be detached, but even still when they are really in love, their disappearing acts don't last as long. They'll still need freedom to be themselves, but not so much that you'll doubt them.

Generally what I've found is that when an Aqua "loves" someone but is gone more often than not, they aren't truly in love. Remember Aqua is the Leo's opposite, meaning we share similar quirks. We Leos can exhibit the same behavior. We can "love" someone but not be in love with them.

Another thing I noticed when Aquas are in love. They'll say something along the lines of, "Hey let me know if something I do/say upsets you." Maybe the Aquas I know are more self aware, but it always seems like they'll make some effort to soften their detached nature for their partner. All Aquas know they are unconventional. Many of them grew up on the fringes of popularity or as outcasts.

One thing to note is if the Aqua's actions are upsetting you, just let him know that calmly.Sometimes all it takes for an Aqua to change his/her behavior is a logical statement that your feelings are hurt.

True. If they are not ready yet to pour their feelings into you, they at least will try to soften it up. And some of the sweetest moments were born this way. Because they become meaningful, if the two of you are on the same wavelength.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

Leo's are very loyal but at the same time not knowing where I stand makes me feel uneasy and anxious. I don't mind him having female friends at all but when he focuses on other females and liking and oogling at their pictures rather than actually making an effort to tell me where I stand is rather condescending.

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I'm Leo Sun, Virgo Moon Virgo Asc. and the relationship I had with my Aqua ex was nothing like you described. There wasn't anything all that difficult about our relationship.

We both had an understanding and were loyal to each other. There were no games, so having plenty of freedom to do our own thing was not an issue. The inconsistencies didn't start until we were towards the end of our relationship.

We started off together and became long distance and financially were unable to close the gap. I never had to prove anything to him, we were just open and honest with each other. At the most we would bicker like an old married couple about the most ridiculous things, but it was never seriously. We Just didn't argue (we discussed any problems).

I wouldn't peg them as most difficult personally. All you have to do is be stimulating, don't play games and understand their need for freedom.

I'm a Leo with Aquarius rising so I definitely understand the need for freedom and space but at the same time I wouldn't mind knowing exactly where I stand with him. He gets into these moods sometimes and apologizes a bit later but he can be very cold towards me.



I've told him many times if he doesn't want to be with me he should just say so but he refuses to do so. Believe me when I say I've seen the worst side of him, many times he's insulted me when we argue. I never truly feel relaxed in this relationship or whatever it is you want to call it... I always feel like anxious and confused as to who I am to him and where this is going because he could easily wake up one day and be gone from my life.

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(Also rocking a Virgo Moon). Well really when an Aqua loves you, you won't doubt it. They love deeply. Having witnessed Aquas in love, there is no doubt of their intentions. Yes they can be detached, but even still when they are really in love, their disappearing acts don't last as long. They'll still need freedom to be themselves, but not so much that you'll doubt them.

Generally what I've found is that when an Aqua "loves" someone but is gone more often than not, they aren't truly in love. Remember Aqua is the Leo's opposite, meaning we share similar quirks. We Leos can exhibit the same behavior. We can "love" someone but not be in love with them.

Another thing I noticed when Aquas are in love. They'll say something along the lines of, "Hey let me know if something I do/say upsets you." Maybe the Aquas I know are more self aware, but it always seems like they'll make some effort to soften their detached nature for their partner. All Aquas know they are unconventional. Many of them grew up on the fringes of popularity or as outcasts.

One thing to note is if the Aqua's actions are upsetting you, just let him know that calmly.Sometimes all it takes for an Aqua to change his/her behavior is a logical statement that your feelings are hurt.

The thing is I've actually let him know many times about what upsets me and he still continues to do it and even go and follow new women. It's like he forgets or just doesn't care.

He is not going to tell you where he stands, if he is not prepared. We never insulted each other, though, even though I rocked the boat on occasions. It is toxic for you. I recommend you move on.

Well I'm not sure about that because my friend is an Aquarius and she's been with her boyfriend for 5 years. They're happy together, she spends equal time with her friends and him. In fact, she adds him into her groups of friends.

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

No. They don't play games. They are not expecting to be understood either. What is in their minds it is unique. The emotions never flip. They are there, boiling inside like within a kettle. Question is.. would they raise the lid for you and release the steam?

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

How can she trust him if he likes all the girls photos and following girls around town lol.

Life is beyond virtual likes. I had the PC of my crush at my disposal a couple of times This is trust! Yes, he likes good looks! Yes, he likes a good conversation! But I have never doubted him!

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but this man follow girls around places. thats different

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

IMAO like the Mask movie? lol

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

It is very weird and I simply dont understand it at all. Like today I asked him where do we stand and he's like "I don't know" and then he's like we should just forget it all and tag each other in memes forever ... wtf

He just told he that he doesnt know what his mind is and ended it with lol ?

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

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I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

IMAO like the Mask movie? lol

Dunno.. I think of it as like the light switch in a room

You can actually see it in their eyes when the switch goes off

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Omg the switch thing is soooo true !! Their eyes as well... it's pretty funny...! Detached and cold all of the sudden

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

It is very weird and I simply dont understand it at all. Like today I asked him where do we stand and he's like "I don't know" and then he's like we should just forget it all and tag each other in memes forever ... wtf

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Do you have a lot of water in ur chart?

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He just told he that he doesnt know what his mind is and ended it with lol ?

Something I wud always do ... Aqua placements r super confusing ...* lol *

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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Wait what do you mean by following girls! ? Is it just liking their fb posts? I thought he physically stalk then

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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I wouldn't blame someone for not being sure, but he's being unclear.

We don't know if following girls or giving them likes say that much, but whether he wants you or not, you don't feel appreciated and he doesn't give you stability, and that's what matters. Maybe he "loves" you but his way of loving doesn't match with yours.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

Wait what do you mean by following girls! ? Is it just liking their fb posts? I thought he physically stalk then

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Oh I mean following girls on Instagram that are from his hometown. Liking their pictures and even pictures of them sitting in the sauna

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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I wouldn't blame someone for not being sure, but he's being unclear.

We don't know if following girls or giving them likes say that much, but whether he wants you or not, you don't feel appreciated and he doesn't give you stability, and that's what matters. Maybe he "loves" you but his way of loving doesn't match with yours.

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Showing me he doesn't love me isn't love to me, it's like everything is the complete opposite to him it's as if love means hate... small means big kind o thing! It's very frustrating and I don't have the will to be on my toes every five seconds because of his indecisiveness. It's draining because I give so much and get nothing in return but a bunch of words thrown at me. I don't get why can't he just give me a decision and make up his mind.

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Most Aquas love you until the emotion switch flips. Then they don't feel anything for you at all and they look at you and you know that you're hardly anything more than a stranger. They are struggling to remember who you are. They'll simply remember (or not) to be around you, do things for you etc. they can mask their complete lack of emotion rather well.

Then the switch flips again and they love you again. And it flips again and again and again forever. And even when they are in feeling mode, they almost completely lack passion. It's weird.

It is very weird and I simply dont understand it at all. Like today I asked him where do we stand and he's like "I don't know" and then he's like we should just forget it all and tag each other in memes forever ... wtf

Do you have a lot of water in ur chart?

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I'm Leo sun, Virgo moon and Aquarius rising

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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I wouldn't blame someone for not being sure, but he's being unclear.

We don't know if following girls or giving them likes say that much, but whether he wants you or not, you don't feel appreciated and he doesn't give you stability, and that's what matters. Maybe he "loves" you but his way of loving doesn't match with yours.

Showing me he doesn't love me isn't love to me, it's like everything is the complete opposite to him it's as if love means hate... small means big kind o thing! It's very frustrating and I don't have the will to be on my toes every five seconds because of his indecisiveness. It's draining because I give so much and get nothing in return but a bunch of words thrown at me. I don't get why can't he just give me a decision and make up his mind.

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Yeah, I meant that we're not in his head to know exactly what he feels. He seems selfish. I know that feeling, I hold on and stand a lot of things and is when I'm fed up when I make a final decision.

You are a Lioness, maybe is time to make up your mind and decide yourself.

Think about it.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

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Just like I said. I am not excusing anyone, because I value exactly the same said things. If someone is not comfortable with all these, they should find someone that is more suitable to them. Love has many languages and expectations are so many, that compatibility becomes a simple lottery. Nobody changes, and yet, people come here to ask why Aquas are like this. They shouldn't feel this need. I don't ask. I wonder why.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

Just like I said. I am not excusing anyone, because I value exactly the same said things. If someone is not comfortable with all these, they should find someone that is more suitable to them. Love has many languages and expectations are so many, that compatibility becomes a simple lottery. Nobody changes, and yet, people come here to ask why Aquas are like this. They shouldn't feel this need. I don't ask. I wonder why.

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Fully agree.

but I do believe in change.

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You don't trust him. He need you to trust him. He needs to feel free, uncontrolled, he needs to choose you because you will not be controlling. He needs his liberty. He needs to feel safe with you and not caged down. If you cannot provide that, he flees.

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I feel you're excusing unacceptable behaviours and linking them to Aquarius; trust is given and earned. One thing is to have freedom and another is to risk a relationship by doing dumb things and making it unstable, if someone is not ready or doesn't know his feelings he should be clear.

You always talk about what should a partner do for her aqua, but you seem like you can't expect or demand nothing of them but their "love". A relationship requires work, communication and honesty. If he cannot provide that, we flee.

To the OP, if you don't and can't trust him is better to be clear.

I agree. It's the little things that add up especially since I don't know where I stand with him and he won't give me a definite answer. I mean anyone can say sweet words but at the end of the day what does that say when he's following girls from his hometown and giving them a like on their photos. This one girl posted a photo of herself in her bikini sitting in a jacuzzi and I saw he liked it. Obviously his mind isn't on me or the relationship. Seems the attraction for other women are more interesting than his so called deep love for me.

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I wouldn't blame someone for not being sure, but he's being unclear.

We don't know if following girls or giving them likes say that much, but whether he wants you or not, you don't feel appreciated and he doesn't give you stability, and that's what matters. Maybe he "loves" you but his way of loving doesn't match with yours.

Showing me he doesn't love me isn't love to me, it's like everything is the complete opposite to him it's as if love means hate... small means big kind o thing! It's very frustrating and I don't have the will to be on my toes every five seconds because of his indecisiveness. It's draining because I give so much and get nothing in return but a bunch of words thrown at me. I don't get why can't he just give me a decision and make up his mind.

What about your decision? Can't you make one by yourself?

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I do love him but I want to know where I stand

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I say this because I've never been in a relationship where I had to prove myself constantly and any small thing I say gets blown out of proportion. Also being in a relationship with Aquarius means also not being in a relationship with them because one day they're all full of emotion and the next they treat you like a stranger.

It's a challenge to be in a relationship with one and most of the time you will lose because they always try to find faults in everything. Once they win you over then they get bored and look elsewhere while still telling you now and then that they love you. They put in no effort whatsoever and expect you to pull your weight while they disappear or need breaks. Imagine the inconsistency and uncertainty in a relationship with them... It's just weird to me that is how they love someone.

I hate to say it but you're absolutely right well atleast when it comes to me. I want love but afraid of receiving it so I question everything and eventually sabotage the relationships.

Aquarians are too busy being in love with the universe and all of mankind to focus on a relationship with one person. That's basically how it is with humanitarians.

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Aquarians are too busy being in love with the universe and all of mankind to focus on a relationship with one person. That's basically how it is with humanitarians.

dammit I missed the boat. lol

i'm homebody and with my man.

I do know a lot of aqua venus in my family's side and in my husband's side of the family who are humanitarians and out there helping the world. that's my Pisces sun uncle with aqua venus and my Cappy mother in law with aqua venus.

even my side of the family with my pisces sun aunty with aqua venus.

different sun signs but aqua in their charts.

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For Aquarius, love is not the same as it means to us, the other signs. Love is so universal to them, that it cannot be distinguished between loving people in general and loving an individual. To love an individual though, they can certainly do it, but only after a very long period of trying to figure out between various shades of love. But when they do love the individual, it's for an indefinite term and it's so deep that can consume them if they choose the wrong person. It's a very long way until reaching this point and many prospective partners usually give up a long time before that. And Leos usually burn fast.

I'm a Leo but at the same time you cannot wait an eternity for an Aquarius to make up his mind whether or not he wants to be with you for the long run. If they feel loving someone deeply is too much then why get involved in the first place? Why make someone fall so hard for them and then they turn around and leave them hanging with the "I love you to death" and so on?

Not knowing where I stand doesn't sit well with me. I feel like I'm just one of many options although he told me he loves me. It's not a nice feeling to be thought of last.

i've said this before to you and i will say it again. leave him and never turn back.

you are trying to pin him to your ideals and you are being stubborn about it.

you're only seeing your side and justifying it because its what YOU feel.

what about his feelings?

he could be thinking that you are desperate and pushy and Aquarius hate that.

if you are so quick to fall in love, then you could be just as quick to fall out of love.

and aquarius dread investing emotionally into someone whose going to walk away

easily.

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I'm not the one who walked away in the first place! He was! Then he came to me telling me he didn't give up on us all the while acting like he did. I've never been in a relationship where I constantly had to prove myself.

It's easy to feel jealous when you don't know where you stand with an Aquarius guy who simply cannot make up his mind while obviously keeping his options open. TBH I wouldn't care about other women if he told me that he wants this to work and that we are in a solid relationship. I've also given him no reason that I will just up and leave like the way he has done with me.

It seems like it's all about him and his feelings too, hence why I'm on here questioning about how an Aquarius mind works. I get no clear answers from him when I could be with someone who is certain they want me in their life. Nobody has time to play mind games, I'm also a humanitarian at heart but actually being a humanitarian means having heart for the world as much as your loved ones.

I agree with above.

I don't like to be away from my man. I need physical presence daily. I would never be able to marry an astronaut or traveling salesman.

I will just be very lonely and feel like i'm not in a relationship.

I need to feel him around me all the time, he must be by my side. even if we're in the same house working or studying or hobbying...he cannot be in a different room or upstairs. or outside in the garage kind of thing. no way.

I want him NEXT to me or close to me in the SAME room every fucking day.

it sounds clingy as hell but in my life I have noticed with my man.....and compared to my ex's...

this is the happiest and most REWARDING of my life ever. my man has shown me the true meaning of closeness and love and the deepest love ever. to be together...togetherness in the way that is soooooo beautiful.

other peeps may like that far away shit but no fucking way. it feels too much like being single.

what the hell is going on with the italics? lol

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anyway....



yeahhhhhh clingy as hell i could never be happy with a man who works far away.

i cried when the last time my man said he had to go far away to another country just for a couple days.

i know some people will go...you crazy!!!! he has to work, do something with yourself.

i'd tell them to stfu...cause i want what i want!!! it's not your relationship. it's mine motherfucker!! get lost!! lol

well no one has said that so good thing.lol

the italics thing is...weird.

edit --- ok i'm just kidding. i'm not that crazy!!! i can't control what my man does for his work and he has to be pulled away.haha.

oh btw.... it's the truth above though. i did tell my man i hated it and cried.

it's not made up story..it's the truth...but i think it's CRAZY i would be so intensely crazy like that.

but....after telling him, he never took anything far away. he tried to give it to other people...



hey the person who posted before me...the italics thing...

you did this!! lol

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Posted by Chuckcem
(Also rocking a Virgo Moon). Well really when an Aqua loves you, you won't doubt it. They love deeply. Having witnessed Aquas in love, there is no doubt of their intentions. Yes they can be detached, but even still when they are really in love, their disappearing acts don't last as long. They'll still need freedom to be themselves, but not so much that you'll doubt them.

Generally what I've found is that when an Aqua "loves" someone but is gone more often than not, they aren't truly in love. Remember Aqua is the Leo's opposite, meaning we share similar quirks. We Leos can exhibit the same behavior. We can "love" someone but not be in love with them.

Another thing I noticed when Aquas are in love. They'll say something along the lines of, "Hey let me know if something I do/say upsets you." Maybe the Aquas I know are more self aware, but it always seems like they'll make some effort to soften their detached nature for their partner. All Aquas know they are unconventional. Many of them grew up on the fringes of popularity or as outcasts.

One thing to note is if the Aqua's actions are upsetting you, just let him know that calmly.Sometimes all it takes for an Aqua to change his/her behavior is a logical statement that your feelings are hurt.

The thing is I've actually let him know many times about what upsets me and he still continues to do it and even go and follow new women. It's like he forgets or just doesn't care.

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Well in situations where ANY guy is disregarding your feelings, it's time to consider other options.

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lisa sounds very similar to my aqua.



easiest person i've ever been with. she actually gets my humor. doesn't take anything personal.

DJ!! fix the italics 😄