Cupidsbow
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Are Aquarians typically cheaters? Help!
He's married, and I'm just his friend! But his behavior is so NOT married acting, it's thrown me for a loop.
Then we all go to this girl's apt after, it's 2am, and they have this idea to play truth or dare. I'm like whatever ok I haven't played that since hs so why not. The other girls are all Russian too and they've been saying stuff in Russian to him... and he's saying let's make it dirty I wanna see some boobs etc. and these other girls repeatedly joking at him like "you're married haha"... and I'm so confused. Why do they know he's married, but he's never told me? And if they know he's married why are they saying it so jokingly but still flirting with him and stuff? Also at one point I forgot to mentioned he told me he loves my hair and just wants to touch it all the time and he ran his hands through my hair like feeling it and stuff.
What he heck! Is he: married, and incredibly forward cheater? In an open marriage? Separated? Not interested and I'm just thinking he is? I'm just amazed that someone could act so not like a married man. And he still has never mentioned the wife in front of me, ever.
Then we all go to this girl's apt after, it's 2am, and they have this idea to play truth or dare. I'm like whatever ok I haven't played that since hs so why not. The other girls are all Russian too and they've been saying stuff in Russian to him... and he's saying let's make it dirty I wanna see some boobs etc. and these other girls repeatedly joking at him like "you're married haha"... and I'm so confused. Why do they know he's married, but he's never told me? And if they know he's married why are they saying it so jokingly but still flirting with him and stuff? Also at one point I forgot to mentioned he told me he loves my hair and just wants to touch it all the time and he ran his hands through my hair like feeling it and stuff.
What he heck! Is he: married, and incredibly forward cheater? In an open marriage? Separated? Not interested and I'm just thinking he is? I'm just amazed that someone could act so not like a married man. And he still has never mentioned the wife in front of me, ever.
What are you so afraid of that you won't just get your own clarity & ask him?
You have been analyzing this into a tizzy when all you had to do was personally ask the man if he was married lol
It's not that you don't know b/c he's a liar. You don't know b/c you haven't asked! Every man (faithful or not) doesn't announce that he's married unless the convo calls for it. And when a woman he's been flirting with finds out that he's married, it's up to HER to use her street smarts & back off instead of standing in shock at the aspect of a married being inappropriate with other women. YES it happens. Happens every day. Sucks for their wives, but it is what it is.
If it said that he was married then yes he's married. It doesn't say "Divorced" so how often they post pictures together doesn't matter. And all married couples don't wear rings. Wth, even if they are separated or having problems, why aren't you running for the hills, girl?!
Whether or not he's a cheating married man is actually irrelevant. There's no need to try analyzing him, what his marriage must be like & why he's the way he is. You'll never get to the bottom of it...especially not if your only source is Instagram. Don't turn into a psychologist lol
Your intuition & instincts already told you the answer to your questions, so believe what you saw & take it from there. Don't try to run back & distort the facts in your head b/c you don't wanna ruin the momentum you had going with this guy before you knew he had a woman lol
Ask him & then let us know what he says.
You have been analyzing this into a tizzy when all you had to do was personally ask the man if he was married lol
It's not that you don't know b/c he's a liar. You don't know b/c you haven't asked! Every man (faithful or not) doesn't announce that he's married unless the convo calls for it. And when a woman he's been flirting with finds out that he's married, it's up to HER to use her street smarts & back off instead of standing in shock at the aspect of a married being inappropriate with other women. YES it happens. Happens every day. Sucks for their wives, but it is what it is.
If it said that he was married then yes he's married. It doesn't say "Divorced" so how often they post pictures together doesn't matter. And all married couples don't wear rings. Wth, even if they are separated or having problems, why aren't you running for the hills, girl?!
Whether or not he's a cheating married man is actually irrelevant. There's no need to try analyzing him, what his marriage must be like & why he's the way he is. You'll never get to the bottom of it...especially not if your only source is Instagram. Don't turn into a psychologist lol
Your intuition & instincts already told you the answer to your questions, so believe what you saw & take it from there. Don't try to run back & distort the facts in your head b/c you don't wanna ruin the momentum you had going with this guy before you knew he had a woman lol
Ask him & then let us know what he says.
He's def. trying to have sex with you or at least seeing how long it'll be before you do your homework on him.
Name 1 guy who's ever said, "Hey, although I really wanna bang you, let me announce & remind you that I'm married."....— Don't worry, I'll wait lol
Some men are very honest & up front about their relationship status AND their intentions with other women. But this guy isn't 1 of those guys lol
The question isn't "Why wouldn't he tell me?"
The question is, "Why in the hell should he?!"
He's trying to sleep with you girl! That's why he hasn't told you! lol
Again, don't worry about why he's 1 of those types of sneaky guys. Cheaters & flirts come in all forms, including married. The psychology behind it is complicated & isn't worth you spending precious time trying to figure out, especially considering he's not even yours.
Keep us updated on what he says when you ask him!
Name 1 guy who's ever said, "Hey, although I really wanna bang you, let me announce & remind you that I'm married."....— Don't worry, I'll wait lol
Some men are very honest & up front about their relationship status AND their intentions with other women. But this guy isn't 1 of those guys lol
The question isn't "Why wouldn't he tell me?"
The question is, "Why in the hell should he?!"
He's trying to sleep with you girl! That's why he hasn't told you! lol
Again, don't worry about why he's 1 of those types of sneaky guys. Cheaters & flirts come in all forms, including married. The psychology behind it is complicated & isn't worth you spending precious time trying to figure out, especially considering he's not even yours.
Keep us updated on what he says when you ask him!
Okay I totally forgot one important detail haha. We're working on a script together and I've been treating him like a business colleague in that regard. I've learned way too many times don't shit where you eat and it's hard not to get close to someone when you're writing together. But I DO have a crush on him and I'm ashamed to admit I like the ego boost I get from him flirting with me, and I feel as though as long as I'm not reciprocating or letting anything physical happen between us, I'm doing nothing wrong.
So, to answer your question of why I haven't just asked him, I don't want to come off as interested in him romantically by asking a question like that. If I'm like "so are you dating, married?" hes gonna think I'm into him and that could be awkward if he shuts me down because he's married and then i look like this silly girl who was pining for him and now we're working together and it's awkward. Basically I feel like I should just ignore it altogether and just not reciprocate and if that drives him nuts since I'm essentially playing hard to get, all the more entertaining for me. I may have a crush on him and enjoy the flirtation but I would NEVER hook up with someone that I wasn't 100% sure wasn't married. I draw the line there. On and off with a g/f, maybe. But married, no thanks.. I don't need that bad karma.
So, to answer your question of why I haven't just asked him, I don't want to come off as interested in him romantically by asking a question like that. If I'm like "so are you dating, married?" hes gonna think I'm into him and that could be awkward if he shuts me down because he's married and then i look like this silly girl who was pining for him and now we're working together and it's awkward. Basically I feel like I should just ignore it altogether and just not reciprocate and if that drives him nuts since I'm essentially playing hard to get, all the more entertaining for me. I may have a crush on him and enjoy the flirtation but I would NEVER hook up with someone that I wasn't 100% sure wasn't married. I draw the line there. On and off with a g/f, maybe. But married, no thanks.. I don't need that bad karma.
Any idea about his DOB?
Feb 8, 1988. In Russia somewhere.. that's all I know
More and more February Aquas being this way.. mysterious. I love them. 🙂
Girl all of those fears are in your head lol
If you're his friend on Instagram then playfully slap him on the shoulder & casually mention that you didn't know he was married. His relationship status on Instagram was a question he chose to answer for the whole world to see, so it's not like his marital status is something no one can see. It's not like he could call you a creep for noticing what he wanted everyone online to know/see. Adding your relationship status is not required, it's optional.
As you've said yourself, out of everybody else, you seem to be the only 1 who's afraid to ask a simple & understandable question. Those other folks you spoke of know b/c they asked lol
Trust me, he knows that he's flirting with you & he's still doing it b/c he gets the vibe from you that you enjoy it. He knows exactly what he's doing. It's completely rational for a girl to wonder if the guy who keeps flirting with her is married! lol I mean that's something any woman oughta know, especially if she gets to a point where she wants to innocently reciprocate the flirting & know she's doing it w/o stepping in another woman's territory.
Just ask him!! Unapologetically ask him. Casually ask him. It's impossible for him to think negative of you if you mention it casually & tell him that you saw it on Instagram & was surprised. If he asks why you're surprised, say b/c he's not wearing a wedding ring. Girl those are very valid statements & assumptions, so get out of your head & stop convincing yourself that asking him would reflect anything negative on you from him.
You care a little too much about his opinion. If you wanna know b/c there's a lot riding on his answer, then have confidence, be yourself & ask him lol Sheeesh
There's nothing wrong with getting an ego boost when someone you're attracted to is flirting with you. Men, taken or not, easily enjoy compliments from other women. As long as they don't reciprocate or feed into something that will lead to something inappropriate, there's nothing wrong with enjoying the ego boost.
=)
If you're his friend on Instagram then playfully slap him on the shoulder & casually mention that you didn't know he was married. His relationship status on Instagram was a question he chose to answer for the whole world to see, so it's not like his marital status is something no one can see. It's not like he could call you a creep for noticing what he wanted everyone online to know/see. Adding your relationship status is not required, it's optional.
As you've said yourself, out of everybody else, you seem to be the only 1 who's afraid to ask a simple & understandable question. Those other folks you spoke of know b/c they asked lol
Trust me, he knows that he's flirting with you & he's still doing it b/c he gets the vibe from you that you enjoy it. He knows exactly what he's doing. It's completely rational for a girl to wonder if the guy who keeps flirting with her is married! lol I mean that's something any woman oughta know, especially if she gets to a point where she wants to innocently reciprocate the flirting & know she's doing it w/o stepping in another woman's territory.
Just ask him!! Unapologetically ask him. Casually ask him. It's impossible for him to think negative of you if you mention it casually & tell him that you saw it on Instagram & was surprised. If he asks why you're surprised, say b/c he's not wearing a wedding ring. Girl those are very valid statements & assumptions, so get out of your head & stop convincing yourself that asking him would reflect anything negative on you from him.
You care a little too much about his opinion. If you wanna know b/c there's a lot riding on his answer, then have confidence, be yourself & ask him lol Sheeesh
There's nothing wrong with getting an ego boost when someone you're attracted to is flirting with you. Men, taken or not, easily enjoy compliments from other women. As long as they don't reciprocate or feed into something that will lead to something inappropriate, there's nothing wrong with enjoying the ego boost.
=)
I'm not his friend on instagram, lol. I had to do some serious digging to find his real instagram because the one listed on his linkedin profile didn't exist anymore. He has no idea that I know. So if I tell him I saw it on instagram that would be super creepy because it's not like he was easy to find.. lol.
If you heard the other girls mention it then the cat is out of the bag. This isn't an aqua thing. It's a human thing. I'm not sure why you're confused. It's not as though he's trying to be in a relationship with you. He's just flirting. That would not intrigue me about a married man.
This article answers everything. Not an Aquarius issue, but a Russian man issue. Cheating is standard and accepted over there apparently. It explains why he's so forward and almost patriarchal with me. It explained why the Russian girls joked about him being married but continued to flirt... To my ultimate confusion.
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2010/12/the_cheating_cheaters_of_moscow.html<BR>
Now to poll the audience. Is being the "other woman" wrong if it's accepted??
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2010/12/the_cheating_cheaters_of_moscow.html<BR>
Now to poll the audience. Is being the "other woman" wrong if it's accepted??
Being the other woman and whether it's wrong or not is up to you. Not Russian society. What do YOU want out of life? You have to make your own choices and be able to sleep at night. Who cares what others think. If you are willing to accept less from a man and that doesn't bother you, do you. But it sounds like you feel some emotional connection or else you wouldn't be analyzing his actions. That will lead to nothing good. You can say "oh I knew from the beginning what it was" but if there's any chance you could develop feelings for this person, don't go there.
Ohhhh hold the phone guys, just because I polled the audience doesn't mean I was still considering it. Hellllll to the no. I feel so bad for Russian women now. Because they're outnumbered they just have to sit back and accept cheating sacks of shit? It may be "accepted" in his culture which makes it less "wrong" I guess, but this article actually made me completely disgusted with him and Russian men in general. I'm Curious to know what non-Russian women would do in that situation, being attracted to a married guy who has free range to cheat on his wife with uou... But I'm not down for that. To me married is married and if they have freedom to cheat on their wives, just imagine what they do to their gfs or mistresses. Yes there's the rush and the flattery that comes with being pursued by a married man BUT women who think they can get something honest and long term out of a relationship born in infidelity are lying to themselves.
if they are cheating on you, they don't want your ass. Simple.
they are probably doing it so you can get lost and get out of their lives. Seriously. Dead serious.
and honestly!!! why would you want to be with that kind of person??
are you just a sucker for torture? they dont want you!! never go for a man/woman who don't want you.
they are probably doing it so you can get lost and get out of their lives. Seriously. Dead serious.
and honestly!!! why would you want to be with that kind of person??
are you just a sucker for torture? they dont want you!! never go for a man/woman who don't want you.
i mean let's be honest here.
A man who doesn't want to LOSE YOU, (not barring if he's a sex addict/drug user high on heroine) won't do that shit at all.
YOu know why?? because he dont want to lose you at all!!!
A man who doesn't want to LOSE YOU, (not barring if he's a sex addict/drug user high on heroine) won't do that shit at all.
YOu know why?? because he dont want to lose you at all!!!
Posted by Huldra
Why do women on here absolutely crave for married men? Back the fuck up. Plus if he's married and shows that kind of behaviour, what makes you think he will treat YOU any better? You're just one in a million. Unless you want that kind of treatment?
Russian men are spoiled, because most of us, Russian women, are extremely good looking, homely, feminine, know how to take care of ourselves, and most... will settle for the sorry ass piece we're given, because male/female ratio back there is sorely unbalanced. I'm glad I live in the USA where the situation is opposite.
the girl on my avatar is a Russian model, married to an Aries. Don't know his placements exactly but she's double aquarius.
(although with venus/mars pisces and Scorpio pluto in 8th)
She looks like she gets super spoiled by her Aries hubby. lol
@lisabethur8 I'm not with him, he's married and has been hitting on me and I didn't know he was married until a couple weeks in.
Posted by Cupidsbow
@lisabethur8 I'm not with him, he's married and has been hitting on me and I didn't know he was married until a couple weeks in.
lol ok i just read your intro a bit.
so um, why are you still hanging around him!!!?
i don't give a shit about him, because he is responsible for his own shit.
but YOU on the other hand.
holy hell girl, why are you still hanging around him— Do you want something from him?
Get rid of him. ASAP.
drop him like a bad habit. Don't care about analyzing an all that. Just drop him.
Let him deal with other women who like that shit.
if you dont like it, you dont have to be immersed in it. Right??
Ok. then, you know what to do.
Well I'm working on a script with him and I enjoy his company as a friend, and his behavior toward me like the flirting and stuff is what threw me for a loop because I found out he was married. It's not like we were dating or anything like that. As of right now we're friends and nothing physical has happened between us... just friends with a bit of sexual tension. Essentially he really hasn't done anything WRONG in front of me either. Flirting with a girl and buying her a drink while married isn't wrong. Now, if he asked me to sleep with him or tried to kiss me or something, that's a different story.
Posted by Cupidsbow
Well I'm working on a script with him and I enjoy his company as a friend, and his behavior toward me like the flirting and stuff is what threw me for a loop because I found out he was married. It's not like we were dating or anything like that. As of right now we're friends and nothing physical has happened between us... just friends with a bit of sexual tension. Essentially he really hasn't done anything WRONG in front of me either. Flirting with a girl and buying her a drink while married isn't wrong. Now, if he asked me to sleep with him or tried to kiss me or something, that's a different story.
now you're making EXCUSES.
hah.
ok. You dig your own grave, lady.
You want to stay in his life, that's your thing.
But you come in here wanting answers like this shit—
You are NO BETTER.
you are just like him.
you call him a nasty thing, but you are just as NASTY!!!
(Ok, so i had a glass of chardonnay but honesty comes out of it!!) 😛
and i swear, you sticking around with this mother fucker means you want his mother fucking ass, you want him sooooooooo bad you're willing to forgo any nasty ass shit he has .
so all of this—
this is a cover up!!!
you call him a nasty thing, but you are just as NASTY!!!
(Ok, so i had a glass of chardonnay but honesty comes out of it!!) 😛
and i swear, you sticking around with this mother fucker means you want his mother fucking ass, you want him sooooooooo bad you're willing to forgo any nasty ass shit he has .
so all of this—
this is a cover up!!!
ok let me finish...
you want him sooo bad you're gonna secretly sleep with him and are willing to be the HOMEWRECKER.
nasty.
you want him sooo bad you're gonna secretly sleep with him and are willing to be the HOMEWRECKER.
nasty.
hahaha okay, you tell it like it is, I like that. Yeah. I'm attracted to him. But I know myself very well and I have good self control. I'd never act on it. Never. Maybe I'm just torturing myself, haha. But married is not okay with me. I'll continue to be his friend and not reciprocate like I've been doing but if it gets to a point where it's causing me to lose my sanity then I'll tell him to cool it. I'm going to be his friend, and if he makes inappropriate advances, that's where I'll draw the line.
Posted by Cupidsbow
hahaha okay, you tell it like it is, I like that. Yeah. I'm attracted to him. But I know myself very well and I have good self control. I'd never act on it. Never. Maybe I'm just torturing myself, haha. But married is not okay with me. I'll continue to be his friend and not reciprocate like I've been doing but if it gets to a point where it's causing me to lose my sanity then I'll tell him to cool it. I'm going to be his friend, and if he makes inappropriate advances, that's where I'll draw the line.
lol you are crazy.
it's best to cut him off at the jugular. lmao.
you are torturing yourself!! you like the pain!! 😆
like this girl singing in the car, you have to fuck the pain away!! 😆
haha guys, calm down lol. what time zone are you in? it's only 3pm here! Yes, I do like the attention, I'm not afraid to admit that. But I'm not going to sleep with him. One of the reasons being I'm still a virgin (lame I know). So there's also THAT keeping me from sleeping with him on top of EVERYTHING else we discussed. I wasn't going to bring it up but since you're insisting I'm going to fall too deep and "slip up" I just needed to state that, haha. It's harmless flirtation and I'm not going to be a homewrecker, lol. Losing my virginity to a married man? yeah no thanks.
I bet you're guessing I'm a Leo - my venus is Leo, I think that's where I get the attention thing from :-P. My rising sign is Aries, another reason. But my sun sign is Virgo.
I bet you're guessing I'm a Leo - my venus is Leo, I think that's where I get the attention thing from :-P. My rising sign is Aries, another reason. But my sun sign is Virgo.
@AquaMermaid I've done loads of inner reflection over the years and I think I develop crushes on guys that either don't want me or can't have me as a protection mechanism because I'm still terribly afraid of actually falling in love with someone and having to let go of my virginity. So basically I go after guys that either don't like me or guys that I'd never sleep with so that I don't have to sleep with them... does that make sense— probably not... I get it though... lol.
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