Cancer woman + an Aquarius man! I really need help

THIS MIGHT BE LONG, BUT DO READ!😢
I met a guy in grade 9 ( I am currently 18, in college, so it has been a while ). He was/is best friends with one of my high school mates. Back then i was really into another guy so i never gave any attention to any other man. I ended up dating the guy for 3 years that i was really into. When grade 12 started, i officially broke up with him and started to realize i was into this Aquarius guy i met in grade 9, (I THINK we he was interested, because we started to flirt beginning of grade 12) . He would always check up on me and ask if i was still with my current bf throughout high-school( He disliked my bf btw).He would try to see if we can talk on the phone or chill but i would usually ignore it or say no. I later on found out he use to like me back in grade 9 because of what he had heard. He thought i had a great personality apparently. SO, i ended up liking him more than expected. We went on a date 2011 December. Turns out, the week after he starts dating this other girl that was dying to be with him. I was very upset because the week before he told me he wasn't really into her as much as she was.But the fact that he personally came and told me and was honest, i let it go. So i chose to move on, it was now march 2012. Me and the Aquarius guy completely stopped talking. He never bothered messaged after February and i didn't bother either. I ended up falling for another guy and dated him. That didn't go too well. Me and my bf ended by October 2012. May 2012, i find out through my friend ( his best friend) that he spoke about me. He asked if i hated him and that if i was dating some guy and that if i was , he was going to kick his ass. The Aquarius guy disliked him as well because he thought he wasn't right for me. He obviously turned out to be right. When i found that out, a part of was happy to hear it but i chose to bury those feelings because i was with someone. I ignored it, even though i would randomly sometimes have a dream about the Aquarius guy. ( i am not insane lol ). June 24th hits, he wishes me happy birthday and i say thank you and we talk normally. Then we began to talk just as friends again. Anyway, time passes by, and he was really nice. One night he chose to stay up all night to talk to me despite the fact , he was exhausted and wanted to sleep. But because i had said i needed someone to talk to. He genuinely helped. In that moment i realized a whole new side to him. He honestly is amazing

PART 2!

THE PROBLEM IS NOW that i have fallen for him again. I realized i liked him all along but he comes and tells him that he broke up with his girl because he realized he liked this other girl all along that went to high school with him. He kind of gave me cold shoulders recently in the past month. He talked to me but sometimes wouldnt bother replying to my message and one day he acted like a total douche when i msgd. So i ignored him the next time he msgd and asked me at 4 am why the hell i was mad at him. Things were cleared. Now the past week he has been msging me everyday. He started to flirt with me again but im not flirting back. I dont know what to do. I KNOW if he lets me in and he allows himself to give me chance. it would be nice because the type of guy he is, if he LOVES. it would be intense. He is exactly what i want despite his flaws. i know things would be rough here and there but i am willing to do it. Sometimes i ask myself if i really want it, and i say no then other days i say yes. I am so lost. Someone tell me whats going on. What does he even think of me

OH and i remember around octoberish 2012. I asked what kind of girl he thought i was, he said he thought i was easy since i fell for my previous boyfriend...merp.

I honestly don't think this is about him but rather about what you want. Sorry to sound mean but what you've written deal more specifically with your own feelings so it's hard to answer the question of what he thinks of you.

It can be either to be honest. I myself have admitted to crushes to a friend before but those are merely crushes so it doesn't impede on my ability to stay a friend or be there for a friend when they need it.

It doesn't sound like he would be the type to make it known or be clear with it either so perhaps you just have to make your intentions plenty clear and have conviction.

I remember i did confront him last year, i believe end of 2011. He said " i should've told him earlier ". He was by then with someone . I told him i jsut wanted to get it off my chest. I kind of dont want to do the same and then end up realizing maybe one day i didn't. His actions are very confusing to me.

I feel obliged to make a cancer jokes but I won't 😛

I understand how Aquas can be confusing believe me but underneathe it all I'd like to think we're being rather consistent. He did like you and possibly thought about being with you at some point and I doubt that feeling has gone away and perhaps just buried somewhere now that he's 'moved' on from that thought.

When it comes to romance we're not quick to jump back on that horse especially once we've decided to move on from that particular chapter. We don't really like to play mind games so you just have to believe what he is telling you now that he's with someone else.

Giving the cold shoulder is what people say about us but I don't think that's true it's just more relative to us but what do we do when we feel like someone else is doing it? We confront them so take a lesson from that just confront him when you feel things don't add up.

If he's flirting with you then flirt back, make some plans and stop analysing so much, we do that enough ourselves but for what it's worth even if we do we still do what we want until proven futile. So ask yourself do you want to be with him, find an answer and just go for it.

Lol i get that a lot, People usually make a cancer joke on me 😛 its fine

err. hes single now , but i asked him to hang out but he seems ot kind of ignore it. He said yes to the plans but didn't clarify which day. So i usually get this vibe that i might be coming into his space and i would hate to annoy him that way. SO that's why i stop myself. The fact that he thought i was easy, stops me from sharing my feelings as well.

You get that with me a lot too. It irks me if people make plans but don't really specify what we're doing and when we're doing it. Most of the time I'd take charge and work out the details but I suppose your particular Aqua doesn't like doing that lol.

It seems you're very clear with the flaws as you said but you still like him so I might have to re-iterate what I said, if you really want it to happen between you two you might have to be the one to step up. Look at his venus/mar/moon and particular aspects if you really are concerned.

Secretly rooting for you of course 🙂

lol i suppose! thank you for the help 🙂 maybe i will update what will happen in the coming days.

I don't know...If that was me personally it would be one of two things. Either I'm mildy interested but not serious about it and don't want to hurt your feelings, or I really like you but have reservations or don't trust you. Truth be told, if I don't consider a romantic possibility as a close friend, It will probably be a long time while I sit and decide how I really feel, especially if I feel they've been too clingy too soon (it won't work if I think that before we're 'together')

I just wanted to throw my 2 cents. I know a Cancer woman and and Aqua man, they've been married for over a decade! This combo can work.

@jeflogue hi! thanks for the response 🙂 i completely understand and agree with the fact that if in his shoes i am clingy, it wont work. I personally don't think i am clingy. I go days without tlaking to him and giving him his space because i know he likes that. So i hope i dont come off as clingy😛
also what do you exactly mean by i like you but have reservations?

@Flibbertygibbet thanks for the reply! 😄 that gave me a little bit of hope 😛 lol

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@jeflogue hi! thanks for the response 🙂 i completely understand and agree with the fact that if in his shoes i am clingy, it wont work. I personally don't think i am clingy. I go days without tlaking to him and giving him his space because i know he likes that. So i hope i dont come off as clingy😛
also what do you exactly mean by i like you but have reservations?

@Flibbertygibbet thanks for the reply! 😄 that gave me a little bit of hope 😛 lol

To give some clarification on the clinginess aspect, I am fully aware that what classifies as clingy in my opinion is typically completely unfair to the other person...I tend to think a person is clingy if they're trying to spend time and I don't feel like it. On the other hand, when I'm ignored I get curious and will initiate contact after a little while (unless I'm drunk...always a bad decision lol.) Unless I don't feel it's a likely match, then I'll forget about it unless they contact me.

The reservations are things like, as above, I don't think it's a likely match, or maybe I liked you but didn't feel any particular spark...I know for me I need to see a text from the person and spontaneously smile for me to feel it's worth pursuing. That can and has developed over time though. Also, I don't know how another aquarius would feel about it, but I will never admit feelings first, and if I fool around with a guy too early I will never "love" them, or at least it's never worked that way before.

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Also, I don't know how another aquarius would feel about it, but I will never admit feelings first, and if I fool around with a guy too early I will never "love" them, or at least it's never worked that way before.

For guys I think it's a lot easier even given traditions it's usually the men that chases. It might be dependent on a couple of things outside of our sun sign to determine whether he's that type of person though. But I'll agree if the other person suggests to mess around before any real feelings are established I find it very hard to fall for them later on.

Okay so i have to mention that 75% of the time, it is he who actually initiates a conversation but eventually stops replying. It gets annoying but i never asked him why. I let him do his own thing. I get this weird vibe from this guy. Its itching my skin!

For some reason I am attracted to Aqua males.

My aqua cousin is married to a Cancer woman.
She is always pregnant.

That's all I got.

LOL that is very interesting. Btw i got to see this aqua yesterday. Out of no where we chilled mostly because i really needed a ride and i thought i might take this chance to ask if he can give me one. So he did and i asked if he wanted to stay with me and my friend at the mall. It was nice but i feel like im falling for him even more. Hes such an awesome guy despite his flaws. Sigh. I don't want to let go, its the same case with every guy. They always end up being the wrong person for me or im not the right person for them...and i am kind of tired of this.