confused with aqua

I know i have been on here before about the same aqua. Long story short. Known this girl since nov. We have been hanging out a lot and even went on a friend vacation back in November. We had sex in December. She became quiet. Then two weeks later she said its best that we are friends for now. So I did the friend thing. A few days later she is like that friends thing isn't going to work and laughed. She said my plan didn't work. I like you. So since mid Jan we have been hanging out a lot again. Cooking dinner, working out, I go out with her friends etc.

She had a birthday party last wednesday. So lots of drinks involved. She told me she was falling for me. I was shocked but happy. At the party, this guy was all over her touching her. He was talking about all his sex buddies and then asked her if she was still running around with Mike. I kind of got taken back by that. So afterwards I asked. Used the wrong words. Asked if she was sleeping with anyone else and who was Mike? I told her i respect her, that I am a one woman girl, and I just wanted to make sure . Told her that she was the only one i was with. .. She seemed ok .. But was drunk. She said come over tomorrow. The next day, I did not hear one word from her. It has been over a week and she has been cold and avoiding in a way. Invited me over to hang out with her and her daughter for the superbowl. But she then said Im in a bad mood(it wasn't me this time) ...

I am deeply confused. Yes i am falling for her as well. I don't know if i ruined things . I am not a jealous person. I just am a one woman person. I like to have my own time away from my girlfriend to hang out with my buddies. I have apologized to her. I just don't know what to do and I feel as if i lost her.
Thanks for you advice!

I am a Leo by the way

I just went to her house yesterday for a little bit but seemed as if she was still cold.. any advice on situation?

Her disappearing for a week knowing that it would probably result in confusion or a feeling of rejection on your end, speaks volumes

My opinion is that either she:
1. Is having emotional or sexual relationships with someone else. Sometimes a woman might cut off loose ends or settle any unfinished business when she feels that she's getting closer to a man that she wants to focus on him & only him. (Guys do this too, so don't ever assume that women are any different in some cases)

Falling in love with someone is 1 thing, but actually being in that moment when things are starting to get to an exclusive level can be scary for someone. When you talked about being a 1 woman man, that sounded like committal talk & if she didn't plan to stop talking/sexing other guys any time soon, that could explain why she suddenly disappeared (her way of hinting to you that she's not ready for an exclusive relationship)

Or

2. She feels embarrassed by what she knows you heard & put some space b/w you two b/c she automatically assumed you would judge her or not feel the same about her once you found out that you weren't the only one. She never answered your question about Mike, so clearly she wasn't that drunk b/c if she was, she wouldn't have been sober enough to avoid the question & put it off (That takes clear & conscious thinking). If that guys words weren't true, she would've said NO on the spot to the rumors about her & Mike.

She might have disconnected & distanced herself from you as a means of letting you take control again & proving that your feelings for her didn't chase. She might want you to chase her & act normal in order for her to feel the reassurance that those rumors didn't affect how you feel

Sometimes it's hard enough as it is for an Aqua to fall in love as it is. It's even harder for them to admit it to the other person, especially if they had to say it 1st. Vulnerability doesn't necessarily come natural to an Aquarius.

And if that's the case, the worst thing that can happen right when an Aqua is right there on the line of falling in love is for someone or something to come along & possibly change the dynamic or ruin the connection(rumors of someone sleeping with others can def. change things lol). She might've shut down to protect herself in an effort to avoid your judgement or her continuing to fall for someone that may not even desire her as much.

This may not make any sense to an outsider, but if that's what's going on, it makes

....This may not make any sense to an outsider, but if that's what's going on, it makes perfect sense to the Aquarian.

Just in case her disconnecting is about her stepping back until you make a move & reassure her that nothing has changed, my advice to you would be to give her reassurance by way of talking to her & letting her know that you don't feel differently about her. For your comfort, make sure you bring up the "Mike" situation, but most importantly you'll save yourself a lot of time if you see if she's even willing to OR ready to be in an exclusive relationship. Never assume someone is unless or until they tell you so, no matter how they say they feel about you.

Stay away of this bitch at all costs she doesn't have a clue??_.I think she see's the whole thing as some pseudo relationship. Bi folk can be real big cunts like that??_.I'm sure she's nice but aquarians can be really dumb and stupid when it comes to objectifying people.

She told me her and mike didn't have anything... I apologized told her how i felt..she's like you wigged out on me.. I told her my bad.. I misheard... she avoided me for over a week. I did go to her house the other day but was treated as a friend... she calls me late at night to see what I am doing..
I am just confused... why would she tell me she's falling for me to act cold and like she doesn't care if this works..
I flirted today but not much out of her...

I tired to communicate and he avoids.. aloof now....
Should I walk away?

Ok she came back....
was saying things like I had a dream about us. You and were living together. You cooked my daughter and I dinner. It was a fairy tale.. I told her I will cook her and her daughter dinner sometime. We haven't been intimate yet. I want to kiss her just confused by her. She is so hot and cold....
The other day we were with a group of friends.. We ran a race together and after the race we locked arms. And at dinner after the race shes like you don't like me do you? She knows I like her... Why would she ask this??When she was leaving she wouldn't even look me in the eye? Why would she have a dream about us hanging out together??

Can someone please help me out with this aqua. I have fallen for her and I am completely confused by her actions. I don't want to give up !

today I tried to talk to her. told her I was confused by her actions but told her how much she means to me... she completely ignored it... this is the fourth a fifth time it has happened. ... I don't know if I should hold onto her words, im falling for you, I had a dream about us, I want to take a vacation with you, etc.. or hold onto her actions of hot and cold to ignoring and non communicative..

I love this woman and her actions are confusing me. just don't know if I should let go. I have fallen head over heals for her .. I am thinking of walking away