Crying...

An Aqua man I'm with just cried in front of me and told me that I broke his heart...I only commented that he was abit too agressive towards me in the bedroom last time...Now he used all the phylosophical terms like he feels like hanging on a piece of wood and his heart bleeding...That he's afraid that I'll never love him like the way he loves me...I tried to stop his tears by hugging him for whole night and finally he said I still love you...
What should I do to reassure him? We only know each other for more than 3 months but he already confessed he loves me less than 2 months, and now keeps saying it...I like to take things slow and build up things...how can I make him understand? I know he trusts me alot because he told me every thing about his family and his feeling towards each of them...In fact, I've never met a man who is so straightforward and expressive like him...I like him and trust him but I feel that things are moving too quickly...Please give me some advices.

I hope you're right because I'm the one who cry for people who are in porverty and getting killed in the world. I told him that I want to love and care for people while he laugh at me and say it is impossible to do that. He said that he can only care for me and think that I'm too naive...

I am sure he has not cried for you or the relationship. His tears probably have pollen for the thousands of people getting killed and dying of hunger each day in wars. His thought were getting confused as far as I can see probably trying to hide that he was probably pretending, like it had something to do with you.

LOL !!! Energy, you've been missed!

Exam, this dude sounds a little insecure and by a little I mean a LOT!!!
Sounds like he needs to get better before getting into a relationship as he doesn't sound whole...
Frankly he sounds like he's blackmailing/manipulating you into something...

Now he used all the phylosophical terms like he feels like hanging on a piece of wood and his heart bleeding...
maybe he should build a wooden swing and swing when he feels wistful, you can push it? 😕

I just see insecurity, not with him crying but him getting what he wants by pulling the 'I love you like no other' crap just to distract her from what she's comfortable with... What should I do to reassure him?
after 3 months, he needs babying? idk

*waves at energy*

sulking...anger...retreat? crying is still a form of this... no?
the 4 and others are used as means to get the same thing possibly this:
and to me that is a power imbalance issue...his reaction just triggers some alarm bells in my head is all.

I am curious about his chart though 🙂

energy! Hi 😄!!!!!!



Yeah, I want to know the chart too

I'm not so sure that I understand what you meant, energy.I don't manipulate people or try to seek attention.To me , love has a foundation of trust and friendship.I've told him from the beginning about what I thought a reltionship is like in my view and he agreed with me.However, he now started to complain that I'm too nice and caring to others.Any way, here is his chart:

Sun Aquarius 21k01'56 in house 3
Moon Leo 24e00'28 in house 9
Mercury Capricorn 27j20'46 in house 3
Venus Capricorn 20j58'36 in house 3
Mars Capricorn 8j17'03 in house 2
Jupiter Cancer 1d10'13 in house 8
Saturn Capricorn 20j13'07 in house 3
Uranus Capricorn 7j58'44 in house 2
Neptune Capricorn 13j27'23 in house 2
Pluto Scorpio 17h45'44 in house 1
True Node Aquarius 16k29'46 in house 3
Chiron Cancer 11d22'24 in house 8
Ascendant Scorpio 11h40'04
2nd House Sagittarius 10i19'20
3rd House Capricorn 19j16'36
Imum Coeli Pisces 1l04'12
5th House Aries 2a47'39
6th House Aries 25a10'18
Descendant Taurus 11b40'04
8th House Gemini 10c19'20
9th House Cancer 19d16'36
Medium Coeli Virgo 1f04'12
11th House Libra 2g47'39
12th House Libra 25g10'18

i agree...it's the leo moon!!! it sucks 😉

I'm with LK and Z, you commenting on how aggressive he was in bed only to be disarmed with his tears is a sign of an abusive man, this is what abusive people do, you say ouch and instead of addressing the boo boo they go out of there way to do or say something to avert the conversation back onto themselves, beware and wary of this kind of man, highly manipulative.

IMO crying is a way to divert attention back onto him, he most likely cried because he was CAUGHT and instead of addressing her needs and ensuring her he will correct his behavior he cried, I'm sure he felt humiliated and embarrassed because she noticed and he most likely began to ruminate about why he was agressive in bed and cried because he know he is messed up and can't get off unless the sex is rough, don't ignore the fact that you don't like his aggression in the bedroom, if you don't address it you will find yourself doing more and more things that you most likely wouldn't do, this is a sign of narcissistic behavior and in some cases from my own studies sociopathic men have this masochistic or sadistic appetite sexually, be careful, if you let him manage you down to accept his aggression he will become increasingly aggressive as time goes by and by that point you will THINK your so much in love with him so I will go along with it, it will become this dirty little sadistic secret....

please be careful and if you see any other signs that lead to aggression or abuse get out, he will not change, save yourself the drama and confusion and doubt and just leave...

I think you've the temper just like the Aqua guy that I'm dating with.I'm not putting blame on any particular sign.I have curiosity about astrology and such , hence I'm coming here just to ask for advices.I guess that is the difference between men and women.Most men will hold in quite alot till their emotion explode.We did talk and discussed about things but it doesn't mean that getting more advices from others is a bad thing.Of course, the final decision will belong to us.

OFA, are you sure Leo moon is the cause ? I thought Scorp asc might give him abit watery ? 🙂

tiki33, he did say sorry and promised to be gentle next time.Honestly, we did not have sex yet.It was just kissing and abit of touching (not even there yet) but the way he did it was too forceful.He is way heavier and taller than me so I feel like being crushed beneath...Now he said just say stop and I will...I only am worried about his emotional state though...Any way, I think you're right about emotional manipulation there...I think I can see some signs of it so when I pointed them out to him, he was quite embarrassed...I'll take into account what you advised...

I think most of us see that his response to you pointing out his aggression was highly disproportionate, meaning he's not stable, his leo man makes him dramatic possibly why the tears, I won't count it out.

Yep, it's the Leo lol They get so sensitive!

lol - gets old really quick firefly 😛

It's not the leo moon, she's aqua so won't blame anything seemingly unfavourable on her shared sign 😛 😛 😛

--- it may be a combination of a lot, frankly, after 3 months knowing someone, it's not shrink time imo... red flag.
Make sure what you want in a relationship is not being overshadowed by his reflecting off you... naturally, depending on how you approach it, he will be embarassed, no way around this, but when ou haven't made it to bed, there will be more embarassing moments to come no doubt, how will he handle it?

how will he handle it?

Probably bust out crying oh lawd sweet jeeezus and bawl up on the floor sucking his thumb....

my assumption is based off the fact LOL!!! Classic 😛 😛 😛
will be using that!

most Leo men I know are insanely sensitive and manipulative. like most people from each sign?

ok - if you say so, I agree 🙂