Dating an Aqua man for more than a year. What's next?

Hello, this is my story and I will really appreciate your opinions about it.

I am 37, Libra Sun&Moon, Sagittarius Ascendant, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Leo.

He is 38, Aquarius Sun, Pisces Moon, Capricorn Ascendant, Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Aquarius.

We met online at the beginning of 2014, we spoke a little, but I was not very impressed. He is incredibly good looking, so I concluded we are not suitable for each other. Six months later he asked me out suddenly, but I turned him down, as I had already plans for the night (it was not a date). At the very end of 2015, the same story, also out of the blue. I was abroad, but this time we started to communicate intensely. He courted me fiercely, we met and we continue to meet ever since.

We see each other 1-2 times a week and text or phone daily. After six months he moved out from his sister's house. Since October he is my neighbour. He knows my colleagues and my few friends. I know his family from here and some of his friends. To mention that we both live in the same foreign country.

These are the facts. And now about our love background. We are both single for 7-8 years, even though we tried to find partners. He was more successful though, he dated people but backed off, I didn't. After the first month of dating, he said he was not ready to commit and that we are friends, but he keeps acting like a boyfriend. No sex, no kissing, but hugs, cuddling, massages. He likes to lay his head in my lap and falls asleep while I massage his face. We often sleep together.

He likes to come to my place. He says he never opened up to anyone like this, not even to his relatives or ex girlfriends, that can be himself with me. That I am special and only to a special woman will commit and that is the reason we continue to see each other. He even admitted I was more intelligent than him...

We both made some mistakes though, we hurt each other more or less on purpose. I turned him down and rejected him a few times because I felt alone at times. He responded by saying we were not lovers. But we continued to spend quality time together and we continue to do so.

Aqua people, what do you make out of this story? What could be his intentions?

I have to add that he had only two relations all his life, that he spent his youth in a monastery and that he really loved his second girlfriend (a Gemini). He may not be over the breakup yet, even though he says the opposite.

Why havent you had sex?

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Why havent you had sex?

I do not have casual sex, unless I am commited into a relationship I believe is going to last.. He, on the other hand, has two options - wait until he commits (to a person that respects herself and her body), or casually agree with a woman to meet for sex only, from a different country, to never see each other again. He does this once in a while (last time it happened before we met).