Did I do wrong?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Huntertyga on Saturday, September 17, 2016 and has 9 replies.

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@Huntertyga
10 Years

The aqua guy I'm dating stood me up this week and I got upset and have been being distant with him. Will he lose interest? I just felt hurt😢 He left for 2 week job trip to China 2 days ago and he didn't even see me before he left. He asked to see me.But the day of our date he texts and says that he has more work to do and then stuff at home to do so he won't make it.

I responded with a cold ok and he kept saying sorry and I just said I understand and I've been just responding to him with short responses until he makes it up and asks me out on a proper date. Is it wrong that I'm being distant? (

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@Huntertyga
10 Years

Posted by truecap
What if he sincerely had stuff to do and really does feel sorry? Would your coldness and distance be appropriate?

Thats what I'm worried about. But the thing is he has done this a few times.... and to me it sounds like he's distancing on purpose. He did tell me he wanted to take things slow....

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@piscesmoon2
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Aqua Mercury retro has been in the 7th house of partnerships... It has been affecting a lot of them. He most likely stood you up because he had to work. I would just wait but there should be some communication when he gets back and he should say sorry.

I made a post about an Aqua x and she has been over loaded with work. I have been trying to get together with her for a month. She basically got a new job and and they have a bigger project i think so she has been working 12 hour days and stuff. I believe her too and just know she is not the type to lie about such things. She even said she was so busy at one point now it would not be fair to who she saw if anyone. I however told her that is find and she needs to do what she needs to do priorities...

Anyways good luck with the situation

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@leothelionsaysroar
9 Years

I think the thing to understand about Aquarius is that they don't mean anything by it, but that's just sort of how it can go with them. I seriously doubt he was trying to hurt your feelings, but I think the question you should be asking is.. are you okay and going to continue to be okay with this type of behavior?

I don't care how much you life a person, if you can't handle the way they do things, you should ask that question first and not think so much about whether or not they will stick around.

Aquarius can be this way, they need their freedom and they don't always think about the person it's going to affect first. Not saying they're disrespectful dicks, but it's just not in their nature to always think about the emotional ramifications. He'll respect you more if you just be honest about how you feel instead of expecting him to "make it up" to you.

He will eventually get tired of that mindset. You do you, he'll like you that much more for it.

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@Undine
13 Years5,000+ Posts

How long can you sulk... ? I can only do it for a few days.

I went through something similar over the past few days. It turned out my Aqua had little idea what was going on with me.

I suggest that you talk to your Aqua about what is bothering you, instead of becoming passive aggressive! He may even try to reassure you...or flip out like my Aqua did (Aries mooner 😄).

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@Huntertyga
10 Years

Thank you for all your feedback guys!!!! It's just I don't want to be a doormat and want atleast some respect. He has flaked before and if he actually wanted o

To see me he'd want to see me on the weekend before he left

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@Huntertyga
10 Years

Posted by bumboklatt

Posted by Huntertyga

Posted by bumboklatt
yeah tyga have some self respect and patience . He's not ready

Thanks for understanding bumboklatt! I've always been a doormat and for once I want to treated with respect😢

dont worry many people are self centered, you dont seem that way. Just have patience.

When your time comes you will be grateful and you will feel the power and love you have over yourself.

Then you will feel sorry for the ones who dont respect you

cause you will realize they dont respect themselves

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Awwww thanks so much!! My aqua has the same placements as you. Are you guys kinda commitmentphobic by any chance haha?

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@Arisaturn2
10 Years

My Aqua is busy too. The more understanding you try to be the more time he'll make for you. If you try to guilt him over something that is important to him, he'll just pull away. Actually that would go for any man. Don't try to guilt a man because he's working hard. That is pretty essential to their livelihood....being successful in their career.