Do aqua men like forward women or mysterious?

I'm wondering what to do in this situation. About 10 years ago I met this aqua guy through a friend. We had an instant connection and I crushed on him hard. Nothing ever came of it since we rarely saw eachother, but over the years I've kept up with him through MySpace/Facebook, just looking every once in a blue moon to see what he's been up to. It seem everytime I looked at his page he had a new girlfriend. Although he did date one of them for a good 3 years, they've all pretty much lasted less than a year or so. I saw him recently and that same electricity was still there. I don't know what it is about him but his personality just makes me melt! He's so witty and wicked, and has the same interests as me. I've dated others before but my limited time with him elicited far deeper feelings than I ever felt for men I've dated for years!??

A few months ago I texted him asking if he wanted to work on something creative together since we are in the same field , but he never responded. My ego was hurt, I'll admit, and I just assumed he was a playboy and I must have imagined our connection and he just wasn't interested.

Well Sunday he messages me on Facebook in kind of a pissed off tone, saying "so much for working together this summer, I was really looking forward to it, let me know if you have any projects coming up"

Woah, not expecting that at ALL! I asked him what he was talking about, since he had ignored all my texts. He explains that his 4G phone sucks and doesn't recieve texts sometimes and his Internet doesn't work (sure, I'll pretend to believe that)


So I tell him I decided not to do that since I'm moving across the country in 2 months (where he's ironically moving to a year later) but I said "but if you wanna hang out with me before I go get famous, thats cool" to which he responded ??"haha well I mean we can hang out, I'd rather take you out or something before you leave"

Does that mean a date??

I'm going to an award show on Saturday and I'll be all dressed up and glamorous for the red carpet, so I invited him to come to an after party and he said yes.??

Sorry, long back story.

Anyways, he admitted that he had a crush on me 10 years ago, but he has never once made a move. Then again, we haven't really been in the same circles since then, but I really do feel this deep connection with him. He brings out this flirty, confident side to me that I rarely ever have without a drink in my system.. It's like he intoxicates me. But part

of me wants to stay guarded because he could just be a huge flirt like most Aquarians and every girl could be feeling that "connection" with him.

How should I play it on Saturday? Should I be reserved and mysterious, or admit that I crushed on him (and have ever since)? Should I be forward and say something like "so are you finally taking me out or am I gpnna have to wait another decade for you to ask me?"

I don't know many Aquarians, and I honestly don't know him that well. I don't know what it is about him that has me so smitten! And I feel like I'm myself around him, but I still don't know honestly what bring "myself" really feels like. I can be forward or mysterious.. I don't know what would be best. Some say forward can scare them away, some say being direct is what they need. So which is it??

Just go with the flow! Don't "play" anything. Go with the moment. Have a great time!!!!

Thanks! I think I'm just going to go with my gut and trust my instincts with him. I've read so much about "being direct" and then contradicting info that it's bad to show all your cards with them, I'm about to just say "eff it" and do what I want.

MeToo, you always give good sound advice about Aqua men. What about the young ones (age 32) who do the complete opposite of the norm. I have a group of friends and this one guy is so obviously in love with a woman in our group. Displays all the classic Aqua in "like" characteristics. Stands close, stares, talks a lot, touches, makes it a point to always be around her. Answers calls and texts in record time. However, recently he just announced he has a "girl friend". Some chick he met online, went out with her twice, started sleeping with her relatively quickly. So, is it possible for them to have a "relationship" while getting to know the true object of their affection? It all seems so bizzare because apparently right after he and the girl in our group made plans to go out, less than two days later he announced a date with the online girl. I cant help her astrologically in a romantic sense. I only know the Aqua males I work with and they are married and a lot older than 32. Thanks!

Thank you so much, Metoo, I think I will play it coy, that was my gut. It will be a night of drunken debauchery, so I may endup kissing him but I'm not going to think too deeply about it, it's more just to satisfy my curiousity that I've had for a decade about what it would be like to kiss him. Definitely nothing more than that; he may make me want to drop my panties like crazy but I am a very proud woman and I will not sleep with him just to keep him guessing about me. He and I are both very intelligent people, and I don't want to lower myself to the ranks of all the younger, naive and not very smart girls that he's slept with in the past. I will definitely make him wait for that.. I bet he's not used to that!

One thing though-- I thought aquarians were supposed to be aloof and unemotional, but 2 things about him seem to stray from this stereotype. 1, he flat out told me he had a huge crush on me 10 years back (not sure if that still stands) and that he probably had "embarrassed himself professionally" because of that crush. I jokingly said yeah right since he definitely didn't show ANY signs of a crush (and I was on the lookout then, trust me, since I had a huge crush on him then too) I didn't let him know I liked him back then. But he insistEd it was true.

2. Most aquarian men sound like flighty lady killers, and true he has had a LOT of gfs, like 4-5 in that 10 yrs time, but he does seem to be a serial monogamist, which seem atypical of aqua males who want their freedom.

@MeToo, that sounds just like him. My friend is a Cap female and she wants to know a mans bottom line when it comes to progression of afffections so she is very friendly with him and when he announced this new girl she was devistated because it came out of nowhere. Personally, I thought it was amussing because it was so obvious to me that he did it for two reasons 1. he needed a "release" and 2. he couldnt figure out my friend and didnt have the balls to ask. I'm not very close to him.....Aqua's tend to weird me out at times. But I did blatantly ask him if he had feelings for her and he said "I really, truely, genuinely like her" and then bam....the online chick. Crazy. So my advise to her was to just continue as things are and be happy for him that he seemingly found someone. From what people say the relationships they rush into are not the ones that stand the test of time. But my goodness, the way he looks at her makes me blush, and I never blush. I've never seen anything like it!

Reading you guys talking about Cap women and Aqua men, it reminds me of this film:

Capricorn (near Aqua cusp) Zoey Deschanel Jan 17 /and Aquarius (near Pisces cusp) Feb.17

forgot, his name is Joseph Gordon Levitt

To Cupid, they like both , all of it and you. Truly, I wouldn't play coy or play head games with him because he knows you do and will enjoy to antagonize you even more. Aquas aren't that crazy, complicated and weird like others try to make out. Yes, they are a bit different from you or me but who doesn't? Honesty, sincerity , kindness and playfulness will win him over . Not faking things or changing you into something you aren't comfortable with. Honestly, if he already likes/loves you for who you are, do you think doing something so not you would attract him more? And if he doesn't liek you for who you are, trying to act indifferent, would that make him like you? Just think about it.

@PiscesFebFish: Are you crushng on your friend's crush? 😛

*like*

*crushing*

PS: I give up. Phones are tricky to type!

@ Exam, we should all be so lucky to have someone look at us like they see a new day. It doesnt happen often and it gives me hope just to witness it. My Cap friend is a wonderful but very guarded lady so its exciting to know she has someone in her life who can attempt to pull her out from inside. Its unfortunate that its a flakey Aqua so who knows what the outcome will be. Cap women have enough fortitude and grace to navigate a strange situation so I know she'll be fine whatever happens between them. Too bad she thinks astrology is hocus pocus!

Posted by lisabethur8
Reading you guys talking about Cap women and Aqua men, it reminds me of this film:

Capricorn (near Aqua cusp) Zoey Deschanel Jan 17 /and Aquarius (near Pisces cusp) Feb.17

For posting this movie and knowing their sun signs, you are now in my list of favoutire people 🙂 I'm obsessed! and they are both born on the 17th!

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Posted by lisabethur8
Reading you guys talking about Cap women and Aqua men, it reminds me of this film:

Capricorn (near Aqua cusp) Zoey Deschanel Jan 17 /and Aquarius (near Pisces cusp) Feb.17

For posting this movie and knowing their sun signs, you are now in my list of favoutire people 🙂 I'm obsessed! and they are both born on the 17th!

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aw i like this film too. 🙂 thanks sweetie. It was easy to just look up wiki on their bdays.