Do they assume too much?

So everything was great up until maybe yesterday when I got sick. I was supposed to help out aqua friend Sunday (not a major thing just was being nice) so I sent him a text as early as I could that I had a cold etc. and that I wouldn't be able to help him. He never responded. So two hours later I sent another and he said "Sorry, I got your text, I was driving. Feel better!"

Which is all well and nice and then I replied with what my suggestion was to make it up to him the next day (Monday) because I did after all offer to help. He said "No worries, I have nothing to do today (sunday) so I should be fine until then."

So I showed up with some insane expectation (i'm being sarcastic here) that there'd be at least some sympthay or a "Are you feeling better?" or something. The dude was not only quiet the entire time (1-2 hours i was there) but then I told him that I was heading out and I got nothing. Not even a bye.

What tha fack is that? That's not a norm for me...or him...or just anyone in my history of histories!

What's up with Aquas, or aqua men or men?!

My logic side want to say that he being an idiot was just tryinig not to bother me and make my sickness worse (not that he'd know i was feeling a little bleh becuase he didn't ask about it as i mentioned above).

But then my other side is just so I don't know, be fuddled because I know other aqua men and they ALWAYS tend to ask how I'm feeling, or want an update. The only time I know that men get all weird like that when they are preoccupied.

ugh typo. I got sick sunday.

What did you have to help him with?

What does your question even mean?

"Do they assume too much"

That's dumb of him then if he's upset I wasn't around yesterday. Especially if he made it seem like he was capable of handling things on his own. He always says that. It's one of his pet peeves when people assume he can't do things for himself.

A part of me thinks its still the fact that he's either preoccupied (which he's not talking about) or he's assuming too much and thinks staying away from me while I'm still feeling a little bleh (not that he'd know like I said cause he didn't say anything yesterday) but we all know when someone isn't feeling too hot, you are sympathetic!

Also, he sneezed once yesterday (isolated incident) and I said bless you and he didn't even say thank and he's so BIG on manners. That's also a must for him.

WTF is wrong with him lol.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
What does your question even mean?

"Do they assume too much"

Cause the aquas i know, especially the males that I know tend to assume what it is other people want which is the TOTAL opposite of what people want and usually the wrong thing. At least in my experience.

So what I asked was, was he more likely making the assumption that since he thinks I may still not be feeling well (not that he'd know) that he thought it best to ease the situation by being mellow and not saying anything.

When common sense says, you either make people laugh to feel better or be sympathetic.


I was just helping him clean up slight mess/disorganization. He's just so messy.

We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

you are assuming he was even assuming anything.... see the irony here? 😛

Sounds like he either just didn't really care or that he was possibly had a lot on his mind.

I get sick and don't "expect" my friends to be all "awwww you feeling better?" sure it's nice if they do ask, but I don't expect it and I certainly don't get upset if I'm not asked. That's a lot of expectations to place on someone else when it's about being sick.

honestly seems like you are making it a bigger deal than it needs to be....

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Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

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It's called human nature. You made a lot of assumptions about this aqua yourself, besides, he may be assuming or he may not actually be thinking much about anything. You have to realise throwing a question like that on here will net you different responses but you tend to pick the most negative ones.

I am really really confused about this topic here guys....

I don't understand the assuming part what is he assuming?

As for not saying thank you when you blessed him I would be like "did you here me bless you? yes? thank you mystified!" and he would say "thankyou mystified"..

I have no time for shitty people either out with it or get the fuck off my lawn.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I am really really confused about this topic here guys....

I don't understand the assuming part what is he assuming?

As for not saying thank you when you blessed him I would be like "did you here me bless you? yes? thank you mystified!" and he would say "thankyou mystified"..

I have no time for shitty people either out with it or get the fuck off my lawn.

me too

Posted by justagirl
you are assuming he was even assuming anything.... see the irony here? 😛

Sounds like he either just didn't really care or that he was possibly had a lot on his mind.

I get sick and don't "expect" my friends to be all "awwww you feeling better?" sure it's nice if they do ask, but I don't expect it and I certainly don't get upset if I'm not asked. That's a lot of expectations to place on someone else when it's about being sick.

honestly seems like you are making it a bigger deal than it needs to be....

Probably am. But i'm an empathetic person! I'm all about human connectedness and bonding. At my job they had us do this thing called strengths quest strengths finder and it evaluates what our top 5 strengths were or something along those lines. My top 5 were all about bonding, connectedness, team work and all that good stuff.

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Posted by IAmMystified

Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

It's called human nature. You made a lot of assumptions about this aqua yourself, besides, he may be assuming or he may not actually be thinking much about anything. You have to realise throwing a question like that on here will net you different responses but you tend to pick the most negative ones.

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I answer everyone actually.

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Posted by IAmMystified

Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

In a week's time you might look at this post and this thread and laugh, hopefully. Hopefully it'll even encourage you to talk it out with him next time rather than looking for assumptions yourself.

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Wasn't worth talking about, which probably means it wasn't worth thinking about right? I actually did laugh about it when we were laughing about the fact that I jokingly told him I gave him cooties.

I'm sick and he's starting to feel sick and I jokingly said that he probably breathed in my cooties and he remarked "So that's what I got from you?"

So it turned out alright in the end.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I am really really confused about this topic here guys....

I don't understand the assuming part what is he assuming?

As for not saying thank you when you blessed him I would be like "did you here me bless you? yes? thank you mystified!" and he would say "thankyou mystified"..

I have no time for shitty people either out with it or get the fuck off my lawn.

Oh he has a history of making assumptions and forming biases and being adamant about his biases based on things he really knew nothing about in the first place.

So I was assuming he probably formed assumptions again about what was necessary but like someone said above maybe it was one of those times he was probably not assuming anything at all and just doesn't "get it" hehe!

He'll get over it. For a second or two, it crossed his mind that you were full of sh**t...and all his insecurities about women (or you) came out...He was disappointed & being petty for about 3.4 seconds & you saw it...that's all.

You'll always know where an Aqua stands with you in the moment by their body language. Even if they love you more than the moon & the stars, nothing can stop them from the silent treatment or poker face when they're emotionally distant from you on the inside. They're not good at pretending when it comes to stuff like that.

To others, the poker face might mean 'indifference,' but if you get the standoffish demeanor from us, it either means you're a stranger or you done F'd up lol

Again, he'll get over it. He should get used to unexpected occurrences that aren't worth analyzing & you should go on 'head & get used to the 3.5 minute silent treatment/storm that follows the second you do something an Aqua didn't see coming. He got over it just as quickly as he was in his feelings though lol

Ever heard the saying, "I died a little inside?" lol He probably died a little inside the minute he got your message that you couldn't come. He was probably looking forward to having help + seeing you (icing on the cake).

The good news though is that he really likes you! If he didn't, you wouldn't have seen him sweat. Trust me, if an Aqua cares nothing about you & yet you piss them off, nothing on this green earth would ever make them let you see them sweat. They only start slippin' when their feelings are growing for someone (or when they already cared beforehand) =)

Posted by krysrenee7
He'll get over it. For a second or two, it crossed his mind that you were full of sh**t...and all his insecurities about women (or you) came out...He was disappointed & being petty for about 3.4 seconds & you saw it...that's all.

You'll always know where an Aqua stands with you in the moment by their body language. Even if they love you more than the moon & the stars, nothing can stop them from the silent treatment or poker face when they're emotionally distant from you on the inside. They're not good at pretending when it comes to stuff like that.

To others, the poker face might mean 'indifference,' but if you get the standoffish demeanor from us, it either means you're a stranger or you done F'd up lol

Again, he'll get over it. He should get used to unexpected occurrences that aren't worth analyzing & you should go on 'head & get used to the 3.5 minute silent treatment/storm that follows the second you do something an Aqua didn't see coming. He got over it just as quickly as he was in his feelings though lol

Ever heard the saying, "I died a little inside?" lol He probably died a little inside the minute he got your message that you couldn't come. He was probably looking forward to having help + seeing you (icing on the cake).

The good news though is that he really likes you! If he didn't, you wouldn't have seen him sweat. Trust me, if an Aqua cares nothing about you & yet you piss them off, nothing on this green earth would ever make them let you see them sweat. They only start slippin' when their feelings are growing for someone (or when they already cared beforehand) =)

That is true! I've seen people including women get on his ass about whatever it was and he doesn't even care if they are upset or yellin at him or whatever. But the second I say anything he deemed offensive (even when I probably wasn't being offensive)...he gets all quiet and doesn't say anything if you tell him anything or try and start a convo, he'll nod in agreement and kind of end the convo right there.

LMAO. I find the thought funny.

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Posted by IAmMystified

Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

It's called human nature. You made a lot of assumptions about this aqua yourself, besides, he may be assuming or he may not actually be thinking much about anything. You have to realise throwing a question like that on here will net you different responses but you tend to pick the most negative ones.

I answer everyone actually.

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But you don't though, you sound bovvered. Seriously. Your replies are quite noticeable in pattern every since the first question about the aqua guy. I'm surprised you are still friends with him.

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Posted by IAmMystified

Posted by aquasnoz
We don't assume much about anything.

Well actually we do but good luck getting it out of us.

Then why assume anything at all when you may more than likely be completely wrong which means they are forming a bias and perception about someone that isn't accurate.

Kinda sad.

In a week's time you might look at this post and this thread and laugh, hopefully. Hopefully it'll even encourage you to talk it out with him next time rather than looking for assumptions yourself.

Wasn't worth talking about, which probably means it wasn't worth thinking about right? I actually did laugh about it when we were laughing about the fact that I jokingly told him I gave him cooties.

I'm sick and he's starting to feel sick and I jokingly said that he probably breathed in my cooties and he remarked "So that's what I got from you?"

So it turned out alright in the end.

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It wasn't worth talking about, but it was worth making a thread over?
Just flat out adress the issue. Be direct and tell him what you're thinking and you're confused/upset/pissed off/laughing at his behavior. Just get to the point so you don't have to obsess any more.

*says capricorn mercury*

@TrueCap

I make threads about everything just so I can make sense of it to myself. Gotta ask to know right?