Emotional support

Does it make Aquarians uncomfortable to offer it?

I just lost my grandfather, and though I received some support from friends and family, I haven't heard from a single Aquarian that I know (including the one who says he wants to date me, yet he never initiates contact). Seems odd to me, but maybe it isn't.

I'm not expecting anyone to stop what they're doing and rush to my door, but a text? Social media message? Something?

Should I just shrug it off as grief being something my Aquarian friends don't know how to react to?

Kind of interesting because I have thought about it for the last few months.

My parents have both suffered from cancer but only one of them is still alive and he still has to deal with it. My sibbling has had cancer too but he fought it. Most aquarius guys that I have known have cared more or less and it's not like they have permanently cared about my parents but I am ok with it because I know they would care when it matters. I know a lot of Libras and Cancers who still care a lot though. But I have been disappointed by an aquarius girl who is really close to my family, actually we are almost like family, but she never contacted me when things went down, which makes me kind of angry considering I have always cared about her family while all she does is travelling and partying around the world. ^^

I've endured a lot of pain due to loss and circumstances etc and because of the hardships in life that I've endured I have a better understanding of what others might be going through. For this reason I do not shy away from offering emotional support to friends or other loved ones.

I have 4 Aqua placements (Sun, Mars, Merc and S. Node) and I'm far from these stereotypes of a robotic emotionless Aqua. I can only speak for myself but if I appear detached or aloof then I either don't know you well enough to be emotionally open and or my defenses/guards are up.

However, as an acquaintance I'll still ask if you're ok or how you're doing. As a friend (or loved one in general) I'll be there and try my best to make sure you are. Even if I can't physically be there or I'm busy, I'll still make time to reach out somehow.

Not sure how close you are with these "friends" but regardless of sign as friend they could at least send a text.

They aren't really known for being emotionally available... have you even told him about it? I'm sure he would have at least given you his condolences, but it's not something he'd dwell on for very long. If he can avoid your grief then he might try to, strong emotions like that seem to put them off. Wouldn't take it personally though.

Yesterday was very difficult, but now that he's in his final resting place, I'm able to begin the process of learning to go through life without him. Just gonna take it a day at a time.

Thank you for asking. 🙂

One of my Aqua friends I've known almost 3 years. He used to "like" me, but recently flipped that switch like you guys do. Yet we're still friends on social media, so I had hoped for at least some small gesture, but alas...

The Aqua that likes me now I've known over a year now. When I went to hang out with him where he works the night after my granddad passed, he looked at me with great concern, asked how I was, and gave me a great big hug. That was great, but like I said in my original post, he never initiates contact, not even yesterday when the funeral was held. Not sure what to think about that. I'm far from high-maintenance, but a little effort on your part would be nice.

Posted by Keres
Does it make Aquarians uncomfortable to offer it?

I just lost my grandfather, and though I received some support from friends and family, I haven't heard from a single Aquarian that I know (including the one who says he wants to date me, yet he never initiates contact). Seems odd to me, but maybe it isn't.

I'm not expecting anyone to stop what they're doing and rush to my door, but a text? Social media message? Something?

Should I just shrug it off as grief being something my Aquarian friends don't know how to react to?

yes of course, if i love you, and know you very well, i will always extend my love and heartfelt condolences if one of your family members pass away. My mother in law's best friend passed away recently and we weren't close to her that much but my mother inlaw loved her and traveled with her, they were the best of buds. And we extended that heartfelt kindness by sending her cards and gifts, before she passed, just some flowers and even postcards when we went traveling. It's to remember her. And my mother in law was soooo happy we did that, that we even cared.

When she passed, she even gave us some of her traveling albums, she had a quiet funeral ceremony, her body she wished to be cremated.

my Capricorn uncle died earlier this year, and we sent money because we knew he had no insurance, and took care of the family and worked his butt off....he was the one taking care of everyone. And had no time for himself. He even didn't recognize that his heart was faiing. God Bless, and R.I.P.

I think as an aqua moon I prefer to be left alone when I'm upset and I don't realize other people aren't like this so we give some space and may contact later on. I would probably send a txt or msg but I probably wouldn't go to the person to comfort them as when someone does that to me it makes me uncomfortable.

As an Aqua sun, I can only say things that may make you feel better or not. As a Cap moon however I will just stick around and listen. Though as a Cap moon, don't expect anything more then a simple hug. I've been known to go to funerals with a straight face. Even with my own family. Not that I don't care, I do care. It is just how I feel about it. One can be sad without the tears or showing any emotional outcome from it.

I appreciate everyone's insight. It helped new to understand their P.O.V. Thank you for answering.

Posted by Keres
Does it make Aquarians uncomfortable to offer it?

I just lost my grandfather, and though I received some support from friends and family, I haven't heard from a single Aquarian that I know (including the one who says he wants to date me, yet he never initiates contact). Seems odd to me, but maybe it isn't.

I'm not expecting anyone to stop what they're doing and rush to my door, but a text? Social media message? Something?

Should I just shrug it off as grief being something my Aquarian friends don't know how to react to?

I'm sorry but I got earth in my soul and a caring soul too. I just don't know how to say it's going to be alright, when someone passes. I see everyone else cry in funerals I feel I got to stay strong for others.