The Lady Scorpio
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Posted by Gobby
God, you really LOVE drama, don't you...
Not really @Gobby, because I have done nothing so far but observe.
If drama occurs around me, I let it, but I do not participate and have not.
Which means, I have kept my distance and not opened, nor responded to any of his messages.
No contact, has still been kept to.
Is that a crime ? š
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
Posted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Posted by HeartofTopazz
Heās obviously playing games, and will do or say anything to get you to respond. Next, he will get desperate and start making his appearances. Then heāll be quiet again for a bit, and start sending messages again.
Itās a big cycle oā dysfunction. I donāt doubt that he cares for you, itās just the fact that itās selfish & benefits no one. He needs to scram.
Thank you for those words @HeartofTopazz, nothing like DXP to keep my head screwed on straight in a moment of weakness. Not that I have done anything silly, nor broken my self imposed no contact rule.
It does feel like games, and no I do not like the drama but I could feel as if he wants something from me, that I do not want to give. Mainly, it being a reaction.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. šclick to expand
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by HeartofTopazz
Heās obviously playing games, and will do or say anything to get you to respond. Next, he will get desperate and start making his appearances. Then heāll be quiet again for a bit, and start sending messages again.
Itās a big cycle oā dysfunction. I donāt doubt that he cares for you, itās just the fact that itās selfish & benefits no one. He needs to scram.
Thank you for those words @HeartofTopazz, nothing like DXP to keep my head screwed on straight in a moment of weakness. Not that I have done anything silly, nor broken my self imposed no contact rule.
It does feel like games, and no I do not like the drama but I could feel as if he wants something from me, that I do not want to give. Mainly, it being a reaction.click to expand
Topazz is dead right. ignore him....unless you like push and pull and headgames š
Posted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
This ^^^^^
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Wordsclick to expand
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? šclick to expand
Rude? He hasn't actually been considerate to you, and yes with the ones I were with they dragged things on, so I felt compelled to ignore them
If you don't , you are still allowing them into your life on some level.....and they sense it
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by HeartofTopazz
Heās obviously playing games, and will do or say anything to get you to respond. Next, he will get desperate and start making his appearances. Then heāll be quiet again for a bit, and start sending messages again.
Itās a big cycle oā dysfunction. I donāt doubt that he cares for you, itās just the fact that itās selfish & benefits no one. He needs to scram.
Thank you for those words @HeartofTopazz, nothing like DXP to keep my head screwed on straight in a moment of weakness. Not that I have done anything silly, nor broken my self imposed no contact rule.
It does feel like games, and no I do not like the drama but I could feel as if he wants something from me, that I do not want to give. Mainly, it being a reaction.
Topazz is dead right. ignore him....unless you like push and pull and headgames šclick to expand
I have continued to ignore him, putting the 'out of sight, out of mind' rule to good use. It has not been easy, I will admit to that.
However, no contact is still firmly in place. That will not change, mostly because I really have nothing I want to say to him. I thought I did, but then thought about it again a few days ago and realised really it is for the better that I let that hope go, and continue on that mindset.
I do have my moment of weaknesses, what is DXP for but to keep me from being a fool. I sure need it now.
Posted by tizianiPosted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.
Lol you know the letter I'm talking about right? Aren't people supposed to wait at least a month before sending that stuff, I dunno.click to expand
People send such letters ?
I thought that was a fable tiz, because I never sent those before. š
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
Rude? He hasn't actually been considerate to you, and yes with the ones I were with they dragged things on, so I felt compelled to ignore them
If you don't , you are still allowing them into your life on some level.....and they sense itclick to expand
Not rude, to him per se, though if I were rude to him, he would deserve it but why stoop to his level ?
It would goes against my standards. I have ignored him, and to be honest I am using DXP as a channel to get through my weaker moments. This is one now, I will not waver but I needed people to give me a bit of a mental wake me up slap. It will do me good. š
Posted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.
Lol you know the letter I'm talking about right? Aren't people supposed to wait at least a month before sending that stuff, I dunno.
People send such letters ?
I thought that was a fable tiz, because I never sent those before. š
I remember it because my Scorpio friend once tried it on her Aries ex (and they actually got together again later, but not because of the letter)
https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back-using-the-seed-letter-technique/
"So what is the Seed Letter for?
āThe Seed Letter is purely to capture his interest.ā
With this in mind, the TIMING of the letter is crucial to get right. If you send the letter too soon, it will only raise SUSPICION. Thatās the last thing you want him to do.
The original First Contact Formula was kind of complicated and needed improvements. This time, Iāve simplifed things even further.
Actually, itās rather simpleā¦
Write and send the Seed Letter as soon you meet these criteria!
1. You must accept and agree with his decision to separate.
2. You must have made changes and have exciting news to share.
3. Once you send the Seed Letter you must not contact him and move onto Step 3: Removing His Resistance.
If you donāt meet all three of the above, then donāt send it until you do!"click to expand
Bloody hell, since when was I not ahead of the times about the existence of such things. I will admit this is the very first time I have ever heard of a 'Seed Letter'. š
He certainly did a good job of raising my suspicions and making me put him further into the depths of my winter.
On another note, does your Stinger friend and her Ram Ex, laugh about it now in hindsight, and are they still together ?
Posted by Antiochus
Sounds like he is feeling bad about what happened.
Talking like nothing has happened and without an apology seems to be an air sign trait in general since I've seen it with all of them.
It usually can be safely ignored.
Is it an air sign trait ?
Why I must be very lucky to have quite a few air signs return as of late, to acknowledge and apologise for what they had done years ago. In fact, most of them we had a falling out with where I was done with their bullturd. For them, to not only change, grow, and be well enough to apologise, so thoroughly. Certainly made those renewed friendships far stronger than they ever could be before.
As a Water Bearer, do you struggle with apologies ?
Posted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.
Lol you know the letter I'm talking about right? Aren't people supposed to wait at least a month before sending that stuff, I dunno.
People send such letters ?
I thought that was a fable tiz, because I never sent those before. š
I remember it because my Scorpio friend once tried it on her Aries ex (and they actually got together again later, but not because of the letter)
https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back-using-the-seed-letter-technique/
"So what is the Seed Letter for?
āThe Seed Letter is purely to capture his interest.ā
With this in mind, the TIMING of the letter is crucial to get right. If you send the letter too soon, it will only raise SUSPICION. Thatās the last thing you want him to do.
The original First Contact Formula was kind of complicated and needed improvements. This time, Iāve simplifed things even further.
Actually, itās rather simpleā¦
Write and send the Seed Letter as soon you meet these criteria!
1. You must accept and agree with his decision to separate.
2. You must have made changes and have exciting news to share.
3. Once you send the Seed Letter you must not contact him and move onto Step 3: Removing His Resistance.
If you donāt meet all three of the above, then donāt send it until you do!"
Bloody hell, since when was I not ahead of the times about the existence of such things. I will admit this is the very first time I have ever heard of a 'Seed Letter'. š
He certainly did a good job of raising my suspicions and making me put him further into the depths of my winter.
On another note, does your Stinger friend and her Ram Ex, laugh about it now in hindsight, and are they still together ?
I don't think they are together today, but they probably still care for each other. When two people get along, they get along. And yeah they probably laugh about it, which is why I'm not going to come down on your Aqua or you if you both ever spend time with each other again. It's always a two-way street.click to expand
Thank you tiz, if that should ever happen I will know at least one person will not judge me for it.
That is true, which is why in hindsight a part of me wished that we never took it further than a friendship. In fact, I suppose if we had let it stay there, we might still be friends today. He would make a far better friend than a lover, he would drive any woman mad. That is until he has done what he needs to do, to deal with his demons. Perhaps then, one day he would make a great lover, but not for me. Although, to lose everything, the friendship as well was the hardest part. Ironically, I trusted him more so when we were friends than when we were more.
Why are you such an advocate of the AquaScorp connection, have you seen a lot of it around you and what elements of it makes you believe in its success ?
Posted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
If you see my response to stars, you will know why.
Posted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.click to expand
Some of them are always on the 'better late than never' bandwagon it seems, more so than ahead of their time. š
Posted by AntiochusPosted by tizianiPosted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.
Lol you know the letter I'm talking about right? Aren't people supposed to wait at least a month before sending that stuff, I dunno.
I thonk so, yes.
I'm serious though. When the Gemini ghosted me I went through all those steps and phases within a couple of days because I wanted to be done with it.
Not the best of ideas in hindsight though.click to expand
What steps and phases, of grief ?
Posted by SkeletonPosted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
Ditto, who the fuck do we need to deal with that after break up?click to expand
+ 1
Haha only matter of time before his guy starts stalking you again
Posted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
If you see my response to stars, you will know why.
What ?
@Skeleton Yourself honey, yourself.click to expand
"I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking."
This was part of what I wrote in response to MyStarsShine, it answers why I have not blocked him.
Posted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.
Lol you know the letter I'm talking about right? Aren't people supposed to wait at least a month before sending that stuff, I dunno.
People send such letters ?
I thought that was a fable tiz, because I never sent those before. š
I remember it because my Scorpio friend once tried it on her Aries ex (and they actually got together again later, but not because of the letter)
https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back-using-the-seed-letter-technique/
"So what is the Seed Letter for?
āThe Seed Letter is purely to capture his interest.ā
With this in mind, the TIMING of the letter is crucial to get right. If you send the letter too soon, it will only raise SUSPICION. Thatās the last thing you want him to do.
The original First Contact Formula was kind of complicated and needed improvements. This time, Iāve simplifed things even further.
Actually, itās rather simpleā¦
Write and send the Seed Letter as soon you meet these criteria!
1. You must accept and agree with his decision to separate.
2. You must have made changes and have exciting news to share.
3. Once you send the Seed Letter you must not contact him and move onto Step 3: Removing His Resistance.
If you donāt meet all three of the above, then donāt send it until you do!"
Bloody hell, since when was I not ahead of the times about the existence of such things. I will admit this is the very first time I have ever heard of a 'Seed Letter'. š
He certainly did a good job of raising my suspicions and making me put him further into the depths of my winter.
On another note, does your Stinger friend and her Ram Ex, laugh about it now in hindsight, and are they still together ?
I don't think they are together today, but they probably still care for each other. When two people get along, they get along. And yeah they probably laugh about it, which is why I'm not going to come down on your Aqua or you if you both ever spend time with each other again. It's always a two-way street.
Thank you tiz, if that should ever happen I will know at least one person will not judge me for it.
That is true, which is why in hindsight a part of me wished that we never took it further than a friendship. In fact, I suppose if we had let it stay there, we might still be friends today. He would make a far better friend than a lover, he would drive any woman mad. That is until he has done what he needs to do, to deal with his demons. Perhaps then, one day he would make a great lover, but not for me. Although, to lose everything, the friendship as well was the hardest part. Ironically, I trusted him more so when we were friends than when we were more.
Why are you such an advocate of the AquaScorp connection, have you seen a lot of it around you and what elements of it makes you believe in its success ?
"Thank you tiz, if that should ever happen I will know at least one person will not judge me for it."
Of course, it's never a nice feeling to be painted into a corner. Whether you both never talk again or you do, as long as you did what's healthiest for you that's all that matters. No one else is going to worry about your health for you.
"Ironically, I trusted him more so when we were friends than when we were more. "
I understand that sentiment very well.
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For Aqua Scorp, the two signs are connected by solstice points in astrology. They mirror each other across the north/south divide of the zodiac (depends on degrees of each person's natal Sun). But for me personally all astro aside, I've seen more than a few Aqua-Scorpio couples IRL that just have a very good and somewhat unique understanding.click to expand
Is it me, or have you grown quite a bit as well since your early days here on DXP. Good to hear and see how far you have come, I suppose that is to be said for quite a few veteran members as well. Myself included, I should hope. Strange, how life turns out. š
Funny enough I see more Stinger - Libran couples around me in real life, than Stinger - Water Bearers. That coupling seems to be strong amongst the ones I know. Every single one of those couples, the Stinger has an air moon and the Libran a water moon. Though that is getting too simplistic in terms of astrology, and that changes between Vedic and Western.
Posted by HeartofTopazzPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by HeartofTopazz
Heās obviously playing games, and will do or say anything to get you to respond. Next, he will get desperate and start making his appearances. Then heāll be quiet again for a bit, and start sending messages again.
Itās a big cycle oā dysfunction. I donāt doubt that he cares for you, itās just the fact that itās selfish & benefits no one. He needs to scram.
Thank you for those words @HeartofTopazz, nothing like DXP to keep my head screwed on straight in a moment of weakness. Not that I have done anything silly, nor broken my self imposed no contact rule.
It does feel like games, and no I do not like the drama but I could feel as if he wants something from me, that I do not want to give. Mainly, it being a reaction.
Youāre welcome. If Iām honest I do find it a bit odd that you are keeping a line of communication open.. Yet you say you have a strict no contact rule. I guess I think of āno contactā as neither side can communicate. I may be wrong, he probably sees that you havenāt blocked him yet. Usually the contact wonāt appear, or messages arenāt delivered. He could read into that, and think he still has a chance. I know I would. Lol
I would quit reading the messages & block him for a bit. Take some time to process your emotions, because it seems like youāre only focused on how heās feeling.click to expand
My no contact rules, mean I never reach out in any form what so ever, nor would I respond. That is in essence no contact, because nothing is coming from my side. To learn to be indifferent, to not care, rather than to have to erect a wall to move on.
Does that make sense ?
I want to know that I am capable, of not having emotions rile up one day should I run into him on the streets or at an event. I want to know that I have the self control and capacity to move on in a generous big hearted way, not because he deserves it but because I do it for myself.
I have always enacted so with anyone that I had ended things with. I do not outright block them, or delete them. I simply force myself to move on without those means, using self control. There are many people who I still have their contacts to but never spoken to in years. Perhaps, it is my strange way of collecting people, like souvenirs.
Yes, you are right. For a moment there, I focused on his feelings. Which is why I am writing here now, I am having a low moment and even though I probably should not. I am using DXP, to get myself past those dips, and having all you lovely DXPers set my head straight. It keeps me level headed. I need that now, and not because I do not have genuine friends but there is so much you could take from friends before you yourself would feel bad. They have a life too, as do I. I try very much to respect that. š
Posted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
If you see my response to stars, you will know why.
What ?
@Skeleton Yourself honey, yourself.
"I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking."
This was part of what I wrote in response to MyStarsShine, it answers why I have not blocked him.
You're weird. That guy literally treated you like shit, yet you're worried to be "rude" for blocking his ass ? You know I've been curious for a couple of time now, but what's your placements ?click to expand
Perhaps I am weird, oh well but I stubbornly stand by the rules I set for myself long ago. That was always one of them, I will not lower my standards suddenly to block someone. I will rely on my own self control, regardless of whether or not he deserves it. This is about me, more than him. To prove to myself, I could still move on in this way.
I do have airiness in my chart, if that sates your curiousity. Which I have shared multiple times now in my other thread.
Posted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06
Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't blocked him yet. Delete his number and cut off all contact with that asshole.
If you see my response to stars, you will know why.
What ?
@Skeleton Yourself honey, yourself.
"I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking."
This was part of what I wrote in response to MyStarsShine, it answers why I have not blocked him.
You're weird. That guy literally treated you like shit, yet you're worried to be "rude" for blocking his ass ? You know I've been curious for a couple of time now, but what's your placements ?click to expand
Perhaps I am weird, oh well but I stubbornly stand by the rules I set for myself long ago. That was always one of them, I will not lower my standards suddenly to block someone. I will rely on my own self control, regardless of whether or not he deserves it. This is about me, more than him. To prove to myself, I could still move on in this way.
I do have airiness in my chart, if that sates your curiousity. Which I have shared multiple times now in my other thread.
Posted by AntiochusPosted by tiziani
It sounds like he sent the "make your ex come back" letter. Though he jumped the gun and sent it very early.
Aquas are always ahead of their time.click to expand
Or always late to the party š
Posted by Koni
Why keep talking to this guy? Thatās the part that really doesnāt make sense
Read again, I have not. He keeps writing me, but I am in my no contact phase.
Bloody hell, as much as I truly appreciate you all but please - is there a reading comprehension issue ?
I have not replied to any of his messages. He keeps writing, but I have been in my no contact phase.
Silence on my end.
I have not replied to any of his messages. He keeps writing, but I have been in my no contact phase.
Silence on my end.
Posted by KoniPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Koni
Why keep talking to this guy? Thatās the part that really doesnāt make sense
Read again, I have not. He keeps writing me, but I am in my no contact phase.
Ok. Then Iām with the crowd that doesnāt understand why you just donāt block him. What does it matter why really? Itās a waste of Time and energyclick to expand
The crowd is not wrong. To be honest @Koni, I was having a weak moment but thankfully did nothing silly. I merely used this thread as a way of helping me move past any possible foolish thought. It is the highs and lows of the grieving process of the ending that is all.
Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?click to expand
Precisely why I made this thread, to stop myself from over analysing and have DXPers get me to my senses. I do not want to do anything foolish merely because I have a moment of weakness during my grieving process. This place, you lovely DXPers keep me sane with mental wake up calls. š
Posted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?click to expand
There is more than one way to delete someone from their lives, mine simply does not include blocking. I still move on, and have every time I encountered such individuals in my past. Though I am still in my up and down phase, that much I will admit but it is always a working progress. After all, this is still new.
Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
I guess she was being stubborn about it. I even sent her a PM before telling her its a bit similar to my ex considering her aqua and mine are both Leo moon Aquas. And that the man is just not right and just stringing her along. She wouldnt have it.
Sometimes it all boils down to how secured they are by themselves, i guess. I have noticed it with women who cannot be on their own. They keep on accepting toxic behavior because they feel its better than being alone. And sometimes, not until a replacement comes along, that person wont let go. But then the cycle repeats over and over because they still havent found a way to be secured by themselves.click to expand
Are you speaking of me or another user ?
After all, I have never received a PM from you. I am rather confused here ASCoppVenus.
Posted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
There is more than one way to delete someone from their lives, mine simply does not include blocking. I still move on, and have every time I encountered such individuals in my past. Though I am still in my up and down phase, that much I will admit but it is always a working progress. After all, this is still new.
Okay, that's your way to deal with it. But meanwhile, you're still reading his messages and that's what I don't understand.click to expand
It was in my notifications, which was why I could read it but otherwise, his messages remain unopened. In time, I will not be reading them, even in my notifications. Not quite there yet, it has only been a week. I will not pretend I am that far healed but I will eventually.
Posted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
There is more than one way to delete someone from their lives, mine simply does not include blocking. I still move on, and have every time I encountered such individuals in my past. Though I am still in my up and down phase, that much I will admit but it is always a working progress. After all, this is still new.
Okay, that's your way to deal with it. But meanwhile, you're still reading his messages and that's what I don't understand.
It was in my notifications, which was why I could read it but otherwise, his messages remain unopened. In time, I will not be reading them, even in my notifications. Not quite there yet, it has only been a week. I will not pretend I am that far healed but I will eventually.
If you say so...click to expand
I say so, what point is there to lie because I happen to be a different type of Stinger woman as compared to you ?
No, there is no point in that.
Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
I guess she was being stubborn about it. I even sent her a PM before telling her its a bit similar to my ex considering her aqua and mine are both Leo moon Aquas. And that the man is just not right and just stringing her along. She wouldnt have it.
Sometimes it all boils down to how secured they are by themselves, i guess. I have noticed it with women who cannot be on their own. They keep on accepting toxic behavior because they feel its better than being alone. And sometimes, not until a replacement comes along, that person wont let go. But then the cycle repeats over and over because they still havent found a way to be secured by themselves.
Wait, I thought she said he's an Aries or Cancer moon ? I think she was too nice with him. He probably knew it and took her for granted.
I agree with the rest, but I think it can happen to men as well. I'm not sure if she couldn't really live alone, because she said multiple times she would "survive" on her own, and I believe her. The problem is the Aqua guy, he's just toxic and doesn't know what he wants.
I think leo moon. (?) Its why i told her it was the same pattern as my ex. And yes, it can happen to men as well. I guess people have different responses to failed rs and toxic people. Not cutting people off when they did me wrong is not something im ok to do. Life is short and we all gotta be selective on who we keep and who we let go of. Toxic people kept in our circle is just baggage waiting to dump on us when they get the chance. At least thats how I see it. I think it also takes time to heal so not cutting someone off to allow yourself to heal is not gonna help. Theres facebook stalking, theres cryptic messages that will surely happen... its just gonna be exhausting.click to expand
There are different ways for people coping with letting others go. For me, personally, I do not believe in stone walling someone out of my life. I rather actively learn to heal myself to the point where one day, even should I see them, I will be able to meet them with indifference, and if it did not end with extreme animosity, at least be cordial. I do not wish to give them so much power that I must block them out. Either way is not wrong at all, but I know what works better for me and with what I strongly believe in. In this way, I get to heal with my generous heart in tact, and not change myself simply because of a lesser experience.
Heās being cryptic cause heās trying to tempt you into responding. Stay cold. Donāt play his game.
Posted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by ASCoppVenusPosted by peachy06Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by AerialView
He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
I guess she was being stubborn about it. I even sent her a PM before telling her its a bit similar to my ex considering her aqua and mine are both Leo moon Aquas. And that the man is just not right and just stringing her along. She wouldnt have it.
Sometimes it all boils down to how secured they are by themselves, i guess. I have noticed it with women who cannot be on their own. They keep on accepting toxic behavior because they feel its better than being alone. And sometimes, not until a replacement comes along, that person wont let go. But then the cycle repeats over and over because they still havent found a way to be secured by themselves.
Wait, I thought she said he's an Aries or Cancer moon ? I think she was too nice with him. He probably knew it and took her for granted.
I agree with the rest, but I think it can happen to men as well. I'm not sure if she couldn't really live alone, because she said multiple times she would "survive" on her own, and I believe her. The problem is the Aqua guy, he's just toxic and doesn't know what he wants.
I think leo moon. (?) Its why i told her it was the same pattern as my ex. And yes, it can happen to men as well. I guess people have different responses to failed rs and toxic people. Not cutting people off when they did me wrong is not something im ok to do. Life is short and we all gotta be selective on who we keep and who we let go of. Toxic people kept in our circle is just baggage waiting to dump on us when they get the chance. At least thats how I see it. I think it also takes time to heal so not cutting someone off to allow yourself to heal is not gonna help. Theres facebook stalking, theres cryptic messages that will surely happen... its just gonna be exhausting.
Wise words. I agree. You can't progress if you let negative/toxic people invade your life. When I was immature I wouldn't let go of such people, until eventually they showed me their real colors and I cut them all off. Since then, I became more aware and selective with people, that I let in. Lesson learned ha ha.click to expand
This I agree with, absolutely.
Not blocking, and not letting go are two very different things. Keep in mind, I am not saying your way is wrong. It is by far not wrong at all, but neither is mine. Different people have different ways of coping and healing. I respect yours, so respect mine.
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He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
There is more than one way to delete someone from their lives, mine simply does not include blocking. I still move on, and have every time I encountered such individuals in my past. Though I am still in my up and down phase, that much I will admit but it is always a working progress. After all, this is still new.
Okay, that's your way to deal with it. But meanwhile, you're still reading his messages and that's what I don't understand.
It was in my notifications, which was why I could read it but otherwise, his messages remain unopened. In time, I will not be reading them, even in my notifications. Not quite there yet, it has only been a week. I will not pretend I am that far healed but I will eventually.
If you say so...
I say so, what point is there to lie because I happen to be a different type of Stinger woman as compared to you ?
No, there is no point in that.
I'm not saying we're all the same, if we let astrology aside, yes, we're our own person. But astrologically speaking, it's the first time I see a Scorpio woman who wouldn't cut off someone. All those I've met would just move on and not let things draining like this. It's...unusual. And a waste of time.
Just in case, I didn't want to offend you.click to expand
Not blocking does not mean not cutting him off. No contact, is cutting him off. He does not have me.
Trust me, he knows that. People that have experienced my no contact, knows how it feels and it is as equivalent to blocking. I self impose and mentally block them out of my life. It takes time for me to build up that defence I must admit but once there, it is impenetrable and they know it. I find that a far healthier way for me to deal with consider some of my experiences in the past. It stays true to who I am, and I hope to remain that generously open hearted individual despite bad experiences.
I could pretend to 'just move on, but that is putting on a brave face and enacting avoidance. Not truly, tackling the issue at hand and grieving properly. I rather be human and admit that I have my lesser moments of weakness. I rather write about it, that way I know once I do move on fully. I will be done for good.
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He's barely an Aquarius if I'm not mistaken.
He is a Goat heavy Water Bearer, that you are correct in @AerialView.
Although quite frankly, he does not act like any of the Goat Gents I know of either.
I must say his Water Bearer card needs to be taken away, because he is not doing you lot justice at all. In fact, he fails at it. š
Isn't an Aqua/Pisces/Cappy?
I used to get that when it was too late....flowers, letters, pleads of "I will change" etc...
Words
Yes, he is but still quite a fair amount of Goat.
Precisely, words ... though precious to some, meaningless to others.
As experience has taught me about him, his words changes all the time.
He went from I will never want to see or talk with you ever again, to talk to you when you pick up your belongings, to I have put them out far earlier so I could avoid seeing or talking to you, to I want to run to you with news, things have changed, and maybe one day I will tell you.
No.
No Water Bearer, it does not work that way.
I told him I would not contact him, and I have stuck to my words.
Whilst he could barely keep to his.
I have no intentions of blocking him because it would be rather rude. I rarely block people at all, on anything much less life unless it gets so horribly bad that it has gone past the point of no return. Usually, I prefer to use my sense of self control and filters to move on forward in life, rather than to resort to blocking.
You got all that, am I to expect this to go on for quite some time ? š
@Ladyleo18 is that you ?
Yeah i did remember her š the overanalyzing part. ahh maybe aquas do make people confused?
We all remember her lmao. Maybe they do, I don't know.
š yes. Aquas can be tough, i guess.
That one sounds like a weak ass, though. š¤£
Hahahaha! I did get the same impression š¤£ There were obvious clues for the longest time but she tried to read it differently. I just couldnt grasp why. ššššš
Even I had a feeling he was a red flag. I would never understand people who won't delete toxic people from their life. How could you move on, like that ?
There is more than one way to delete someone from their lives, mine simply does not include blocking. I still move on, and have every time I encountered such individuals in my past. Though I am still in my up and down phase, that much I will admit but it is always a working progress. After all, this is still new.
Okay, that's your way to deal with it. But meanwhile, you're still reading his messages and that's what I don't understand.
It was in my notifications, which was why I could read it but otherwise, his messages remain unopened. In time, I will not be reading them, even in my notifications. Not quite there yet, it has only been a week. I will not pretend I am that far healed but I will eventually.
If you say so...
I say so, what point is there to lie because I happen to be a different type of Stinger woman as compared to you ?
No, there is no point in that.
I'm not saying we're all the same, if we let astrology aside, yes, we're our own person. But astrologically speaking, it's the first time I see a Scorpio woman who wouldn't cut off someone. All those I've met would just move on and not let things draining like this. It's...unusual. And a waste of time.
Just in case, I didn't want to offend you.
Not blocking does not mean not cutting him off. No contact, is cutting him off. He does not have me.
Trust me, he knows that. People that have experienced my no contact, knows how it feels and it is as equivalent to blocking. I self impose and mentally block them out of my life. It takes time for me to build up that defence I must admit but once there, it is impenetrable and they know it. I find that a far healthier way for me to deal with consider some of my experiences in the past. It stays true to who I am, and I hope to remain that generously open hearted individual despite bad experiences.
I could pretend to 'just move on, but that is putting on a brave face and enacting avoidance. Not truly, tackling the issue at hand and grieving properly. I rather be human and admit that I have my lesser moments of weakness. I rather write about it, that way I know once I do move on fully. I will be done for good.
I just think it takes too much time. I see your point, but it's too long. Why waiting when you can do something quickly ?click to expand
Simply because I am patient with myself. Being impatient, and rushing the process has always backfired on me. So learning from my own experiences, I go the slow but steady route. I end up with a far stronger and stable resolve.
Posted by tizianiPosted by MissKrabs
so now he is not movingā lmao
so all this time he was trying to get a certain reaction from you and he is not stopping. like a kid. even my kid knows when it is enough.
It's crazy when you find out the grown adult you respected has turned into a baby infant.click to expand
No, it is far worse to realise that the man you thought you were with, simply turned out to be an infant child all along.
Who was the greater fool, him or I ?
/shakesmyhead
If itās only been a week, how does any here expect you to move on so quicklyā??
Heās still writing because he still cares about you. He doesnāt want you to forget him and move on. It drives him crazy that you wonāt answer.
Heās still writing because he still cares about you. He doesnāt want you to forget him and move on. It drives him crazy that you wonāt answer.
Posted by tizianiPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by MissKrabs
so now he is not movingā lmao
so all this time he was trying to get a certain reaction from you and he is not stopping. like a kid. even my kid knows when it is enough.
It's crazy when you find out the grown adult you respected has turned into a baby infant.
No, it is far worse to realise that the man you thought you were with, simply turned out to be an infant child all along.
Who was the greater fool, him or I ?
/shakesmyhead
Hm. Do you really believe that? You know better than me what the situation is, but to me as an outsider that sounds like the time you spent together deserves more credit than you're giving.click to expand
Honestly tiz, in hindsight I believe he wants to be the man but he is not quite there yet. Somewhere inside him, he wants it very badly. As said before, until he puts in the work, he will remain the same. I am much further along in my personal development than he ever was. Though my life experiences gave me no choice. It forced me to not hide, and deal with my own demons. That was the only way to survive.
He lacks the courage still, hopefully one day he will figure it out. Tried as I might have, to share with him the ways in which I got to where I am today. You cannot change someone when they themselves are unwilling to. I saw his potential more than what he saw in himself. That is always a dangerous pathway to go down. One I must learn to temper in the future, seeing the good in people is only fair and well to a certain point. No individual or situation is simply ever good or bad. Life and love is hardly ever binary. We had some beautiful moments.
Posted by pinkbird03
If itās only been a week, how does any here expect you to move on so quicklyā??
Heās still writing because he still cares about you. He doesnāt want you to forget him and move on. It drives him crazy that you wonāt answer.
@pinkbird03, I do not think that the DXPers expressing their sentiment for me to move on quickly, was done with bad intentions. They simply do not want to see me hurt, considering how the situation played out. I understand it. They are frustrated, on behalf of what I had experienced.
As much as I do not like some of the harsh words in here. A part of me also need the wake up calls, in between those kind and gentle reminders that I could find something much more worth my while. That I could do better and it is to my best interest to heal, and to move forward.
I do not doubt that perhaps a part of him still cares, but it is not enough. The damage he caused would take him having worked on himself, and years of friendship to repair. Even then, the scar will always be there, I cannot forget it. Of course he does not want me to forget him, and I never will. I never forget any one who ever came into my life, good or bad. Though he will not know about that.
He drove me crazy as well, to have blamed me after having done no wrong, gaslighted me and then to be thrown out like a dog. Perhaps now he will have the silence to reflect on the consequences of his choices, words, and actions. This is not a punishment for him, but distance which I need for myself.
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by tizianiPosted by MissKrabs
so now he is not movingā lmao
so all this time he was trying to get a certain reaction from you and he is not stopping. like a kid. even my kid knows when it is enough.
It's crazy when you find out the grown adult you respected has turned into a baby infant.
No, it is far worse to realise that the man you thought you were with, simply turned out to be an infant child all along.
Who was the greater fool, him or I ?
/shakesmyhead
Be very wary. Youāre kinda making fun of someoneās obvious pain.
Whether or not he deserved it remains to be seen but having people jump on and stick a boot in is pretty shitttt.
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Making fun of who's pain, that was not my intent. His pain ?
Trust me, I have empathised enough with it, and gave a lot to his plight. I do and did.
In fact, more so than not, I believe I was making a jab at myself.
Nobody was jumping unto any bandwagon, or sticking a boot in. Honestly, I do not know how or where you see that.
Posted by Waterbearerwearer
The long and short of it is If he canāt show vulnerability and be emotionally honest about where he fkd up thereās no peace building in that...ever.
Iād never entertain a conversation where there were no therapeutic aspects so in some ways you are getting something out of this.
Reality is though by sticking around and throwing logs on his fire with your replies, youāll only create more confusion and chaos.
As I have highlighted the key points in my original post that you had evidently missed.
"Quite frankly, I had been keeping a no contact policy. I will admit it is not easy. Though I could read all his messages in notification, I have not actually opened said messages at all. However, I am adamant to remain in no contact so I could heal properly so. I know if I do not, it would make me spiral backwards."
Perhaps it was quick skimming that caused you to misunderstand me but bloody hell, please read something thoroughly before throwing judgements my way. I take criticism, because quite a few of you have been right about things I need to improve on, but not judgements.
I have not entertained his conversations, nor have I kept him dangling. That would be cruel. All I have done is remain distant, and kept at no contact. He has not heard from me at all. Completely silence on my end. Therefore no, that is not an individual seeking drama. No response, is also a response and a choice.
Posted by tiziani
I'm probably the last person to stick a boot in on this site.
On here it's the convention to basically use your venting as an opportunity to morally condemn the other person in the story.
Your story just reminded me of all the times I'd been found wanting in a relationship and reacted like a child. And the times I've been on the end of someone I respected reacting like a child.
It happens. And it's crazy when it does happen. I dunno that's just part of adulting. Letting go of trying to control those moments, but still knowing and accepting a part of you lives for their betterment all the same EVEN when their betterment is so obviously not within your hands to control and never was.
I do not think you were sticking a boot in him at all, which was why I do not understand why she said that.
Interesting, although I must say I do not morally condemn him. It is what it is, we were just in different places in regards to our personal development. It happens, timing is very important. Evidently as I have admitted, I have further growth to embark on as well. The journey to self awareness never ends, as it never should for anyone.
Ah, have we all not been there. It takes being a child, and having seen someone be a child, to really get a perspective on life. You make enough foolish mistakes, and you mature. That is the way it is. I believe that is a journey, most people take. For some, it may not happen until they are in their elderly years. For some, it may happen very early on in their life. Regardless, it is a lesson most people will have to learn.
I don't know what's going on TLS...Aquarius ?!...Can you give me a quick resume ?! ^^
Whatever happened, let me give you the best advice for you...."No response, is also a response and a choice" š
There is allways a choice in life, so just be sure of one thing...Make It Yours.
Whatever happened, let me give you the best advice for you...."No response, is also a response and a choice" š
There is allways a choice in life, so just be sure of one thing...Make It Yours.
Posted by JanMayMarry
Ya know, after reading what you wrote for quite a bit..I guess that's probably just his way of dealing and coping?
Being an air sign, I do have similar thing. Like if someone hurts me or I felt hurt, the need for me to express myself and keep on writing to them, is always there. Give him time, eventually he will stop.
I think. :/
Strangely enough @JanMayMarry, he always told me if he ends things. He merely forgets, and moves on.
Perhaps it may be his way of dealing and coping. However, he has run the gamut from blocking me everywhere, to screaming at me through messages, to unblocking me partially so, to writing what he has in his most recent message.
I never did anything to hurt him, if anything, he chose to hurt himself. It is truly on him, all I ever wanted to do was love him, but he refused to believe / accept it.
He has all the time and space in the world, I will not barge in on it.
As I promised him, when he kicked me out, that he will have his freedom.
What air sign are you ? š
Posted by IamTheRam
I don't know what's going on TLS...Aquarius ?!...Can you give me a quick resume ?! ^^
Whatever happened, let me give you the best advice for you...."No response, is also a response and a choice" š
There is allways a choice in life, so just be sure of one thing...Make It Yours.
Let me write you in that long ago Ram thread instead. š
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