First date in my life. dating w/ Aqua&Pisces moon

Posted by Sugarfoot
He's not the only guy on earth and it really shouldn't be this hard. It's a waste of energy if you ask me. Let it go.

Posted by 1thgirls
Help me pls.
This is my first time dating in my life... and I ended up dating with this Aquarius sun, Pisces moon and Pisces venus.
We used to be friends for maybe 4 months before getting into dating stage.
It happened really fast though... He didn't tell me officially that we're dating, but he jokingly said that we're dating several times.

My problem is I don't know how to react in a relationship especially with this man. I know it's weird and strange.
But my imagination of a relationship is NOT like this at all.

First of all: Our dating is a secret. Well, FYI we started dating for only a month now.
2nd: I feel like he doesn't care me much like what I feel to him. He showed up late in our appts twice! And he knows I don't like people who always show up late.
3rd: He didn't text me "night night" for 2 days now. I was the one who said it first.
4th: We're in a long distance relationship. We live 2hr and a half away from each other. I'd love to go to see him. No problem. BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.
6th: He still make his life mysterious to me. If I don't ask, he won't tell.


FYI: I'm Libra sun, Leo moon and Libra venus. I know myself I always overthink, care about him too much, wanna talk to him everyday, and maybe needy and clingy sometimes. I'm trying to stop though...

So pls pls tell me how to date with his guy? Should I pay more attention to him OR leave him alone OR wait for him to initiate text?
Why he did to me like that? Does this mean he's not serious in our relationship?

Pls give me suggestion how can I do to make this relationship last long.

Thanks everyone!!!

Posted by 1thgirls

Posted by Sugarfoot
He's not the only guy on earth and it really shouldn't be this hard. It's a waste of energy if you ask me. Let it go.

So this is not a first stage relationship should be?

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I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag

Posted by 1thgirls
He showed up late in our appts twice! And he knows I don't like people who always show up late.

He doesn't respect your feelings. Being late is a red flag that you're not that important.
(Unless he had a valid reason)

Posted by 1thgirls
He didn't text me "night night" for 2 days now. I was the one who said it first.

That seems a little needy and immature on your part. But you shouldn't be the one initiating all the texts.

Posted by 1thgirls
4th: We're in a long distance relationship. We live 2hr and a half away from each other.

I don't see the feasibility of a long distance relationship.

Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex.

Posted by 1thgirls
6th: He still make his life mysterious to me. If I don't ask, he won't tell.

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The early stage of a relationship is all about getting to know each other. He apparantly doesn't want you to know about his life. He doesn't have to tell you at this stage what he's doing all the time. He could be seeing other people too and that is appropriate because he's not committed to you. And, he shouldn't have to divulge private details because deeply personal things shouldn't be shared with someone you barely know. BUT, he should want to share what's going on as in the fun, positive things and some of the things that are important to him, his favorite things, typ

Posted by truecap
This is why I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag
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Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex. ...

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Posted by truecap
This is why I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag
...

Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex. ...

Truecap, you did a good Job. I hope you get rewards in life for this dedication.

Yet I am not sure if OP belongs to the group of women who know the impact of yes vs. no. Maybe it is a trend only to say "YES, SIR".

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Posted by 1thgirls
Bc we're not bf/gf yet, that makes me more confused what should I do to him and what not.

Posted by 1thgirls
But I'm also scared that it might make him think that I'm not that interested.

Posted by aquarius78
I'm a Pisces moon aqua sun. Treat us like your bestfriend and don't hold high expectations. We don't wanna text every single day, we like to have a life as well. You might get Simple responses but we're better at physical connections rather than text.