Am I the only non social Aqua?

Posted by Xeniaironside99
Okay yes I can be social when I feel like it but generally I just like to avoid any sort of unnecessary interaction. I have a lot of trouble talking to guys and in turn I haven't been attracted to anyone physically in years.

Also I can come off as idk cold/ distant/ a b***h. I only have a few close friends ( which I'm completely fine with) but I'm getting to a stage in my life where I want a boyfriend or to be honest a guy friend that I can sleep with..
I know it sounds really crazy and maybe unhealthy but sex is something I've never explored before but really interested in.

Basically how the f*** do I start talking to guys or staying interested? I have lots of little infatuations but then I get disinterested.

I'm an Aquarius female (Jan 31)

I just realised there's a lot of contradictions sorry.. I'm full of them SIGH

im super duper non social too but i'm married!! 😄 😄

and last night, my cancer gf messaged me, saying girl hey!!! what up??!! lol

you can be non social but be committed/in a relationship.

dont be scared!!! get out there and find your man. 😄 😄

i never had to do anything while i was in college/uni, after my break up with ex, and even during uni while i got together with another ex, guys were Always coming up to me. I dont know, i guess cause we were in the same class, and they wanted a study buddy you know?
or sometimes, i get asked out for coffee at the newest coffee shoppe where all the students hang out.
i thought at the time, well ok, we should talk about the books we're studying. lol
memories!! so much fun.

basically even if you're a flower pot or a wall flower,

men can sometimes just go to you while you're just standing there.

so yes, it can happen!! even anti social people who stand behind the flower stand, who hide and are scared -- there are men who just seem to find them.

and make a bee-line to you. Yup!!!

good luck, girl!!! go get 'em!! 😄

hmm i had to go look up the quote on wallflower.

i remember when boys asked me to have coffee but i was Always suspicious if their intentions were more or if they just want to have a study buddy. so if i remember right, i was Always uneasy with that. you still gotta be careful. you dont often see other girls asking eachother if they want to study together. Although in my history class, there was a group of ALL girls in that class; it was women's history/study so,you get why. And we found the type of girls for eachother to "get" eachother. We would just say, hey, let's get togehter for coffee and study or something.

so in truth, wallflowers don't really get the man. 😢

dammit. i dont know. maybe just fix yourself up you know? go to the salon, get your hair done, make up and dress nicely. Some man will eventually find you if you are Always shy and that is your true personality.

they will love YOU for you. because you are originally Always so shy and anti social. Anti social people usually find eachother and that's what i notice.

It's weird cos i would say I'm generally quite social around girls and I have heaps of girlfriends ( but very few close friends). With guys though I just can't talk to. And I totally agree I am suspicious of their intentions and don't know what they want from me.

Posted by Xeniaironside99
It's weird cos i would say I'm generally quite social around girls and I have heaps of girlfriends ( but very few close friends). With guys though I just can't talk to. And I totally agree I am suspicious of their intentions and don't know what they want from me.

well you have to do something.

if you dont want to remain single forever. 😢

my sister's sister in law has been single forever. and she's got a great career, not bad to look at. She's not an eye sore, so i don't know. But in all honesty, she is a huge Darcy fan (Jane Austen) and literally went to the UK to visit the Darcy/Jane Austen sites for that alone.

ive Always thought she had too much of a HIGH idealiszation of men.

if that's true. then she'll be too lonely.

if you're the same way, you'll be lonely because you put men on a high pedastal, when in truth many of them are just normal joes, not Mr. Darcy with 1000 pounds a year and a huge mansion and horse stalls.

she did say to us while i was in the car with them, that she's gonna start looking at guys working at McDonalds.

i know she's joking but... in truth, she'll never do that.

Okay yeah I do have high expectation ( not looks wise) but it's true. I have day dreamed about me darcy and colonel brandon one too many times lol!

2015 seriously need to expand my social skills in terms of guys

Posted by Xeniaironside99
Okay yeah I do have high expectation ( not looks wise) but it's true. I have day dreamed about me darcy and colonel brandon one too many times lol!

2015 seriously need to expand my social skills in terms of guys

then that's why you are alone.

i dont blame you for dreaming of Darcy and Colonel Brandon though. Jesus christ!!! those guys. Swooooooonnnnnnnn.

😄 😄

so heroic!!! and they walk THE WALK!! too.

and i wonder, deeply why are the SINGLE men not going after the single women??

what's up with that—

come on single men!! lots of single women out there for the taking!

get a move on!!!

😄 😄

googled single women:

I know right?! I have had my share of guys pursuing me but if It doesn't feel right there's no way I can force myself to be attracted to them. Well I finished high school last year so perhaps at uni I'll meet someone more intellectually stimulating ?.

Posted by Xeniaironside99
I know right?! I have had my share of guys pursuing me but if It doesn't feel right there's no way I can force myself to be attracted to them. Well I finished high school last year so perhaps at uni I'll meet someone more intellectually stimulating ?.

😄

never compromise yourself.

i got a husband with high i.q. super brainy, and emotionally fulfilling!!!! mmmm mmm gooooood!!! 😄 😄

get out there and have fun.

you only have one life to live.

Posted by feby
I can be social but I have to be in the mood for it. I'm perfectly ok just staying home in my little nest. 🙂

Just the way I am. To add to that, when I am resting and having fun indoors alone, I hate people dropping by. 😄

Sometimes, some stares welcome guests coming home.

Did I just read you just finished highschool? Did I just read you want to explore sex because you never had?

Fear not. Go all in, drink a shit bunch of alcohol and do all the drugs and you can experience it all at the same time. University will definitely be awesome, or it can be shit. Pick up some hospo work in a busy place if you really want to learn how to interact.

Above all else, just get to know people. Most people are more interesting than you think they are. Fuck this stupid wall you have up for no apparent reason, be less judgmental, experiment a little. You're an Aqua just BE weird and you'll find your way.

In fact, fuck whatever I'm saying now and just do your shit.