@Romancelives
11 Years
Games
Posted by flowingwater
You misinterpret our behavior for games.
Can you expand? I don't want to make assumptions or misinterpret anyone. I'm just stating how it feels. If it's not games what is it? Perhaps games is the wrong word to use... But as I said Wtf? Lol
Some aquas play games, just like some people of all signs play games. Back when I was starting to get with my aqua ex, he set up a meeting with a girl he hadn't seen in a while to try to make me jealous. He admitted it. Aquarius can be a confusing or misunderstood bunch, though. If he's doing something that upsets you, try bringing it up with him. If he claims he's not doing anything to purposely push your buttons, then it's likely something that won't be changing.
Posted by Nightcap
That depends..are you playing games??You're right, Aquas don't play games.. generally. They may goof on you but that's usually in a playful way.
Although I've seen Aquas, for example, detect a character flaw that you're trying to project on them and reflect it back on you in the hopes that you'll recognize it and stop. But even this will be downplayed.
Aquas actually have a sizable temper when set off. It does take awhile for it to get to that point..but a repetitive unresolved scenario where there is very little improvement will cause build up.
No games being played on my part. I love him to the moon and back.
Posted by flowingwater
We're just consider detached or aloof by most. I would call it finding the right mate. We don't just hand out our hearts so easily.
Wow, spoken like you know him! I spoke to him. He said that may be he sometimes feels it's too good to be true, but he has no reason to play games with me, I'm safe for now lol. He also assured me that he sometimes needs time alone and that could happen at the drop of a hat.
Everyone needs alone time. I get that. Now I just need to adjust to the drop of a hat thing!!! 😄
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.
How does that work out for you? Or are you the perpetual bachelor type?
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
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Hmmmm, so the detached, aloof thing could be a game? Lol
Well I guess in his unique way, that's what my tall, cool glass of water told me... He wants to be sure, nothing wrong with that. I guess I do too, that's why we gel so well! Nice, slow and steady...
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
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+1!!! This is exactly why we have to be really sure. We keep it tinder tight control, lest looking like a cold, unfeeling jerk. We are not as cold as we are perceived. We are actually more closed off than per say a cancer. The difference is that the right kind of person can goad a cancer out of the shell slowly, but an aqua will come out when he/she feels like relinquishing control. That's no easy task by any means.
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.How does that work out for you? Or are you the perpetual bachelor type?
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It doesn't work out 97% of the time. LMAO! Yes, I'm the perpetual bachelorette for that very reason. Now I don't even try because growing up I saw all my friends and close people getting cheated on and I eventually started believing that cheating is so mundane. In my head I'm thinking what's the point of unraveling myself and dropping the aloofness when sooner or later, I will meet the same fate. Therefore, I keep my guard up even as the other person is thinking that I'm unraveling/getting close to them. This way I'm prepared for the worst and don't get hurt that badly when I'm met with a disappointment. At least it's a better way to protect myself because the alternative, which is the norm nowadays disgusts me. People lack integrity. They have their exes or various men/women lined up if things don't go as planned.
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
Hmmmm, so the detached, aloof thing could be a game? Lol
Well I guess in his unique way, that's what my tall, cool glass of water told me... He wants to be sure, nothing wrong with that. I guess I do too, that's why we gel so well! Nice, slow and steady...
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The aloof/detachment is our shell. We protect ourselves with that. The only thing is that we don't force or feign detachment. It comes so naturally to us. It's our instinct. So, don't confuse it as a forced facade to protect ourselves.
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
Hmmmm, so the detached, aloof thing could be a game? Lol
Well I guess in his unique way, that's what my tall, cool glass of water told me... He wants to be sure, nothing wrong with that. I guess I do too, that's why we gel so well! Nice, slow and steady...
The aloof/detachment is our shell. We protect ourselves with that. The only thing is that we don't force or feign detachment. It comes so naturally to us. It's our instinct. So, don't confuse it as a forced facade to protect ourselves.
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this ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
+ maybe it's not that much of a game as it is to test out the waters /+ recharge by ourselves
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.How does that work out for you? Or are you the perpetual bachelor type?
It doesn't work out 97% of the time. LMAO! Yes, I'm the perpetual bachelorette for that very reason. Now I don't even try because growing up I saw all my friends and close people getting cheated on and I eventually started believing that cheating is so mundane. In my head I'm thinking what's the point of unraveling myself and dropping the aloofness when sooner or later, I will meet the same fate. Therefore, I keep my guard up even as the other person is thinking that I'm unraveling/getting close to them. This way I'm prepared for the worst and don't get hurt that badly when I'm met with a disappointment. At least it's a better way to protect myself because the alternative, which is the norm nowadays disgusts me. People lack integrity. They have their exes or various men/women lined up if things don't go as planned.
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Sorry for the booboo, I don't know why I referred to you in the masculine...I just wanted to know if there is a great difference between male and female aquas. Do you all basically act the same?
Finally, I hope you find the one who is genuine and has staying power. You've helped increase mine! I won't turn tale on my sweet. I'll show the famous libran patients. People only seem to know the bad side of us, but we are the most patient and loving. We also are the healers of broken hearts, if we truly love you we will NEVER leave you, even after breaking up, you can count on our love! I guess that's why we're good with you guys? We take the rough with the smooth and pick up signs well. If mine overdoes his aloof, detachment thing, I back up. Sometimes, I let him know 'hey Mr, you to get out of your head. I need you here with me' then I wait. He usually laughs and doesn't take too long to come back out to rejoin me.
Thanks for your help. All the best. Mr right is out there, just try to give h
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
Hmmmm, so the detached, aloof thing could be a game? Lol
Well I guess in his unique way, that's what my tall, cool glass of water told me... He wants to be sure, nothing wrong with that. I guess I do too, that's why we gel so well! Nice, slow and steady...
The aloof/detachment is our shell. We protect ourselves with that. The only thing is that we don't force or feign detachment. It comes so naturally to us. It's our instinct. So, don't confuse it as a forced facade to protect ourselves.
this ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
+ maybe it's not that much of a game as it is to test out the waters /+ recharge by ourselves
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I can get with the recharge thing. I have Scorpio in me, I need lots of alone time too...it may well be the key to our success!
Posted by aquarius09
In a way, we do kind of play games. For example, I don't show my object of affection that I desire them. If I do that, it feels like relinquishing control. So, I usually pretend like I don't care meanwhile I'm crazy about them.I do this, I just hide it well lol
Once I give you the upper hand of how much I want you it's hard to go back to detached so I make sure it's for real.
Hmmmm, so the detached, aloof thing could be a game? Lol
Well I guess in his unique way, that's what my tall, cool glass of water told me... He wants to be sure, nothing wrong with that. I guess I do too, that's why we gel so well! Nice, slow and steady...
The aloof/detachment is our shell. We protect ourselves with that. The only thing is that we don't force or feign detachment. It comes so naturally to us. It's our instinct. So, don't confuse it as a forced facade to protect ourselves.
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Good to know! :-)
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I hear aquas don't play games, but sometimes it sure feels like games! I swear, by the time my aqua realises that I'm 100% being myself he may have put me off!!!
Wtf?