Guard up on an Aqua

I will keep this as short as possible. I am a scorpio female and he is an Aqua. we just started dating not too long ago as there was a definate and big attraction there. I have my gaurds up as it is still new and I have been hurt before, and also because I feel sometimes that I need to keep my guard up around an Aqua because of the way he can sometimes come across. I find that he does and says a lot of things to get under my skin, to see how I might react I think, also his moods can almost match mine which makes me keep my guards...on guard , heh. He is VERY touchy feely with me , is this normal for an aqua man ? or is he still seeing what makes me tick when he does certain things? He also tells me how much he likes me over and over again in a day aswell as coming up behind me to kiss and to hug me just the same. I catch him looking over at me aswell to see what im doing ...smiling or what not alot. Now i know that for many these are signs of love , which he also tells me does a couple times a day. But the amount that he does it makes me feel like its a part of the " what makes her tick" phase that an aqua can have. He tells me a lot about him and his life and how it was and what he wants it to be. He is a walking contradiction which i find interesting and spicy , the way he looks at me and holds me is the kind of affection i like and want , constant. but at the same time i can't help but feel that he is being a little shady somewhere along the line. Some may take this as me being insucure and ill admit there might be a little of that here but most of all its the feeling i get when he says certain things to me , i pick up that he may be stretching the truth with me a little bit in the way that he feels. I know he cares for me and is interested in me a lot , but sometimes i still feel that he says and does certain things just so he can see how i take it. and I want to know what is up with that ? Should i trust him ? should i take some gaurd down.. why do aqua men tend to do this ? or all aquas for that matter, how do i call his bluff? and how to i show him that i am not out to get him either. i guess time will tell but a few pointers wont hurt. whats the deal with aqua men and i know some say scorps are not a match for them , but we get along in this weird unspoken way which we both like. we are refreshing and frustrating to eachother , but we both like that aswell. what are the chances here , whats up?

Well, you kept talking about how you have these "guards" up as a way of protecting yourself & by the tone of your post, I can tell that you are CONTENT & okay with these guards because in your eyes, you see it as protection & in this day & age, there is nothing wrong with being too safe right? Well, Aquas have different ways of protecting themselves & trying to weed out who's right for them & who's wrong for them & because the way WE protect ourselves are completely different strategies than the ones Scorpios are used to, there is always a confusion or misunderstanding when these 2 signs start to like eachother. And yes, it is true that Aquas tend to test people out & in our minds, we are doing it because we feel we have the right to. Sometimes we test people out because we want to make sure that what they're always TELLING us matches with what their ACTIONS always speak. I know it can be a little annoying, but this is just his way of conducting his OWN test to see who you are versus just believing everything you say & taking your word for it on everything. And to an extent, you can't really be mad at this because you admitted yourself that you have your own guards up for this very same reason. And then again, this guy might really not be testing you out, he might be showing you who he truly is & I think there might be a little insecurity mixed with intimidation on your part. But the good thing is, all the tests & 'experiments' are always temporary. Don't think this Aqua guy hasn't picked up on the fact that you have many guards up (because keep in mind, he's an Aqua & we know Allll about guards being put up), & when we can see that someone has their guard up (rather they know WE know or not) we put ours up & figure that it's only fair. But the minute you take your guard down (trust me, he'll know), this guy will stop forcing his guard to stay up & from then on, once both guards are down, only THEN will you know the true potential of the relationship. Scorpios & Aquas are 2 very self-guarded individuals & the reason they can be flat out incompatible is because of the trust issues we have for MOST people, not just one particular person. But luckily, Scorps & Aquas fascinate eachother enough to the point that even through the confusion, they still keep the 'flame' alive. It's going to come down to who takes their guard down first & Scorps & Aquas both hate to Put out FIRST! Oh this is going to be funny! It's kind of like a little adventure!

scorpio paranoia.

would this apply when dealing with venus and mars?

i am a Aqua female. i was married to a Scorp man for 10 years. we were totally attracted to each other in every way. he was just to insecure and jealous. i loved him to death but he thought i didn't because i didn't constantly tell him. we have been divorced for 4 years and we get along great for the most part to this day. we get on each others last nerves but when he needs me or vice versa we're there for each other. i said all that to say sometimes Scorps and Aquas are better as friend in the long run. you can run an Aqua away by being insecure. his actions are showing he likes you just don't run him off with unecessary suspicions.

i said all that to say sometimes Scorps and Aquas are better as friend in the long run. you can run an Aqua away by being insecure. his actions are showing he likes you just don't run him off with unecessary suspicions.
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Yeah with Scorpios & Aquas it seems like they'd either Kill FOR eachother OR KILL EACHOTHER. It's one of the other. Aquas & Scorpios tend to have that Ride or die type of friendship or relationship...that bond that will always be there even if the title isn't. And because Aquas & Scorpios are the 2 most MISUNDERSTOOD in the Zodiac (besides Pisces), it's no wonder the 2 click up so fast & ignite fireworks & have that ability to come out of any situation still as good friends. I think Aquas are one of the few signs that can actually hurt a Scorpio & still have the same access to their hearts afterwards (even though most people that hurt or betray a Scorpio are often denied a 2nd chance into their hearts)

okay I'll ask again. can this apply when dealing with venus and mars? my venus is in Aquarius and my boyfriends mars is in Scorpio. He is the Aqua and I'm an Aries but it seems he's more jealous than I am.

Scorpio affects its placement severely regardless of sun sign. So yes Sugabear.
Ask DK with the scorpio moon or Devil with the scorp rising and I think mars, not sure.

unknowingly its been a pattern for me to date guys with this placement. In the end they always consider me nonchalant and not caring enough in terms of their feelings and I always consider them too clingy and jealous. Not so much with the Aqua as with the others but still strong enough to notice.

unknowingly its been a pattern for me to date guys with this placement. In the end they always consider me nonchalant and not caring enough in terms of their feelings and I always consider them too clingy and jealous. Not so much with the Aqua as with the others but still strong enough to notice
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Well then you might have to start looking at who you are & what kind of signals you actually put out & COMPARE That to how you want others to see you & how you want others to respond to who you are. If who you are & how you come across is completely DIFFERENT than how you want people to see you & take your personality, then that is in indication that maybe you might have some problems adapting to others. Sometimes you have to size up the other person & have the ability to immediately sense how high or low their sensibility is. There's nothing wrong with being YOU, but if being YOU is not getting you access to happiness & the type of relationship you want, then maybe you need to change your approach & start being the woman you want others to see you as. In your mind, you probably figure that being non-chalant & less caring about certain things to be just who you are & something you can deal with, but you can't be emotionally content with that if who you ARE is pushing people away more than it is bringing people close to you. I learned that testing people out was the BEST learning tool for me when it came down to which areas of my personality I should show at certain times. When I'm around Scorpios, I am generally more blunt & more straight forward because I know that even though they are very sensitive (deep down), they still prefer things to be up front. But there's a difference in how I put myself out there when I'm dating a Pisces because I know Pisces are a little bit more sensitive to my strong personality. So I'm STILL ME, but I try to change how I talk to them & how certain things come out of my mouth (I'm always being careful of my word usage so that I won't offend them or be too hard to handle). You can still be yourself, but you just have to learn how to adapt to others instead of always having that "Look, this is me! TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT" stamp on your forehead because believe it or not, if people feel immediately that you are a turn off, they will take that stamp's word for it & LEAVE!