Scorp girl I'm crushhin' on...

Met a Scorpio woman this week. Simply put, I'm smitten with her. Shes gorgeous, confident, affectionate, and has a great life style which I'm attracted to. Even took me to church and into'd me to her family. But I sense a distance between us. Just wondering if any Scorp fems here can offer me advice how to procede? BTW, I'm a Virgo male.

Thx all for the info. I'm glad to know that my concerns about her distancing are a common element for this sign.

Also, the advice about my Virgo criticism is well taken as it has already proven to be a negative on one occasion. She initially said she felt like I was ripping on her too often, but that obviously wasnt my intention at all.

Here is another question: How best could I explain my current feelings for her without coming across as desperate or insecure? In truth its exactly the opposite, meaning I feel very secure and confident about how I'm already starting to fall for this amazing woman. Being a typical Virgo, I'd have no problem writting everything down on paper, in an orderly list, and hand it to her LOL! But seriously, what approach should I follow to let her know how much I'm really attracted to her, especially since its been such a short time and not wanting to make her overwhelmed or scared off. Hate to come across as a love-struck puppy dog, but man, she is a catch and a half! My mind cant stop thinking about all of her traits that I adore and I want to tell her everyone of them (Roxi - I heard you on the flattery issue!)

"I'd have no problem writting everything down on paper, in an orderly list, and hand it to her"

I'd like that ! Hm..hm...when can I meet a Virgo !?

My advice:

Don't trivialize her. Don't be a chauvenist. Respect her. Analyze her if you must but do not over-analyze. Don't hit on other women, don't make disparaging remarks about her because she is a woman, don't make stupid chauvenistic jokes, etc.

In the end it's all about respect with us.

P_R: I've nothing but the upmost respect for you, based on things you've expressed on dpx. But this particular Scorp was, and I stress the word 'was', an evil version of Scorpio's dark side. The side that deserves ridicule and speculation. She was neither honorable nor classy, and I dont mean that in a strictly Virgo sense!

She's been described to me as an undeveloped, immature Scorpio, one who used her womanly gifts for the sole purpose of self-satisfaction.

There's a novel currently being written behind the scenes based on my relationship with her. I guarantee it would be worthy of making dpx headlines.

Oh, interesting...

Unfortunate that she was what they call a Grey Lizard instead of...well...a Phoenix...(lol, *pats self on back etc) 😛 BUT...they say we can be huge catalysts for major life changes (a la death, rebirth, etc...in a figurative and sometimes literal sense)...so definitely a scorpio it sounds like. I'd be curious to read.

gray lizard? hmmmm....has the sound of more experience than she was deserving of

female playah is the term I'd annoint her with, as in "hate the player, not the game"

life changes....you aint kidding P_R, spun this virgboy on his back

Ew. "Playah"? Ew. Are people still doing that? Gross.

She loses, in the end, if you grow, though.

i've grown alot

cant help but thank the stars for this learning experience

and im that much more insightful regarding scopio, wonderful beings they are

Young VirDude,

I've been with my Scorp almost two years now. The dating was rough, but the marriage is almost perfect. Here's a few pointers from the school of hard knocks...

1. Be yourself. Don't try to be what you think she wants you to be. Like Virgs, Scorps hate phonies, and they can see through BS even faster than we can. Plus, y'all need to find out early on if you're compatible or not. There's a natural attraction between these two Signs, but an LTR requires more than just chemistry...
2. Be honest and reliable. If you say something, be truthful. If you tell her you're going to do something, do it. Until she knows you really well, don't give her any reason to question your honesty or integrity.
3. Analyze as much as you want, just don't tell her about it. It freaks Scorps out. Yes, we see every nit-noid detail, but they don't want to hear about it!
4. Be helpful, but not a pushy control freak. Mine is very independent, but she will accept some of my help. I got carried away with it when we were dating, and got stung several times!
5. Less talk, more stroking! I'm being simplistic, but there's some truth to it. Scorps & Virgs take a while to communicate well verbally. We're reserved, they're secretive; we like to talk, they like to act. But physically, we communicate really well -- fewer misunderstandings for sure! Love letters? Oh yeah! Virgs can turn a phrase, so put your feelings down on paper. If she doesn't have time to read War and Peace, then keep them brief and to the point. After I told Debra about DXP, she had me print off some of my steamier dyrstr8z posts, and she keeps them with the love letters in her dresser drawer.
6. Avoid routines and over-planning. I know, it's in our nature to cover all the bases, but they don't like too much of it. They like to go with the flow. My Scorp has always said I think too much. She appreciates many of my long-range plans, but doesn't want me putting us on a schedule when we're out on a date. Moderation is the key!

TB: "Met a Scorpio woman this week. Simply put, I'm smitten with her. Shes gorgeous, confident, affectionate, and has a great life style which I'm attracted to. Even took me to church and into'd me to her family."

Damn! I could've written that back in March 2006. Be careful! We VirGuys seem to fall hard & fast for ScorpGals. In my case, it worked out great, but there have been some heartbreakers, too!

"There's a novel currently being written behind the scenes based on my relationship with her. I guarantee it would be worthy of making dpx headlines."

Cool! If I had time, I'd pull together all my DXP posts on S + V, and maybe create a web site just to explore this alignment -- not as much out there on the Internet as their should be. My theory? Most S+V couples are happy, so why yak about it? (In fact, it was my concern about getting involved with a Scorp that led me via Google to DXP. Like a lot of folks on the forum!)

phoenix_rising,

Wow! When I saw your photo with your posts on this thread, I did a double-take. You look so much like my beloved Scorp, it's scary!! She's blond, and got her hair cut to about your length, and she will hold her head like that. No lie, y'all could be twins.

TB,

Just one more thing: Don't FORCE yourself to be spontaneous, but learn to let go. It's worth it. My Scorp will go on & on about the times I've caught her off guard. Like, once I took her to a karaoke bar after dinner. She's not a big drinker, but sat there slowly sipping on a margarita, and laughing at the big idiots trying to be rock stars. After a couple of beers (builds courage, you know), I slipped off the stool, and was up on the stage before she could really react. I asked the DJ to spin up Benny Mardones' Into The Night, and sang it to her. This part got her...

And I would wait till the end
Of time for you
And do it again, it's true
I can't measure my love
There's nothing to compare it to

Move over, Barry White & Johnny Mathis! When I want to get my Scorp stirred up, I put that rock ballad on the stereo...

Yes.
When you speak to her again complement her, write her a poem or song or something.
When you guys are ina good mood, tell her how you really feel.
EXAMPLE:

Dude: How was your dinner?
Girl: good
Dude: thats good, I want to tell you something, just listen.
Girl: Ok
Dude: I have feelings for you, you really make me happy.
Dude: *read poem* [When finished say] You mean alot to me, I love your smile, you attitude, your personality [whatever else you like about her]
I BET SHE WILL START BLUSHING OR SMILING REAL HARD! 😄
Scorpio's love Red Roses.

Say
Girl I just love how you carry yourself, I love you walk, your talk, you charisma, you and I have so much in common and some diffrences and it doesnt matter because I want to be everything to you.

"P_R: I've nothing but the upmost respect for you, based on things you've expressed on dpx. But this particular Scorp was, and I stress the word 'was', an evil version of Scorpio's dark side. The side that deserves ridicule and speculation. She was neither honorable nor classy, and I dont mean that in a strictly Virgo sense!

She's been described to me as an undeveloped, immature Scorpio, one who used her womanly gifts for the sole purpose of self-satisfaction."

Why, Tollbooth, I don't think I approve of you consorting with that Jezebel. Didn't your mother warn you about those wicked women of loose morals? I mean, she used her body for self-satisfaction, who knows what else she is capable of?

Aww.......I'm so touched that this thread was randomly brought back to life! It has brought my so much happiness, although the slag it was originally written about it but a distant memory.

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