Had an amazing night with Aqua guy but he blew me off the next day..

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You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.
WHat? It doesn't feel obvious to me lol quite the opposite. Why do you think that? Or were you being sarcastic (sorry hard to tell through the internet)
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He told you he loved you, which is hard to do. You said you were upset and he showed you how sorry he was. And the whole disappearing thing when shit got real! The fact that he's been around all these years and he's spending more time with you is a clear sign too.

Why isn't it obvious to you? What does he do to make you think he doesn't?
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You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.
WHat? It doesn't feel obvious to me lol quite the opposite. Why do you think that? Or were you being sarcastic (sorry hard to tell through the internet)
He told you he loved you, which is hard to do. You said you were upset and he showed you how sorry he was. And the whole disappearing thing when shit got real! The fact that he's been around all these years and he's spending more time with you is a clear sign too.

Why isn't it obvious to you? What does he do to make you think he doesn't?
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Yeah, he said he loved me over the phone when he called me to come over BUT he was drunk so I didn't take it seriously.

But you're right, he did feel really badly when I told him I was upset and he apologized and made it up to me even though it wasn't a huge deal and a lot of people said I was dumb for getting mad so I thought he would just think I was crazy but he agreed with me.

Wait so they disappear when things get too intense? It was a super intimate night and we were really close and in sync with each other. I guess he's disappeared before after intense nights but usually only for a week.

The reason I feel like he doesn't love me is because he just ignored me when I asked him if he was still coming to the party. I feel like if he really loved me he would've come (he had said before he was coming) or at least respond to my message :\ but he never did and I haven't heard from him. Although he did respond to our mutual friend when he texted him.
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Just give him some space. He's dealing with showing you and revealing a lot to you in the same day.Drunk or not, he had a little liquid courage and finally said it. He was thinking about himself and his feelings, which is fine when he missed the party. Don't take it personally.
Thanks so much. I had been feeling pretty sad over it but you actually made me feel a lot better. I should know better by now after dealing with his odd behaviors for so many years but it seems whenever things are going really well he does something like this! Oh well.

Thanks again for your insight 🙂
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yep listen to that girl saggurl88.

she is an honorary guest in our board lol
thanks @aerialview -- but I'm confused! I made another thread asking if it's normal for aquas to disappear after a night of intense feelings and you said no! so which is it lol
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i haven't red all your stories lol @saggurl88 help

can't believe no aquas to be seen here.
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Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; decisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.

Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.

He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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thanks @EvatheDiva -- you're right, I am super sensitive and I overthink everything!!

And no he has never just ghosted me. He usually takes maybe a week to contact me. To be fair, I don't usually contact him first and I wait for him to initiate most of the time.

Also we aren't just fuc* buddies, we sometimes go out for dinner/drinks or a show and then don't go back to have sex.

You're right though, I'm sure he's fine -- I'm sure he was just tired and didn't feel like going out but didnt want to say no. I know he has been super stressed with work and tired all the time (our mutual friend told me this because he noticed something was up with the aqua and asked him). I'm worried he's a little depressed and I wish there was something I could do or that he would talk to me about it.

I think I just want more and don't know how to tell him -- I was hoping it would just progress naturally..

Thanks for your advice/reply!! 🙂
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thanks @EvatheDiva -- you're right, I am super sensitive and I overthink everything!!

And no he has never just ghosted me. He usually takes maybe a week to contact me. To be fair, I don't usually contact him first and I wait for him to initiate most of the time.

Also we aren't just fuc* buddies, we sometimes go out for dinner/drinks or a show and then don't go back to have sex.

You're right though, I'm sure he's fine -- I'm sure he was just tired and didn't feel like going out but didnt want to say no. I know he has been super stressed with work and tired all the time (our mutual friend told me this because he noticed something was up with the aqua and asked him). I'm worried he's a little depressed and I wish there was something I could do or that he would talk to me about it.

I think I just want more and don't know how to tell him -- I was hoping it would just progress naturally..

Thanks for your advice/reply!! 🙂
You're welcome Doll...you sound so mature! After I posted, you didn't "jump" on my ass...see, you ARE sensitive when it comes to your heart; but not when one gives you advice. You take it with a grain of salt 😉 Love your "maturity". Well, you took care of him "releasing" some of that stress (by cuming); now all he has to do is take care of the other stuff that makes him "depressed".

Take care, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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Oh, also that night he said "i love you" two different times -- well it was before I was coming over and he asked me to pick something up and I said I would and he kept saying "I love you, no other girl would do that for me!" (He had been drinking though)
He prolly feels embarrassed for saying the L word while being drunk and is dodging your text/calls. Plus he’s probably hung over. It’s been 1 day, chillllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
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Oh, also that night he said "i love you" two different times -- well it was before I was coming over and he asked me to pick something up and I said I would and he kept saying "I love you, no other girl would do that for me!" (He had been drinking though)
He prolly feels embarrassed for saying the L word while being drunk and is dodging your text/calls. Plus he’s probably hung over. It’s been 1 day, chillllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
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You're right I mean I only texted him once to see if he was still coming.. now it's been 2 days lol but whatever. Plus I didn't say i loved him back or anything when he said it since it was so random.

Thanks for replying! 🙂
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Aw thank you @EvatheDiva for the complement! 🙂 Lol actually the sex is a good way to ease his stress although I'd love to ease it in other ways too.

Thanks for your help and Merry Christmas/Happy New Year to you too! 🙂
Sex is good....get some for me, too! 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: You've got a KEEPER.....having you cum first; then himself....he's definitely NOT selfish!
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@aquarius_man -- You're basing this off the fact that I am a libra? You don't really know anything else about me... also I am definitely not his number 1 fan, I treat him very cooly as I treat any of my friends and I don't show him much affection unless he shows it to me so i give it back. I also call him out on his bullshit when i feel it's necessary. I'm definitely not a groupie. Hell I won't even talk to him unless he talks to me first
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@aquarius_man -- You're basing this off the fact that I am a libra? You don't really know anything else about me... also I am definitely not his number 1 fan, I treat him very cooly as I treat any of my friends and I don't show him much affection unless he shows it to me so i give it back. I also call him out on his bullshit when i feel it's necessary. I'm definitely not a groupie. Hell I won't even talk to him unless he talks to me first
and yet, its the 2nd topic you star about him

you re a doormat, like all the libras i know

good luck with him 🙂
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Yeah, I started the topics because I do have feelings for him and was looking for insight, no shame in that. I am not scared to admit I have feelings for him (though I won't admit it to him).

I have been a doormat, I'll admit it. But I stopped a few weeks ago and told him to fuck off and never treat me a certain way again, and ignored him, and he couldn't stop apologizing until I finally forgave him. So I'm getting rid of my doormat ways.

THanks for your insight
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@aquarius_man trust me I'm still a libra so I didn't give him too much of the cold shoulder cuz I can see his perspective and appreciated his unexpected apology... I only ignored him for a day and yea that was hard.

But that was a few weeks ago and then we were all good and didn't talk about it again..

I didn't try to tell him what to do... just trying to teach him how to treat me.

I don't mean to be defensive but I think I get sensitive when people tell me I'm nothing more to him than a pussy he can fuck.... I know he has feelings for me but he isn't going to talk about it because I won't admit mine.. but feelings don't necessarily mean they want a relationship

I don't want to mess with him at all... I don't play games but I'm not honest about my feelings so maybe that is a game itself
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Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; decisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.

Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.

He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
aw you have a child Eva? I didnt know you are a mother too.



my sisters also have Libra sons, how coincidental.

they married a libra sun and a libra moon/dom.



yeah i have fam members who are libra. super sensitive, but maybe cause they have cancer, pisces and scorpio placements. lol
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@aquarius_man but not all aquas are the same again like you said this is all generalizations. he is a distinct person who has had distinct experiences and frankly he doesn't love himself. cliche but true how can you love someone when you dont love yourself/?

he has told me in the past that he has loved me since we met when we were 13.. I didn't really respond but he said it..

also I didn't mean to test his feelings; it was the heat of the moment and I was genuinely pissed off and just decided to tell him for once so I simply went to him and said "don't you ever fucking treat me like that again.. I am not your fucking booty call and if that's what you want find it elsewhere.. you're a fucking dumbass" and I left. I didnt expect to hear from him again but he texted me that night apologizing. I was doing it for myself not for him because I didn't expect to continue to be friends after that since he doesn't handle confrontation well

and yea I am gonna start rejecting him more and not see him anymore
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Just give him some space. He's dealing with showing you and revealing a lot to you in the same day.Drunk or not, he had a little liquid courage and finally said it. He was thinking about himself and his feelings, which is fine when he missed the party. Don't take it personally.
airy men with no fire need liquid courage. lol

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hmmm



i take that back...

the post i remember about the Leo sun/Sag moon guy with Virgo venus/Mars is too shy.



jesus chrsit. if they got Virgo/Capricorn/Taurus they is SHY.
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@lisabethur8 he definitely is shy. I remember once we were hanging out and he kept inching closer to me on the couch but neither of us made a move and we hadn't been drinking.. it went on like this for 5 hours just watching tv and almost getting closer... this despite the fact that we had slept together hundreds of times by that point but we were both too shy. now we can get close without alcohol but expressing feelings is a whole other thing
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@aquarius_man -- yea that is a good point, I don't know why I said that. I think I just need to take a break from him for awhile and figure out my feelings.

Another issue is he already associates me with rejection. He told me he was in love with me when we were 13 and I rejected him but still wanted to be friends. He refused to speak to me for 4 years after that even though I tried to talk to him all the time and he just pretended he couldn't hear me at school or would block me online. So he is stubborn and holds grudges. That was over 10 years ago though but I'm sure subconsciously he still thinks of me as the girl who rejected him
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@lisabethur8 he definitely is shy. I remember once we were hanging out and he kept inching closer to me on the couch but neither of us made a move and we hadn't been drinking.. it went on like this for 5 hours just watching tv and almost getting closer... this despite the fact that we had slept together hundreds of times by that point but we were both too shy. now we can get close without alcohol but expressing feelings is a whole other thing


you really like shy men do you?

see? plenty of women love shy men.



hope you get this guy.
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i cant find the topic anymore but it was yesterday's topic on how this guy posted wanting to be a bad boy and get tips from some authors lol

we women were saying if you're shy, who cares!!


You mean Ownard(?)?

I'm glad you affirmed my statement that many women prefer the shy gentle guy over the loud troublemakers.

Thanks for that. 🙂
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yes!! it was yesterday's topic



i dont know where it is anymore. lol



but hopefully he sees this and realizes that he dont need to buy books to get a woman.
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Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; indecisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.

Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.

He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; decisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.

Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.

He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
aw you have a child Eva? I didnt know you are a mother too.



my sisters also have Libra sons, how coincidental.

they married a libra sun and a libra moon/dom.



yeah i have fam members who are libra. super sensitive, but maybe cause they have cancer, pisces and scorpio placements. lol
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Good morning Doll,

Yes, my oldest is Libra and my youngest is Taurus. Talk about a "sensitive" family for you! WoW 😱

When my oldest son gets his heart broken he will cry and talk at the same time. I am the "more" practical one that will tell him, "Calm down, take a deep breath, stop crying, collect your thoughts and start again...I CANNOT understand a word your are saying!" 😆

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....

so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?

why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?

I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
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OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....

so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?

why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?

I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.

I don't suddenly want him... I've always wanted him but never felt it was the right time due to distance and such. But now we are both settled in homes very close to each other and we both have our careers set..

Trust me I am very picky and I could never date someone just to have someone to date. I have to have feelings for someone before I sleep with them or anything like that. I would rather be alone forever than be with someone I'm not crazy in love with.
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OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....

so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?

why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?

I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.

I don't suddenly want him... I've always wanted him but never felt it was the right time due to distance and such. But now we are both settled in homes very close to each other and we both have our careers set..

Trust me I am very picky and I could never date someone just to have someone to date. I have to have feelings for someone before I sleep with them or anything like that. I would rather be alone forever than be with someone I'm not crazy in love with.
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so neither of you dated anybody else in these 7 years? then how it comes you are not already in a relationship after 7 years?

how often do you two meet?

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OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....

so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?

why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?

I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.

I don't suddenly want him... I've always wanted him but never felt it was the right time due to distance and such. But now we are both settled in homes very close to each other and we both have our careers set..

Trust me I am very picky and I could never date someone just to have someone to date. I have to have feelings for someone before I sleep with them or anything like that. I would rather be alone forever than be with someone I'm not crazy in love with.
so neither of you dated anybody else in these 7 years? then how it comes you are not already in a relationship after 7 years?

how often do you two meet?

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Yeah... I'm not sure. One time we were having a serious conversation about our relationship and he asked if I wanted more and I said no. So he thinks I don't want a relationship. I don't know if he wants one and sometimes I think he is scarred from his last one that ended 5 years ago.

He travels a lot for work so we see each other sporadically but then he will be home for long periods of time and we see each other probably once a week!

Thanks for replying 🙂