
You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.

Posted by saggurl88WHat? It doesn't feel obvious to me lol quite the opposite. Why do you think that? Or were you being sarcastic (sorry hard to tell through the internet)
You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.

Posted by FitNebulaHe told you he loved you, which is hard to do. You said you were upset and he showed you how sorry he was. And the whole disappearing thing when shit got real! The fact that he's been around all these years and he's spending more time with you is a clear sign too.Posted by saggurl88WHat? It doesn't feel obvious to me lol quite the opposite. Why do you think that? Or were you being sarcastic (sorry hard to tell through the internet)
You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Yeah, he said he loved me over the phone when he called me to come over BUT he was drunk so I didn't take it seriously.Posted by FitNebulaHe told you he loved you, which is hard to do. You said you were upset and he showed you how sorry he was. And the whole disappearing thing when shit got real! The fact that he's been around all these years and he's spending more time with you is a clear sign too.Posted by saggurl88WHat? It doesn't feel obvious to me lol quite the opposite. Why do you think that? Or were you being sarcastic (sorry hard to tell through the internet)
You might as well tell him how you feel. He obviously loves you.
Why isn't it obvious to you? What does he do to make you think he doesn't?click to expand

Posted by saggurl88Thanks so much. I had been feeling pretty sad over it but you actually made me feel a lot better. I should know better by now after dealing with his odd behaviors for so many years but it seems whenever things are going really well he does something like this! Oh well.
Just give him some space. He's dealing with showing you and revealing a lot to you in the same day.Drunk or not, he had a little liquid courage and finally said it. He was thinking about himself and his feelings, which is fine when he missed the party. Don't take it personally.

Posted by AerialViewthanks @aerialview -- but I'm confused! I made another thread asking if it's normal for aquas to disappear after a night of intense feelings and you said no! so which is it lol
yep listen to that girl saggurl88.
she is an honorary guest in our board lol

Posted by FitNebulai haven't red all your stories lol @saggurl88 helpPosted by AerialViewthanks @aerialview -- but I'm confused! I made another thread asking if it's normal for aquas to disappear after a night of intense feelings and you said no! so which is it lol
yep listen to that girl saggurl88.
she is an honorary guest in our board lolclick to expand

Posted by AerialViewAwwwwww 😍😍😘😘😘😘😘
yep listen to that girl saggurl88.
she is an honorary guest in our board lol


Posted by FitNebulaYou're welcome Doll...you sound so mature! After I posted, you didn't "jump" on my ass...see, you ARE sensitive when it comes to your heart; but not when one gives you advice. You take it with a grain of salt 😉 Love your "maturity". Well, you took care of him "releasing" some of that stress (by cuming); now all he has to do is take care of the other stuff that makes him "depressed".
thanks @EvatheDiva -- you're right, I am super sensitive and I overthink everything!!
And no he has never just ghosted me. He usually takes maybe a week to contact me. To be fair, I don't usually contact him first and I wait for him to initiate most of the time.
Also we aren't just fuc* buddies, we sometimes go out for dinner/drinks or a show and then don't go back to have sex.
You're right though, I'm sure he's fine -- I'm sure he was just tired and didn't feel like going out but didnt want to say no. I know he has been super stressed with work and tired all the time (our mutual friend told me this because he noticed something was up with the aqua and asked him). I'm worried he's a little depressed and I wish there was something I could do or that he would talk to me about it.
I think I just want more and don't know how to tell him -- I was hoping it would just progress naturally..
Thanks for your advice/reply!! 🙂

Posted by FitNebulaHe prolly feels embarrassed for saying the L word while being drunk and is dodging your text/calls. Plus he’s probably hung over. It’s been 1 day, chillllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
Oh, also that night he said "i love you" two different times -- well it was before I was coming over and he asked me to pick something up and I said I would and he kept saying "I love you, no other girl would do that for me!" (He had been drinking though)
Posted by LadyNeptuneYou're right I mean I only texted him once to see if he was still coming.. now it's been 2 days lol but whatever. Plus I didn't say i loved him back or anything when he said it since it was so random.Posted by FitNebulaHe prolly feels embarrassed for saying the L word while being drunk and is dodging your text/calls. Plus he’s probably hung over. It’s been 1 day, chillllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
Oh, also that night he said "i love you" two different times -- well it was before I was coming over and he asked me to pick something up and I said I would and he kept saying "I love you, no other girl would do that for me!" (He had been drinking though)click to expand

Posted by FitNebulaSex is good....get some for me, too! 😉
Aw thank you @EvatheDiva for the complement! 🙂 Lol actually the sex is a good way to ease his stress although I'd love to ease it in other ways too.
Thanks for your help and Merry Christmas/Happy New Year to you too! 🙂
Posted by aquarius_manLol why awkward?Posted by FitNebulaAwkward
I am a libra.
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Posted by aquarius_manokay thanks it's hard to process given the last 7 years and him having feelings for me but thanks you're probably right 😢Posted by FitNebulai treated my iibra groupies just like he treats you and its friends with benefits at best, not the wedding type of love
@aquarius_man you are right. I am moving on from him. Thank youclick to expand
Posted by aquarius_manYeah, I started the topics because I do have feelings for him and was looking for insight, no shame in that. I am not scared to admit I have feelings for him (though I won't admit it to him).Posted by FitNebulaand yet, its the 2nd topic you star about him
@aquarius_man -- You're basing this off the fact that I am a libra? You don't really know anything else about me... also I am definitely not his number 1 fan, I treat him very cooly as I treat any of my friends and I don't show him much affection unless he shows it to me so i give it back. I also call him out on his bullshit when i feel it's necessary. I'm definitely not a groupie. Hell I won't even talk to him unless he talks to me first
you re a doormat, like all the libras i know
good luck with him 🙂click to expand
Posted by EvatheDivaaw you have a child Eva? I didnt know you are a mother too.
Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; decisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.
Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.
He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by saggurl88airy men with no fire need liquid courage. lol
Just give him some space. He's dealing with showing you and revealing a lot to you in the same day.Drunk or not, he had a little liquid courage and finally said it. He was thinking about himself and his feelings, which is fine when he missed the party. Don't take it personally.
Posted by FitNebula
@lisabethur8 he definitely is shy. I remember once we were hanging out and he kept inching closer to me on the couch but neither of us made a move and we hadn't been drinking.. it went on like this for 5 hours just watching tv and almost getting closer... this despite the fact that we had slept together hundreds of times by that point but we were both too shy. now we can get close without alcohol but expressing feelings is a whole other thing
Posted by FitNebula
lol @lisabethur8 -- I love shy guys, I think it's adorable 🙂
Posted by Seleukosyes!! it was yesterday's topicPosted by lisabethur8You mean Ownard(?)?
i cant find the topic anymore but it was yesterday's topic on how this guy posted wanting to be a bad boy and get tips from some authors lol
we women were saying if you're shy, who cares!!
I'm glad you affirmed my statement that many women prefer the shy gentle guy over the loud troublemakers.
Thanks for that. 🙂click to expand

Posted by EvatheDiva
Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; indecisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.
Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.
He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva

Posted by lisabethur8Good morning Doll,Posted by EvatheDivaaw you have a child Eva? I didnt know you are a mother too.
Libras (esp women) are VERY sensitive (and I thought Piscean women were "sensitive"). I should know my oldest son is Libra; but no difference here when it comes to your "sensitivity". I ALWAYS see what y'all don't see in the forum....the scales, in this case. They tilt, up and down, down and up; decisiveness (judging). You start thinking "bad" things to yourself and only making yourself miserable. He is NOT attached to your hip. He has a life; he has a job/school, trials/tribulations, bills, friends, family, etc., etc, etc (just like you and I do). He is fine; going about his business.
Questions: Since y'all have been fuc*ing buddies, has he EVER just "ghosted" you before? How long did he take until he contacted you (after sleeping together)? Seems as if you're the "sensitive" (again) one in this fuc*king buddies department.
He's fine. Betcha when he calls you "soon" you will NOT post in here...why? Because you're going to be "content".
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
my sisters also have Libra sons, how coincidental.
they married a libra sun and a libra moon/dom.
yeah i have fam members who are libra. super sensitive, but maybe cause they have cancer, pisces and scorpio placements. lolclick to expand

Posted by Pandora101Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.
OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....
so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?
why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?
I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him

Posted by FitNebulaso neither of you dated anybody else in these 7 years? then how it comes you are not already in a relationship after 7 years?Posted by Pandora101Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.
OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....
so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?
why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?
I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
I don't suddenly want him... I've always wanted him but never felt it was the right time due to distance and such. But now we are both settled in homes very close to each other and we both have our careers set..
Trust me I am very picky and I could never date someone just to have someone to date. I have to have feelings for someone before I sleep with them or anything like that. I would rather be alone forever than be with someone I'm not crazy in love with.click to expand
Posted by Pandora101Yeah... I'm not sure. One time we were having a serious conversation about our relationship and he asked if I wanted more and I said no. So he thinks I don't want a relationship. I don't know if he wants one and sometimes I think he is scarred from his last one that ended 5 years ago.Posted by FitNebulaso neither of you dated anybody else in these 7 years? then how it comes you are not already in a relationship after 7 years?Posted by Pandora101Honestly neither of us have really dated anyone else in the 7 years. We stopped talking for 6 months when we were at opposite colleges and he started dating this other girl but it only lasted a few months because she was insane and abusive (physically and mentally). He apologized and we became friends again.
OP, I think so many things are missing from your post.... you focus only on your 7 years randomly sleeping together and that he wanted you when 13 years old....
so, what were you two doing this 7 years, when no sleeping together? who you dated? who he has dated?
why you suddenly want him? are you alone? desperate to marry? just want somebody, and he was there for 7 years?
I am quite confused by why you would suddenly want him
I don't suddenly want him... I've always wanted him but never felt it was the right time due to distance and such. But now we are both settled in homes very close to each other and we both have our careers set..
Trust me I am very picky and I could never date someone just to have someone to date. I have to have feelings for someone before I sleep with them or anything like that. I would rather be alone forever than be with someone I'm not crazy in love with.
how often do you two meet?
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