Help: Aqua Sun Sagittarius Moon

Does anyone have any experience with this combination? I have difficulty connecting with and understanding my boyfriend because our charts are not compatible. However, we have been deeply committed to each other for years and love each other despite our incompatibility. I would like to have more insight into this sign combination so that I can understand him better. He doesn't verbalize a lot of his internal thoughts and emotions, I often have to read what he is feeling and thinking through his expressions and behavior- and if I pay close attention (which I do), he does give himself away at times. I believe I have gotten pretty good at it but it was tough for a while because he is very careful to hide anything that makes him vulnerable. There still is so much that seems to be beneath the surface that I don't have access to and getting him to express himself is like pulling teeth. Please tell me everything that is important to know about this combination. I appreciate any and every bit of insight. Thank you so much!

my sun and moon sign . Helloooo . 🙂

what is your sun and moon sign?

Yay! Please tell me everything! I want to do what I can to help evolve our relationship. We love each other so much but we are so different and it takes so much work. I am a scorpio sun virgo moon. See what I mean? No common ground. I'm willing to learn. We are both very committed to making this work. He is a virgo rising and I think that is what drew me to him. Also, I think scorpios and aquas have a powerful pull towards each other. I feel that I am more virgo then scorpio- I relate more to my virgo moon. I definitely see how I am a scorpio but I do my best to mitigate my scorpio traits. I try to be rational and composed and not let my emotions control me. I aim for self-mastery and discipline. This aqua has my heart and I want to understand him deeply but he is the most guarded man I have ever known. Even after years of being together he still holds back. He loves me very much and I don't question that but how can I make him more comfortable? What would you want your significant other to understand about you as an aqua sag?

i think an aqua who has no conception of being an aqua is handicapped. handicapped for not knowing how he comes off to people, some of his faults, an understanding of how to communicate well with other signs, etc. I believe your aqua has not yet understood what it means to be an Aqua and work on himself.

this is what might be going on with you and your aqua. he might genuinely like you but isnt aware of how he is coming off to you. aquarius are totally blunt and you will literally have to be straightforward with him in expressing your feelings.

that or he just isnt ready to open up to you just yet... aquarius require time and like to form a bond before 'letting people in'.

i think you want him to be more open with you but he doesnt share the same feelings at the moment. How long have you guys been together?

you said youve been together for years and he still hasnt opened up? seems strange.really strange. Red flag Strange.

He comes from an dysfunctional family and has a lot of walls up. He definitely has self-esteem issues that linger from childhood and is very self-protective of his feelings. That being said, he tells me he loves me every day, and our relationship is serious and long-term. However, he still is very uncomfortable with sharing his inner thoughts and feelings. He tries and opens up but only in small glimpses. Don't get me wrong,we have good conversations but he doesn't like to talk about himself. Over time I have learned things bit by bit but it is constant work to get him to be open about anything that has a deeper meaning to him.

Yes! He has trouble understanding how he comes off. He is not good at understanding my perspective of him.

i see. well having a sag moon for me signifies not dwelling on the past, always looking forward- cliche' as that mignt sound ive always felt that way before knowing any astrology.

and for him to come from a dysfunctional family means having a lot of things pent up from the past and not really being too keen on being open with that, opening up past feelings etc.

does he inquire about you a lot? even though he might not be open about himself how is he with you? is he really interested about yourself and trying to know all he can about u?

I would say he loves to hear about me when I choose to share and pays attention to me and my thoughts and feelings but he doesn't ask much.

I would say he loves to hear about me when I choose to share and pays attention to me and my thoughts and feelings but he doesn't ask much.

That makes sense that he is sag moon- he doesn't like to visit the past much. He doesn't like to dwell and doesn't like to analyze experiences. When he gets emotional he tries to hide it and brush it away.

Not sure if this will help, I am a female with these placements, but look at it like this:

Aqua sun: detached, doesn't like to show emotions, seen as cold and is A-Okay with that perception, keeps to self a lot or very select few, deep thinkers

Sag moon: bubbly, emotions easily read, Adventurous, social, always moving forward

Its a constant struggle between the two. I hate that other people can read me as easily as they can and forget displaying emotions in front of others, heck no, I think that goes for many Aquas ( not all but at least this one LOL), so when I am "read" by others i'm like WTF and retreat. it makes us feel vulnerable.

Hope that helps if it doesn't then hopefully what the guys said does 🙂

I appreciate this so much everyone! @Plutomars44 yes! I get that: scorpios are similar in a way- we are slow to open ourselves up for fear of being hurt and disappointed. I definitely understand and try not to push him. At the same time, I feel that I have done so much to help him feel comfortable and have proven time and time again that he can trust me, and I guess it does hurt that he holds back. However, I cherish the moments when he lets go and feels free to be vulnerable with me, although they don't happen too often, when they do I value them so much and really appreciate them, knowing that the meaning they hold.

In many ways I think that, as much as we are different, he and I are actually very similar in our fears and insecurities and that may be part of the problem. Does aquarius need to be pursued? I feel that he pursued me at the beginning but then once he had me now he needs more from me in order to open up. I think he needs someone who is very open and expressive of their feelings for him and while I am expressive, it is in a quieter way. I need people who are more open and upfront about how they feel about me in order to open up as well. Both of us needing the same thing from each other, but both of us being afraid to be the one to go first.

I can see what you mean about being misread! And, @justagirl- I have thought so much about how those two signs lead to a very confusing outcome as you stated! Sometimes he seems very social, easy going and confident and brings people together and seems fearless. Other times he is so detached and brooding, withholding, anxious, contentious, and detached and I can't reach him. i have had a hell of a time trying to figure out which is his real self at the core. But I guess he is a blend of these traits and it is not so simple to define him and figure him out.

Please tell me more about the aqua sun sag moon personality! What would you want your significant other to know about you in order to make the relationship a positive one?

sweetie, if its been years.you must be straightforward with some of these aqua men. you have nothing to lose, think about it. he loves u as much as you do so far right, so whats wrong with you asking him to be more open?

if he really loves you, he will be accepting of this "confrontation" you have with him and will appreciate it, trust me.

if you dont wanna be "direct" and " confrontational" just start probing away at some of the things you want to know.

see how he responds to that...

hope all works out for you.

Thank you @sagimooner