Help me get my Aquarius Man back please !!!

I dated my Aquarius ex for about 5 months. We both fell fast and fell hard. He would talk about marriage and kids with me and about being the one for each other. I initiated the final breakup between us after being sick of the bickering and the stupid lies he'd tell. He agreed with it. It's almost been two months since the breakup which was intense and pretty ugly since he had a car that was in my name and other things I needed to handle and get back if we weren't going to be together anymore. I've had no contact with him for three weeks now and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him. I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. How do I win his heart back? Please help 😢

I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. How do I win his heart back?

I hope you realise how pointless and hopeless or how effective any answers can be until you reach out. You initiated the break up and now fearing to make contact. So I guess the first step is to actually talk to him, it would seem to be your salvation from all the problems you outlined.

no its over

Posted by aquasnoz

I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. How do I win his heart back?

I hope you realise how pointless and hopeless or how effective any answers can be until you reach out. You initiated the break up and now fearing to make contact. So I guess the first step is to actually talk to him, it would seem to be your salvation from all the problems you outlined.

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The thing is we tried to get back together for a few days after and then he changed his mind and didn't want it either anymore -- I think he was initially influenced by a few people to be single and not be with me anymore. Do I still reach out even if he said his feelings had changed a month and a half ago when we tried to get back together for those few days? Also, I'm positive that he's been with other girls since but not sure if anything serious...

Well you must understand the way I give advice is usually targetted at the person posting rather than changing or placing ideas of how others may perceive the person in question.

He might be hurt because you broke up with him and his pride is in the way? Did you actually help him to see the truth that you guys aren't compatible? Maybe indeed he doesn't want to be with you? What about the alternative that he misses you just as much? See what I mean there... there's a lot of possibilities regardless purely because I'm not him.

Not speaking on behalf of all aquas but the pulling away and detaching is present in all of us and perhaps he's doing just that given what happened and it would be rather devastating when his good intentions or wanting a relationship failed with you. You really just need to give it time until he sorts his shit out.

Now this doesn't mean you can't talk to him but you just can't take it to heart if he doesn't reply or respond in the manner you want. I just think when these situations arise one has to swallow their pride. If you really see it working, if you really do miss him and want him back then you should do everything in your power and that includes putting up with him.

Whats your Sun and Moon sign lady?

Posted by geminidude
Whats your Sun and Moon sign lady?

Leo and leo

Posted by aquasnoz
Well you must understand the way I give advice is usually targetted at the person posting rather than changing or placing ideas of how others may perceive the person in question.

He might be hurt because you broke up with him and his pride is in the way? Did you actually help him to see the truth that you guys aren't compatible? Maybe indeed he doesn't want to be with you? What about the alternative that he misses you just as much? See what I mean there... there's a lot of possibilities regardless purely because I'm not him.

Not speaking on behalf of all aquas but the pulling away and detaching is present in all of us and perhaps he's doing just that given what happened and it would be rather devastating when his good intentions or wanting a relationship failed with you. You really just need to give it time until he sorts his shit out.

Now this doesn't mean you can't talk to him but you just can't take it to heart if he doesn't reply or respond in the manner you want. I just think when these situations arise one has to swallow their pride. If you really see it working, if you really do miss him and want him back then you should do everything in your power and that includes putting up with him.

Okay, I'm willing to put up with him but like I said, the breakup was very ugly. He said mean things and I don't know if he meant them. But if he misses me wouldn't be reach out? Instead of occupying his time with other girls?
He may have been hurt that I broke up with him but that day he was on a dating website inviting girls over already! And when I asked for him back after, he denied the relationship.

He has written me cards and messages on Facebook that he is a better person because of me, he is so in love with me, he wants to do everything right by me... And all of this obviously could have been made up because everything written has been negated by the horrible breakup and not hearing from him anymore ...

Does he have a pisces venus or mars lol. Gem? *shrugs*

I'll admit to doing this before but I think somewhere along the line you've tripped this wire that just turned his way of thinking in regards to you. I do still believe he holds you in high regards and mean it when he said you meant a lot but with those placements it tends to be a romanticised version, loving the bond rather than loving the person. So physically he might've moved on I suppose.

You are right though but you might both be stuck up on the bad break up part but mean things are often exchanged at that heightened state. I guess my question now would be how big of an obstacle is your fear of rejection? Also if it's gotten to this stage it might be an all in deal. Lay it all to him clearly.

Posted by aquasnoz
Does he have a pisces venus or mars lol. Gem? *shrugs*

I'll admit to doing this before but I think somewhere along the line you've tripped this wire that just turned his way of thinking in regards to you. I do still believe he holds you in high regards and mean it when he said you meant a lot but with those placements it tends to be a romanticised version, loving the bond rather than loving the person. So physically he might've moved on I suppose.

You are right though but you might both be stuck up on the bad break up part but mean things are often exchanged at that heightened state. I guess my question now would be how big of an obstacle is your fear of rejection? Also if it's gotten to this stage it might be an all in deal. Lay it all to him clearly.

My fear of rejection I guess is high, only because this has been the hardest breakup I've had to deal with. I don't even know what to do with myself besides the gym and my normal routine because I miss him so much.

How would I approach him? What's the best way without pushing him away? Especially after leaving him with no car and all that other stuff he may have anger towards me for?

Posted by feb16aqua
I don't know...it doesn't sound that good though, in terms of "getting" him back. You already took all of the possessions you had in eachother's names back into yours? That's pretty serious.
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I'm sorry. Maybe just try talking to him a little, just open the line of communication and start there...start slowly.

Open it how? Just basic how are you? How have you been?

What have you got to lose? Won't know unless you try.

*shrugs*

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Posted by Hoplessinlove


Open it how? Just basic how are you? How have you been?

Hi. Ok, sorry do you two talk now? Text at all? A text is always easier lol and more non-commital.

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We don't speak at all. We spoke three weeks ago and it wasn't nice.

Posted by feb16aqua
I always wonder how the other party feels. You know, we are only really getting one side of the story, like all the time on here.

I just don't know if he's still mad or not? Or if he's happier without me. It's really killing me inside. It's been two months and I can't get over it.

Posted by Metoo
Cannot emphasize strongly enough....Noooo contact.
Aqya will internalyze and need lots of time time to process & for hard feelings to die down.
Let him miss you and wonder about you.
Do not reach out.
Take time to realize for yourself too, if he is really right for u or if being with someone is what you miss but not him.

For there to be a chance you & he need change individually & together. It will be excruciating, but time apart is crucial.
Try journaling, sort out your thoughts.

It's been three weeks no contact. How will I know if he misses me? What if he never reaches out? I've heard Aquarius won't come running back to you... You'd need to reach out to them? How much longer should no contact be? Do I reach out? And also, he knows the last time we spoke his number was blocked. He knows he can contact me via email if he really wanted to but I keep him blocked so I don't have the urge and can easily text him. What do I do?
It's been two months since the break up -- I moved out -- and I know I'm not over him. I don't see myself with anyone else but him 😭

What should I do? Can I get some more advice from everyone please?

Posted by feb16aqua
There's nothing you can do. You can't make him change his mind, get over it fast and come back to you just like that. I'm sorry but you had a heated breakup and fighting, a lot of damage has been done it seems.
The best thing you can do is to not torture yourself and try to move on, but it will take time. Sometimes moving on and getting past heartache can seem like a very daunting task.
But no matter what people say, it's hard and it hurts.

Time heals all wounds.

I hope so :-/ so there's no point in trying to reach out ?

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Posted by Hoplessinlove



I hope so :-/ so there's no point in trying to reach out ?

You know, it's really a personal thing for you and you know yourself and your situation the best.

In my past I have reached out way earlier than I should have lol. Just be prepared that he may not respond to you.
I would say that no matter what you do decide to do, you must stay true to yourself and find yourself through this emotional stress and trauma. Forget about him: YOU need time!!

Please also consider that your judgment may be clouded with emotion.

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You're right 😢 it's just been so hard to let it go. I find myself obsessing over it everyday for the last two months. I've tried so many different ways of getting past it but nothing is working. That's why now I'm convincing myself that it was a sign to reach out. 😢

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Posted by Hoplessinlove
I dated my Aquarius ex for about 5 months. We both fell fast and fell hard. He would talk about marriage and kids with me and about being the one for each other. I initiated the final breakup between us after being sick of the bickering and the stupid lies he'd tell. He agreed with it. It's almost been two months since the breakup which was intense and pretty ugly since he had a car that was in my name and other things I needed to handle and get back if we weren't going to be together anymore. I've had no contact with him for three weeks now and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him. I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. How do I win his heart back? Please help 😢

Your a woman.. He should of got that car for YOU in HIS name.. Sorry.. Sounds to me like he used you and got what he wanted.. and probably tried to get back with you in hopes of getting his toys back and More.. You need to move on, and be with somebody that already has his own stuff going on.. Your a woman. Act like one. I'm so old fashioned it HURTS! I hate to see woman doing things for men when it should be the other way around. The only thing you should be doing for him is Looking Pretty, Cooking, Cleaning, and being feminine. He benefited from you.. I'm surprised you actually allowed that LEO! I would expect that more from a Water sign LOL

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You're so right. I def didn't feel used at the time. I did it because he needed help and I am always willing to help people I care about. The truck was a mutual decision but I def need to move on. I just don't know why he's so hard to get over. I've never felt love like I thought I felt with him. It was different than any other relationship. Give me advice to move forward.