i just DONT get this aqui man!!!!

okay. i first met him about a month ago.. and since then he's chased. chased chased chhhassssed me. it was very obvious to everyone around us that he was attracted to me..

on my side he always came to me, left his friends to be next to me, kissed my cheek, my neck and basically did everything he can do to touch me...

so last weekend; he, i and a friend of mine were in his office. i was laying down on the couch and he came over and started to kiss my neck (with my friend there!!!)

when my friend left we started to make out.. heavy make out session... but i stopped it... before it got toooo serious.

he had to go to a workshop and he kissed my bye and i stayed in his office for a bit (taking a nap).

so i saw him today and we sorta ignored each other... until the very last momentl when a guy he was with looked over at me and smiled at me (as if to hit on me) and when i noticed the guy there too.

i didnt really do much, and the guy that i liked blew me a kiss and signaled me to call him... i just half smiled... and thats it.

thing is; im used to coming over to me and all.. so this not paying me special attention has got me all weirded out. i want to kiss him again, but i dont want to chase after him...

i dont quite understand the aqui mind. help?

After a heavy session of affection its not uncommon to be aloof the next time you meet...

primegen: we're 25... 🙂

lady_M: so this aloofness; how should i take this? that he doesnt want me anymore? i'm an aries.. and we run on 2 tempuratures... HOT and COLD... i dunno how to precieve this..aloofness.. good thing? or bad?

how should i even react, like we never made out?

ignore him and I mean IGNORE him, alot of Aquas can't stand it and that's putting it lightly, if you chase him, he will run because some of us like to obsess over a potential partner. He's watching the affects he has on you and seeing how your going to deal with it, if you ignore him and pretend your uninterested he will be back around for round 2....don't try to figure it out, you will go stark raving mad!

He likes you alot if he's being affectionate but we are mental creatures and were always calculating the next move and some of us treat people like lab rats (not all) but some do like to pick people apart, open them up, poke, probe, figure out what thems tick, such as building them up, breaking them down, analyze and build them back up (ebb and flow) type thing.

oh and some aquas don't like competition and the other guy was more than likely a threat to him in some way (some aquas make stuff up even when its apparent that its nothing LOL)and he wants to make sure your a sure thing before he gets too involved.

What tiki said.

I second Lady_M..."what tiki said."

"I AM the threat."


sounds like something an Aries might say...."I AM" 😉

haha

It's official LL-DK

I hearby now proclaim you as "part" Aries😉

Brash on Mr. taking on every adventure with PASSION!

hey hey hey noooow. I'm and aries sun! 😉 we're not so baaaad. ;-P

so day 2 of ignorng has gone underway. I know he saw me but this time I was with my friends and didn't look over to him... when I finally DID look over he was gone... it made me feels like he couldn't even stand to be in my general vicinity!

tiki; I know you said ignore, but this is taking its toll on me... I almost feel like nothing will evry happen again!

i agree with tiki
calypso
i know its hard but if you continue to ignore him for a bit longer things will happen in the end.

Calypso it will happen but its a patience game

oh and give your self room to breathe over this issue, it helps to say okay the game is on, so let me put my game face on and anticipate weeks or months before this guy makes another move so until then let me go ahead and live my life and do me, put him in the back of my mind type thing but don't make him a priority until he produces more, don't even look at him and I MEAN that, don't even flinch because this is a confidence game, I have been ignored and I chased because how dare you not like MUAH LOL!!

I don't behave this way anymore but when I was younger I did and its totally masochist behavior on Aquas part again don't try to figure it out LOL! If you look at him he will know that he has an effect on you and you don't want him to know this atleast not now.

Its a game of mental strength, he will sit back watch his prey from a distance, love you from a distance, pine and whine over you in his heart from a distance, create this romantic love for you from a distance and eventually he will BURST with anticipation once he sees your not digging him and when he thinks he might lose you he will pick up again.

it's a fun game, really!

THANK YOU SO MUCH GUYS for everything! 🙂

just to keep you updated... today he and ignored each other for a bit.. but then later on in the afternoon when i was with this guy who actually introduced us and i were hanging out. this guy and i were clowning around, i was wearing his hat and he was wearing my chain.. basically if you didnt know us you would think we were flirting.. and OF COURSE the aqui guy i like saw everything... from his little corner surrounded by his friends...

when my guy friend C and i went to the other building on our college campus the guy i like was there too (they have class together). i went with C to his class and in a very packed elevator he leaned back into me and held my hand but made a HUGE deal about it.. like in a joking manner"

and when we got the to conference room, he went inside but some of his guy classmates stayed outside to talk to me.. i wasnt flirting or anything.. i was just chit chatting with them regarding stuff for school. when i noticed him watching me from inside the conference room.

he them came back outside and sat near us.. but didnt really engage in the conversation, nor did i try to engage him in any way... when it was time for their class.. they all said "bye" to me, my friend C kissed me on the cheek.. and when the guy i like walked by me he said bye.. and kissed me on the cheek... then he pulled me back to him and REALLY kissed me bye... WHOOOPEEEEE. 😄

Physical therapy 🙂

well.. not really back to normal.. but i know we'll be kissing from now on.. 🙂 hopefully.

i dunno... i wish i did.. but i know better than to directly ask him you know? he's air and im fire.. im so used to being impulsive.. i have an aries sun and a cancer moon.. which makes me difficult.. because i dont nec. chase like an aries female.. i need the feeling of comfort liek a cancer female.. but i dont like being smothered at all (typical aries)...

so while dealing with my fire and water inconsistancies... i TOTALLY have no clue about air! ;X

oh! sports therapy will be an awesome job.. she'll get to hobnob with the stars and basically become a star herself if she can sign on with a major team 🙂 good luck to her!

i agree with you regarding the signs thing... i try to use them as a guide line sometimes... sorta to try to understand certain things that dont seem to make sense overall... 🙂

actually i used this site as a last ditch kinda thing when i didnt understand what the heck happened! LOL

good for you looking out for family! i hope your cousin enjoys her field. having your own business gives you SO much independance!!

so what do you do ? if i may ask...

HAHAHAHAHA thats one awesome barter if i must say so 🙂

LOLOL for your description of your job... do you at least enjoy it sorta? 😢

have you though of going into a business like ocnsulting for yourself?

do you think its the office politics that you dont like.. ?

I don't think I could ever do business.... its hard work to keep the poltics straight...

hope all works out for u. 😉

OKAY. so... help again please. the day after we kissed again we played the ignoring game. well I was sick and he kept lookng at me from acrosss the courtyard...

today I saw him and called him over and asked straight out 'whats up with ignoring me all week?' he tried to play it off like he didn't intentionally ignore me. and I said 'look if u don't want to talk to me in school fine, tell me, don't just ignore me' and he still stood by the fact that he didn't ignore me.

I want to tell him straight out that I don't want a relationship with him and I just want to mess with him... is that bad?

was confronting him a bad thing? *smacks forehead*

I want to tell him straight out that I don't want a relationship with him and I just want to mess with him... is that bad?

was confronting him a bad thing? *smacks forehead*

some of you really don't listen LOL!!

he knew you would crack now your platter meat kekekekeke

Okay CB you went and did the opposite and now your seeing why I told you to ignore him because he looked at you as if your an alien spaceship all the while enjoying you squirm, you have literally gave him the upper hand in my perspective and Aquas (some not all) feed and breathe off this stuff, now your saying oh I jus wanna do him, should I tell him? Whaaaat!

If you had ignored this guy like I stated he would have came to you and given you a taste of his Aquahood but now that you didn't play your cards right you won't to do damage control by offering up unattached sex which breeds desparity and lack of self confidence.

I say cut your losses because now that he knows you don't have self control your probably not that appealing to him anymore so yeah he would more than likely sex ya and put you in the background with the rest of the women that couldn't tame him lol!

Jus be friends with this guy, keep it platonic and see what happens

no stress no mess

* dang....tiki KNOWS her stuff.

Listen to her CB - awesome words of wisdom

"I want to tell him straight out that I don't want a relationship with him and I just want to mess with him... is that bad?

was confronting him a bad thing? *smacks forehead*"

Why are you questioning your instincts? You did what you felt you needed to do and it was perfect. When we begin to doubt ourselves and our actions it is a sure sign that our self-esteem is taking a dip. Bring it back up girl and trust yourself. If you do not care for a man ignoring you....let him go. He won't change. Unless of course, you are only in the relationship for the fun of it and nothing else.

*When one is involved in a HEALTHY relationship it will feel good - there will be no doubts, no wondering about his behaviour.

Well she clearly doesnt want a relationship (I think its BS, btw)...
Offering noncommital sex to an aqua doesnt work so well, like it would with other signs...im not saying he wont take it though...

tiki's right...

Tame meaning if you want him to bend your way then you have to know what your dealing with and stick to that, I don't mean tame in the literal sense.

Some signs you can play it a certain way and some you can't, there are certain signs that love mental stimulation more than physical and Aquarius happens to be one of them, what women call game playing is a natural way of behavior for some Aqua men so it looks like games, he's not playing games with her, he's being himself and he seems to be pretty patient, he already knows she is sexy and attractive, he's trying to see how she deals mentally and if he can play with her short or long term, in essence he's feeling her out through and through and she lost her cool and her patience so now he knows what level she's on.

I don't think its wise to offer up an unattached sexual relationship unless she can deal with rejection because he will reject her at some point and move on. I'm assuming he's young and from what she wrote he's not asking or making her jump thru hoops, he's simply being himself.

i'm not hear to play with words

some people say deal and I say play because thats what it is in my mind, I'm too old to dance around the obvious, when I was younger I tested my mental strength every chance I got so I played alot and every so often a guy would GET IT (get what I was doing) and this would be a great union be it short or long term, I haven't had very many boyfriends because I know how hard it is for me to connect with people on a mental level, but when I did we dealt with it if we were on the same page. Meaning he's gained my confidence that we speak the same mental language and we can enjoy ourselves with spoken and unspoken words...So yes I would throw out mental energy of interest and the least possible point of contact physically because I knew that sex wasn't a huge factor for me (enjoyable) but not something I was immensely interested in. I don't do this as much anymore because I don't need to but it was my way of feeling people out.

he's playing with her, its a mental game of chess, but in his mind its not game playing and thats why when she approached him about the situation he looked at her wierd, for him its natural behavior to be the way he's being,its his way of feeling people out beyond the touching and feeling he was giving her, he wants a sparring partner on a mental level b/c this seems to be his thing or he would have initiated more contact,

if he seen at some point that she's not playing into his behavior and it didn't have an affect on her, then she's instantly put into the mystery woman catergory and this would have peaked his interest and stimulated his mind to analyze, fixate on her to see whats there because how dare she not like irrestible me and then he would have put it on another level and deal with her.

Its not so easy with some Aqua breeds

I'm not a relationship guru but I do know that Air (mental) signs are misunderstood along with Water (emotional) signs because what one say is game its really just a natural way of behavior for most of us.

Like I have been saying in like forever...its not a game to us.

What exactly is gam,e playing....it seems anything people do now a days is game playing. How in the hell can you NOT game play if thats the case?

I don't recommend women take a man"s touchy/feely behavior as a sure thing, a guy may feel a certain way at a certain moment in time at that time but whose to say its going to be consistent, this guy gave a little and she ran with it, me being older and knowing better would have took it for what it was worth and left it there once he left my presence. I would have ignored him like he didn't exist and I'm good at that LOL!

yes you are aqua though...

yep (:

"I would have ignored him like he didn't exist and I'm good at that LOL!"

"yes you are aqua though..."

-ladym is right!!! yes, it is easy for you to do this...it is in your nature!!! it is not so easy for most girls to ignore. we can't all be so lucky!

my aqua has been ignoring me for the last 4 days...no text, no phone calls...
and i have ignored him back. it's not easy for me, but i realize it is what i must do. i have a great weekend planned ahead of me consisting of hanging out with friends and partying...so, i am ok 🙂

uh oh MC...goodluck...and have a great weekend.

I honestly think you should let him go....find someone who'll love you like you deserve and want.

If I remember correctly, MC's sun is in Cancer. Typically this sign has a hard time of letting go.

I've seen this with many of my Cancer pals....those "claws" can really have a tight hold on some things...even those things that are not good for them.

yes, i am a cancer...and yes, i probably do deserve better...but, i love him dearly...and yes, i have a very hard time letting go.
he actually has moved away, across country...but, he wanted to stay together and he is the one who told me to have hope in "us", and now only a week later he is ignoring me...go figure! i actually just lost a good friend in a car accident this past week as well, so it has been a rough week for me. and it has been hard to have to let go...

so sorry to hear of your friend, MC - I hope that you are focusing on the wonderful memories that you two have shared together. It is always so sad when we lose someone especially someone who is so close to us. We miss their earthly presence in our lives...keep focusing on the good, smile - be grateful for the treasured moments that you two created - that is what is truly special.

You sure are being presented with many experiences for you to learn the art of "letting go" these days. Apparently, you are ready to handle it or it would not be in your world at the moment. It is not an easy thing to learn sometimes - nonetheless, it is part of the journey.

Embrace it with love.

thank you freebird...i appreciate that!

everything does happen for a reason, and i believe this is a lesson for me to learn to "let go"...and be ok with it. as hard as it is...

You are very welcome MC -

my aqua has been ignoring me for the last 4 days...no text, no phone calls...
and i have ignored him back. it's not easy for me, but i realize it is what i must do. i have a great weekend planned ahead of me consisting of hanging out with friends and partying...so, i am ok

MC I feel ya girl, I know how hard you try but I did teach a few things huh? (:

You can do it girl, holla at me soon

ROTFL@I've seen this with many of my Cancer pals....those "claws" can really have a tight hold on some things...even those things that are not good for them.

Great claw description *giggling*

oh gosh guys... i know i shouldve listened and ignored him.. but i thought everything was all gravy when we made out again... and when he kept staring at me from like 20 feet away...

im an aries... so the ignoring game.. i cant take it... should i just give up on this one? or at least ignore him until he decides what to do?

thanks primegen 🙂 i should think that way...

im an aries... so the ignoring game.. i cant take it... should i just give up on this one? or at least ignore him until he decides what to do?

If you really like him then unfortunately you will be doing the ignore thing for a hot minute (weeks/months) so its really up to you, being that your an aries, I would suggest you take the high road and connect with someone thats more on your level but if your up for a challenge then he's your guy (:

ok. I've played the wait & see game with him... and when he saw me for the first time on tuesday, the first thing he said was 'see? I'm not ignorng you.' and everything was okay again. he was complimenting me and stuff...

then we just sorta kept running into each other and all was cool.

but what I've noticed was the fact that he comes over to me often when he notices that I'm being flirted with by other guys...

he doesn't do anything too forward, but he makes it known by guestures that he and I are 'close'... does that make sense?

I'm not flirting with other guys to make him jealous, but guys DO flirt with me... good sign right? the fact that he comes over while those guys are trying to flirt with me?

I'm with DK09, so basically he's ignoring you up until competition comes into play...utilize patience CB, I personally wouldn't put too much weight in on this guy, keep doing what your doing. He likes you but of course he has to like you in his way at his pace which as always is slow.

sounds pretty high school to me...

do you really want to be with a guy that is only interested when other guys show interest? that's not real...

I'm with moonchild on this one, he seems/sounds very immature...I would ignore him even when a guy shows up LOL! Yeah it seems mean but he will get the point and you will teach him to keep it real or go away...when I say ignore I mean ignore LOL!!