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It's been a shit week
um your boyfriend doesn't sound very compassionate to you, or notice how tired you are from all the work.
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.
Posted by DonnaElvira77it all sounds weird.Posted by lisabethur8It's like he wants him to do both jobs or something.
um your boyfriend doesn't sound very compassionate to you, or notice how tired you are from all the work.
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like he sounds (no offense OP) like a little child.
i would do alot for my child but that's because they are children so parents do everything for them..
but they are children, they are not responsible adults yet.
so maybe OP needs to be like a father figure to him?
OP is not patient just by reading his post, I wouldnt like man-childs either.and someone not reading my emotional cues, lacking compassion for his stress;
but if these two love eachother, they need to work on eachother's relationship.
but if these two love eachother, they need to work on eachother's relationship.
Posted by lisabethur8Holly crap! Scorpio moon!!! With Aqua! Turn on the drama hahahaha. Dating a scorp moon with Aqua Mars as we speak and the intensity! Good lord!!! Yes he should know and not be so clingy.... They love freedom, BUT ON THEIR TERMS! so he expects you to be available when he wants it... And they hate to be predictable so is why he may be pushing to spend time when he sees fit and forgetting her issue. Smh so selfish and egotistical this moon sometimes.Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.click to expand
Posted by Shaniajamlol i dont know i do alot of catering to my husband. and take care of him. 😛Posted by lisabethur8Holly crap! Scorpio moon!!! With Aqua! Turn on the drama hahahaha. Dating a scorp moon with Aqua Mars as we speak and the intensity! Good lord!!! Yes he should know and not be so clingy.... They love freedom, BUT ON THEIR TERMS! so he expects you to be available when he wants it... And they hate to be predictable so is why he may be pushing to spend time when he sees fit and forgetting her issue. Smh so selfish and egotistical this moon sometimes.Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.click to expand
so he loves that lots!!! 😄
i even make him sandwiches and his breakfast everyday before and for his work. and his dinner ready everyday.
Do tell me more haha love it
Posted by DonnaElvira77Posted by lisabethur8You can tell me to mind my own fucking business. But do you work too ? If so how on earth do you manage?Posted by Shaniajamlol i dont know i do alot of catering to my husband. and take care of him. 😛Posted by lisabethur8Holly crap! Scorpio moon!!! With Aqua! Turn on the drama hahahaha. Dating a scorp moon with Aqua Mars as we speak and the intensity! Good lord!!! Yes he should know and not be so clingy.... They love freedom, BUT ON THEIR TERMS! so he expects you to be available when he wants it... And they hate to be predictable so is why he may be pushing to spend time when he sees fit and forgetting her issue. Smh so selfish and egotistical this moon sometimes.Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.
so he loves that lots!!! 😄
i even make him sandwiches and his breakfast everyday before and for his work. and his dinner ready everyday.click to expand
how do we manage? welll.......... yeah mind your own. 😄 😄 heehee...i think this is going into financial territory...heehee.
but i get you..in today's world, two family income is necessary.
both my sister's and their men work, and they have alot. Every couple is different.
but OP's life, for example, he is the working ALOT. that's why his bf is not helping him.
both my sister's and their men work, and they have alot. Every couple is different.
but OP's life, for example, he is the working ALOT. that's why his bf is not helping him.
Lmfaoooo
Posted by Shaniajamwhat's so funny? lol
Lmfaoooo
isn't OP working alot and when he comes home he gets a nagging husband type? at least that's what it sounds like.
Posted by DonnaElvira77thanks, i appreciate our differences.Posted by lisabethur8I understand. I won't interfere in a happy couple each to their own. I couldn't do it. I would be wrecked. But whatever works for you :-)
but i get you..in today's world, two family income is necessary.
both my sister's and their men work, and they have alot. Every couple is different.
but OP's life, for example, he is the working ALOT. that's why his bf is not helping him.click to expand
not for every woman.
Posted by lisabethur8So op significant other does not work and I'ls nagging also? All while being a scorp moon?!Posted by Shaniajamwhat's so funny? lol
Lmfaoooo
isn't OP working alot and when he comes home he gets a nagging husband type? at least that's what it sounds like.click to expand
Agreed I do have weak boundaries
He's a libra with a Gemini moon and he's a lot like my mum when he's stressed out he can't sit down and just has to do everything to take his mind off shit, we quit smoking ciggerettes and weed for new years and I also had an anger meltdown in the car after new years coming home and I had to hitch hike home because I couldn't trust myself in the car with him and my friend and I apologised afterwards.
I messaged a psychologist friend today asking for help and she redirected me to the men's resource center which has closed down and get this, the building that's the men's resource center was actually was the house I used to live in when I was a kid, when we moved out it became a halfway house for troubled mens with problems. And it's fucking shut down.
I had to take the day off from work today because I promised him I would get my head checked at the start of the year and I've just been sweeping it under the carpet and going in and out of my sad head spaces.
Thanks all so much for advice I'm still reading through answers I just need to get this off my chest a lot......he also hates that I'm on this site lol he thinks it makes me angry but I find it therapeutic
He's a libra with a Gemini moon and he's a lot like my mum when he's stressed out he can't sit down and just has to do everything to take his mind off shit, we quit smoking ciggerettes and weed for new years and I also had an anger meltdown in the car after new years coming home and I had to hitch hike home because I couldn't trust myself in the car with him and my friend and I apologised afterwards.
I messaged a psychologist friend today asking for help and she redirected me to the men's resource center which has closed down and get this, the building that's the men's resource center was actually was the house I used to live in when I was a kid, when we moved out it became a halfway house for troubled mens with problems. And it's fucking shut down.
I had to take the day off from work today because I promised him I would get my head checked at the start of the year and I've just been sweeping it under the carpet and going in and out of my sad head spaces.
Thanks all so much for advice I'm still reading through answers I just need to get this off my chest a lot......he also hates that I'm on this site lol he thinks it makes me angry but I find it therapeutic
Posted by DonnaElvira77Posted by lisabethur8We don't know how much they both work etc.Posted by Shaniajamwhat's so funny? lol
Lmfaoooo
isn't OP working alot and when he comes home he gets a nagging husband type? at least that's what it sounds like.
I do know people can't do everything. And to be honest your own emotional health is personal. What you can do is personal to you.
The op is at breaking point. He can't do everything. I don't know whether the needs of the bf are irrational or too much or what. But he can't meet them. He has his own issues dealing with anger.
I don't think the op is going to listen to us anyway they never do. :-) There is a whole lot of life stuff etc.
it is...emotional health is very very important. 😢
Posted by Shaniajamhuh? 😕Posted by lisabethur8So op significant other does not work and I'ls nagging also? All while being a scorp moon?!Posted by Shaniajamwhat's so funny? lol
Lmfaoooo
isn't OP working alot and when he comes home he gets a nagging husband type? at least that's what it sounds like.click to expand
Posted by Shaniajam………Posted by lisabethur8Holly crap! Scorpio moon!!! With Aqua! Turn on the drama hahahaha. Dating a scorp moon with Aqua Mars as we speak and the intensity! Good lord!!! Yes he should know and not be so clingy.... They love freedom, BUT ON THEIR TERMS! so he expects you to be available when he wants it... And they hate to be predictable so is why he may be pushing to spend time when he sees fit and forgetting her issue. Smh so selfish and egotistical this moon sometimes.Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.click to expand
Lol
Posted by SensitiveBluesOmg I read an overview of the 5 love languages!!
i don't think you're as bad as you make yourself sound
i think you just need to take timeouts with yourself. learn how to manage the stress
and let the Libra with Gemini moon roam how he likes.
but you don't have to always join
His love language is spending quality time together and me doing things for him and helping out....
My attitude is that he doesn't need to do shit constantly, I tell him to sit down and watch a movie and he's up walking around cleaning and doing shit....we had a huge fight on Monday because I went to bed without doing the dishes and he had a stressful court case the next day and was really stressed out with me.
I know this sounds weird and TMI but he jacked off that night and it kind of pissed me off because I gave him a blow job that morning and I felt like we haven't properly been intimate since after New Years and my love language is physical touch and presents, he jacked off in the bathroom and I know he did because of evidence, and before we went to bed he came to me and gave me a big kiss and said that I was so beautiful which made me feel even uglier because he said that but pleasures himself alone, little did I know that he doesn't find me attractive when I'm not doing my part which is valid lol.
Another thing I've noticed is that my other love language is gifts, when people formally give me gifts I feel like dobby from Harry Potter, it makes me feel like I have worth.....I don't want expensive gifts at all on the contrary, I want to be given something significant and the gesture to be dramatic and grand. Im the person to go to when giving gifts and my boyfriend is clueless when to buy gifts for people, last Christmas he had no idea what to get his family and he asked me every time and when I told him what to get who and why he was amazed about how much thought I put into it, for example his brother is an Aries (needs to be creative) and has anger issues and is always getting into trouble so I told him to get him a big art book and art supplies because it's therapeutic and it worked, he asked how did I know that his brother loves to draw? Even though he's the last person you'd expect to want a drawing book.
And it's amazing that I've had a revelation, all the boyfriends I've ever had have either forgotten my birthday or have given me really bad birthday gifts, my first boyfriend forgot my birthday and gave me half a bottle of Galliano to drown my sorrows, my second boyfriend got me scratchies and my current boyfriend forgot my birthday and left me stranded and stood up in china town, though we weren't together at the time.....my birthday is on the 3rd of February and he knows I want an Akubra for my birthday, he mentions it and I say no no no it costs too much, this is really interesting, if so
I'm making a head about 5 love languages I'm crying because I'm having my light bulb moment and I'm trying to piece other people's in my lives love languages.
So interesting that my mums love language is affirmation and she just loves and adores beautiful words of adoration being told to her and for some reason it always repulsed me because she was always so thirsty for it but now I understand how much she requires to function and be happy, I always thought words were cheap and disregarded them
Posted by SensitiveBluesTHANKYOU so very fucking much!!!! Have no idea how much this has helped me understand people and become a better,person, thank yo!!!Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11well are you thanking me yet?
I'm making a head about 5 love languages I'm crying because I'm having my light bulb moment and I'm trying to piece other people's in my lives love languages.
hello my leo moon needs itclick to expand
For fucks sake, I just asked him what his love language is and he said all of them!
But I know what the main two are
But I know what the main two are
Sounds like the fairly early stages of a relationship, we all have dealt with it, (some didn't last) but these are just the blue print you must follow to construct a sound foundation. Hold on to him, it will be a bumpy ride but with time he and u will mature.
He most likely has not yet adapted to your new position, it's taking up your time, so he doesn't like it because he doesn't get to see you at when he wants too, and he just needs to find something else to keep him preoccupied and I promise you when he does he will be OK.
Most men revert to Childish ways when they are upset because emotions are harder for us to express and anger is easier for us too. When he is angry that's just his emotions confusing him.
Women prefer men emotionally stable
Men prefer women emotionally aggressive
That's why he comes back.
It's hard for opposites to understand each other out side of the connection they share.
Give him time to grow use to the change. For the mean time seek help for your anger issue's.
He most likely has not yet adapted to your new position, it's taking up your time, so he doesn't like it because he doesn't get to see you at when he wants too, and he just needs to find something else to keep him preoccupied and I promise you when he does he will be OK.
Most men revert to Childish ways when they are upset because emotions are harder for us to express and anger is easier for us too. When he is angry that's just his emotions confusing him.
Women prefer men emotionally stable
Men prefer women emotionally aggressive
That's why he comes back.
It's hard for opposites to understand each other out side of the connection they share.
Give him time to grow use to the change. For the mean time seek help for your anger issue's.
Yes that's what he wants, he wants our love to grow and blossom
Posted by Floexactly. it's a matter of time when Scorpio moon of his blows up.Posted by lisabethur8+1Posted by ShaniajamOP is a Scorpio moon..
You're stressed. Seems like a middle person is needed. He's a little clingy also which means he's not used to not having your time redirected elsewhere. He must learn to give you space. Go out to eat or some activity where you guys can talk and Come to a common ground. Good luck and take it easy.
granted he has a stellium in aqua..
but, i can't believe his boyfriend can't get the picture that OP is tired, like plain as day and not helping him, and only aggravating him.
An Aquas "needs" space, when that doesn't happen we will blow up.click to expand
poking and poking at water, especially Scorpio, is going to make him blow a fuse. they like peace, similar to their counterpart taurus.
don't poke, and with water, you gotta pick up on emotional cues.
it's basic compatibility.
and they are not compatible, even with love, it's very strained and uncomfortable. and in the long run, alot of suffering, I get what astrologers mean (Edit: especially reading this, from an outsiders view, and looking in. the way he describes it, his boyfriend continually harasses him)
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