Leo maneater getting heartbroken over Aquarius Man

Ok, I keep trying to summarize this 8 months of turmoil but I can't seem to do it in under 8 posts. Still trying to summarize but until then I want to get this topic going anyways. I'm MADlY in love with an aquarius. And in short, he was interested first, I thought it'd never happened, i've never dealt with any aquarius men before, and after spending a platonic night with him I fell hard for him, I hate cuddling, but didn't mind it with him, I hate making out but don't mind it with him, we have amazing sex and the more im around him the more I realize hes my type hes the relationship after 34342 failed relationships I wanted. But he's so complicated and I hear their super aloof but sometimes I cant even tell. if thats what it is. It started really sweet and good and even though I wasnt looking for a relationship or wanted one I didnt mind the idea of it with him, and was almost certain it would happen and thats what he wanted. We have mad pride issues and we goes weeks even months without talking because were trying to prove the other doesnt have it that bad and its gotten to the point where he tells his friends im obsessed with him and I just think hes crazy. But I still like him, and now hes moving next semister and I realize hes the love of my life and it's like electricity with him. Our conversations flow for hours, his touch actually satisfies me and that rolling stones song was written about me I am constantly never satisfied and it's terrible. I'm never gonna meet another him but I don't know how to fix things. Sometimes I feel like it's cause i'm to aloof myself, so I do the opposite and spill my feelings and they both get the same reaction. The bottomline though is its never really over and somehow even when I think it is we end up hooking up again. This has been going on for 8 months. He's gonna go to law school, and girls are gonna be all over him, i'll lose my chance forever. I don't know what to do. I feel like everything doesn't work and things just always happen out of the blue. I have no control, which is something im so used to but im afraid if I let things happen ill lose him forever. It's a strange situation and he has an alcohol problem and I feel like hes more himself drunk than sober and sober hes an asshole who wants to pretend hes a player even though every that knows him knows that he wants a relationship even though for some reason one with me just cant happen. Help!!! I can't let this one go 🦇

Hold up. What are you in a tizzy about again? He's got a drinking problem which is a huge red flag that states he is NOT ready to be in a healthy relationship. In college, eh? You sound like a typical young Leo. I advise you to get your heart trampled on. That is the only way us fixed signs (including your Aqua guy there) will truly learn anything properly.

"he has an alcohol problem and I feel like hes more himself drunk than sober and sober hes an asshole who wants to pretend hes a player even though every that knows him knows that he wants a relationship even though for some reason one with me just cant happen"

Question: Do you only spend time with him when he's drinking?

First of all, he has an alcohol problem. THIS IS A PROBLEM!!!! He's most likely always to have a problem with alcohol. Even if he gets sober, and stays sober, he will always be an alcoholic. He will always want to turn to alcohol, even if he doesn't. If he doesn't turn away from it, he'll use the disguise of just being social or just having fun, entertaining clients, stress relief, and so on. I've got enough life experience and been around enough of them to know this. Who would wants to be with someone like that? You'll be taking care of kids while he's living it up in the drink. And yes, I may be biased, but this happened to me. For his sake, I hope I'm wrong.

As for now, when he's drinking, he's not more himself. He's under the influence. And you know as well as the rest of us that we do things under the influence that we probably wouldn't do sober. I wonder how many things he does and says that he regrets once he's sober.

Second of all: You don't like him sober, then why do you want the relationship?

Third: He doesn't want a relationship. Period. He's got career goals and he's going to put that first. He's going to move and go to law school. You can't (and shouldn't) try to stop this. Let him go. Give him the freedom to persue his career. Someday, maybe, he'll come back to you.

In the meantime, move on and get with a guy that has a pleasant SOBER personality!!

@metoo, thank you for your commentary. That's exactly how I feel about the situation. Who doesn't have a drinking problem in college? My manager (don't work with him anymore but at the time I first met this aqua) we were closed, and his son used to go to very close with him. He warned me when he saw we were talking that he was out of control and an alcoholic and indescive and not the type of guy I should be talking to. I brushed it off too like, "who doesn't have a drinking problem? I probably have a drinking problem I work at a bar where I take 3 shots during work a day and am totally sober and functioning". I think the "obsessed" thing is entirely a pride thing. We have the same group of friends, and he used to be a football player in high school. I actually have very high self esteem. If anything I would think that my ego and pride is so high it's a little too healthy to say plump. Honestly, i'm the bartender T-Pain writes songs about. I'm the Jenna Jameson of bartending. I have customers who set up manicure appointments for me and pay my rent. I liked him because I think aquarians might be the ying to my yang. He's distant enough to not be suffocating. (I have a huge problem with guys overwhelming me, I don't like being responsibile of other peoples emotions when i'm unsure of my intentions, so when guys overwhelm me I drop them immediately, I only like to be overwhelmed when im serious otherwise I nip it in the bud. Even then I like to do my own thing have my own friends have enough room to flirt... i'm a leo that stuff will never die. I used to be serious with a cancer it was the most royally mindfucking relationship ever, he wanted me to be a closet maid or something) I honestly did like him on my own, but I think the unobtainable part and the fact he does brush me off and doesn't need me aids to the obsession. I'm not obsessed with him, but I do believe i'm obsessed with the idea I don't understand what makes him so special because I don't LIKE guys, I hate people really, I seldomly even find people I tolerate, but I got to the point I would look forward to sleeping in his bed. Like weird stuff that doesn't sound like me at all. So even though that wasn't what made me fall in love with him, it isn't helping the situation ever, because being a girl that can have any guy, and every guy she ever wanted... this is mindfucking me that the one guy I ever truly wanted I can't have, ESPECIALLY when I feel I did have him where I wanted him initially.

However, I have tried the distance thing. I feel like it doesn't help, if anything he forgets about me. My concern isn't "if his feelings are true" they probably are nonexistent. Though I do believe we have chemistry and I do believe given the chance we would be really good together. But things are strange between us, as much shit as he talks and as much time has gone. Up to the last hook up 3 weeks ago, we went about 3 months without communication where I think I was pissed cause I said I had feelings and he blocked me on twitter (not facebook, where we're still friends). But then I do do my own thing, unfortunately we have the same friends so we hear about each other alot and are picked on and as I said before I think thats why he says im so obsessed. It makes him look good, and it also makes the teasing on me and lessens on him. It's a defense, but I think slowly he believes his own defense mechanism. But yea we went 4 months without talking because fuck this i'm a leo i'm not gonna beg me opening up is enough I won't do more. And then he ends up getting trashed drunk at my bar, throws up ON the bar, his friends ditch him on me cause the whole night he complained about how he wanted to go home with me and hed wait for me to get out of work (sober) so now i'm responsible for him. I seriously babysat him the whole night, got thrown up, had to listen to him cry about relationships and how hes tried of being party guy for his friends and how he just wants to settle down, of course he wakes up blacked it out and I didnt even bring it up. I saved him from choking on vomitt in his sleep. As pissed and bitter as I can get I care about him, I always will because at his core I relate to him like I never will relate to anybody. He's the one person I can stand in this life so why let anything happen to him. And he brushed it off like it wasn't that bad, he was fine, he didn't wanna go home with me like I practically kidnapped him. His friends had to correct him for weeks that infact he did beg for me that night. then he throws in my face at breakfast that my coworkers girlfriend he was talking to that night he's going to add on facebook to try to get it in. It's like really? you're so cool. We just had sex for 2 hours. Shut up. But I don't say shit. I just roll my eyes. And that was 3 weeks ago and we really haven't talked. And even if we don't i'm still "Soooooo in love with him". It's ridiculous. Nothing works with him and then when I think its over he pops up

Also, if any aquarian guys have any leo stories, that'd help me out. I feel like he misintrepts every action or word I have and im very interested how they see it or how they intrepret leos. I feel like i'm pegged out all wrong but only because aquarians see things so differently. They have to think entirely opposite of things I would expect.

This is going to sound very rude, but I feel I have to say this. You sound very conceited and this seems a case of you only want what you can't have.

@truecap, I feel like everything you said has been very rude and unhelpful and because you're neither a leo or an aquarius or even giving me any advice having anything to do with astrology i'd like to politely ask you to butt out. Thank you.

I'm an aqua myself and I can totally relate to this in the sense that I hate other aquas who exhibit this kind of behaviour lol. There was actually a time when I was like this back when I left high school and started my university life. I'll tell you what when an Aqua knows he's in his element he knows he's irresistible. We take full advantage of that but that only lasted a year before I came to my senses, I USE MY POWERS FOR GOOD! muahaha.

Now I work at a bar too so I understand drinking as a profession. What I don't do is throw up at a bar and act all retarded. That, girly, is a definite sign he's got a drinking problem... unless of course it was just that one time he threw up then I'll chalk it up to he's got some serious mental health issues. I do however remembering enjoying life to the fullest, conduct wild social experiments given my twisted dark nature when I was around that age (not saying I'm old by any stretch). By that I mean we dissect what you like and how you like it, we play you like a fiddle only to discard you or use you when we feel like it. To make it even more twisted when we feel you're about to leave we tug that string and have you go gaga on us all over again.

He may feel the world is against him, like a true Aqua in his teens he'll chase whatever he fancies to let him forget what the real world is. He might make you feel like you understand him but how do you expect to understand him when he doesn't quite fully understand himself 🙂

The Leo in you is probably making him grounded for the moment and when he gets too wild he seeks comfort to relax with you but trust me when I say he's not emotionally mature for you just yet. It is all just a big game and for now he's conquered you.

You seem like a reasonable and logically sound girl when it comes to yourself, I always adored that in my Leo friends because you guys talk sense. What you are not realising is throughout all his potential he is still toxic for you. Leave now before he destroys your pride and when he does come to his senses, I can assure you if he truly appreciates you he will definitely come back because us Aquas no matter how aloof and detached always remember those we cared about and we never leave loose ends with loved ones.

Posted by aquasnoz
I'm an aqua myself and I can totally relate to this in the sense that I hate other aquas who exhibit this kind of behaviour lol. There was actually a time when I was like this back when I left high school and started my university life. I'll tell you what when an Aqua knows he's in his element he knows he's irresistible. We take full advantage of that but that only lasted a year before I came to my senses, I USE MY POWERS FOR GOOD! muahaha.

Now I work at a bar too so I understand drinking as a profession. What I don't do is throw up at a bar and act all retarded. That, girly, is a definite sign he's got a drinking problem... unless of course it was just that one time he threw up then I'll chalk it up to he's got some serious mental health issues. I do however remembering enjoying life to the fullest, conduct wild social experiments given my twisted dark nature when I was around that age (not saying I'm old by any stretch). By that I mean we dissect what you like and how you like it, we play you like a fiddle only to discard you or use you when we feel like it. To make it even more twisted when we feel you're about to leave we tug that string and have you go gaga on us all over again.

He may feel the world is against him, like a true Aqua in his teens he'll chase whatever he fancies to let him forget what the real world is. He might make you feel like you understand him but how do you expect to understand him when he doesn't quite fully understand himself 🙂

The Leo in you is probably making him grounded for the moment and when he gets too wild he seeks comfort to relax with you but trust me when I say he's not emotionally mature for you just yet. It is all just a big game and for now he's conquered you.

You seem like a reasonable and logically sound girl when it comes to yourself, I always adored that in my Leo friends because you guys talk sense. What you are not realising is throughout all his potential he is still toxic for you. Leave now before he destroys your pride and when he does come to his senses, I can assure you if he truly appreciates you he will definitely come back because us Aquas no matter how aloof and detached always remember those we cared about and we never leave loose ends with loved ones.

Yeah, the throwing up thing was a one time deal. I felt bad for the bartender of that bar because I was the one sitting him down sayi

saying he just needed to chill and he was fine and not going to throw up (as he's gagging, and eventually yaking on her bar). I mean, I don't think he has an alcohol problem yet, but 50% of the time he does wind up a hot mess. He doesn't drink everyday though. So I think for college life he's pretty much just a frat (without being a frat) stereotype. He used to be a football player in high school. I don't expect less from him. I'm totally aware it's very much like that though. I know he's fully aware he likes to play me like a fiddle and then he's done and then he's not done. The worse part is, even if he doesn't understand himself or I understand myself, that mentality I relate to, because it's what I have done to guys forever. So I almost can't hate him for it, you know? Instead we have weeks where were really good, weeks where we fight cause my pride is confused, and then months when my pride is fed up and I dont talk to him for months while I secretly pine and cry the whole time. Lately this go has been really nice though so it makes everything worse. He leaves in 2 weeks. so far in the past week of us talking this time he ditched all his friends so I could "teach him how to play darts", then got competitive with me, ditched all 10 of his friends he was with to play with me inside in a corner all night, then told his cousin im a best friend to not to tease me because im actually a sweet girl and when I took care of him drunk I asked if he was hungry in the morning and took him to breakfast. my recollection of this was him telling me he was gonna sauce my coworkers girlfriend all breakfast but I guess if he remembers it as a sweet gesture ill take it. I usually buy his drinks, and that night he actually opened a tab and tipped me on it. I only bought his drinks if it involved losing a bet in darts. Also that night I realized that he exaggerates me to other people, I thought maybe he thought I really was that obsessed and now im starting to feel he elaborates it for other people, cause he was bragging about how I was buying him all these drinks that night the one night he had actually bought all his drinks so maybe I make him look good? following that night he called me at 2am a few nights later to pull him a favor and pick him up from a bar because his friends left and ditched him and he was like "youre the only person who w

would, will you be my savior, will you save me?" and I was confused was of all people he's calling me, I mean obviously he knows i'll do it, and he kept implying im like the only person who cares about him so its like great he knows I care too. but I didnt have my car so I called a few of his friends to do it and they couldnt. He could have called his brother, and I dont know why he didnt, but he called me and ended up spending the night and sleeping in someones car or something weird. Then I saw him the next night and he kept telling me to txt him when i got off work and go over to his house and I kept saying, I dont have a car so he was like, whatever that sucks well figure it out. but he was super talkitive and like involving me in conversations with his friends and stuff, to the point all of his friends know how it goes with us for awhile now and they were just looking at us like "you guys are ridiculous" because they know some days I will ignore him for a month and right now were acting like BFFs and then he asked how him trying to twostep was and I said it looked terrible and his other friend said he did a good job and he was like "see this is why I dont hang out with you as much as I do her" and I kinda felt like it was a serious joke. Because I like to tease, I dont know what it is about me, when I find someone attractive I like to tease them maybe its a leo pride thing, dominating, idk, but I feel like maybe it does bother him and make him dislike me but its like foreplay for me. Neither the less, I start txting him, I take my friends car keys to drive all the way to his friends house to pick him up at like 4AM but he ended up falling asleep on me before I got to the house so that was a blow. Havent talked to him since but he started talking to this other girl he was kinda seeing for awhile this summer again, I went to high school with her, dont like her, shes a very self centered vain rude girl but idk he feels he fucked it up with her so idk what the deal is but I dont like that they talk because hes just so sweet and nice to her and I get the bickering, teasing, blunt side of him and I dont feel like I have the good end of it. She's a saggitarius, dont know if im fucked with that one of not. But turns out he leaves in 2 weeks. Dont expect things to get better just dont even know anymore. Im pretty positive hes the love of my life. Not because of anything more specific then how similiar we are, how I think everything he says is whitty and funny

& clever & I think he's gorgeous when most people dont & he gains weight I still think hes a 10. I just have this physical chemistry with him ive never had with a guy not even my ex of 3 years I thought I was gonna marry I was practically engaged to, when things are good all he does is make me smile when im around him. and im not a smiler, people ANNOY me. im not irritable around him and I just feel so satisfied with him meeting him and losing him just... the greatest fear of my life is having "the one that got away" and now I feel like hes about to be it and I hate it. Things were really good at the beginning, im just not sure ill ever get that side of him back when we would have sexless cuddle movie nights and he would tell me how gorgeous I was and hes the only guy where I took that compliment cause normally id just take it as meaningless words and I just, I miss him. I have wanted to txt him so many times this week and be like "can you just come over and sleep with me, no sex, just spend the night" but I just feel we are far from where we used to be and its just not okay to say something like that. I wouldnt say he loves me or cares because im not even sure he knows how he feels about me, but I do know that especially after this week he acknowledges I care about him. I mean he calls me first in moments of crisis to bail him and ive babysat him when hes choking on vomit in his sleep. I think i've earned some validity in that and he knows that I care and deep down I think he knows its possible I might sincerely love him but im not getting ahead of myself. Im not sure if thats enough to get him to start talking to me again when he is out of the phase once were in different cities though. His cousin and friends all tell me hell probably start calling me when hes in Lubbock but im almost convinced itll be over and ill never here from him again, I wont physically be there for his convenience so why bother? Honestly he probably eats my pride the least of any guy, and if anything my pride has caused all problems in this situation because im so out of control with my feelings so I have to many proud moments about it. Hes the first guy I cant tell my feelings too where usually id be begging already, as hes told me before "I act hard and pretend im like batman." You're right though, hes conquered me, hes in control and thats really not gonna change as long as hes still in town and he is toxic for me. I just hate meeting the guy of my dreams & it not work

You can do better. This Aqua is gonna suck the life outta you and you will end up very bitter. Wish him well.