Male aquarius asked for

Hi guys

So I'm a gay guy and I've been dating this aquarius guy for over 2 months now. It started off really well, everything was really natural, we weren't texting each other like crazy, we saw each other frequently and both wanted it -- he would ask me out and I would ask him out too.

In fact, in the beginning he was FULL SPEED and I actually had to slow him down a little. I wasn't crazily in love for him in the beginning, to be very honest, but I knew he was different and special and therefore, it didn't take long for me to realize I wanted us to become boyfriends.

We had a few communication issues during the last few weeks, mostly via text. Often times I would text him A and he would "ignore" it and text me back B (aka, something completely unrelated to A). I kindly let him know that that bothered me because it prevented us from getting to know each other more. At first he took it really well, even acknowledged the problem and said he was going to work on it. Turns out he wasn't very good at it and it happened at other times too.

As a result, this made me very unmotivated to text him and I texted him less and less (for fear of being ignored).

So, last week he told me we needed to talk in person. We met and he told me he need some time apart to think things through and that he wasn't ready for a relationship as he thought he was. He admitted that he really wanted it in the beginning and he even apologized for making me feel like it (he did give PLENTY of signs that he wanted a relationship).

I was very confused and I tried to extract some reasoning from him, with much difficulty since he wasn't really willing to open up for me. But he did say that he was also confused and that "the closer he got, the more distant he wanted to be". That hurt a little! haha

So despite being very sad, I tried to be understanding and told him that it was fine. I didn't make a scene or made him feel bad.

It's been a week now and we haven't spoken since. I plan not to. I think he should be the one to reach for me, am I right to think that way? I did a lot of research about Aquarius and I learned how they need their space.

But I have a few concerns:

1) do you think it was the communication issue? I kind of implied that I wanted him to behave in a certain way, and I learned (maybe a little too late) how Aquarius hate to be told how to behave.

2) should I believe this is really a "time apart" or is it just an easy way out and that he will vanish after this?

3) this Friday will be his birthday. I didn't want to text him anything, but should I? I don't want him to think like I don't care, but I also don't want him to think that I am keeping tabs on him.

thanks a lot! I'm a pisces btw =)

1. Ignoring is common for an Aquarius who wants to avoid something. But if he doesn’t want to answer a question, why pressure him to answer it? The best thing to do is ignore his ignoring and continue like it never happened.

2. If you give him space, he might come back. If you pressure him more, forget it.

3. If you want to text him happy birthday, do it. Today was my exes birthday. I made a special “card” for him and he enjoyed it very much. A little effort is always appreciated.

I’m not an Aquarius male, but I’ve met one not too long ago online and the meeting sounds familiar. In the beginning it was fun texting and all. Then as we decided to be in a serious relationship, things kind of went slow and a bit dull for me. He doesn’t text as much like before. At times, he won’t respond to my last message and sometimes it’s unrelated. I thought it was me until he did it a few times. I thought I was crazy, but no I wasn’t. When he does that, I’ll repeat myself the next day until he slowly explains to me what is going on with him. When I confront him, I usually do it in a non-confrontational way. Even though my approach is direct such as do you want to be in this relationship or not?

I like our connection, because I can be myself. I wasn’t in it for his looks, even though he’s handsome. I’m just not attracted to him like that. He is the first one I’ve dated outside my ethnicity. So I’m seeing where it’ll take me. He’s definitely not clingy when we’re apart, more like MIA. Lol. But when we’re together he wants to take me everywhere with him; basically claiming me. I’m an Aries and this is my first time I’ve been with an air sign. I do have some experiences with them. I have two family members who are Aquarius signs, my mother and brother. They’re in their la la land sometimes, but wonderful people. When they’re mad, they’re mad. I’ll either call them out in a logical way, give them a look like they’re crazy, tell them to take a chill pill, run and hide, etc. I pick my battles with them. They’ll come around when they cool down and start feeling bad for acting all psycho. Lol

What I learned is to give them their space, but at the same time, he’s not my priority. The energy he brings to me, is the energy I’ll bring back. Lol I’m not going to force it and not going to wait. I need my fire to keep going. I keep it short and sweet, nothing more or less. He still texts or respond to me every day, but he hasn’t gone a day without saying something. Also, I’m not initiating. I’m tired of initiating. Lol I’m going to assume he checked out. I’m not the type of person that can be friends after dating. I check out completely. Also, I let him know what would be a deal breaker once we became official. So he knows what’s up. I’m observing and don’t have any strong feelings for him. I just like our connection. If he’s going to let the fire die down, I’m going to let it die down. I’m going with the flow and I just keep myself busy and let him know I can be independent and live without him. I’m still young and beautiful and he’s older than me. Lol I need someone who can keep up with me. I’m just sharing you my experiences.

1.) I don’t think it’s wrong to let someone know your expectations. Communciation is key in a relationship. How are you supposed to not talk and be in a relationship that doesn’t have any communication. What’s the point? I’ve been there, done that, nope. Lol

2.) I would just give him his space. I think he had let you know how he felt. If it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. If he likes you, he’ll come around. If he doesn’t, then he felt like he didn’t meet your expectations. Better for you, it saves you time and energy to move on to someone who would value what you want or have same goals. Don’t fix something that isn’t there.

3.)Wish him a “Happy Birthday”, call it a day. Lol

I would say follow your instincts. Pisces always have great intuition. Give it some time, but don’t give it too much time. Someone will appreciate you for who you are. Relationships shouldn’t be hard as long as both parties want to be in it. My first time posting on here. Good luck! 🙂

Well, Im aquarius, I Cant date an Aquarius, Did once, and we used to fight for stupid shit because we are both to stubborn. lmao!

See, We like our things at our own pace, we dont like pushy people, we dont like clingy people, we dont like people who dont give us our space, aquarius we come and go as we please, we dont like to feel someone is forcing us to text them, see them, answer them or talk to them, we do what we like, how we like when we like it. At least, thats me.

We do enjoy the attention : so Yes, Text him for his Birthday! but dont be extra.

One Suggestion that might work...Treat him the same way he is treating you. be dry... and he will catch up if he wants it back. we tend come back when we feel the other one is pulling back 😉

Hey guys, thanks for all the messages.

I did follow your advice and texted on his birthday. I was very casual and not too enthusiastic about it (and I sent it around 6 PM lol)

He replied me back the next morning thanking me for the message with a smiley emoji.

We were both very matter of factly about it.

Tomorrow will be 2 weeks since he asked for that time apart. I know it's not much, but it feels like forever to me lol

I am trying to move on with my life even though it's difficult. My intuition tells me that it's not over yet but I don't want to be delusional...

Yikes.

Aqua & Fish =

#BadIdea

They just cannot fulfill our emotional needs because they are too anal about their own lack of. They don't appreciate our warmth. They make good friends but real shit boyfriends.

You're better off with a Leo. At least they thrive on being smothered with love and lu-u-uv. There's no such thing as "too much attention" as far as they're concerned. All it takes is a



and an hour later it's round 3.



Lol sorry, it might sound insensitive but it's exactly what you need right now: distraction. Someone, anyone. And the best revenge is showing him how much better off you are without him in your life.