Please help! I need advice on an Aquarius Man. :)

I'm a Pisces and I've been friends with an Aquarius male for a year. We met last year at a new year's party. We exchanged glances all throughout the night. Each time I walked by his table, he followed me with his eyes. Eventually he followed me out to a different area and caught up with me. He looked deep into my eyes with puckered lips. I hadn't experience this before, and I was kind of weirded out by it so I walked away. All throughout 2011, we've kept in touch via email.

Now: I saw him at a party this past Saturday. I was helping guests find their seats and when I looked up, there was Bob standing across from me staring at me with a smile on his face. I walked over to him and we started talking. He began to stand closer to me. When we weren't saying anything, he ran his fingers up my arm and stopped right before my shoulders and kept his hand on for awhile. Then I had to go to another part of the room to get some punch and there was Bob standing across from me staring again. In the midst of enjoying some hor d'oeurves, I see Bob and his friend Albert walk by me. Albert's back was turned towards me but Bob had turned around and he was staring at me with puckered, pointing at me with his pinky finger and was smiling all at the same time. He waited until everyone found their seats and walked over to me. I started talking and he ran his fingers over my arm again. A little later, I was standing in the hallway and he was standing nearby. I walked over to where he was and he turned to look at me, then walk away really quick then looked at me again and walked frantically.

I called him the next day and he didn't pick up nor answer his phone and since it's lunar new year, I emailed him sending best wishes for the new year last night and he hasn't responded.

I'm so confused now! I really like him and I don't know if I should take the next step or run like there's no tomorrow?

Any advice is much appreciated. Thank you. 🙂

@puckered lips

What is up with that LOL, ewww

I dunno. Mr. Puckered lips would turn me off, this isn't Zoolander but with that being said you've called and emailed, give him TIME to respond, if he doesn't respond don't contact him again, he's just not that into yet if he actually gets around to respond days or weeks later, try not to appear desperate, wait a couple of days before replying back to him. You don't want to give off the vibe that you are too available by responding in a matter of minutes/hours, let it simmer, don't allow yourself to appear too eager and by the way, calling AND emailing definitely gives off the I'm desperate vibe, please slow down, be cool, it's not that serious.

I'm curious. If you've been knowing Bob for over a year why hasn't Bob made a move? Has he ever shown real interest in you beyond the ARTIFICIAL staring and ARTIFICIAL charm? Does he ask you out on a dates?

Forgive me if I sound old school because I am, I firmly believe men should pursue a woman but I'm also okay with a woman showing her true feelings but with that being said I feel it's important that a woman know when to back off when a man isn't showing interest, if Bob isn't calling/emailing you back then he's not interested in anything beyond flirting, he's leading you on but he's not doing much else as of now.

Give him time to come around, if he never comes around, FORGET BOB.

Posted by tiki33


give him TIME to respond, if he doesn't respond don't contact him again, he's just not that into yet if he actually gets around to respond days or weeks later, try not to appear desperate, wait a couple of days before replying back to him. You don't want to give off the vibe that you are too available by responding in a matter of minutes/hours, let it simmer, don't allow yourself to appear too eager and by the way, calling AND emailing definitely gives off the I'm desperate vibe, please slow down, be cool, it's not that serious.

I'm a Pisces with an Aquarius for a number of years, and I totally agree with this. Don't even be waiting, because when you're waiting it's hard not to give off that very distinctive vibe. Find something else to do entirely. "It's not that serious" is totally the mindset to keep in mind. In my experience, the particular kind of seriousness that Pisces has to offer Aquarius is not interested in. Keep the mysteriousness UP.

Thanks for answering!! Yes, I've known Bob for a year but we don't talk often.
We don't know each other that well. He's busy as a physician and I'm busy in the pharmacy.
Before he'd reply to my email and call me back and he'd always make his voice deeper and sounded really happy to see me.
He's always more friendly in person and online. Is it possible he wants to talk in person more than through a computer?

lol, I wouldn't even waste my time speculating. But in my experience, Aquarius men are usually very direct and will go after you if they're definitely interested. It sounds to me like he's feeling you out, still. If you like him, lol, I know how this sounds, but seriously, in Fish terms, IGNORE HIM.

lol, wait, sorry, I didn't mean ignore communication (if and when) it comes directly from him, I mean, don't go after him. Like, at all.

I concur with extempjunk...

Tip just let him come to you, stop emailing him and calling him and don't do it randomly, if you don't hear from him well you just don't hear from him, don't force communication, it seems you are being put into the position of pursuer, maybe you put yourself in that place by always being the initiator and although it's good for HIS EGO, it's doing nothing for you so I would suggest you stop being the initiator and next time you see him...IGNORE HIM, just act as if he's not in the room, TRUST ME ON THIS, we Aqua's hate hate hate being ignored, he'll lose it inside LOL, he's a physician so he probably has a huge ego, strong confidence around others which can be very attractive to a woman, he's probably used to women throwing themselves at him, just treat him like he's a regular ole normal guy, nothing unique or interesting or beautiful about him, he'll stop ignoring you and give a little bit more of himself.

I'm sure he's delicious and I'm sure since he's a physician women place higher value on him and want to be with him but you can't be ONE of those women, treat him like he's not all that special to you but at the same time when he attempts to communicate show him that you respect him when he's attempting to communicate.

Match his confidence, you may not be a physician but give off that vibe about yourself that you feel you are just as valuable as he is, walk with confidence, hold yourself in high esteem, don't allow him to touch you unless he's EARNED IT, men like him won't value what they don't earn, he's a physician for a reason, he worked HARD to be a physician so let him do what he do best which is EARN what he wants to have, if he want you then let him EARN IT, he'll place higher value on you if he's working and earning YOU. You have a huge ego to get past before anything can go down with him, BE DIFFERENT, don't be like all the other women out there or you won't get very far.

No more chasing Mr. Puckered lips...

Thank you for all your insightful answers! Whenever I'm around him or any guy I like, I hide my feelings really well. I don't blush nor get nervous. I talk to him as if I'm talking to my brother, haha. At the party, when I saw him looking in my direction, I didn't react at all just looked at him back expressionless and then went about my business. I agree with tiki33 and extempjunk about not going after him.

He's probably used to me making the first move so he isn't getting off his seat to be the chaser. Let's say I see him at a restaurant or at a mutual friend's house. If he starts touchng my arm again as we're talking, do I swat his hand away? Or do I take a step back? When he touched my arm last, I was like a robot, completely emotionless and I didn't even touch him back and walked away from him to finsh helping the guests. Needless to say, his skin felt nice against mine but I didn't let him know.

"He's probably used to me making the first move so he isn't getting off his seat to be the chaser. Let's say I see him at a restaurant or at a mutual friend's house. If he starts touchng my arm again as we're talking, do I swat his hand away? Or do I take a step back? When he touched my arm last, I was like a robot, completely emotionless and I didn't even touch him back and walked away from him to finsh helping the guests. Needless to say, his skin felt nice against mine but I didn't let him know. "

Oh gosh he's not really that important. Don't over think this, it's really not that serious.

I'm sure you know how to maneuver away from a man, politely shift your body away from his hand or move out and away from him and excuse yourself. And if you must politely move his hand then move his hand, it's your body and he doesn't have permission to touch you unless you give him permission.

I think what you did the first time (not reacting) is best to stick with. But what tiki33 is really important to internalize...that he's not really all that important. You have to believe it possibly before he'll believe you. Aquarius is REALLY good at studying people, believe me. Somehow it will come through if you're calculating everything, as much as you try to conceal it. Make it easy on yourself by REALLY not caring.

Ok I'll remember that: he's not that important.

What other Aquarius characteristics are there?

I failed to mention that not only is his sun in Aquarius but also his Venus.

Posted by tippecanoe
I failed to mention that not only is his sun in Aquarius but also his Venus.

@venus in aquarius

Oh lord run for your life lol

Whoa, even more Aquarius. The one I'm dealing with has Venus in Pisces (no doubt part of our connection). I'd tread extra lightly!

Haha. What do I need to watch out for with venus in Aquarius guys?
I always attract guys of this sign but this is the first I've ever wanted to be with.

I can't speak for them all with this placement but it's not a great placement for love, they typically are very cold, mechanical, commitmentphobic, manipulative, controlling, have his cake eat it too types but mostly just not into expressing love like other astrological signs but can be very charming, use charm to disarm and control if he's into playing out his dark side.

I'm not implying they can't love or be great lovers, but they are very difficult to love and get close to.

I see, I read somewhere that they don't woo like men of other signs though.

just heard from one of his friends that there was some infidelity in one of his past relationships. His ex cheated on him with another physician. That must've messed him up badly.

But still, I'm definitely taking your advice and just not contacting him anymore.

Pardon me for laughing so hard while reading your first . This Aqua reminds me of Dr Evil with his pinky sticking out and his lips! Lol! Why does he make so much exaggerating gestures? Why did he brush up and stare at you without saying anything ? That's pretty creepy. I mean it's ok to do that if you two know each other more. When you said keeping contact by email, do you mean you email each other regularly about things happened in your life? Or is it just on acquaintance level where you keep contacts but barely know one another?
Something is amiss here. It just somehow make me conclude that your fertile imagination might have made up a wonderful man in your head as opposed with the real person due to his "unavailability". Are you sure that you like him this much? Or is it just his avoidance and no confession ( that he likes you?) frustrated and intrigued you at the same time? I don't know if he likes you the way you want him but I think he most likely wants to sleep with you.
If I've made a harsh comment, I apologise here.

LOL your comment made me laugh. Haha no, this is exactly what he did. I was pretty shocked myself when I saw him walk by me with his pinky finger pointing at me. I wish I knew why he makes those gestures so exaggerated. If only I got those gestures on tape and post it on youtube for you to see, haha. I really do like him that much. He's so cute and he's really sweet, but I'm really confused about his behavior, i.e so flirty in person then ignores me. We email each other regularly about our lives. I try not to email too often to avoid appearing clingy.

I'm curious...does he have leo in his chart...the lips puckering thing reminds me of a male leo.

Btw you would be surprised how many guys I've seen do this. I think they may watch Jersey Shore cause the same ones who do it do the fist pump.

I'm not sure if he has leo in his chart. But I do know this..
His:
02/08/73
Sun: Aquarius
Venus: Aquarius
Moon: Taurus

Mine:
03/14/86
Sun: Pisces
Venus: Aries
Moon: Taurus

I don't know if this helps

Extempjunk is on the money. I am Pisces female dating a Aqua male with a Venus in Pisces; dated another Aqua before the current one. Some Aqua males are forward and let you know right away they are interested, especially if they have a moon in a fire sign. They do like to find out as much as they can about you before they even speak to you. Their minds are like computer programs calculating all the variables, the best way they can do that is collecting as much data as they can (even spy) on you. May be this is manipulative because you will be stunned by their intimate knowledge of your habits and you'll know next to nothing about them. And their eyes, whoa, normally Aquas possess the most beautiful eyes ever which make them extra hypnotic. Their stares can be unnerving at first, then incredibly sexy. Be prepared for an extra heaping spoonful of honesty.

Taurus moon...awwww yeah! Sorry I'm a taurus mooner as well. That could be where the connection comes from...even though aqua and pisces do have this strange attraction thing.