Romancelives
@Romancelives
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Presents/Gifts
Ermmmm I think it's kinda extreme !!!
He will think that extreme , he will thank you but think it's a bit much.
Were you bribing him?
Why didn't you get him a small thoughtful gift ? But a laptop !!! Not judging just wondering why ?
He will think that extreme , he will thank you but think it's a bit much.
Were you bribing him?
Why didn't you get him a small thoughtful gift ? But a laptop !!! Not judging just wondering why ?
Posted by TinxyLol, well, his laptop was stolen like 9 months ago. He's studying to try and push himself forward. The laptop being stolen has been a major set back to him, I see this all the time, especially in that he likes his space, but now he is forced to come into the common staff room to use the PCs there and he gets stressed! I see it on his face? Anywho, I really love this guy as a friend and it pains me to see him look so stressed and drained. He confessed to me he can hardly concentrate in such a climate. So, I asked him how getting a new laptop was coming along, and said it's coming along slowly...
Ermmmm I think it's kinda extreme !!!
He will think that extreme , he will thank you but think it's a bit much.
Were you bribing him?
Why didn't you get him a small thoughtful gift ? But a laptop !!! Not judging just wondering why ?
Now, it's Christmas I decided to get him one, I believe in not doing anything by half, so I got the best. He's worth it. Not to mention, it triples up as a birthday and parting present too. I work abroad with this guy, my contract ends this coming year and I'm out, so it's something for him to remember me by too. No bribe, it's coming from a good place, but I'm afraid he may freak out a little! I could totally afford it and used my resourcefulness to get the best deal on it too!
Posted by engagement_hotdogWell, putting out will be dependent on me wanting it, which I don't. I know where to get mine! 😉
He might feel like he would have to put out.
Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
Posted by Palerioare you*Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.click to expand
Posted by PalerioLike I said we are close and he is a good friend. Stands to reason I like him a lot. However, I am cool as we are. I just wanted to do something amazing and useful for someone equally amazing...Posted by Palerioare you*Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.click to expand
Posted by PalerioShe wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.click to expand
No joke
Posted by RomancelivesLet me summarize this for you:Posted by PalerioLike I said we are close and he is a good friend. Stands to reason I like him a lot. However, I am cool as we are. I just wanted to do something amazing and useful for someone equally amazing...Posted by Palerioare you*Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.click to expand
1) you're deeply into him;
2) he's amazing;
3) you bought a state of the art laptop so he will remember you once you're off.
Then you're trying to convince us he's a good friend and you don't wan't him. You do realize what you're saying it's butterty right?
Posted by TinxyI'm not even sure a pint will be enough.Posted by PalerioShe wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
No jokeclick to expand
Posted by PalerioHence why I stay away from this site often times! Always descends into judgement of the cruelest form. So, at least I'll be ready if he takes it this way too... This poor world where we can't do something for nothing! SMH Thanks regardless.Posted by RomancelivesLet me summarize this for you:Posted by PalerioLike I said we are close and he is a good friend. Stands to reason I like him a lot. However, I am cool as we are. I just wanted to do something amazing and useful for someone equally amazing...Posted by Palerioare you*Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
1) you're deeply into him;
2) he's amazing;
3) you bought a state of the art laptop so he will remember you once you're off.
Then you're trying to convince us he's a good friend and you don't wan't him. You do realize what you're saying it's butterty right?click to expand
Posted by TinxyWhat happened to not judging? I gave my honest answer think what you like!Posted by PalerioShe wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
No jokeclick to expand
Are you afraid to tell him how you feel about him?
Me personally, because I do graphics design and a lot of my paperwork for hospitality management on the go, if a close friend of mine bought me a laptop I would love them forever!!
It depends on the aquarius and their placements. I often do these things for my friends too, whether it be because it meant something or to help them out and help them succeed at what they are passionate about. I just bought one of my friends the new surface pro so she could doodle and build up her portfolio for her graduation year.
I think anyone would be a bit nervous about accepting such gifts, I know I would but secretly super happy about it.
You are a good friend 🙂
It depends on the aquarius and their placements. I often do these things for my friends too, whether it be because it meant something or to help them out and help them succeed at what they are passionate about. I just bought one of my friends the new surface pro so she could doodle and build up her portfolio for her graduation year.
I think anyone would be a bit nervous about accepting such gifts, I know I would but secretly super happy about it.
You are a good friend 🙂
Posted by RomancelivesSorry if I came across mean I wasn't being so.Posted by TinxyWhat happened to not judging? I gave my honest answer think what you like!Posted by PalerioShe wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
No jokeclick to expand
🙂
Posted by aquasnozThanks, I'm a bit nervous about giving it to him. Hence, my question. I want him to accept it on the value I have for our friendship and his potential.
Me personally, because I do graphics design and a lot of my paperwork for hospitality management on the go, if a close friend of mine bought me a laptop I would love them forever!!
It depends on the aquarius and their placements. I often do these things for my friends too, whether it be because it meant something or to help them out and help them succeed at what they are passionate about. I just bought one of my friends the new surface pro so she could doodle and build up her portfolio for her graduation year.
I think anyone would be a bit nervous about accepting such gifts, I know I would but secretly super happy about it.
You are a good friend 🙂
Posted by TinxyIt's ok. I guess feeling nervous and not wanting my friend to misunderstand my gesture makes me sensitive.Posted by RomancelivesSorry if I came across mean I wasn't being so.Posted by TinxyWhat happened to not judging? I gave my honest answer think what you like!Posted by PalerioShe wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .Posted by RomancelivesWhy are refusing to admit that you like him?
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
Like a lot.
No joke
🙂click to expand
How long have you guys been friends?
That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.
I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.
However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.
That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.
I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.
However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.
@aquasnoz
Are you Aussie right?
When I was 19 years old I spent a whole year in your country with a working holiday Visa and the experience left a profound mark on me. I remember like it was yesterday finding myself involved in dynamics that are not even imaginable in Europe.
Australia really is somewhere else, the living conditions you have there aren't easily duplicable in other countries.
People are generous and cool, and it shows from your posts as well that you are a positive and genuine person yourself (for instance your vocaroos crack me up), laid-back and with a care-free attitude, you just can't ask for more.
I was lucky but I remember getting paid a lot doing casual jobs, I wasn't graduated yet at the time so I didn’t have much of a choice. I don't know how that happened but all of sudden I was living in a flat near Collins Street (Melbourne) because the owner of the restaurant where I was working at the time had told me “I like you and I’ve got an extra apartment to spare waiting for you, the rent will be reasonable, if you’re interested in getting one just let me know”. I remember waking up the first day thinking “is this for real? How’s this even possible?”. Despite the rent I still had enough money left to pay for taxes, live and go out when I had the chance to. I was able one day to throw out a big barbie (bought the meat and booze too) in a park for 15 total strangers I had met a few hours before, just because they were hilarious and I was happy to cook some Italian stuff for them. Then I few months later I bought a second-hand car to travel around and resold it 3 months later for double the price…
This is just to say that I can see how buying a state of the art laptop to a really good friend of yours would be considered almost normal in Australia, I’d do that too if I had the chance to make money that quickly, but I just don’t see it happening in other places where it would take you probably 3-4 months for that kind of money just to save them.
I may be wrong but it does feel to me and many who answered here, unless she’s actually making tons of money, way over the top to gift something like that to someone you consider just a friend.
I would love to receive that kind of gift in itself, despite the price, because it’s thoughtful, which is the aspect of the gift I feel an Aqua would appreciate the most, I just don’t think it’s a good idea if you want to keep your relationship on a friendly level.
It's just too much.
Are you Aussie right?
When I was 19 years old I spent a whole year in your country with a working holiday Visa and the experience left a profound mark on me. I remember like it was yesterday finding myself involved in dynamics that are not even imaginable in Europe.
Australia really is somewhere else, the living conditions you have there aren't easily duplicable in other countries.
People are generous and cool, and it shows from your posts as well that you are a positive and genuine person yourself (for instance your vocaroos crack me up), laid-back and with a care-free attitude, you just can't ask for more.
I was lucky but I remember getting paid a lot doing casual jobs, I wasn't graduated yet at the time so I didn’t have much of a choice. I don't know how that happened but all of sudden I was living in a flat near Collins Street (Melbourne) because the owner of the restaurant where I was working at the time had told me “I like you and I’ve got an extra apartment to spare waiting for you, the rent will be reasonable, if you’re interested in getting one just let me know”. I remember waking up the first day thinking “is this for real? How’s this even possible?”. Despite the rent I still had enough money left to pay for taxes, live and go out when I had the chance to. I was able one day to throw out a big barbie (bought the meat and booze too) in a park for 15 total strangers I had met a few hours before, just because they were hilarious and I was happy to cook some Italian stuff for them. Then I few months later I bought a second-hand car to travel around and resold it 3 months later for double the price…
This is just to say that I can see how buying a state of the art laptop to a really good friend of yours would be considered almost normal in Australia, I’d do that too if I had the chance to make money that quickly, but I just don’t see it happening in other places where it would take you probably 3-4 months for that kind of money just to save them.
I may be wrong but it does feel to me and many who answered here, unless she’s actually making tons of money, way over the top to gift something like that to someone you consider just a friend.
I would love to receive that kind of gift in itself, despite the price, because it’s thoughtful, which is the aspect of the gift I feel an Aqua would appreciate the most, I just don’t think it’s a good idea if you want to keep your relationship on a friendly level.
It's just too much.
Hmmm yes and no.
I guess we're weird in that way but giving such expensive gifts definitely isn't the norm here. With my friend we've talked a lot about art, design, where she wanted to be heading, which reminded me a lot of when I attended college and striving for the same things. Back then I would've killed for a laptop just to give me that edge but nope, I had to work and try and survive.
We've come to an understanding quite a while back, she gave me her mum's good luck charm right before I went in for an interview for a promotion. I've given her my protection charm which is a family heirloom as she's shit scared about travelling. There's that really close rapport between us and she knows I'd support her in anyway I can because a great friend like that doesn't come around every day.
The laptop isn't state of the art but it has all the necessary functionality for her to focus on what she needs doing. Plus for me material things don't really hold much value, it's the friendship that counts more. I think a lot of people don't realise or refuse to believe in generosity or whether a guy and a girl and be friends etc but if you ignore all that and focus on how great they make you feel as a person and just how much you want to also be there for them, I'm sure a lot of people can start to see why this isn't such an unreasonable gift.
I guess we're weird in that way but giving such expensive gifts definitely isn't the norm here. With my friend we've talked a lot about art, design, where she wanted to be heading, which reminded me a lot of when I attended college and striving for the same things. Back then I would've killed for a laptop just to give me that edge but nope, I had to work and try and survive.
We've come to an understanding quite a while back, she gave me her mum's good luck charm right before I went in for an interview for a promotion. I've given her my protection charm which is a family heirloom as she's shit scared about travelling. There's that really close rapport between us and she knows I'd support her in anyway I can because a great friend like that doesn't come around every day.
The laptop isn't state of the art but it has all the necessary functionality for her to focus on what she needs doing. Plus for me material things don't really hold much value, it's the friendship that counts more. I think a lot of people don't realise or refuse to believe in generosity or whether a guy and a girl and be friends etc but if you ignore all that and focus on how great they make you feel as a person and just how much you want to also be there for them, I'm sure a lot of people can start to see why this isn't such an unreasonable gift.
Posted by justagirlWe've been friends for long enough that I can do this without blinking. However, I worry how he may take it. He's actually been so helpful in helping me with my actual love interest. Also an aqua *sigh* what can I say, I'm an aqua magnet. 😉
How long have you guys been friends?
That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.
I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.
However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.
Anyway, I hope he likes it, I bought it with genuine care and thought.
Posted by RomancelivesWell, hope it turns out okay. Just be prepared that it may mkae things weird between you.Posted by justagirlWe've been friends for long enough that I can do this without blinking. However, I worry how he may take it. He's actually been so helpful in helping me with my actual love interest. Also an aqua *sigh* what can I say, I'm an aqua magnet. 😉
How long have you guys been friends?
That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.
I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.
However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.
Anyway, I hope he likes it, I bought it with genuine care and thought.
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I have a life long friend that we get each other extravgant gifts, it's never weird between us- but i have known him for close to 25 years.
A laptop would not even phase him, after knowing him so long. if i had done that the first year- he would have been deer in headlights.
Posted by justagirlThanks sweets, you've just given me what I need. I'll brace myself for weirdness but stay unapologetic for doing it. 🙂Posted by RomancelivesWell, hope it turns out okay. Just be prepared that it may mkae things weird between you.Posted by justagirlWe've been friends for long enough that I can do this without blinking. However, I worry how he may take it. He's actually been so helpful in helping me with my actual love interest. Also an aqua *sigh* what can I say, I'm an aqua magnet. 😉
How long have you guys been friends?
That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.
I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.
However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.
Anyway, I hope he likes it, I bought it with genuine care and thought.
I have a life long friend that we get each other extravgant gifts, it's never weird between us- but i have known him for close to 25 years.
A laptop would not even phase him, after knowing him so long. if i had done that the first year- he would have been deer in headlights.click to expand
Omg he'll love it. Honestly any sign would love that... I think Aquas in specific definitely will.
I don't get the responses... This day and age only very significant relationships/friendships make it less awkward to be given extravagant gifts without possible questions of ulterior motives? That's sad. Or we're all just poor.
But I do agree it's probably in his Aqua nature to get overwhelmed at the gesture. I don't think Aquas like being in debt. But if you say he has helped you a lot in other ways, hopefully he sees it as a gratitude gesture.
I don't get the responses... This day and age only very significant relationships/friendships make it less awkward to be given extravagant gifts without possible questions of ulterior motives? That's sad. Or we're all just poor.
But I do agree it's probably in his Aqua nature to get overwhelmed at the gesture. I don't think Aquas like being in debt. But if you say he has helped you a lot in other ways, hopefully he sees it as a gratitude gesture.
In this day and age nothing comes for free, that's a principle my mother has ingrained into my head. I think she taught me that with such force that she knew I was a sucker for nice gestures from when I was a young age, I used to give my toys away that I got for Christmas or my birthday and would get the shit smacked out of me when she found out.
now days if someone gave me something I'll be thinking "ok what the fuck does this nigga want from me" it's just a principle that has gotten me this far in life without DRAMA because it's where acts like this lead to, I have watched too many judge Judy and dr phil episodes to know that you just don't do that sort of shit unless you're a rich bitch and money is no object to you, but as an Aquarian if I thought someone needed a laptop and I had the money, I'd buy it for them and made sure it got to them without them knowing it was from me so I wouldn't have to deal with the awkwardness of gratitude.
Some people do nice things for me for a reaction and I can't even give them that, I do give them a reaction but it's always the obligatory normal reaction you get, nothing genuine or real.
now days if someone gave me something I'll be thinking "ok what the fuck does this nigga want from me" it's just a principle that has gotten me this far in life without DRAMA because it's where acts like this lead to, I have watched too many judge Judy and dr phil episodes to know that you just don't do that sort of shit unless you're a rich bitch and money is no object to you, but as an Aquarian if I thought someone needed a laptop and I had the money, I'd buy it for them and made sure it got to them without them knowing it was from me so I wouldn't have to deal with the awkwardness of gratitude.
Some people do nice things for me for a reaction and I can't even give them that, I do give them a reaction but it's always the obligatory normal reaction you get, nothing genuine or real.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11I hear you about giving it in secret. He'll still know it's from me. He knows what I'm like. I don't expect anything not even gratitude. So long as it helps him get to where he wants to go, I'm happy to have helped. In fact when people thank you to me, I often tell them "thank GOD". If I value you as a friend or less fed one, I will move heaven and earth to help you succeed and be happy. It's how I am.
In this day and age nothing comes for free, that's a principle my mother has ingrained into my head. I think she taught me that with such force that she knew I was a sucker for nice gestures from when I was a young age, I used to give my toys away that I got for Christmas or my birthday and would get the shit smacked out of me when she found out.
now days if someone gave me something I'll be thinking "ok what the fuck does this nigga want from me" it's just a principle that has gotten me this far in life without DRAMA because it's where acts like this lead to, I have watched too many judge Judy and dr phil episodes to know that you just don't do that sort of shit unless you're a rich bitch and money is no object to you, but as an Aquarian if I thought someone needed a laptop and I had the money, I'd buy it for them and made sure it got to them without them knowing it was from me so I wouldn't have to deal with the awkwardness of gratitude.
Some people do nice things for me for a reaction and I can't even give them that, I do give them a reaction but it's always the obligatory normal reaction you get, nothing genuine or real.
Why is gratitude awkward in your book?
@aquasnoz
Precisely because an heirloom can hold more value than a laptop, considering how much you value any gesture coming from the other person, I would find it, not unreasonable, but definitely odd to receive such an expensive gift from someone I'm not romantically involved with.
He would appreciate the two of you going on a hike just as much, that is being there for him too; moreover, he would have bought it himself if he could so the fact you're buying it for him would probably make him feel, and I'm trying to put myself in his shoes, very uncomfortable, it’s like you’re indirectly telling him “you’re not doing great in your life if you can’t afford to buy a laptop”, which doesn’t mean he won’t love it. A new piece of equipment or furniture for your new place are usually small things that anyone would like to buy himself that give you an extra boost of confidence, I see them as small achievements.
Besides, I told you a brief version of my adventure just to underline, trust me on this one, that in Australia is way different, not just because you can earn potentially more money (not saying it’s easy but I had the impression you get rewarded if you’re good at something) but because of the mentality many of you have. Aussies are more generous by default and I’m telling you this because I felt more generous myself with people I didn’t even know, I can only imagine what I would have done, in this environment, if they happened to be very good friend of mine too. You breathe, compared to other countries, a different air when you walk down the street, it’s fresh as you rarely feel the rush of the contemporary society even though there might be hundreds of people around you.
It’s a weird feeling.
Now I don’t know about the US but in Europe? You make a survey asking people if they consider that kind of gift appropriate for a friend and probably 90% will tell you “you’re nuts”.
It's sad but we're kind of forced to believe generosity doesn't exist.
Precisely because an heirloom can hold more value than a laptop, considering how much you value any gesture coming from the other person, I would find it, not unreasonable, but definitely odd to receive such an expensive gift from someone I'm not romantically involved with.
He would appreciate the two of you going on a hike just as much, that is being there for him too; moreover, he would have bought it himself if he could so the fact you're buying it for him would probably make him feel, and I'm trying to put myself in his shoes, very uncomfortable, it’s like you’re indirectly telling him “you’re not doing great in your life if you can’t afford to buy a laptop”, which doesn’t mean he won’t love it. A new piece of equipment or furniture for your new place are usually small things that anyone would like to buy himself that give you an extra boost of confidence, I see them as small achievements.
Besides, I told you a brief version of my adventure just to underline, trust me on this one, that in Australia is way different, not just because you can earn potentially more money (not saying it’s easy but I had the impression you get rewarded if you’re good at something) but because of the mentality many of you have. Aussies are more generous by default and I’m telling you this because I felt more generous myself with people I didn’t even know, I can only imagine what I would have done, in this environment, if they happened to be very good friend of mine too. You breathe, compared to other countries, a different air when you walk down the street, it’s fresh as you rarely feel the rush of the contemporary society even though there might be hundreds of people around you.
It’s a weird feeling.
Now I don’t know about the US but in Europe? You make a survey asking people if they consider that kind of gift appropriate for a friend and probably 90% will tell you “you’re nuts”.
It's sad but we're kind of forced to believe generosity doesn't exist.
Posted by PalerioTo be honest, buying someone a Christmas present they need and can make good use of, shouldn't be a problem! It's sad we are so materialistic these days that the price or what it is should matter. That's why I asked. I don't want him getting the wrong impression, but I equally don't care. I guess I just want to be prepared for his possible reaction. If someone did that for me, I'd love it, I understand the spirit of giving. I may feel a little overwhelmed but I'd still appreciate it.
@aquasnoz
Precisely because an heirloom can hold more value than a laptop, considering how much you value any gesture coming from the other person, I would find it, not unreasonable, but definitely odd to receive such an expensive gift from someone I'm not romantically involved with.
He would appreciate the two of you going on a hike just as much, that is being there for him too; moreover, he would have bought it himself if he could so the fact you're buying it for him would probably make him feel, and I'm trying to put myself in his shoes, very uncomfortable, it’s like you’re indirectly telling him “you’re not doing great in your life if you can’t afford to buy a laptop”, which doesn’t mean he won’t love it. A new piece of equipment or furniture for your new place are usually small things that anyone would like to buy himself that give you an extra boost of confidence, I see them as small achievements.
Besides, I told you a brief version of my adventure just to underline, trust me on this one, that in Australia is way different, not just because you can earn potentially more money (not saying it’s easy but I had the impression you get rewarded if you’re good at something) but because of the mentality many of you have. Aussies are more generous by default and I’m telling you this because I felt more generous myself with people I didn’t even know, I can only imagine what I would have done, in this environment, if they happened to be very good friend of mine too. You breathe, compared to other countries, a different air when you walk down the street, it’s fresh as you rarely feel the rush of the contemporary society even though there might be hundreds of people around you.
It’s a weird feeling.
Now I don’t know about the US but in Europe? You make a survey asking people if they consider that kind of gift appropriate for a friend and probably 90% will tell you “you’re nuts”.
It's sad but we're kind of forced to believe generosity doesn't exist.
Truth is time waits for no man. His exams are soon and he needs to crack on! The laptop issue is a set back I can help expell so I have! Hope he takes it the right way. Some friendships are deeper and last longer than romantic involvements... I don't need to be fucking you to want to see you mak
@Romancelives
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.
Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing” but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.
Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...
Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.
I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.
Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing” but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.
Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...
Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.
I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.
Posted by PalerioI honestly feel, I might be wrong, that you're scared to acknowledge you have feelings for him.
@Romancelives
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.
Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing” but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.
Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...
Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.
I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.
Posted by Palerio😢
@Romancelives
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.
Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing” but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.
Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...
Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.
I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.
I came for help to clear my mind, not justification of my actions, the action is complete. Like I said, I love this guy to the moon and back, but in a platonic way...why is that difficult for you to process? He helped me hook up with my boyfriend, he's a mutual and very special friend. My boyfriend helped pick the laptop...it's beginning to sound very "twilight saga" now, so I'll drop it here. Thanks for the input.
@Romancelives
It's not difficult for me to process it, it's just what my piscean intuition is telling me.
I gave you my genuine imput because my Aqua Venus/Mars used to be strong and would like that gift so much that the patina of air/ice wrapping me could break, it's a delicate equilibrium and I can tell you the biggest challenge you have to face growing up with these two placements is learning how to be not platonic, so when you say "I love this guy to the moon and back... but in a platonic way" I feel like I know what you're talking about.
In most cases when you feel the way you do towards someone of the other gender it's mental masturbation and you want more.
It's painful every time I hear similar stories, even though I'm not like that anymore, but maybe it's just me and hopefully it's not your case :-)
It's not difficult for me to process it, it's just what my piscean intuition is telling me.
I gave you my genuine imput because my Aqua Venus/Mars used to be strong and would like that gift so much that the patina of air/ice wrapping me could break, it's a delicate equilibrium and I can tell you the biggest challenge you have to face growing up with these two placements is learning how to be not platonic, so when you say "I love this guy to the moon and back... but in a platonic way" I feel like I know what you're talking about.
In most cases when you feel the way you do towards someone of the other gender it's mental masturbation and you want more.
It's painful every time I hear similar stories, even though I'm not like that anymore, but maybe it's just me and hopefully it's not your case :-)
In my comment, I'm going to go back to the fundamentals. You want to know what his reaction might be specifically as an Aqua, yes?
I'm Aqua moon and have studied up a LOT on Aquas due to getting entangled with one a few months ago. Keep in mind that they're generally allergic to emotions. They don't like having expectations placed upon them because they view even that as a restriction of their freedom. An expensive gift *might* make an Aqua man feel obligated to provide a specific reaction in order to please you, or to reciprocate in some way. And God knows Aquas don't like feeling obligated to anyone or anything. I think the important thing here in order for you to get the reaction you're looking for is to emphasize the utilitarian aspect of the gift (I saw that you needed this, so I'm simply providing a resource), and take any emotion out of it--even if it's just deep friendship as you say--by making clear that you would have done something like this for another close friend in need. Many Aquas do like techie gadgets, so I'm sure he'll love the laptop itself. It's the perceived implications behind the giving of it as a gift that I think he *may* focus on more, if at all.
I'm Aqua moon and have studied up a LOT on Aquas due to getting entangled with one a few months ago. Keep in mind that they're generally allergic to emotions. They don't like having expectations placed upon them because they view even that as a restriction of their freedom. An expensive gift *might* make an Aqua man feel obligated to provide a specific reaction in order to please you, or to reciprocate in some way. And God knows Aquas don't like feeling obligated to anyone or anything. I think the important thing here in order for you to get the reaction you're looking for is to emphasize the utilitarian aspect of the gift (I saw that you needed this, so I'm simply providing a resource), and take any emotion out of it--even if it's just deep friendship as you say--by making clear that you would have done something like this for another close friend in need. Many Aquas do like techie gadgets, so I'm sure he'll love the laptop itself. It's the perceived implications behind the giving of it as a gift that I think he *may* focus on more, if at all.
Posted by PalerioThanks Palerio, I get where you are coming from. Thanks.
@Romancelives
It's not difficult for me to process it, it's just what my piscean intuition is telling me.
I gave you my genuine imput because my Aqua Venus/Mars used to be strong and would like that gift so much that the patina of air/ice wrapping me could break, it's a delicate equilibrium and I can tell you the biggest challenge you have to face growing up with these two placements is learning how to be not platonic, so when you say "I love this guy to the moon and back... but in a platonic way" I feel like I know what you're talking about.
In most cases when you feel the way you do towards someone of the other gender it's mental masturbation and you want more.
It's painful every time I hear similar stories, even though I'm not like that anymore, but maybe it's just me and hopefully it's not your case :-)
Posted by Spooky926Thanks Spooky926, I will send a note stating this fact. Especially since I really would do this for someone else I care about in the same position. I honestly don't want anything in return, I also don't want him freaking out or refusing it!!!
In my comment, I'm going to go back to the fundamentals. You want to know what his reaction might be specifically as an Aqua, yes?
I'm Aqua moon and have studied up a LOT on Aquas due to getting entangled with one a few months ago. Keep in mind that they're generally allergic to emotions. They don't like having expectations placed upon them because they view even that as a restriction of their freedom. An expensive gift *might* make an Aqua man feel obligated to provide a specific reaction in order to please you, or to reciprocate in some way. And God knows Aquas don't like feeling obligated to anyone or anything. I think the important thing here in order for you to get the reaction you're looking for is to emphasize the utilitarian aspect of the gift (I saw that you needed this, so I'm simply providing a resource), and take any emotion out of it--even if it's just deep friendship as you say--by making clear that you would have done something like this for another close friend in need. Many Aquas do like techie gadgets, so I'm sure he'll love the laptop itself. It's the perceived implications behind the giving of it as a gift that I think he *may* focus on more, if at all.
just get him the laptop lol fuck what they say
Posted by WaterBearerer😄
just get him the laptop lol fuck what they say
I've got it, just haven't given it over yet.
AWWW omg look at these Aquas getting so touchy and jumping to protect one of their owns' feelings. You all are a bunch of
Posted by SassyKiwiLol, nobody has attacked one of their own! Wow, imagine I had? I just want to do something good and have it received as such. You cute to SassyKiwi...
AWWW omg look at these Aquas getting so touchy and jumping to protect one of their owns' feelings. You all are a bunch of
Posted by RomancelivesNo, no I didn't mean it like that!Posted by SassyKiwiLol, nobody has attacked one of their own! Wow, imagine I had? I just want to do something good and have it received as such. You cute to SassyKiwi...
AWWW omg look at these Aquas getting so touchy and jumping to protect one of their owns' feelings. You all are a bunch of
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I meant they're all posting these lengthy advice and thoughts on how you should approach your Aqua friend because they're looking out for their own, their fam. And I find that adorable bcos of Aquas and their notorious unemotional, detachment portrait. Idk maybe I'm just having a weird moment.
Heh 😄
What placements of yours you think make you an Aqua magnet? I'm curious to know.
Posted by PalerioThe placements that makes mainly Aquas my friends not to mention family! Looool, I was just trying to say that Aquas always gravitate towards me though I failed to fully understand them, I try to just let them be, when I can. *Shrugs*
What placements of yours you think make you an Aqua magnet? I'm curious to know.
Indeed we are like a box of oranges.
oh jokes on me they are mandarins
Posted by RomancelivesI'm an aqua mars and that expensive gift would make me extremely uncomfortable. I'd feel like you were bribing me or trying to buy my love. It'd give me an icky feeling.
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
I don't think aquas put a lot of impact on expensive things. My impression is they'd rather have something meaningful (a.k.a something that represents a private joke or something that comes from the heart) or something cool, inexpensive but exotic/weird/odd.
Posted by truecapEven if the expensive gift means you can now continue with studies and plans for the future?Posted by RomancelivesI'm an aqua mars and that expensive gift would make me extremely uncomfortable. I'd feel like you were bribing me or trying to buy my love. It'd give me an icky feeling.
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
I don't think aquas put a lot of impact on expensive things. My impression is they'd rather have something meaningful (a.k.a something that represents a private joke or something that comes from the heart) or something cool, inexpensive but exotic/weird/odd.click to expand
Posted by RomancelivesYes, I'd still feel that way.Posted by truecapEven if the expensive gift means you can now continue with studies and plans for the future?Posted by RomancelivesI'm an aqua mars and that expensive gift would make me extremely uncomfortable. I'd feel like you were bribing me or trying to buy my love. It'd give me an icky feeling.
Hi Aquas,
Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!
I don't think aquas put a lot of impact on expensive things. My impression is they'd rather have something meaningful (a.k.a something that represents a private joke or something that comes from the heart) or something cool, inexpensive but exotic/weird/odd.click to expand
If my friends all pitched in $ 40 a piece to get one, that would be great. But, if someone else did, who was not family, I'd feel weird about it. I'd be suspicious about your motivation and why you would spend so much on me. I would worry what I would be obligated to do now. Plus, I'd feel guilty because I didn't get you as nice of a present. The imbalance would feel odd.
Of course, I don't know the dynamics of your friendship, so that may make it different and acceptable.
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