Posted by gemini1689
Reelax there...and thanks. But, I DO UNDERSTAND his need for space. the gemini in me in just impatient. and there is no way he knows that Im going nuts.. or that I do miss him.. NO WAY. theres no contact. he is no psychic. he is not god. hes just a MAN. and i am keeping myself actually busy. I work 12 hours everyday.
Posted by aquarius21
it sounds like ur u don't want n e. U just want to cry n vent. N if that's the case, I'd suggest posting in the cancer forum lol. They'd embrace ur problems n happy wallow in misery wit u. I don't think its ur gemini impatience making u trip -- its ur venus in cancer for sure lol. Good luck to u tho n hope everything works out....
Posted by krysrenee7
The problem isn't that he needs space.
The problem is that you DON'T understand or accept that he needs space.
So in essence, I'm not sure the problem is him. I think the problem is YOU
You revolve your world around this man. Everything you live, breathe & do involves him. You don't feel whole or complete without him. You literally can't function unless he's around. That's the 1st mistake you're making.
What you fail to realize is that he's probably already realized all of what I just said & instead of you taking this time to reflect, look in the mirror & work on yourself so that you DON'T end up losing him, you'd rather keep on doing the same things that caused him to want distance from you in the 1st place.
And just b/c he can't physically hear you freaking out now doesn't mean that he doesn't know you are. Oh he knows it, b/c he knows you well.
Try something different from once. You have nothing to lose. I'm certain of that simply b/c what you're doing now is NOT working.
Instead of pretending to be busy, actually BE busy. Instead of pretending to understand, put your own selfish feelings to the side for once & actually understand! Instead of pretending to be independent emotionally, just be independent emotionally.
99% of what you fear is all in your head & is the result of your own inner demons & insecurity. And when your fears of losing him become real, it's b/c he has discovered that you are completely unwilling to get yourself together just for the sake of your OWN sanity
Come on...this has got to be draining! You are driving yourself nuts, & all over something you can't control. Relax.
Sounds like you don't need to be in a relationship at all right now. You're smothering him mentally & physically...even if he's not around to see you freaking out, you're still being over-dramatic
Posted by gemini1689
SIGH.. Ok, im fine with giving my boyfriend of 4.5 years some space, i dont contact him.. im leaving him alone.. but you know, im home on a saturday night when I should be with him.. it hurts me that were soo close but SO FAR..and for what??? LIKE WHYYY DO AQUAS NEED SPACE/DISAPPEAR..........doesnt he miss me.. i havent contacted him for so long.. anyone else go through this