@truecap
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should I be worried or is none of my business?
Should I Be Worried About This Health Issue
It is important to consult a healthcare professional to identify the cause of the pain. Ignoring symptoms can lead to complications. Getting a proper diagnosis ensures appropriate treatment and peace of mind. If you feel concerned, seeking medical advice is the best step forward.
knock him out with a bat.
Carry him to the doctor.
Get the said problem checked out.
Posted by truecap
He needs to go to the doctor and have that checked out.I think it would be shallow to leave without knowing what is causing the pain.
It's been a while since he's had this problem . You know jst before his about to come , he starts screamin in pain, makes me feel like I was the reason he was feeling this pain.It's not a nice thing to watch.
Posted by truecap
He needs to go to the doctor and have that checked out.I think it would be shallow to leave without knowing what is causing the pain.
It's been a while since he's had this problem . You know jst before his about to come , he starts screamin in pain, makes me feel like I was the reason he was feeling this pain.It's not a nice thing to watch.
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I understand where you're coming from, but you know intellectually it's not you causing the pain, right?
What might cause painful ejaculation?
Painful ejaculation, or painful orgasm, can have a number of causes:
Ӣ Inflammation of the testicles, prostate, or urethra (the tube that semen passes through)
Ӣ Sexually-transmitted infections
Ӣ Nerve damage in the penis
Ӣ Chronic pain in the pelvis
Ӣ Blockages in the ejaculatory system
Ӣ Pelvic radiation
Ӣ Prostate cancer
Ӣ Psychological issues
If nerve damage is the cause, the situation usually improves over the next two years, as the nerve heals.
Men who have had any kind of lower pelvic surgery, such as a prostatectomy, may experience painful orgasms, too. A prostatectomy is the removal of the prostate gland and is a common treatment for prostate cancer.
Some antidepressants, spermicides, and contraceptive creams have also been linked to painful ejaculation.
Sometimes, the cause of painful ejaculation is unknown.
Treatment of painful ejaculation includes a variety of options.
- See more at: http://www.issm.info/education-for-all/sexual-health-qa/what-might-cause-painful-ejaculation#sthash.vn8iGx5u.dpuf
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.
If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Think about it from the other point of view, if you had pain during orgasm, what would you want him to do? Would it hurt you if he left you? Or would you prefer he encouraged you to seek medical treatment and be supportive?
I dont know how long you have been with him, but being supportive is the humane thing to do.
I'm so sorry but I'm going to be super immature here and say the mental image you gave me had my on the floor laughing, but I was laughing with concern.
PS Goto the doctor
PPS Why are we trying to help someone with their man's penis problems, goto a god damn urologist already.
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
Posted by truecap
Think about it from the other point of view, if you had pain during orgasm, what would you want him to do? Would it hurt you if he left you? Or would you prefer he encouraged you to seek medical treatment and be supportive?I dont know how long you have been with him, but being supportive is the humane thing to do.
you are right, eish sometimes you just wonder
Posted by truecap
Think about it from the other point of view, if you had pain during orgasm, what would you want him to do? Would it hurt you if he left you? Or would you prefer he encouraged you to seek medical treatment and be supportive?I dont know how long you have been with him, but being supportive is the humane thing to do.
we've been together for 2 years
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
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In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
Posted by Aquastic
should I stay or should I go!: he feels Pain after ejaculation, and that makes me really uncomfortable.We spoke about it, he promised to take care of it but hey m even scared to initiate sex cause a part of me feels like m hurting him. On the other hand m worried in the long run he might stop sexing completely.Is he uncut?
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. No he's cut
Posted by Aquastic
should I stay or should I go!: he feels Pain after ejaculation, and that makes me really uncomfortable.We spoke about it, he promised to take care of it but hey m even scared to initiate sex cause a part of me feels like m hurting him. On the other hand m worried in the long run he might stop sexing completely.Is he uncut?
. No he's cut
Does it happen regardless of position? And does it happen with just oral sex?
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. Yes every position. Thing is, he enjoys it until when he needs to come, more like the problem is him coming then he starts creaming while in me and then when he comes out he need to stretch and take a very long break till the next round
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
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Don't you think a doctor should be making this decision?
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
Don't you think a doctor should be making this decision?
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I inserted a caveat at the beginning about it not being a medical condition. This is decision tree is based on a male in relatively good health with no prostate, testicular, hernial or urethral issues.
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
Don't you think a doctor should be making this decision?
I inserted a caveat at the beginning about it not being a medical condition. This is decision tree is based on a male in relatively good health with no prostate, testicular, hernial or urethral issues.
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I'm not trying to be rude here, but what are your qualifications to make this determination?
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
Don't you think a doctor should be making this decision?
I inserted a caveat at the beginning about it not being a medical condition. This is decision tree is based on a male in relatively good health with no prostate, testicular, hernial or urethral issues.
I'm not trying to be rude here, but what are your qualifications to make this determination?
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lol, I asked a nurse friend. But for myself, I have RA which causes spasm and random muscle cramps. I developed RA when I was relatively young and have been working on diet and exercise to minimize the damage until I can start taking RX meds in my 60's.
Posted by starlover
Yes you should be botheredYes he needs to get checked out by a professional
What did you mean by should you stay or go?? Were you thinking of leaving your long term bf because he is in pain?
. We have other issues too , and this is just adding to other problems. The guy has cheated on me ( he did not break up with her , he lies and go to her when we fight) , he quit his job and then he ignored me for no reason. I jst feel like it's too much hey . I love him but I feel like he's going something
Posted by Gennie
describe the pain. If its muscular or a pain in the groin muscles and he had his prostrate examined with no issues, he might have to take some ibuprofen after, irregular blood flow to the groin muscles causes inflammation when the muscles go into use due to the build up of nitrogen. If its INSIDE the penis, AND he does NOT have a urethral tract issue, he's not emitting all his swimmers and his tube is backed up. He needs to stay more hydrated than the average person, and peeing after sex helps.If he feels nerve pain DURING orgasm....its nerve overload, and he just needs to stop fucking and let it ride.
Thanks Gennie , he decribed it as muscular pain on his thighs right during ejaculation. He takes protein vitamins for the muscles. He also mentioned that he needs to exercise more, but knowing him and his lazu ass he hardly does it.
In addition to the protein, he just needs to take some calcium and magnesium supplements as well. This happens a lot to guys with under nourished diets. Also, 5 minutes of stretching everyday and 10 minutes of leg work 3 days a week (squats, lunges etc) will help. If there are no medical things wrong with him, he's cramping from underdeveloped or under utilized muscles.
Don't you think a doctor should be making this decision?
I inserted a caveat at the beginning about it not being a medical condition. This is decision tree is based on a male in relatively good health with no prostate, testicular, hernial or urethral issues.
I'm not trying to be rude here, but what are your qualifications to make this determination?
lol, I asked a nurse friend. But for myself, I have RA which causes spasm and random muscle cramps. I developed RA when I was relatively young and have been working on diet and exercise to minimize the damage until I can start taking RX meds in my 60's.
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ya hey the guy started smoking marijuana from when he was 13 , and he drinks occassionally. He's constantly complaining abou muscles cramps and a part of me things is maybe caused by him smoking.
Eish I I know m over sharing, but it's just refreshing to speak to people who listen.I have never spoke about these things to anyone. Cause m scared people might make unnecessary conclusions about my relationship.
Posted by starlover
Yes you should be botheredYes he needs to get checked out by a professional
What did you mean by should you stay or go?? Were you thinking of leaving your long term bf because he is in pain?
. We have other issues too , and this is just adding to other problems. The guy has cheated on me ( he did not break up with her , he lies and go to her when we fight) , he quit his job and then he ignored me for no reason. I jst feel like it's too much hey . I love him but I feel like he's going something
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Well hell, let him go scream in some other woman's vagina. Don't worry about the emotional pain, you and I both know its not gonna last.
Posted by exxtasyx
That's really bizarre. I never heard of anything like this before. I don't understand what he's waiting on. He definitely needs to go see a doctor, and you should go with him too.
I do want to stick around and be with him, thing is we have other iSsues that make me not even wanna care, but leave him and move on.hopefully I will find a gud guy whose worthy of my caring heart.
Posted by aquasnoz
I'm so sorry but I'm going to be super immature here and say the mental image you gave me had my on the floor laughing, but I was laughing with concern.PS Goto the doctor
PPS Why are we trying to help someone with their man's penis problems, goto a god damn urologist already.
Lmao I saw the same picture in my head and was dying. Btw You're a horrible person!!!!!!!!
Seriously though he needs to go to a doctor and see a professional ASAP.
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I don't understand why m a horrible person here, this person has another girlfriend. I wonder if u would be laughing if you were in his position or mine.this is life one day u might go through something similar and not know what to do, I hope u will recall your laughter
Posted by exxtasyx
That's really bizarre. I never heard of anything like this before. I don't understand what he's waiting on. He definitely needs to go see a doctor, and you should go with him too.I do want to stick around and be with him, thing is we have other iSsues that make me not even wanna care, but leave him and move on.hopefully I will find a gud guy whose worthy of my caring heart.
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Looks like you've made up your mind
Posted by exxtasyx
That's really bizarre. I never heard of anything like this before. I don't understand what he's waiting on. He definitely needs to go see a doctor, and you should go with him too.I do want to stick around and be with him, thing is we have other iSsues that make me not even wanna care, but leave him and move on.hopefully I will find a gud guy whose worthy of my caring heart.
Looks like you've made up your mind
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and his busy sposting pictures of the him and the other gal
If you want to leave for those reasons that's fine. But in your original post you said it was because of his ejaculation problem. I don't understand why you changed your reasons for wanting to leave. Like youve mislead us or maybe you didnt like what was said. It's like you're changing your story trying to find validation from us to support your leaving.
Do what you want, but say what you mean and mean what you say.
Posted by aquasnoz
I'm so sorry but I'm going to be super immature here and say the mental image you gave me had my on the floor laughing, but I was laughing with concern.PS Goto the doctor
PPS Why are we trying to help someone with their man's penis problems, goto a god damn urologist already.
Lmao I saw the same picture in my head and was dying. Btw You're a horrible person!!!!!!!!
Seriously though he needs to go to a doctor and see a professional ASAP.
I don't understand why m a horrible person here, this person has another girlfriend. I wonder if u would be laughing if you were in his position or mine.this is life one day u might go through something similar and not know what to do, I hope u will recall your laughter
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1) We're a bunch of complete randoms, even if we did have the knowledge and experience, we simply cannot see the issue at hand. If you looked up google and searched for a cure or discussion on how to combat a flu and it told you to jump off a cliff, would you?
2) I don't see one word that either me or feby posted that would insinuate you are a bad person, are you self-reflecting and projecting?
3) If you can't see what's funny then you really need to lighten the fuck up.
4) If I was in that position I would've seen a urologist 20 years ago. That is exactly what I'd do in his position.
5) You seem to think we're making your relationship into a joke but no, but I am still laughing at the mental imagery that has nothing to do with you.
6) It seems you have more relationship issues than it's worth. No one is going to judge you here is what I would say but I would be wrong. So which column will you fall into? Those who sympathize with you has wisdom or those that tell you exactly how it is are complete douchebags?
Or honestly let me paint the story this way:
"Hi guys, everytime I try to play with my girlfriends boobs she cries in pain and rolls into the corner in a fetal position, should I be worried"
First, if I have to ask that question, I should probably not procreate.
Secondly, if it was just a tactic to talk about the fact she was cheating on me, or sleeps with a lot of guys then I'm probably after validation for wanting to care deeply for someone who's just in it for my dick.
Thirdly, if I ever did see a girl I'm with cry in agony when I touch her boobs (or any other parts) I would immediately think "shit, you really need to get that checked out, let's never try this again until you get it checked out" and not post about this shit on some random forum and making it seem like the only reason that I want to dump her.
Posted by Koniucha
Is this the Pisces?
yes it is
Snowballing..
Posted by aquasnoz
Or honestly let me paint the story this way:"Hi guys, everytime I try to play with my girlfriends boobs she cries in pain and rolls into the corner in a fetal position, should I be worried"
First, if I have to ask that question, I should probably not procreate.
Secondly, if it was just a tactic to talk about the fact she was cheating on me, or sleeps with a lot of guys then I'm probably after validation for wanting to care deeply for someone who's just in it for my dick.
Thirdly, if I ever did see a girl I'm with cry in agony when I touch her boobs (or any other parts) I would immediately think "shit, you really need to get that checked out, let's never try this again until you get it checked out" and not post about this shit on some random forum and making it seem like the only reason that I want to dump her.
I have posted before about the same guy cheating on me, I stayed with him regardless , and this is another problem I have , and it's eating me inside. I do get good advice from understanding people. And I am more comfortable talking about my problems.
The same random forum has helped me a lot in opening about my problems.
Posted by truecap
He needs to go to the doctor and have that checked out.I think it would be shallow to leave without knowing what is causing the pain.
It's been a while since he's had this problem . You know jst before his about to come , he starts screamin in pain, makes me feel like I was the reason he was feeling this pain.It's not a nice thing to watch.
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lol
sorry but the mental image is real funny
Posted by Koniucha
Is this the Pisces?yes it is
I thought Pisces were terrible??
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I did not dum him, you don't jst dump someone . You think about it. And you calculate the worth of staying and leaving. And this is another problem I have with him
Posted by truecap
If you want to leave for those reasons that's fine. But in your original post you said it was because of his ejaculation problem. I don't understand why you changed your reasons for wanting to leave. Like youve mislead us or maybe you didnt like what was said. It's like you're changing your story trying to find validation from us to support your leaving.Do what you want, but say what you mean and mean what you say.
I mean everything I say. Is just that m confused, I love this man and I really wanna be there for him and support him, but what he's doing is hurting me and he knows it hurts me when he post picyures of the other gal. Making me not even want to care but leave him forever.you know it would be easy for me to be there for him when there was no other gal.I would'nt even ask for advice but stand by him...but....
Aquastic, you've been given great advice, take it. No relationship can be sustained one-sided. Stop enabling his behavior. Besides, what more proof do you need? If he cared anything about you he would not be posting pictures of another woman.
When I say snowballing it's when someone else has problems with the other person and has already been thinking the pros and cons of the relationship when that happens. I tend to think alot of if want to be with that person of course alot of@OP situations are snowballing minor things and is now snowballing into majors things that must be talked about face to face. Otherwise if no compromise or changes have been made however long you've been together. Can detach and just slowly leave..
It's been three years
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He needs to go to the doctor and have that checked out.
I think it would be shallow to leave without knowing what is causing the pain.