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Signs of the aqua man in love?
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He will tell you lol
1. He will come right out & tell you. And let me tell you why it's a BIG DEAL for him to tell you: Aquas like for others to profess their feelings first & to prove themselves FIRST & when an Aqua finally becomes comfortable & vulnerable enought to admit to you that he loves you, that means you've already passed the test of being worthy to him. Keep in mind, an Aqua will NEVER wear their hearts on their sleeves for anyone UNLESS they already have proof that their partners would do the same for them. And once an Aqua says those words "I love you," he means them.
2. He will confide in you his deepest secrets. Aquas have lots of associates & friends, BUT they don't have many people in their lives that they can honestly be 100% themselves too. So, once an Aqua feels that kind of comfort around you, that means that he's thought about it, tested you already & has made the decision to trust you, with no turning back (of course unless you give him a reason to not trust you all over again). Aquas may seem like open books BUT trust me, there are lotttts of things most people don't know about their Aquas & usually won't know unless they are the best friend or the companion.
3. He will be very affectionate with you. Not all Aquas are afraid of PDA (public displays of affection) but then again, it's not common to see an Aqua tonguing someone they just "like" down in public. If your Aqua becomes more affectionate in private, that's a good sign, but if he becomes more affectionate in public, that's a GREAT sign & to him, it symbolizes that he is marking his territory & is proud to embrace what he has earned & what has earned him.
4. He won't be afraid to chase after you, cry in front of you or admit his faults around you. Any time an Aqua is seen putting down their "shields" and walls for someone, that means that that person must be someone special, beyond just a friend or just someone that they "like" (versus love). Aquas will ONLY put down their shields for the people they can see themselves being with for a long time (b/c once their shield is down, it stays down forever to an extent--which explains why Aquas are always so hesistant to put it down in the 1st place)
2. He will confide in you his deepest secrets. Aquas have lots of associates & friends, BUT they don't have many people in their lives that they can honestly be 100% themselves too. So, once an Aqua feels that kind of comfort around you, that means that he's thought about it, tested you already & has made the decision to trust you, with no turning back (of course unless you give him a reason to not trust you all over again). Aquas may seem like open books BUT trust me, there are lotttts of things most people don't know about their Aquas & usually won't know unless they are the best friend or the companion.
3. He will be very affectionate with you. Not all Aquas are afraid of PDA (public displays of affection) but then again, it's not common to see an Aqua tonguing someone they just "like" down in public. If your Aqua becomes more affectionate in private, that's a good sign, but if he becomes more affectionate in public, that's a GREAT sign & to him, it symbolizes that he is marking his territory & is proud to embrace what he has earned & what has earned him.
4. He won't be afraid to chase after you, cry in front of you or admit his faults around you. Any time an Aqua is seen putting down their "shields" and walls for someone, that means that that person must be someone special, beyond just a friend or just someone that they "like" (versus love). Aquas will ONLY put down their shields for the people they can see themselves being with for a long time (b/c once their shield is down, it stays down forever to an extent--which explains why Aquas are always so hesistant to put it down in the 1st place)
5. Your opinion will start to matter just as much as his own. Often times people conversate with Aquas about deep things & assume that just b/c the conversation is deep, that it means the Aqua is really into them. Half of the time Aquas are just testing you to see if you match them intellectually. When an Aqua actually stops testing you & makes the decision that you are a match, you'll notice the conversations going alot different (still just as deep, but just differently). You'll know what I mean when you get to that point.
6. And best of all, he'll tell you that he's in love with you.
6. And best of all, he'll tell you that he's in love with you.
"Yes...this is so true. I talk to people all the time, off and on all day long. I don't feel that I am testing them - I just like to find out if they are someone to avoid or not, based on what they talk about and how they say it. If it is someone I have put some time and effort into, whether in thought or action or both, they should consider themselves very special to me in some way."
Exactly! This is how I am. Every once in a while I like to return the calls of all the people I've ignored for weeks. And sure, I am generally interested in how they are doing. But the main focus & point of my call is to see where their mind is so that I'll know if I need to further continue avoiding them or ignoring them. This is something Aquas do alot without even realizing it, unless someone brings it to our attention, thus leaving us no choice but to admit it. Alot of people don't realize that Aquas aren't always just conversating with you just to test you. Some of the time they are just making sure that your mindset is still compatible today like it was last week & even though I can't necessarily make sense of this thought process myself, all that matters is that WE all do this.
Exactly! This is how I am. Every once in a while I like to return the calls of all the people I've ignored for weeks. And sure, I am generally interested in how they are doing. But the main focus & point of my call is to see where their mind is so that I'll know if I need to further continue avoiding them or ignoring them. This is something Aquas do alot without even realizing it, unless someone brings it to our attention, thus leaving us no choice but to admit it. Alot of people don't realize that Aquas aren't always just conversating with you just to test you. Some of the time they are just making sure that your mindset is still compatible today like it was last week & even though I can't necessarily make sense of this thought process myself, all that matters is that WE all do this.
I have been dating an aquarius, very aquarius, male for 2 years and love him very much. He isn't confident in himself and beats himself up a lot on that. He decided that he wanted a break so he could work on himself because he feels he can't put the time into our relationship though he loves me. He says he hopes that he can figure it all out and then we can get back to having a good relationship. I am not the type of woman who needs her man by her side all the time, every day. I've been very accepting of the fact that he has needed time to figure out what he needs, and so this was a shock. I asked him several times if he was sure it was a break and not a break up that he actually wanted and he told me.. to the point he seemed annoyed, that no he wants a break, to remain friends, and i can do as i please but he won't be seeing anyone just working on himself (though i can tell by the tone, doing what i please did not mean, who.. as in no one else). He said I put it best.. he wants some time to think about things, us still talk but him focus on him and not worry about if i'm ok, talk in awhile and probably get together when he gets his thoughts together. It'c confusing, we spent tons of time together before this jobs, finished each others sentences.. can someone PLEASE give me some insight to this.
Posted by krysrenee7
1. He will come right out & tell you. And let me tell you why it's a BIG DEAL for him to tell you: Aquas like for others to profess their feelings first & to prove themselves FIRST & when an Aqua finally becomes comfortable & vulnerable enought to admit to you that he loves you, that means you've already passed the test of being worthy to him. Keep in mind, an Aqua will NEVER wear their hearts on their sleeves for anyone UNLESS they already have proof that their partners would do the same for them. And once an Aqua says those words "I love you," he means them.
2.
i agree to an extent. some of us like to profess their feelings first.
my husband and i had a taciturn kind of relationship in the first stages. no confessions of undying love, just 'actions',
even spending his hard earned money on me (which is BIG for him) he doesn't do that at all. then in return i saved up some money and bought him a trip to a few places with me of course. those actions show me how much he loves me, because i know his hard earned money is important to him. and time. loads of time. and dependability. no disappearing acts. regardless what astrologers say, disappearing acts to your chosen partner just show how inconsiderate and undependable someone is. it's akin to abandonment.
Posted by Datariesgirl
I agree with everything Krysrenee7 typed!! Wow!
Hey Datariesgirl- you've snagged yourself an aqua man too? 😉
I have a question similar to this. I have an aqua who i work with. The first two years he was in another department but we clicked instantly. It was almost unnatural. Im a scorpio female and its a bad match thats why i was surprised how natural we got along. After a while he started to be subtly affectionate or always in my comfort space or always touching and going through my belongings. But when i got transferred to the same department. He got more distant. According to him it was cause im more skilled than him so my presence gave him the ability to focus on important projects he wasnt able to work on before. As a scorpio i saw it as neglect. But when i learned to not take it personally we started getting along well again
That being said when i read the signs ppl have listed here and my iwn research on the aqua sign. He sometimes acts diff thsn described such as
While he is supposed to be independent. He always likes going into my office to nab things. He will even quickly mutter how he likes coming into my office then quickly changes the subject.
It says above that a good sign is being more open about himself while he does seem to stick to surface level topics but if you ask him something personal. Hell tell you. But the difference with me is not his openess cause hes open with everyone. With me its things like inflection in the tone of his voice. Its also how he jokes with me vs everyone else. The way he jokes with ppl seems like in a fake way cause he does it a little too much. But with me he diesnt go overboard with it. Like with ppl hell say stuff like omgggg thanks for showing up late or wow cant open that door fast enough? And he will do that constantly to a person in yhat same way
With me its not that type of joking. Its more of comments like i like coming into your office and taking one tissue at a time Or hell say stuff like he dressed up for casual friday cause its my fault i dressed up. Sometimes he wont really make fun of me but will wanna joke with me about others.
I guess its just the way he subtly comes across when hes around me. It fells like he has this i wanna take care if you types of actions. But idk. I dont know how he is around others 24/7.
What do u all think
That being said when i read the signs ppl have listed here and my iwn research on the aqua sign. He sometimes acts diff thsn described such as
While he is supposed to be independent. He always likes going into my office to nab things. He will even quickly mutter how he likes coming into my office then quickly changes the subject.
It says above that a good sign is being more open about himself while he does seem to stick to surface level topics but if you ask him something personal. Hell tell you. But the difference with me is not his openess cause hes open with everyone. With me its things like inflection in the tone of his voice. Its also how he jokes with me vs everyone else. The way he jokes with ppl seems like in a fake way cause he does it a little too much. But with me he diesnt go overboard with it. Like with ppl hell say stuff like omgggg thanks for showing up late or wow cant open that door fast enough? And he will do that constantly to a person in yhat same way
With me its not that type of joking. Its more of comments like i like coming into your office and taking one tissue at a time Or hell say stuff like he dressed up for casual friday cause its my fault i dressed up. Sometimes he wont really make fun of me but will wanna joke with me about others.
I guess its just the way he subtly comes across when hes around me. It fells like he has this i wanna take care if you types of actions. But idk. I dont know how he is around others 24/7.
What do u all think
I think he likes you, but it might be just as friends.
@ScorpioFemalw79 Aquas are hard in that while we all have very similar traits we are at the same time quite a bit different. Are you the ONLY female in the office he does this with?? And if two years how come no dating?? I will say this... from my own personal experience, Aquas are good at reading people sorta like how Scorpios are good at reading people. I'm sure your probably right that he does have a thing for you and believe it or not he probably knows you do too even though you probably try not to make that all to clear. It's actually the vagueness that both your signs display all the time that has probably held this off from going any further because while both of you are probably certain the other is into you.... your attempts at being detached while probably noticed by you both are the very things holding you back..... Because your not 100% sure why he is acting detached just like he is not sure why your doing the same at times...you probably think "Was it cause he doesn't want me to think he's into me because he's not or is it because he's not sure I'm into him"? That is the ultimate question that I can't answer for you but I know if he is spending a lot of time around you he is into you for sure probably more than you realize..
Posted by krysrenee7
1. He will come right out & tell you. And let me tell you why it's a BIG DEAL for him to tell you: Aquas like for others to profess their feelings first & to prove themselves FIRST & when an Aqua finally becomes comfortable & vulnerable enought to admit to you that he loves you, that means you've already passed the test of being worthy to him. Keep in mind, an Aqua will NEVER wear their hearts on their sleeves for anyone UNLESS they already have proof that their partners would do the same for them. And once an Aqua says those words "I love you," he means them.
2. He will confide in you his deepest secrets. Aquas have lots of associates & friends, BUT they don't have many people in their lives that they can honestly be 100% themselves too. So, once an Aqua feels that kind of comfort around you, that means that he's thought about it, tested you already & has made the decision to trust you, with no turning back (of course unless you give him a reason to not trust you all over again). Aquas may seem like open books BUT trust me, there are lotttts of things most people don't know about their Aquas & usually won't know unless they are the best friend or the companion.
3. He will be very affectionate with you. Not all Aquas are afraid of PDA (public displays of affection) but then again, it's not common to see an Aqua tonguing someone they just "like" down in public. If your Aqua becomes more affectionate in private, that's a good sign, but if he becomes more affectionate in public, that's a GREAT sign & to him, it symbolizes that he is marking his territory & is proud to embrace what he has earned & what has earned him.
4. He won't be afraid to chase after you, cry in front of you or admit his faults around you. Any time an Aqua is seen putting down their "shields" and walls for someone, that means that that person must be someone special, beyond just a friend or just someone that they "like" (versus love). Aquas will ONLY put down their shields for the people they can see themselves being with for a long time (b/c once their shield is down, it stays down forever to an extent--which explains why Aquas are always so hesistant to put it down in the 1st place)
you gave out our secrets
Posted by Metoo
Your main purpose of the call is to see if you need to continue avoiding/ignoring them?
WOW.
based on this I highly distrust aqua motives, sounds highly manipulative, almost passively abusive as the unsuspecting friend gratefully sees your number on caller id and cheerily picks up, excited to hear from you. How aweful, if he/she only knew.
Why do aquas even have friends, I mean, people arent science projects.
Sad, sad, sad.
dont worry, most aqua use thier abilities for good. One central aspect of aquas is thinking of others as opposed to thinking of themselves. That being said if i treat you as a science experiment does it make you feel better its for the benifit of humanity.
@notyouraverageaquarius. While I'm not around him 24/7 I am around him a good chunk of the day. When I first got transferred to the same department he wanted me to pick the office that was two feet from his so i hear all of his convos. If hes not at lunch with the dudes hes in his office. He used to socialize alot when I first joined his department with everyone everyone else. It created alot of frustration for me which led us to barely talking for a long time and him being an aqua he never knew what to do I guess and just let it be and I was stubborn and expected an apology.
It took a long time I realized it was a big misunderstanding. I assumed he was purposely neglecting me when he really wasnt and he always thought I was upset with him but I always wasnt. So this new year when I had the epiphany u decided to accept and understand his aqua traits and always remind myself the reasons behind his actions and its worked. The instant i changed my perspective the old bond we had instantly came back.
To answer your question, yes being the aqua that he is sure hes social with everyone even with people he hates. But I see the varying degrees to how he socialized with a person depending on how close you are to him. If he didnt like you hed at least socialize with you nicely if you approached him but he never initiated. If all you were to him was someone to network with hed initiate but hed stick to work related topics. If he thought you were cool which is a good chunk of the staff at work he will socialize as a friend but hell stick to surface level subjects and make fun of things you were doing and not doing like hey wow nice driving. Or nice of you to show up. Sarcastic comments
But with me I've known him a long time hes never done any of the above with me. He liked/likes getting in my personal space, once in a while subtly touch me when he passed by like a touch on the arm or a shoulder squeeze or brush dirt off me. He will sometimes hover over me just watching me work. If he needs to borrow my rolling cart for a presentation he has off site but its full of presentation stuff i need for an on site presentation I'm doing ill let him borrow it since hed need it more but then is notice hed set up my presentation stuff for me before he left. Plus the way he talks to me is different. When he talks to work friends he will give you a hard time and hed over do it like in a him being fake sorta way but with me I notice like tonal inflections in a
It took a long time I realized it was a big misunderstanding. I assumed he was purposely neglecting me when he really wasnt and he always thought I was upset with him but I always wasnt. So this new year when I had the epiphany u decided to accept and understand his aqua traits and always remind myself the reasons behind his actions and its worked. The instant i changed my perspective the old bond we had instantly came back.
To answer your question, yes being the aqua that he is sure hes social with everyone even with people he hates. But I see the varying degrees to how he socialized with a person depending on how close you are to him. If he didnt like you hed at least socialize with you nicely if you approached him but he never initiated. If all you were to him was someone to network with hed initiate but hed stick to work related topics. If he thought you were cool which is a good chunk of the staff at work he will socialize as a friend but hell stick to surface level subjects and make fun of things you were doing and not doing like hey wow nice driving. Or nice of you to show up. Sarcastic comments
But with me I've known him a long time hes never done any of the above with me. He liked/likes getting in my personal space, once in a while subtly touch me when he passed by like a touch on the arm or a shoulder squeeze or brush dirt off me. He will sometimes hover over me just watching me work. If he needs to borrow my rolling cart for a presentation he has off site but its full of presentation stuff i need for an on site presentation I'm doing ill let him borrow it since hed need it more but then is notice hed set up my presentation stuff for me before he left. Plus the way he talks to me is different. When he talks to work friends he will give you a hard time and hed over do it like in a him being fake sorta way but with me I notice like tonal inflections in a
Weird way. Kind like the male version of a woman's cute voice. He'll say something to me but in the middle if it it'll become high pitched I.e like what you'd here when a boy is going through puberty. Plus what he talks to me about isnt the giving me a hard time overdone jokes he uses with everyone else. It's more if random quiet mutterings like "I like coming in here (my office)". It's how at potlucks he'll say the dish he brought is from him and I. Or it's how he waves drops on my convos with others
I guess the biggest example of all is how he mimics me sometimes. We both are hard workers and we both are known for being the best in our company. When I started seeking him out more with strategic planning. He did it with me back. At events when I'd introduce myself to someone do it too like he was always following my lead. He wanted my opinion more also. The more I showed my intelligence in a big way the more super friendly he got with me. The more he was around me. The more talkative he was with me and the less he was with everyone else
What I wanna know is if hes just comfortable with me or just highly interested
If he is interested how do you think he will make it known?
I guess the biggest example of all is how he mimics me sometimes. We both are hard workers and we both are known for being the best in our company. When I started seeking him out more with strategic planning. He did it with me back. At events when I'd introduce myself to someone do it too like he was always following my lead. He wanted my opinion more also. The more I showed my intelligence in a big way the more super friendly he got with me. The more he was around me. The more talkative he was with me and the less he was with everyone else
What I wanna know is if hes just comfortable with me or just highly interested
If he is interested how do you think he will make it known?
Idk I'm wondering myself
@ScorpioFemale79 since supposedly Aquarians are less stubborn than scorpios he will be the one to make the move just when I couldn't say for sure best thing you could do to help this along would be more obvious about your interest in him not so much verbally just ..... Being receptive to everything he says or does.... And if you already are then you are just gonna have to wait or move on lol cause either he is the over cautious type with his heart or you are misreading him which I doubt.
Do aqua men ever give hints? I mean if they dont say the 'L' word how can you tell they are into you, when they are friendly with everyone? How can you tell the difference?
My experience says the actions speak pretty loudly. If he's spending quality time with you and doing things for you and opening up about himself, then take it that he is serious about you. My aqua used to say more sweet and reassuring things to me than he does now. I'm not getting the verbal re-assurances or the L-word, but he's spending more time with me, doing nice things for me, taking me with him to family dinners, doesn't disappear, contacts me daily, etc.
I think they have the feeling of "well, I'm spending time with you aren't I? I'm here aren't I?".
I think they have the feeling of "well, I'm spending time with you aren't I? I'm here aren't I?".
http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/biggest-signs-that-he-is-in-love-with-you/<BR>
if you really think about it,,,it rings true..those general signs..every guy that was very serious with me displayed the above signs. Guys who just wanted nothing more but to get me into the bedroom or wanted a fling didn't. EVEN the players the ones who really know how to play the game..but between the lines a man who is in LOVE with you has the above signs and is consistent in his actions as well. Guys who play the game will always have you question "there is something off .He says he cares and likes me a lot but...he doesnt spend time with me or call or text. He says he'll be there but he breaks promises" etc etc. Then the girl in that position has to deal with a response such as "i was so swamped at work and i just couldn't find the energy i just want you to feel good when im energetic, it wont happen again" so the first time around its reasonable but the pattern with bad guys is that they keep finding excuses keep making YOU compromise and understand .no balance whatsoever. (im not saying that the above response is a lie..but rather the way players use it) Ultimately, deterring from the article and i also couldn't agree more with krysnee post.
So ask yourself this...how does your aqua generally make you feel? do you feel good with your with him?
if you really think about it,,,it rings true..those general signs..every guy that was very serious with me displayed the above signs. Guys who just wanted nothing more but to get me into the bedroom or wanted a fling didn't. EVEN the players the ones who really know how to play the game..but between the lines a man who is in LOVE with you has the above signs and is consistent in his actions as well. Guys who play the game will always have you question "there is something off .He says he cares and likes me a lot but...he doesnt spend time with me or call or text. He says he'll be there but he breaks promises" etc etc. Then the girl in that position has to deal with a response such as "i was so swamped at work and i just couldn't find the energy i just want you to feel good when im energetic, it wont happen again" so the first time around its reasonable but the pattern with bad guys is that they keep finding excuses keep making YOU compromise and understand .no balance whatsoever. (im not saying that the above response is a lie..but rather the way players use it) Ultimately, deterring from the article and i also couldn't agree more with krysnee post.
So ask yourself this...how does your aqua generally make you feel? do you feel good with your with him?
Posted by Angeleyes17
Do aqua men ever give hints? I mean if they dont say the 'L' word how can you tell they are into you, when they are friendly with everyone? How can you tell the difference?
In the way that they kiss. Lol Truly by thier actions. I just asked my gf how many times ive even said the L word. Ten times in two years lol and it took a year for it to happen. I refuse just to throw it out there. Words are wind its action's that prove the case.
truecap,
Awww see that's how it really should be. It's the little gestures and the things they do for you which is most memorable. The L word is usually used soo easily these days, but it's the time spent which is the best??_Lucky chick 😉
EvilTurtle
In the way they kiss ey?! The passionate kissys? The slow of soft? lol
Awww see that's how it really should be. It's the little gestures and the things they do for you which is most memorable. The L word is usually used soo easily these days, but it's the time spent which is the best??_Lucky chick 😉
EvilTurtle
In the way they kiss ey?! The passionate kissys? The slow of soft? lol
Posted by Angeleyes17
truecap,
Awww see that's how it really should be. It's the little gestures and the things they do for you which is most memorable. The L word is usually used soo easily these days, but it's the time spent which is the best??_Lucky chick 😉
EvilTurtle
In the way they kiss ey?! The passionate kissys? The slow of soft? lol
Both of course 🙂
They make a space for you in their life without being told to do it. My Aqua and me watch the basketball games of his alma mater at sports bar every Saturday. His idea. I didn't have to whine to be included or guilt him.
I'm with an Aqua. He pretty much tells me. And he is pretty smothering, but that could be his Pisces Venus.
If you have to ask, he's not in love.
If you have to ask, he's not in love.
Posted by EvilTurtlePosted by Angeleyes17
truecap,
Awww see that's how it really should be. It's the little gestures and the things they do for you which is most memorable. The L word is usually used soo easily these days, but it's the time spent which is the best??_Lucky chick 😉
EvilTurtle
In the way they kiss ey?! The passionate kissys? The slow of soft? lol
Both of course 🙂click to expand
From experience, an Aquas passionate kisses are extremely hot and sexy!! So pretty much the actions they show, that they want you says it all 🙂
I'm seeing an Aquarius male. He pursued me but I admitted my feelings first and he had/has said he loves me but always in the oddest moments and when he is most entertained by something I've said or done. So it doesn't necessarily feel quite romantic in those moments. He has told me that he loves me in text in seriousness but the context and communication was a brief continuation of an earlier conversation. I don't ask these questions much, I am not a particularly self conscious personality, so I don't really feel the need to pummel him with questions on why he said this or that, or let him know when I'm trying to read him but once in frustration at his communication skills I once asked what it was he wanted from me and his response was, "Everything." He'll say something sweet here and there and then later say something that starts me wondering all over again. For example, he grabbed at me as I was walking away to do something one day recently, so when I finished I came back and asked if he needed me, his response was, "Need is a strong word, but I wanted you." And it hit me wrong so I started to wonder if I was reading him correctly.
He is always asking me questions to gauge likes/dislikes and etc like one does when in a relationship. This weekend he asked me how I like my Christmas trees. I responded it was mostly for the kids so it varied. I described some of the things we done in the past and he smiled and said it was a little too hodge podge for him. I laughed at that and joked about it being a deal breaker. He smiled and said no but we'd have to come to some agreements. And it was all lighthearted jesting and such but he throws questions like that out there regularly. I've known him since I was 11. And we had a never realized crush even in HS. Now as adults we accidentally met back up and started seeing one another and he is always talking about houses and trips with our kids combined as a family and hobbies we both enjoy and what we would need to do to achieve goals and the like. He stated concerns about compatibility once, but just said it was something we would have to work out, so I gave into my brain and asked and he just said he is set in his ways.
He will sometimes express a thought that he realizes upsets me and he responds to it by mulling over what he said and coming back and broaching it even if I don't. It isn't always better but I like that he at least takes those things in to consideration I suppose. Even if I found it in the mo
He is always asking me questions to gauge likes/dislikes and etc like one does when in a relationship. This weekend he asked me how I like my Christmas trees. I responded it was mostly for the kids so it varied. I described some of the things we done in the past and he smiled and said it was a little too hodge podge for him. I laughed at that and joked about it being a deal breaker. He smiled and said no but we'd have to come to some agreements. And it was all lighthearted jesting and such but he throws questions like that out there regularly. I've known him since I was 11. And we had a never realized crush even in HS. Now as adults we accidentally met back up and started seeing one another and he is always talking about houses and trips with our kids combined as a family and hobbies we both enjoy and what we would need to do to achieve goals and the like. He stated concerns about compatibility once, but just said it was something we would have to work out, so I gave into my brain and asked and he just said he is set in his ways.
He will sometimes express a thought that he realizes upsets me and he responds to it by mulling over what he said and coming back and broaching it even if I don't. It isn't always better but I like that he at least takes those things in to consideration I suppose. Even if I found it in the mo
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Even if I found it in the moment disturbing I don't always find it necessary to force a discussion or over analyze it, but he will usually attempt to revisit it if he feels it upset me. We both, neither of us particularly are much for the bringing back up of things already settled.
He loves to shop for me, mostly window shopping because admittedly he is overly frugal and though I am frugal I can't compare to him. He'll send me text links to clothing items or such that he thinks I will look good in and/or boat listings (we both love boating) or house listings in our hometown because we talked about both of us eventually wanting to move back home. But he will buy me the oddest things, a swimsuit of late and a season pass to a water park. He is always kissing me and touching me in private. We both have children so we haven't had a lot of public time (without them) to judge that end, but he likes to surreptitiously grab my ass in public and feeds me a cheeky grin in reaction to mine.
He is always sharing things, will shake his head and tell me he can't believe he's telling me this. He asks me every now and then where I was in a particular year when he first started to entertain the idea of settling down. (again known one another most of our lives) And he likes to call me by my middle name simply because NO ONE else does and he says its just his.
I understand myself enough to realize that I am analytic by nature but I just want to understand if I'm reading him correctly or if I'm deluding myself about the potential with him.
Even if I found it in the moment disturbing I don't always find it necessary to force a discussion or over analyze it, but he will usually attempt to revisit it if he feels it upset me. We both, neither of us particularly are much for the bringing back up of things already settled.
He loves to shop for me, mostly window shopping because admittedly he is overly frugal and though I am frugal I can't compare to him. He'll send me text links to clothing items or such that he thinks I will look good in and/or boat listings (we both love boating) or house listings in our hometown because we talked about both of us eventually wanting to move back home. But he will buy me the oddest things, a swimsuit of late and a season pass to a water park. He is always kissing me and touching me in private. We both have children so we haven't had a lot of public time (without them) to judge that end, but he likes to surreptitiously grab my ass in public and feeds me a cheeky grin in reaction to mine.
He is always sharing things, will shake his head and tell me he can't believe he's telling me this. He asks me every now and then where I was in a particular year when he first started to entertain the idea of settling down. (again known one another most of our lives) And he likes to call me by my middle name simply because NO ONE else does and he says its just his.
I understand myself enough to realize that I am analytic by nature but I just want to understand if I'm reading him correctly or if I'm deluding myself about the potential with him.
Depends on his chart and his life experience.
Nevermind me, I just read the first post thinking it was the last one haha. oops.
I met him on a dating website. A week of stimulating intense and oh so funny conversation and face timing . Text and/or calls everyday. We met in person and I felt I knew him well enough (did a background check of course) and he was still the same in person so I invited him for dinner. He met my family. He didn't want to leave and I didn't want him to but I live with my mom and that was a no go. He said he wanted to kidnap me so I asked my sister to babysit and he took me home and I met his family. Yes, we did have sex. It was great but initially funny cuz he stuck his hand down there and fooled around and I guess since it was dark, he thought I wouldn't notice him smell his fingers. I had to stop breathing to hold my laugh. It was awkward but cute because I haven't seen that since my late teens. Anyways, he wrote me songs, poems, cryptic messages in Japanese on social media that I spent hours trying to translate and when he finally told me what it meant, I think he had me. He had already told me he was plotting on me and made up his mind that I would be his. "I've made up my mind. You will be mine." Were his exact words. The cute stuff continued, even when I had a tantrum about a miscommunication we had, he blocked me on his phone and social media after texting me "I liked you quite a bit love. You even said you have to make better selection. Take care. Bye." Once I realized he blocked me (in about 5 minutes) I threw on clothes and went to his house. I knocked and sat on his front porch. I even called and left a voicemail saying I had all day to sit there so he better man up and face me for this conversation. I was super sweet. I watched a movie on my phone and then started thinking. So I prayed about if I was wasting time and should just walk away. I prayed for a sign in the right direction. His mom pulled up 3 minutes later. We had a talk and she did tell me that he brought me to meet her and he never does that. To go home, get fly, and if he is smart he will call and she'll tell him I came by. I didn't make it home. He called me when I got up a few exits on the interstate. Asked why I came. I told him to resolve it in an amicable manner so we could be friends. He said he didn't want anything to do with my friendship. I got off the interstate to turn around and go slap him for trying me. Then he proceeded to say he wouldn't know what to do with it but I can come back and we can act like it never happened. I went.
I met him on a dating website. A week of stimulating intense and oh so funny conversation and face timing . Text and/or calls everyday. We met in person and I felt I knew him well enough (did a background check of course) and he was still the same in person so I invited him for dinner. He met my family. He didn't want to leave and I didn't want him to but I live with my mom and that was a no go. He said he wanted to kidnap me so I asked my sister to babysit and he took me home and I met his family. Yes, we did have sex. It was great but initially funny cuz he stuck his hand down there and fooled around and I guess since it was dark, he thought I wouldn't notice him smell his fingers. I had to stop breathing to hold my laugh. It was awkward but cute because I haven't seen that since my late teens. Anyways, he wrote me songs, poems, cryptic messages in Japanese on social media that I spent hours trying to translate and when he finally told me what it meant, I think he had me. He had already told me he was plotting on me and made up his mind that I would be his. "I've made up my mind. You will be mine." Were his exact words. The cute stuff continued, even when I had a tantrum about a miscommunication we had, he blocked me on his phone and social media after texting me "I liked you quite a bit love. You even said you have to make better selection. Take care. Bye." Once I realized he blocked me (in about 5 minutes) I threw on clothes and went to his house. I knocked and sat on his front porch. I even called and left a voicemail saying I had all day to sit there so he better man up and face me for this conversation. I was super sweet. I watched a movie on my phone and then started thinking. So I prayed about if I was wasting time and should just walk away. I prayed for a sign in the right direction. His mom pulled up 3 minutes later. We had a talk and she did tell me that he brought me to meet her and he never does that. To go home, get fly, and if he is smart he will call and she'll tell him I came by. I didn't make it home. He called me when I got up a few exits on the interstate. Asked why I came. I told him to resolve it in an amicable manner so we could be friends. He said he didn't want anything to do with my friendship. I got off the interstate to turn around and go slap him for trying me. Then he proceeded to say he wouldn't know what to do with it but I can come back and we can act like it never happened. I went. We talked. He said he can't just be my f
Hey guys I know this is an old post but I hope someone can help me out an aqua will be a bonus but I still don't mind any body's input. So I'm a taurean female who as been in a relationship with an aqua guy for over 4 years. We met when I was straight out of high school. We are opposites but click, he has already told me he loves me in fact he told me that after 6 months of dating, I have seen all of him he has cried in front of me shared so many secrets with me, we have had a few bumps on the road mainly cause of communication he is a Lil on the cold side but if you play your cards right he opens up. Till recently we were joined at the hip something happened that has become a dark cloud above our heads. That's why I'm here cause I don't know what to do, we always misunderstand each other and these recent problems has made me seek out info online and I must say I have learned a lot. I never understood why he was so difficult and different from the rest. I didn't understand some of his actions but all this reading has given me an insight about his mind, don't get me wrong I have always loved how his mind works but couldn't understand the meaning or the reason behind his actions. Anyway let me get to the problem. 2 years in our relationship he cheated on me with his lecturer . I felt something was odd and constantly asked him but he reassured me with a straight face that nothing was a miss till he finally told me 1 night that he wanted to end our relationship he gave me some weird excuse which I didn't buy for 1 sec. It didn't take long for 1 of his sisters to snitch yep I'm very close with the family too. I was upset but knowing the lecturer and her history I knew it was cause of sex and at the time I was going through issues when it came to sex. He never told me that my issues was making our sex life suffer and he loves his sex let me just put it at that. Still I knew they would not last cause of his difficult nature and right I was less than 2 months they broke up and the weird thing is the whole time he was with her we couldn't stop talking to each other if he had a problem he would call me and vice versa. We couldn't stay away from each other. Well after that romance fizzled out he came begging for me. I was hurt though and my trust was completely broken. I am an honest and trustworthy individual myself so trust and honesty is a big deal to me and he broke it. His family begged me to give him another chance which I did but I felt like he never really owned up to his actions and to make matters worse he changed and grew cold that hurt me but I was determined to change that and eventually he started coming around again. He asked me to forgive him finally which I have tried but sometimes he will do things that will remind me of the past like for example he has the tendency of keeping things from me even the small innocent 1s and that takes me back to the dishonesty and trust. I recently travelled for work and I thought the distance
Would be good for us since we are joined to the hip however the opposite happened we were ok till 4 days before I came back home. There was a girl he added on fb and thar was the same gal I caught him getting too friendly with online 3 years ago so I kindly asked him to remove her and he got mad saying that I will never trust or listen to him again and it hurts I didn't understand why he got so upset but since then he has been cold to me again he even asked that we break up but he asked me back 6 days later. I kind of regret my approach to that whole situation cause he's now cold than ever so distant I even feel like he's found someone else even though he has reassured me that's not the case and he gets even angrier when I say that cause he says that's the reason why we have problems my lack of trust and listening. Which is true I don't trust nor listen to him cause I never know when he's being honest so I shut him out. He has begged me in the past to stop even with tears in his eyes he begged me but yall know aqua man are so confusing I didn't know what to believe. He is coming around but is still kind of cold and that makes me cry and gives me anxiety which he Hates. He said he still loves me dearly but my lack of trust has kind of put a dent in his feelings about me. Like I said he is coming around but is still kind of cold still gives me silent treatments while I'm used to us communicating every single day. He's not as loving through the phone like he used to be but in person he is. Like I said I have been here before with him even I put him through this a couple of months back but it wasn't for long cause I'm the mushy type plus he stayed up the whole night crying and begging me to not let him go. Intellectually I still lock him I'm so I'm using that to my advantage by bringing up random topics. I have done some research on him and I used to find him odd cause aquas don't speak like us they talk in riddles and have a unique way of saying and expressing things. I used to doubt his love but my research has actually proven to me that he has a very deep and raw love for me he even talks about marriage. I everything about him and so does he I we are best friends but recently I been feeling like I'm losing my friend I know he is still angry about what happened he doesn't forgive very fast even though he is quick to say I forgive u. So my question guys what can I do to win him back fully. I can't stand not having my best friend by my side I miss him dearly. I know he misses me too but is good at hiding things while I'm not just by looking at him u can tell he is miserable. He looks like he hasn't slept in ages which breaks my heart even more cause I know I caused it. I need tips to get my soul mate back guys old. Anything at all will help I can't even sleep.
Yes I know a Taurus woman with an aqua man. We so incompatible but has worked for us. Oh and how can I convince him to go to couples therapy with me I asked him but all he says is he will think about it. I think therapy will be a huge help for our relationship
Yes I know a Taurus woman with an aqua man. We so incompatible but has worked for us. Oh and how can I convince him to go to couples therapy with me I asked him but all he says is he will think about it. I think therapy will be a huge help for our relationship. I don't want to sound pushy.
Oh, uhm. This is like a 6 year old thread bumped by a spambot or something.
I know it's an old post but still had to try my luck.
I just need some type of advice
Make a new thread and use paragraphs.
Posted by truecap
Make a new thread and use paragraphs.
I did make a new thread but forgive me on the paragraph it's 4am just woke up cause my mind is heavy and I'm tired so I just wrote without thinking of paragraphs. I apologise.
krysrenee76 have revealed our secrets. Mm we are pretty confusing sign, i love to be chased by woman & test their heart. Unknowingly, i didnt realize that i am playing mind games with people. But really all i am looking for is a woman being true to herself, has her own viewpoint towards life & not being "fake". Out of all things i hate being fake the most, bring out your natural self thats the most attractive things to aqua.
I think Aqua is the sign thats EASIEST to court, only confusing for those who dont understand. if you have proved that your worthy as a lover, we will come to you ourselves but this might seriously take some time. If you do not have patience, you will not be able to wait it out, its also a way to test whether how long you can hold your interest to that person, if you cant hold it out a couple of months, a year or two, we will probably read you as not a trustworthy partner to share life with.
Aquas treat people they like special. You have to look into DETAIL to find out. Words are never our way of saying i care for you, words have no substance. If you find him touching you, spending more time with you etc hes interested in you. Look out for the little things, even bringing coffee to you means that he place you on a higher list than his friends. Bes wishes to all who wants an aqua aa their partner. Like many have said, we dont easily say the L word but once its said, you can be sure that we love you with our heart. Please accept that detached side of ours & the relationship will be a happy one.
I think Aqua is the sign thats EASIEST to court, only confusing for those who dont understand. if you have proved that your worthy as a lover, we will come to you ourselves but this might seriously take some time. If you do not have patience, you will not be able to wait it out, its also a way to test whether how long you can hold your interest to that person, if you cant hold it out a couple of months, a year or two, we will probably read you as not a trustworthy partner to share life with.
Aquas treat people they like special. You have to look into DETAIL to find out. Words are never our way of saying i care for you, words have no substance. If you find him touching you, spending more time with you etc hes interested in you. Look out for the little things, even bringing coffee to you means that he place you on a higher list than his friends. Bes wishes to all who wants an aqua aa their partner. Like many have said, we dont easily say the L word but once its said, you can be sure that we love you with our heart. Please accept that detached side of ours & the relationship will be a happy one.
Posted by Kodak375Playing mind games doesnt mean making things difficult for people, eg i will purposefully phrase my sentence if i need to test out their intentions or sincerity. When that specific question is posed, i proceed to study their reaction, facial expression etc which will give me an answer later on. Of course this is done naturally without making extra effort.Posted by AngmodurianSo you test people and play mind games. But you are seeking someone to be true to you? To not be "fake"— I don't... that just doesn't add up to me.
krysrenee76 i love to be chased by woman & test their heart. Unknowingly, i didnt realize that i am playing mind games with people. But really all i am looking for is a woman being true to herself, has her own viewpoint towards life & not being "fake"
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Its just a form of "subliminal" way to get the answer that you want & this is more credible than asking them outright because those reactions cant be faked. If you ask them right away, things might get akward & sometimes you dont get the answer you want too. This is why people complains aquarians are confusing, we just take our time to analyze a person before we decide if he/she is a friend material or a partner.
Being not "fake" means the philosophy & values towards life is reflected in their actions, Have you not realized that most people say nice things on surface level just to look good & gain recognition but deep inside they are very different. The real side is hidden away, but still trying to put on another facade to mask their true self. I dont accept excuses such as this is just a way of protecting oneself from the society, its just that person is unable to face up to their true self & goes all the way to hide it. Thats the reason for many marriage failure too, you only realize the true self of your other half after spending a whole deal of time with him/her. If you have observed them much more carefully, you might be able to save more heartaches & identify a nore suitable partner for a more successful marriage.
He'll constantly want to be around you.
Posted by sparkWell, yes and no. He'll come to you whenever he wants (as in constantly) but at the same time, he doesnt appreciate mega-clinginess, what with being independent and all. On top of that, you wouldnt want to stop him from making his rounds and meeting people. He'd also secretly want to check you out like the first time, when you didnt even realise he existed. At least, thats how it appears to be in my case
He'll constantly want to be around you.
Posted by flowingwaterGood insight to know!Posted by AngmodurianTrue.Posted by Kodak375Playing mind games doesnt mean making things difficult for people, eg i will purposefully phrase my sentence if i need to test out their intentions or sincerity. When that specific question is posed, i proceed to study their reaction, facial expression etc which will give me an answer later on. Of course this is done naturally without making extra effort.Posted by AngmodurianSo you test people and play mind games. But you are seeking someone to be true to you? To not be "fake"— I don't... that just doesn't add up to me.
krysrenee76 i love to be chased by woman & test their heart. Unknowingly, i didnt realize that i am playing mind games with people. But really all i am looking for is a woman being true to herself, has her own viewpoint towards life & not being "fake"
Its just a form of "subliminal" way to get the answer that you want & this is more credible than asking them outright because those reactions cant be faked. If you ask them right away, things might get akward & sometimes you dont get the answer you want too. This is why people complains aquarians are confusing, we just take our time to analyze a person before we decide if he/she is a friend material or a partner.
There are times I might even ask the same questions but in spaced increments to see if I get the same answer, picking out the bull shit and lies.click to expand
Posted by flowingwaterWhat happens if they give you a different answer? Have you been able to call it quits? I've done similar stuff in the past, but still give them a "chance".
You see, in all honesty, Aquarians are one of the most sensitive signs. Many call us "desensitized" but that is completely false.. This explains our detachment and/or not putting many emotions in someone that does not matter. When are hearts broken, we can fall deep.. We take time to analyze and really figure out are potential mate before giving our all. Once we do and being a fixed sign, it's very hard to let go.
Posted by AngmodurianLooking from the outside in, I Agree...
krysrenee76 have revealed our secrets. Mm we are pretty confusing sign, i love to be chased by woman & test their heart. Unknowingly, i didnt realize that i am playing mind games with people. But really all i am looking for is a woman being true to herself, has her own viewpoint towards life & not being "fake". Out of all things i hate being fake the most, bring out your natural self thats the most attractive things to aqua.
I think Aqua is the sign thats EASIEST to court, only confusing for those who dont understand. if you have proved that your worthy as a lover, we will come to you ourselves but this might seriously take some time. If you do not have patience, you will not be able to wait it out, its also a way to test whether how long you can hold your interest to that person, if you cant hold it out a couple of months, a year or two, we will probably read you as not a trustworthy partner to share life with.
Aquas treat people they like special. You have to look into DETAIL to find out. Words are never our way of saying i care for you, words have no substance. If you find him touching you, spending more time with you etc hes interested in you. Look out for the little things, even bringing coffee to you means that he place you on a higher list than his friends. Bes wishes to all who wants an aqua aa their partner. Like many have said, we dont easily say the L word but once its said, you can be sure that we love you with our heart. Please accept that detached side of ours & the relationship will be a happy one.
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