So I moved on from Aqua, and he’s NOT happy

As some of you lot may know or don’t know Lol, I have an Aqua friend who we are both interested in each other but for some reason he’s not pursuing anything with me.

He took a girl out on a date and from that day I decided to not wait for him and to just carry on with my life.

I went out to dinner with a male friend and posted it and he did not take to it at all, he’s stopped talking to me now and I feel so confused... what the hell does he want from me? Does he want me to wait around whilst he makes up his mind?

I’m a Pisces so I just feel so bad but then I have to remember he hasn’t made it clear his feelings for me or intentions and I’ve just been going off his vibes 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ Can any aquas give me some sort of idea what he might be thinking? Are aquas usually like this? He is confusing me so much to the point I feel like just asking him how he feels but if I do he will run away, so I’m just literally going with the flow and acting like friends and trying not to be too serious with him *sigh*

I may not be an aqua, but I'm able to offer an opinion. A close friend of mine is an aqua and he really likes to keep his emotions and thoughts close to his chest. It's to the point that when I manage to get to a point where I can predict what he is thinking or he shows emotion he clams up. Your aqua seems to be the same. What I would say is just ask him about it. No signals, no funny business, just a face to face blunt talk. That's all I can suggest right now but nearly all things can be solved by sitting down and talking.

Posted by Ownard
I may not be an aqua, but I'm able to offer an opinion. A close friend of mine is an aqua and he really likes to keep his emotions and thoughts close to his chest. It's to the point that when I manage to get to a point where I can predict what he is thinking or he shows emotion he clams up. Your aqua seems to be the same. What I would say is just ask him about it. No signals, no funny business, just a face to face blunt talk. That's all I can suggest right now but nearly all things can be solved by sitting down and talking.

Thank you, I’m just going to have to do it.. I’m going to give him time to get over this situation though

If he’s not making moves, don’t make moves either. Give him space to see if he comes back into your life. It has to be his decision that he figures out on his own. There’s nothing you can do directly to influence this.

Try it. Shouldn’t take more than a week or two is my guess.

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I may not be an aqua, but I'm able to offer an opinion. A close friend of mine is an aqua and he really likes to keep his emotions and thoughts close to his chest. It's to the point that when I manage to get to a point where I can predict what he is thinking or he shows emotion he clams up. Your aqua seems to be the same. What I would say is just ask him about it. No signals, no funny business, just a face to face blunt talk. That's all I can suggest right now but nearly all things can be solved by sitting down and talking.

Thank you, I’m just going to have to do it.. I’m going to give him time to get over this situation though

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I usually like to do these things with the philosophy of "strike while the iron is hot". In this case, leave it a few days for the dust to settle before you talk to him about it.

Posted by pinkbird03
If he’s not making moves, don’t make moves either. Give him space to see if he comes back into your life. It has to be his decision that he figures out on his own. There’s nothing you can do directly to influence this.

Try it. Shouldn’t take more than a week or two is my guess.

Thank you babe, I agree with you.

Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Hmm you might have to prove your trustworthy to him now because of what you did....

I did the same thing as you. Tried to make my aqua jealous by telling him I might go on a date with someone else. Which was true because I was upset with him and sort of wanted to move on from my situation. Then I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I’m showing him im loyal by sharing my iPhone location 24/7. Oh I feel watched constantly now. But I know it eases his mind and that helps me know I’m doing the right thing for the relationship. Giving it my best try! That’s all that matters.

Btw.. your aqua needs to prove he’s trustworthy too

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I may not be an aqua, but I'm able to offer an opinion. A close friend of mine is an aqua and he really likes to keep his emotions and thoughts close to his chest. It's to the point that when I manage to get to a point where I can predict what he is thinking or he shows emotion he clams up. Your aqua seems to be the same. What I would say is just ask him about it. No signals, no funny business, just a face to face blunt talk. That's all I can suggest right now but nearly all things can be solved by sitting down and talking.

Thank you, I’m just going to have to do it.. I’m going to give him time to get over this situation though

I usually like to do these things with the philosophy of "strike while the iron is hot". In this case, leave it a few days for the dust to settle before you talk to him about it.

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REMMEBER he’s an Aqua. It takes a few weeks of his brain to catch up with his emotion. HEs prob processing things hence why he’s gone quiet. Not necessary means he’s mad. But never assume with Aqua. You have to b a it more direct cozthey need that coz they r not very good with direct esp with emotion stuff. Give it a week then just bluntly ask him. * hey I noticed you have been acting strange since I went on a date, it feels like you are not happy. Is this true? * he will not admit to it though so asking may not be the best thing. Sometime they need persistent, so ask again later lol. if he says no, let it be n leave him be. Live your life. If he’s not man enough to admit stuff like this then he’s not really worth your time. This is why I’m so done with the whole guessing wishy washy game with them. lol I prefer directness. But in the past, I used to bluntly ask things , a few times before he admitted to wharvee it was the upset him. Meh. I’m glad I’m not in that position anymore

Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

I dont think what you didn’t was a good move. Esp in the beginnni g they seem to test a lot and if you told him u have feelings but purposely showing date nights knowing that he will see it.. isn’t exactly the best thing. They don’t really like mind game stuff. it’s ejther you want them or u don’t. N it seems like u like other people too so be prepared for him to take full steps back. this is just based on my opinion from my past. I think n what I heard they need consistency n loyalty even though they may not be offeringthat to you just yet. It’s not really fair really lol. good luck

I DONt think *

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Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

I dont think what you didn’t was a good move. Esp in the beginnni g they seem to test a lot and if you told him u have feelings but purposely showing date nights knowing that he will see it.. isn’t exactly the best thing. They don’t really like mind game stuff. it’s ejther you want them or u don’t. N it seems like u like other people too so be prepared for him to take full steps back. this is just based on my opinion from my past. I think n what I heard they need consistency n loyalty even though they may not be offeringthat to you just yet. It’s not really fair really lol. good luck

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I strongly agree with the consistency part. If you want to be with him, show him. Stop playing games, even his games. Show him that you can be a good girlfriend. That basically means you need to be exclusive to him. It will mean a lot to him if he truly cares about you, which it seems he does by his reaction. You’ll just have to be patient. Very patient. As long as you see interest from him, then you’ll know you’re not wasting your time. At least for right now. Give it your best try.

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Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Hmm you might have to prove your trustworthy to him now because of what you did....

I did the same thing as you. Tried to make my aqua jealous by telling him I might go on a date with someone else. Which was true because I was upset with him and sort of wanted to move on from my situation. Then I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I’m showing him im loyal by sharing my iPhone location 24/7. Oh I feel watched constantly now. But I know it eases his mind and that helps me know I’m doing the right thing for the relationship. Giving it my best try! That’s all that matters.

Btw.. your aqua needs to prove he’s trustworthy too

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Exactly babe, now hes acting like this It’s proved that he did want me but I just don’t want to wait around until he decides to take me on a date and take it further than just speaking on the phone 😓 he’s really not speaking to me now though and I hate it! It’s made me realise I do really want him lol.

I just want him to sit back and realise that actually it’s not just me he’s the one who’s pushed me in to being distant with him and not making an effort anymore because he’s keeping me at arms length but then showing me he wants me I’ve never been so confused in my life and I can only imagine if we do ever get together what more confusion he’ll bring and that’s why I don’t know if I have time for it but now I’m starting to have more feelings for him everyday because I know he’s what I want but I just act the way he wants me to act so I don’t lose him and now I potentially have!

To me there is no confusion.

He asked another girl on a date not you

You "moved on"

You date another guy and post it

He doesn't give a shit about it

Doesn't continue talking to you because a. He's busy with the girl he is dating/seeing and b. you are seeing someone else so why should he interfer?

Its not really complicated most of the time. Its the simple "he's just not that into you" case. He found someone better in his eyes and thats why he took her out instead of you.

Yeah thanks girls! I didn’t think it was anything because we aren’t dating and he did it to me so it made me believe that he actually had someone else there.

Also we’ve been speaking for 3 months now, and we have only met once which is the day I met him so🙄 and before that I would ask him to meet up and he would agree to it then go distant. So I gave up trying with him, then I removed him off everything and he messaged me why I had deleted him off social media and I didn’t explain why I just made up something because I didn’t want him to take my feelings personal and run away again. (It’s a pattern every time I express feelings he will go quiet)

Then obviously he posted that girl after everything was okay with us and we was good and so that for me was just a set back and I stopped making effort and distances myself from him, and he could tell so he messaged me everyday constantly to check if I was okay and I just laughed the situation off and so did he.

Now I’ve posted this and he’s just not speaking to me lol, I have a feeling he will come around though. Eventually he will see all I do is work and hang out with my friends. But i just need him to fix up apart of me feels like he has a girl already seeing as he doesn’t want to meet up or take me out. And I do not want to have a phone relationship it’s cringe lol

Or why exactly do you think he wants you? Did ge say so after your date with that other guy or are you assuming he wants you because he stopped communicating with you?

Posted by AquaNextDoor
To me there is no confusion.

He asked another girl on a date not you

You "moved on"

You date another guy and post it

He doesn't give a shit about it

Doesn't continue talking to you because a. He's busy with the girl he is dating/seeing and b. you are seeing someone else so why should he interfer?

Its not really complicated most of the time. Its the simple "he's just not that into you" case. He found someone better in his eyes and thats why he took her out instead of you.

It doesn’t seem that way to me because regardless of anything if I did really go on a date which I never did, he would have still spoken to me but the fact he thinks I did he’s ignoring me.

You have to remember we are friends, and we spoke like good friends, so that’s how my conclusion of it all is.

If it was any other male friend who had saw that they wouldn’t not speak to me

Well after all he dates another girl and didn't ask you out. You deserve to be taken out and courted the right way 🙂 won't be him probably. You should let go and stop thinking about "ifs" and "maybes"

If he wants you he'll ask you out or make a serious move. Talk is cheap if ge doesn't back it up with actions that speak loud and clear

What about that guy who you went out for a date?

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Well after all he dates another girl and didn't ask you out. You deserve to be taken out and courted the right way 🙂 won't be him probably. You should let go and stop thinking about "ifs" and "maybes"

If he wants you he'll ask you out or make a serious move. Talk is cheap if ge doesn't back it up with actions that speak loud and clear

This is exactly what I was thinking which is why I just moved on, now I’m feeling bad but I suppose I shouldn’t feel bad really

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What about that guy who you went out for a date?

It wasn’t a date, it’s just one of my friends we went for lunch lol and went shopping another female friend was there as well and I had my kids with me too.

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Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Hmm you might have to prove your trustworthy to him now because of what you did....

I did the same thing as you. Tried to make my aqua jealous by telling him I might go on a date with someone else. Which was true because I was upset with him and sort of wanted to move on from my situation. Then I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I’m showing him im loyal by sharing my iPhone location 24/7. Oh I feel watched constantly now. But I know it eases his mind and that helps me know I’m doing the right thing for the relationship. Giving it my best try! That’s all that matters.

Btw.. your aqua needs to prove he’s trustworthy too

Exactly babe, now hes acting like this It’s proved that he did want me but I just don’t want to wait around until he decides to take me on a date and take it further than just speaking on the phone 😓 he’s really not speaking to me now though and I hate it! It’s made me realise I do really want him lol.

I just want him to sit back and realise that actually it’s not just me he’s the one who’s pushed me in to being distant with him and not making an effort anymore because he’s keeping me at arms length but then showing me he wants me I’ve never been so confused in my life and I can only imagine if we do ever get together what more confusion he’ll bring and that’s why I don’t know if I have time for it but now I’m starting to have more feelings for him everyday because I know he’s what I want but I just act the way he wants me to act so I don’t lose him and now I potentially have!

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Our situations sound so similar. They are stubborn men. They enjoy playing games with us, but they don’t like when we play games with them. That’s why I’ve stopped completely. I’m not feeding into his attention seeking strategies right now. Because they want us in their life, but not too close. Well I’m still here and not going anywhere and he knows this. I’ve told him that, gave him a gift that basically said that, and share my location 24/7, which I’m not doing anything sketchy. He’s not ghosting me though. I could text him and he’d answer, but that wouldn’t get me anywhere. So I have to wait until he’s ready to make a real move. You should figure out something you can do to show him how you feel without telling him. You also definitely have to have patience with these guys if you want them. Why do you say you are not sure if you have time for him now?

Posted by Klh1203
Yeah thanks girls! I didn’t think it was anything because we aren’t dating and he did it to me so it made me believe that he actually had someone else there.

Also we’ve been speaking for 3 months now, and we have only met once which is the day I met him so🙄 and before that I would ask him to meet up and he would agree to it then go distant. So I gave up trying with him, then I removed him off everything and he messaged me why I had deleted him off social media and I didn’t explain why I just made up something because I didn’t want him to take my feelings personal and run away again. (It’s a pattern every time I express feelings he will go quiet)

Then obviously he posted that girl after everything was okay with us and we was good and so that for me was just a set back and I stopped making effort and distances myself from him, and he could tell so he messaged me everyday constantly to check if I was okay and I just laughed the situation off and so did he.

Now I’ve posted this and he’s just not speaking to me lol, I have a feeling he will come around though. Eventually he will see all I do is work and hang out with my friends. But i just need him to fix up apart of me feels like he has a girl already seeing as he doesn’t want to meet up or take me out. And I do not want to have a phone relationship it’s cringe lol

You mirrored his actions with the date picture. It upset you when he did it. Yet you still did it to him and he has the same reaction. You both need to treat each other with respect.

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Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Hmm you might have to prove your trustworthy to him now because of what you did....

I did the same thing as you. Tried to make my aqua jealous by telling him I might go on a date with someone else. Which was true because I was upset with him and sort of wanted to move on from my situation. Then I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I’m showing him im loyal by sharing my iPhone location 24/7. Oh I feel watched constantly now. But I know it eases his mind and that helps me know I’m doing the right thing for the relationship. Giving it my best try! That’s all that matters.

Btw.. your aqua needs to prove he’s trustworthy too

This is the foundation you want to set for your relationship? One where he keeps tabs on you 24/7?

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I have nothing to hide so it really doesn’t bother me. He shares his location with me too. Honestly, I think it’s building a strong foundation of trust. I like that.

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Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

Hmm you might have to prove your trustworthy to him now because of what you did....

I did the same thing as you. Tried to make my aqua jealous by telling him I might go on a date with someone else. Which was true because I was upset with him and sort of wanted to move on from my situation. Then I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I’m showing him im loyal by sharing my iPhone location 24/7. Oh I feel watched constantly now. But I know it eases his mind and that helps me know I’m doing the right thing for the relationship. Giving it my best try! That’s all that matters.

Btw.. your aqua needs to prove he’s trustworthy too

Exactly babe, now hes acting like this It’s proved that he did want me but I just don’t want to wait around until he decides to take me on a date and take it further than just speaking on the phone 😓 he’s really not speaking to me now though and I hate it! It’s made me realise I do really want him lol.

I just want him to sit back and realise that actually it’s not just me he’s the one who’s pushed me in to being distant with him and not making an effort anymore because he’s keeping me at arms length but then showing me he wants me I’ve never been so confused in my life and I can only imagine if we do ever get together what more confusion he’ll bring and that’s why I don’t know if I have time for it but now I’m starting to have more feelings for him everyday because I know he’s what I want but I just act the way he wants me to act so I don’t lose him and now I potentially have!

Our situations sound so similar. They are stubborn men. They enjoy playing games with us, but they don’t like when we play games with them. That’s why I’ve stopped completely. I’m not feeding into his attention seeking strategies right now. Because they want us in their life, but not too close. Well I’m still here and not going anywhere and he knows this. I’ve told him that, gave him a gift that basically said that, and share my location 24/7, which I’m not doing anything sketchy. He’s not ghosting me though. I could text him and he’d answer, but that wouldn’t get me anywhere. So I have to wait until he’s ready to make a real move. You should figure out something you can do to show him how you feel without telling him. You also definitely have to have patience with these guys if you want them. Why do you say you are not sure if you have time for him now?

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Just going by what majority of the people are saying on here, it’s making me think they’re right. All this confusion can make someone go crazy, I need to leave it I really need to not care and turn off all my emotions lol

Posted by Senorita_LL
Psst OP,

ME, the moment I knew dude is an Aqua



Teeheeeee 😆 😛

Haha! Love this! I’m definitely staying away from them in the future😭

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Posted by Klh1203
Usually takes a week or two but I think because our friendship wasn’t based on speaking regularly like everyday I think it will take a little longer especially if he thinks I’m dating/seeing someone else because I captioned the picture date night but it wasn’t lol we was just joking together and so that upset him a little bit.

I don’t get why men don’t want to be with you but you can’t be with anyone else

You’re not friends.

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Lol so what are we then??