Social Network site a problem for budding relationship-I know Im back lol

II know ladies & gentlemen I'am back asking questions lol. I'am a eork in progress & slowly but surely getting better :-).

have a question & recently I was new to fb site & started using starting a little over 2 months ago. Here is the problem I have been seeing/dating my Aquarius guy for the last 2 1/2 months & he is on fb often & he likes some womens pictures which I'am cool with because I also have liked guys pictures but my problem is its one particular female that I noticed he leaves likes quite often on her fb page not all but a lot of post etc & it looks like he has been doing this 3-4 months before I starting dating him. He left a comment on her picture yesterday & said"lookng good" or he will say things like if she said she was going on Vacation he would say "Enjoy" or he said Have a Blessed Merry Christmas etc.

I want to know am I reading to much into this or do you think he is trying to get a rise out of me because recently we agreed to stay off each others fb page because it was causing problems & the other day he made a comment joking about a massage therapist & I acted non jealous & told him I don't care of they give him a massage in person or naked because Im not worried because you know what you got right here lol. I used to act a bit jealous but now I have not said anything on his page even when people are saying things on his page.

So my question is it something I should be concerned with about this other female & do you you think it is inapproaiate for him to be commenting these things on her page. He treats me good but he is so aloof & sometimes I can't read him. I'am a cancer so im very emotional & want to see feelings but he cuddles me all night when we are together & cooks for me etc but the fb thing is just disturbing to me. I have never asked him if this is a ex or anything & never talked about her at all.

Update We were just together intimately Friday night & I got home Saturday morning he went to work I texted him that I got home safe blablabla & I told him thnx for something he did for me he said yw babe & that was it but yet he has posted on fb 4 times Saturday he also commented on this ladies picture around 11pm and said Looking good..but then she put another picture up later & I noticed he just posted Nice Picture around 2am when he should be sleep because he has work in the morning. How is it a guy can claimed to be so into you but be posting on other females fb pages? Is this a sign he wants to talk to this female or do you think it is just being friendly & nothing to worry about?

This takes me back to when my ex cancer used to get mad at me showing attention to one of my best friends. For one I can tell you nothing is going on between them, that's just how we are sometimes..with the commenting and such. If I was cuddling with my ex Cancer (who was gorgeous as hell), cooking for her, and spending intimate nights the thouht of cheating would not cross my mind.

Cancers are needy and want that full on attention at least 20/7 👀
Aquarians, although aloof..we care like hell, we may not want to be lovey dovey 24/7 but just know you are that apple of our/his eye.



‘ Threads like this really make me miss my cancer even though she's a damn narcissists

Aquarians and Cancers play too many mind games with each other -.- forgot to add that.

Tell him to man up. Using fb to go after his dick desires is the same as walking hand in hand with u in a park and gazing after every pair of boobs. A big no no!

Posted by AquariusJan25
This takes me back to when my ex cancer used to get mad at me showing attention to one of my best friends. For one I can tell you nothing is going on between them, that's just how we are sometimes..with the commenting and such. If I was cuddling with my ex Cancer (who was gorgeous as hell), cooking for her, and spending intimate nights the thouht of cheating would not cross my mind.

Cancers are needy and want that full on attention at least 20/7 👀
Aquarians, although aloof..we care like hell, we may not want to be lovey dovey 24/7 but just know you are that apple of our/his eye.



‘ Threads like this really make me miss my cancer even though she's a damn narcissists

Wow the post of the night & now I feel Im going to sleep like a baby lol :-). I thank everyone for all their advice & input but this finish putting the icing on the cake :-). I must admit in my early days as a cancer woman I was very needy & very clingy but now in my 30's I have gotten much better & now I find myself needing my own space in all my relationships & I do give a lot of space to my partners also but I'am a very expressive person so when a partner is a little aloof & hard to read sometimes it bothers me but I don't always like to be lovey dovey..consider me a little different type of cancer lol. I'am a ascendant of Aquarius in my chart. This is funny what you said about us cancers lmao. My question to you is if we are the apple of your eye how can you ignore us & not text us all day but yet be on fb or doing something else other then being in contact with us? Its like he expects me to do the contact and then if I don't he complains that he has not heard from me in 2 days or whatever but nothing wrong with his fingers lol.

Posted by AquariusJan25
Aquarians and Cancers play too many mind games with each other -.- forgot to add that.

I agree

My first ex was a cancer, he made me very rebellious because of his whinging, the more he complained and was needy the more I would distance myself from him......the funny thing is he ended up cheating on me because we had a fight one night and slept with my friend......

If I was in your position I would ease on the pressure because you guys have been dating for a short time

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
My first ex was a cancer, he made me very rebellious because of his whinging, the more he complained and was needy the more I would distance myself from him......the funny thing is he ended up cheating on me because we had a fight one night and slept with my friend......

If I was in your position I would ease on the pressure because you guys have been dating for a short time

I agree with you but don't worry I have not put any pressure on him as I have not said a word to him concerning this female or any comments he has made as of late :-). That's why I have came here to get advice & input into what you guys think about this :-).Even though I officially started dating him 2 1/2 I originally started meet him & went out with him around the beginning of last year & then I kind of broke it off with him last May because I was still emotionally involved with a ex but we continued to stay in touch with each other ever since we broke it off in May of last year. so we really have over 9 months of knowing each other under our belt lol. Your input is greatly appreciated & I'm very sorry to hear of your ex cheating on you 😢 that was a horrible thing for your ex to do to you.

Posted by nsm625
II know ladies & gentlemen I'am back asking questions lol. I'am a eork in progress & slowly but surely getting better :-).

have a question & recently I was new to fb site & started using starting a little over 2 months ago. Here is the problem I have been seeing/dating my Aquarius guy for the last 2 1/2 months & he is on fb often & he likes some womens pictures which I'am cool with because I also have liked guys pictures but my problem is its one particular female that I noticed he leaves likes quite often on her fb page not all but a lot of post etc & it looks like he has been doing this 3-4 months before I starting dating him. He left a comment on her picture yesterday & said"lookng good" or he will say things like if she said she was going on Vacation he would say "Enjoy" or he said Have a Blessed Merry Christmas etc.

I want to know am I reading to much into this or do you think he is trying to get a rise out of me because recently we agreed to stay off each others fb page because it was causing problems & the other day he made a comment joking about a massage therapist & I acted non jealous & told him I don't care of they give him a massage in person or naked because Im not worried because you know what you got right here lol. I used to act a bit jealous but now I have not said anything on his page even when people are saying things on his page.

So my question is it something I should be concerned with about this other female & do you you think it is inapproaiate for him to be commenting these things on her page. He treats me good but he is so aloof & sometimes I can't read him. I'am a cancer so im very emotional & want to see feelings but he cuddles me all night when we are together & cooks for me etc but the fb thing is just disturbing to me. I have never asked him if this is a ex or anything & never talked about her at all.

Update We were just together intimately Friday night & I got home Saturday morning he went to work I texted him that I got home safe blablabla & I told him thnx for something he did for me he said yw babe & that was it but yet he has posted on fb 4 times Saturday he also commented on this ladies picture around 11pm and said Looking good..but then she put another picture up later & I noticed he just posted Nice Picture around 2am when he should be sleep because he has work in the morning. How is it a guy can claimed to be so into you but be posting on other females fb pages? Is this a sign he wants to talk to this female or do you think it is just being friendly & nothing to worry about?

Hi I am a Aquarius woman

first, we don't play games when we're in a relationship, so if we're interested in someone we want to know that person well. It sounds like he's putting some distance with the fb because he's trying to get to know the other female and to make sur

Update We were just together intimately Friday night & I got home Saturday morning he went to work I texted him that I got home safe blablabla & I told him thnx for something he did for me he said yw babe & that was it but yet he has posted on fb 4 times Saturday he also commented on this ladies picture around 11pm and said Looking good..but then she put another picture up later & I noticed he just posted Nice Picture around 2am when he should be sleep because he has work in the morning. How is it a guy can claimed to be so into you but be posting on other females fb pages? Is this a sign he wants to talk to this female or do you think it is just being friendly & nothing to worry about?



Hi I am a Aquarius woman

first, we don't play games when we're in a relationship, so if we're interested in someone we want to know that person well. It sounds like he's putting some distance with the fb because he's trying to get to know the other female and to make sur

His trying to make sure what? I would think that would be playing games if we were just together on Friday (2 days ago) & things seemed fine including him cuddling me all night & being attentive to me but if he was interested in someone else why not say it so I can leave him alone to get to know this other lady?

Anybody else care to comment or give their input? Please & Thank you :-)

Posted by FutureSeeker
So in relationships there are expectations- sometimes they don't match. If you don't feel comfortable with how he is interacting with females you need to 1) be open about it in a rational way and 2) see what his relationship was with her.
I have always been friends with my exes, however my cancer man has said that he doesn't feel comfortable with me talking to exes. I respect him, and I'm willing to make that sacrifice because I want this relationship. Sometimes things like that need to be discussed and negotiated

I completely & utterly agree but it seems I need to wait now until & good time to approach this subject. It seems in the past when I have brought up things about fb he takes it as insecure instead of me trying to communicate in a positive way.

Posted by Impulsv
I'll tell u about the aqua I met he did as u state n was flirty on message until I found out he had a gf. Sure enough gf sensed it n broke up with him . He came running to me which I was turned off by the whole thing

Was the girl he was flirty with his gf & what type of flirty messages was he posting? Are u saying his gf sensed it or u sensed it & broke up? So how did u find out he had a gf?

Posted by FutureSeeker
Are you guys "exclusive"? Has the relationship been defined as monogamous?

Good question..we haven't really defined it & that is where a lot of confusion comes in. On New Years eve he introduced me to his best friend & I joked to his best friend that we were friends & he said yeah but by the end of the night u may be something else but that never happened. All he did was give me 3 songs to listen to the next day about saying me & him bein together through thick and thin bla bla bla lol. We discussed a few weeks ago that if we are not committed but in a sexual relationship what does he feel about that & he stated he thinks that even if people are not committed that they should be only having sexual relations with one another & no one else. He gets close to asking but then he seems to back off.

Posted by candyclouds
You must be direct and tell him how you hate it when he particularly comments or likes 'hot' photos (in a bikini /cleavage..) of girls because when guys do it to you you're no longer comfortable with it as you started to see it as flirting and now you have a bf.

Tell him how you know from talking with all your friends that liking someones hot pics or chatting to them late at night IS flirting and no matter what he says that you will always see it that way. So if he wants to be exclusive with you he needs to stop doing that.

Because you could start posting really stupid and hot pics of yourself for attention but you wouldn't as it wouldn't feel right. Men would start flirting with you right away as if you were single and yet you're not..

Maybe wait for another 2 months and when its been 4 months have this talk with him, and tell him straight away that you want to be exclusive and you don't want to be flirting or seeing other people.

If he wants his freedom and keeps doing what he's doing, let him walk away and find a guy who will make you feel secure. 😉

I agree fully with you on what you are saying. I'am at a stage now where Im like if he wants to play that game then he already knows. Let me say this & I don't want to sound conceited but here it goes "I'am a very attractive female but yet very classy about the pictures I post of myself on fb & I get many guys that likes my pictures & post whenever I post & a lot of guys that openly offer to take me out etc right on fb but I have been very cordial in replying to these guys by saying ty etc & not responding to offers to take me out etc. Its like a double standard with him he really doesn't want me to post any pictures of myself on fb no matter if they are classy pictures of myself because I always get a lot of guys & responses from them. I have been keeping it to a bare min out of respect for him but sometimes u have to mirror the guy in his actions to show him u will not tolerate his behavior & I just did that & I will update u on this on the update post next :-)

UPDATE GUYS-I took some of u alls advice & some of my own. I started text him Sunday afternoon & I said"Its a beautiful day in the neighborhood lol" but he responded with "Yep it is" which was a little negative because he usually put lol behind it..I smelled a attitude off the rip. A little insight he has been leaving comments or likes on this other not so attractive female page to what I believe now was to get a response from me because I normally fall into his trap & say something on what he post etc but as of late I been ignoring his fb posts & his comments to others like I don't see it. So text him after the negative response & said "don't have to much fun in the sun wink & hru but got no response. So after 2 hours I texted & said it would be nice for a person to have the common courtesy to text a person back if they asked hru so he texted me right back saying "1st of all I did text u back & 2nd Im not in the mood for this today not a good day" so I said "didn't get the text & np" & that was around 4:00pm. Now rewind Saturday he put 2 Memes on fb that read"if u got somebody real in ur life u better show them u appreciate them no matter wat type of relationship it is & he put "Yep" the other meme read along the lines of if you want change in ur life then u need to change some things in ur life. I did not comment or neither post hence the attitude today maybe.Well last text I sent him was at 4pm & at 5pm he puts a meme on his fb that read this"By the time u realize how bad I wanted u it'lll be to late" Again no response to that but at 8:52pm I called him he didn't answer..

ok long story short a hour later I texted him 7 told him I was calling him to show my concern & to check up on him & that again I hope he is good 7 I will leave it at that & 2 mins later he text back"YEP".so I txted back letting him know that he could cal but he texted back a book saying he don't like talking on the phone 7 he had a migraine & had a long day & I always have some bs to say..so I texted back & said I was only contacting today trying to put a smile on his face but was met with negativity from him & bla bla bla & basically I know contact is not needed nor wanted but I hope he is feels better & also that I have always been a friend first & if he needs me as a friend im here for him and that was around 9:30pm. I got no response. Well I got on my own fb added a new face picture with me smiling & got many likes from other guys & comments within 5 mins then guess who ...he gets on my fb post & says"SMH" on 2 of my pictures & then he added a half smiling emoji on the one picture 2 times but then he deletd the emojis and left the smh comments..so I ignored him. So then after more guys commented I had one guy that said "Beautiful" and I told the guy "Ty Bobby"...so my guy says "Enjoy" and I ignored that comment. I'm just mirroring his actions now. He has double standards don't post on his fb page but yet he is on my page showing jealousy to the few comments I said

Does this appear he is being jealous by posting on my fb page because other guys are saying things to me?

Posted by candyclouds
Ok you guys are a bit childish with all this social media stuff and the subtexts..

But I have to say I love the fact that he is jealous !!!! 😄

This is awesome !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

However, I must say his behavior is really silly, it's as if he is so wrapped up in social media communication just like kids/people of todays generation that he shows his feelings or actions through social media subtexting ?? I mean wtf

He only responds when you play by his rules- making him jealous through social media.. I mean I think it's great that you did that but I wish people could grow up and realize the importance of those that actually care about them in real life.

I hope he realizes that its so much more easier for an attractive girl to get attention or to get guys on fb than it is for a boy and that a girl whose pics are getting a lot of likes is not more valuable than one who doesn't post as many pics and prefers to special for him.

Haha Ok u got me...Im guilty & your correct it is very childish I think but sometimes we have to give them a taste of their own medicine & if that means stuping to their level then so be it lol. He has always said I take fb to serious & that he is not jealous & wont post on my page but yet everytime I ever post anything or any guy say something on there he lets me know one way or another lol.. You are so on point with this its scary..yes he realizes that & he know I get many offers from guys but he knows that beauty or material things don't define me so with that I have been trying to be respectful of his feelings & would send him selfies instead of posting on fb or I would send him special pictures for him only & would never post those pictures on fb. Why is it that these Aquarius men feel like its ok to live by double standards or it has to be their way? I don't get it he shut me down & backs off but when someone is saying something or I post on fb anything its a comment from him. Do you think I can flip this situation now that he is displaying jealousy more? Should I continue to mirror his behavior & act a little distant,aloof and let him do the intiating now?

How about not following each other on facebook and other social media? It sounds like neither of you are mature enough to have a real relationship, if you're letting social media feed your insecurities. What I read above sounds like stuff my teenage nieces are doing.

You're getting paranoid about this other female, whose relationship with yr bf you're still unsure of. She could be a very good friend whose pics your bf has always commented on prior to dating you. Are the pics posted by this lady really sexy hot pics? "Looking good" and "very nice" sound like normal comments a friend would make to another friend, regardless of gender. Or does he make other comments that to you sound flirtatious? How about simply asking him about her and put your jealousy to rest once and for all. Now you're both "mirroring" each other (god, i hate that word) and it just seems like childish games to me.

Posted by nsm625


ok long story short a hour later I texted him 7 told him I was calling him to show my concern & to check up on him & that again I hope he is good 7 I will leave it at that & 2 mins later he text back"YEP".so I txted back letting him know that he could cal but he texted back a book saying he don't like talking on the phone 7 he had a migraine & had a long day & I always have some bs to say..so I texted back & said I was only contacting today trying to put a smile on his face but was met with negativity from him & bla bla bla & basically I know contact is not needed nor wanted but I hope he is feels better & also that I have always been a friend first & if he needs me as a friend im here for him and that was around 9:30pm. I got no response. Well I got on my own fb added a new face picture with me smiling & got many likes from other guys & comments within 5 mins then guess who ...he gets on my fb post & says"SMH" on 2 of my pictures & then he added a half smiling emoji on the one picture 2 times but then he deletd the emojis and left the smh comments..so I ignored him. So then after more guys commented I had one guy that said "Beautiful" and I told the guy "Ty Bobby"...so my guy says "Enjoy" and I ignored that comment. I'm just mirroring his actions now. He has double standards don't post on his fb page but yet he is on my page showing jealousy to the few comments I said

I am sorry to say, but I think you are contacting him too much........ if he answered with a short negative reply a first time, I would left him alone...... you just kept pressing and pushing and then posted the fb pictures, which he knew was your answer..........
just calm down a bit, let him be.......... let him contact you.......... and a very sad thought occured to me: what if he posted the quotes about not appreciating and too late, etc. to someobody else?
another thing, if you agreed, that you will not comment on each other pages (why?) then why he is commenting on your pictures? and with smh?

Posted by candyclouds

Posted by letterbox10
How about not following each other on facebook and other social media? It sounds like neither of you are mature enough to have a real relationship, if you're letting social media feed your insecurities. What I read above sounds like stuff my teenage nieces are doing.

You're getting paranoid about this other female, whose relationship with yr bf you're still unsure of. She could be a very good friend whose pics your bf has always commented on prior to dating you. Are the pics posted by this lady really sexy hot pics? "Looking good" and "very nice" sound like normal comments a friend would make to another friend, regardless of gender. Or does he make other comments that to you sound flirtatious? How about simply asking him about her and put your jealousy to rest once and for all. Now you're both "mirroring" each other (god, i hate that word) and it just seems like childish games to me.

Excuse me but are you aware that Fb is the number one cheating device right now ?

some people use it for fun yes but liking other girls hot pics and commenting about how they look is not appropriate at all if you have a gf and if you are expecting her to not flirt with other guys.

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sigh... I'm aware of that... which is why I've never been a fan of social media other than to keep in touch with family and friends. These places just breed insecurities, not just for budding couples, but also young people who are just starting to grow into themselves. I can go on and on about the evil of these places when they are misused, but this is not the place to do it.

I am sorry to say, but I think you are contacting him too much........ if he answered with a short negative reply a first time, I would left him alone...... you just kept pressing and pushing and then posted the fb pictures, which he knew was your answer..........
just calm down a bit, let him be.......... let him contact you.......... and a very sad thought occured to me: what if he posted the quotes about not appreciating and too late, etc. to someobody else?
another thing, if you agreed, that you will not comment on each other pages (why?) then why he is commenting on your pictures? and with smh?

I agree I did contact him to much the other day but I normally only contact him once a day or every 2-4 days if he haven't contacted me first. I'm not sure what u mean by when I posted my fb pictures he knew my answer to what? I thought the same thing that it could be meant for someone else but then again the way he is on my page & acting I very seriously doubt it now. We agreed to not comment on each other pages because we debated about this before & said it was causing issues. I thought the same thing he said he would not comment on my fb ever again but as soon as I posted & guys started liking my pictures & commenting he put smh and Im not sure why he was shaking his head but I think he was pissed I put another picture of myself on fb because he always say I have many thirsty fb fans lol. He also put Enjoy when a guy said I was beautiful and all I said in reply to the guy was Ty Bobby?? What does that mean enjoy for responding Ty to someone. If u think he is possibly posting the to late meme then why he on my page stalking me instead of worrying about her. I would think a guy that is into another female would not waste time with wondering what someone else is doing.

does this guy have some taurus or cancer in his personal planets? cause that's the biggest chance that you two are gonna gel very well!!!

Posted by nsm625
II know ladies & gentlemen I'am back asking questions lol. I'am a eork in progress & slowly but surely getting better :-).

have a question & recently I was new to fb site & started using starting a little over 2 months ago. Here is the problem I have been seeing/dating my Aquarius guy for the last 2 1/2 months & he is on fb often & he likes some womens pictures which I'am cool with because I also have liked guys pictures but my problem is its one particular female that I noticed he leaves likes quite often on her fb page not all but a lot of post etc & it looks like he has been doing this 3-4 months before I starting dating him. He left a comment on her picture yesterday & said"lookng good" or he will say things like if she said she was going on Vacation he would say "Enjoy" or he said Have a Blessed Merry Christmas etc.

I want to know am I reading to much into this or do you think he is trying to get a rise out of me because recently we agreed to stay off each others fb page because it was causing problems & the other day he made a comment joking about a massage therapist & I acted non jealous & told him I don't care of they give him a massage in person or naked because Im not worried because you know what you got right here lol. I used to act a bit jealous but now I have not said anything on his page even when people are saying things on his page.

So my question is it something I should be concerned with about this other female & do you you think it is inapproaiate for him to be commenting these things on her page. He treats me good but he is so aloof & sometimes I can't read him. I'am a cancer so im very emotional & want to see feelings but he cuddles me all night when we are together & cooks for me etc but the fb thing is just disturbing to me. I have never asked him if this is a ex or anything & never talked about her at all.

Update We were just together intimately Friday night & I got home Saturday morning he went to work I texted him that I got home safe blablabla & I told him thnx for something he did for me he said yw babe & that was it but yet he has posted on fb 4 times Saturday he also commented on this ladies picture around 11pm and said Looking good..but then she put another picture up later & I noticed he just posted Nice Picture around 2am when he should be sleep because he has work in the morning. How is it a guy can claimed to be so into you but be posting on other females fb pages? Is this a sign he wants to talk to this female or do you think it is just being friendly & nothing to worry about?

also, does he know you like him alot?? that you want him MORE than just you know, platonic?? if he has feelings for you, he'll only want YOU.

oh and if you have aquarius, but NOT necessarily. just alot of either FIRE or AIR (this is even very general)

i dont like men who i'm interested with commenting on women's pages and saying...OHhhh looking good ..oooohhh hot.
it will turn me OFF and i'll get really insecure and pissed off.

so yes i agree with you, that's NO GO.

but if he's just a single guy who is havin fun, and is not with anyone at the moment, i dont see why it should be bothersome. It's his life.

yes, it's bothersome if you like him but be honest, if you and him are not together, you can't hold it over his head.

Posted by lisabethur8
does this guy have some taurus or cancer in his personal planets? cause that's the biggest chance that you two are gonna gel very well!!!

I'am not sure but I know I'am a ascendant of Aquarius and my
Sun_Cancwr
Moon_Virgo
Mercury-Cancer
Venus-Taurus
Mars-Leo
This is mine im not sure about his because I don't have his birth time.

i know that sounds weird. that it shouldnt be bothersome. but IT IS...cause you have feelings for this guy. Well dammit it sucks!!!

but there's really nothing you can do unless he and you are together. And right now, you both are not really really together, and he hasn't made you feel SECURE about it.

you all know a man will make you feel SECURE and happy if he's not doing that kind of thing. It's that feeling of, yeah he's mine, and i dont have to worry too much. it goes both ways.

oh you both are together but only a couple of months.. i dont know.

that doesn't sound good. He doesn't sound like he's taking your relationshp seriously. He sounds like he broke up with you and wants to move on or something by commenting on women and saying they're hot.

and telling people to have a blessed Christmas is ok, that's very nice of him but not commenting on their looks and hotness. that's very inappropriate.

Posted by nsm625

I am sorry to say, but I think you are contacting him too much........ if he answered with a short negative reply a first time, I would left him alone...... you just kept pressing and pushing and then posted the fb pictures, which he knew was your answer..........
just calm down a bit, let him be.......... let him contact you.......... and a very sad thought occured to me: what if he posted the quotes about not appreciating and too late, etc. to someobody else?
another thing, if you agreed, that you will not comment on each other pages (why?) then why he is commenting on your pictures? and with smh?

I agree I did contact him to much the other day but I normally only contact him once a day or every 2-4 days if he haven't contacted me first. I'm not sure what u mean by when I posted my fb pictures he knew my answer to what? I thought the same thing that it could be meant for someone else but then again the way he is on my page & acting I very seriously doubt it now. We agreed to not comment on each other pages because we debated about this before & said it was causing issues. I thought the same thing he said he would not comment on my fb ever again but as soon as I posted & guys started liking my pictures & commenting he put smh and Im not sure why he was shaking his head but I think he was pissed I put another picture of myself on fb because he always say I have many thirsty fb fans lol. He also put Enjoy when a guy said I was beautiful and all I said in reply to the guy was Ty Bobby?? What does that mean enjoy for responding Ty to someone. If u think he is possibly posting the to late meme then why he on my page stalking me instead of worrying about her. I would think a guy that is into another female would not waste time with wondering what someone else is doing.



geez he sounds jealous too. what's with you two?? 😕

also, does he know you like him alot?? that you want him MORE than just you know, platonic?? if he has feelings for you, he'll only want YOU.



Yes I have told him how I felt about him & how much I miss him when we are apart but he tells me that Im lucky he likes me so much & that he cares for me deeply. He also jokes with me & says u know daddy loves u etc & laugh. We did discuss we wanted to start out as friends & build into a relationship & he says he wants more but then he backs away. I noticed when I was over his house on Friday he was saying I can't never be on time to save my soul & I told him its called I have a life outside of u & I need to attend to it before I can attend to being there..didn't seem like he liked that but oh well. I know he has feelings for me & cares a lot for me but sometimes I think he can't get over the fact when we first started talking last year I kinda dumped him to deal with unresolved feelings for a ex & he brings that up often how it hurt him & that I didn't feel the same way about him that he felt about me then.

Posted by lisabethur8
i know that sounds weird. that it shouldnt be bothersome. but IT IS...cause you have feelings for this guy. Well dammit it sucks!!!

but there's really nothing you can do unless he and you are together. And right now, you both are not really really together, and he hasn't made you feel SECURE about it.

you all know a man will make you feel SECURE and happy if he's not doing that kind of thing. It's that feeling of, yeah he's mine, and i dont have to worry too much. it goes both ways.

Very true & yes he would say he wants to make me his girl then he go to talking about he got some personal things he need to resolve before getting into a relationship etc & he is raised to take care of his problems like a man and don't tell people about what he need to take care of bla bla bla. I think he is scared & not trying to let go but is backing off a bit.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by nsm625

I am sorry to say, but I think you are contacting him too much........ if he answered with a short negative reply a first time, I would left him alone...... you just kept pressing and pushing and then posted the fb pictures, which he knew was your answer..........
just calm down a bit, let him be.......... let him contact you.......... and a very sad thought occured to me: what if he posted the quotes about not appreciating and too late, etc. to someobody else?
another thing, if you agreed, that you will not comment on each other pages (why?) then why he is commenting on your pictures? and with smh?

I agree I did contact him to much the other day but I normally only contact him once a day or every 2-4 days if he haven't contacted me first. I'm not sure what u mean by when I posted my fb pictures he knew my answer to what? I thought the same thing that it could be meant for someone else but then again the way he is on my page & acting I very seriously doubt it now. We agreed to not comment on each other pages because we debated about this before & said it was causing issues. I thought the same thing he said he would not comment on my fb ever again but as soon as I posted & guys started liking my pictures & commenting he put smh and Im not sure why he was shaking his head but I think he was pissed I put another picture of myself on fb because he always say I have many thirsty fb fans lol. He also put Enjoy when a guy said I was beautiful and all I said in reply to the guy was Ty Bobby?? What does that mean enjoy for responding Ty to someone. If u think he is possibly posting the to late meme then why he on my page stalking me instead of worrying about her. I would think a guy that is into another female would not waste time with wondering what someone else is doing.



geez he sounds jealous too. what's with you two?? 😕

Yes he sounds jealous but he claims he is not but why post on my page if he didn't care?

I'm confused to I don't like playing games but it seems that is all these guys now a days know how to do 😢 I feel so confused right now

I think the aqua feels smothered.

I think you posted your facebook picture with the intention to get his attention.

I think you knew other guys would post on it, thus it appears you were trying to make him jealous.

I think this generation puts too much emphasis on social media.

that said. Stop worrying so much. Stop trying so hard. Let things develop organically. The less expectations you have, the happier you'll be.

Be the fun, happy, exciting girl you are and he will be naturally drawn to you. When you turn into a worry wart and start over analyzing, your vibe changes which means you're not the fun girl he was attracted to in the beginning. When your vibe changes, the relationship changes. So, you have to keep your fun, carefree vibe.

Posted by truecap
I think the aqua feels smothered.

I think you posted your facebook picture with the intention to get his attention.

I think you knew other guys would post on it, thus it appears you were trying to make him jealous.

I think this generation puts too much emphasis on social media.

that said. Stop worrying so much. Stop trying so hard. Let things develop organically. The less expectations you have, the happier you'll be.

Hi Truecap ty for the input. I'm really not sure how he feels smothered when we don't see each other but once a week or every 2 weeks because of both of our schedules and I usually don't text him but once every 2-4 days if he hasent texted me first but then he gets a attitude & ask me why he has not heard from me in 2 or 4 days. So Im a bit curious on the take how you think he may feel smothered? You are correct in a way about me trying to make him a bit jealous but it was more to me of a well you don't want to talk to me fine I will just do some posting of my own on fb since he wants to keep posting on that females page. I agree about social media I would prefer not to have it at all but he seems stuck on it but he says its no big deal for him just entertainment & a lot of people lying. I whole heartly agree with the stop worrying & trying so hard & I'am just going to lay back & chill & let him come to me. He has not contacted me today at all & I have not contacted him either. He did put a couple fb memes saying "Relationshit" instead of relationship & the other meme said if you could read my mind now you would either be traumatized or sexually aroused or both.

Posted by truecap
Be the fun, happy, exciting girl you are and he will be naturally drawn to you. When you turn into a worry wart and start over analyzing, your vibe changes which means you're not the fun girl he was attracted to in the beginning. When your vibe changes, the relationship changes. So, you have to keep your fun, carefree vibe.

I thought I was being that girl by sending him a uplifting text but he was having a attitude. I will see what happens from here & if he don't get better I will be moving on because this is to draining 😢..Im so sad right now

Posted by candyclouds
My final suggestion is, back off for now, like for a month. Post 3-4 cute pics of yourself but don't over exaggerate.

Don't call him. Let him call you or text you first, then reply, but don't be over excited, just short and sweet answers. Let him do the work.

When you meet him just act calm and peaceful, NO DRAMA.

Then he will either

1- Realize that he misses you and will improve his behavior overall

2- Ignore you even more (no texts no calls except for when you will meet?) and go on with his weird fb activity

If 2 happens, you can have a calm direct talk with him and give him an ultimatum: tell him how you need a bf who checks up on you via text or call daily, and how you need someone who ONLY flirts with you and not with girls on fb and that he wants to do that you want to break up. If he mentions your pics you can tell him that if he stops giving attention to other girls you will stop too because you only want his attention.

If he picks 2 then you should get another bf

Ty and I have already started this process of backing off yesterday & have not & will not contact him. I like those suggestions also & will try this & see how it goes. I also will keep a eye out for how he responds and if number 2 is the end result it will be the end of us. Its just so hard going through this now. I feel like I should have let me walls down and been so vulnerable with him 😢.