stalker potential—?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by baby76 on Wednesday, April 16, 2008 and has 13 replies.

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@baby76
18 Years

this guy came into my job like two months ago (when i was so crazy about my libra) and he gave me his phone number and asked if i would call him. Needless to say i never did. he comes into my job 3 times a week to conduct business. so since my break up idecided to give him a chance. he came into work yesterday and i called him on my break. he seemed nice that's when i found out that he doesn't have to come to my job he could go anywhere to do what he does. so he texted me a few time and called me at like 11pm. i told him i was doing homework. he was like what is it i can help. i said no i'll call you when i'm done. so a few minutes later he sends me pictures of him to my cell and texted i hope you like these. what the hell is up with dude? he did't have my number until yesterday and i am totally turned off. what should i do?

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@tollbooth
18 Years1,000+ Posts

Umm...you called him first, baby76, remember? Also, did you save his digits for the past 2 months, or did he have to give them to you again?

Anyways, from a guy pov, you gave him all the signals one of us would need to show your interest level is very high. He is reciprocating in like fashion.

I could say that it seems like he might be going about it a bit too much, but hey, its not like he's calling all the time and asking to come over or go out. Baby steps honey, baby steps.

But if you are that turned off by him this quickly, I'd say it was over before it even started.

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@baby76
18 Years

no he gave me the number again on more than a few different occassions. not to be rude i took the number because i have had quite a few bad experiences turning guys numbers down. seeing as how i work in a public place i didn't want another scene but he seemed nice and i decided to give someone else a chance since my split from my last guy. he came in yesterday and asked how long would he have to wait for me to call him. response was just been busy but i'll give you a call today. i did. and that's how it started. he has called and texted numerous times since last night. i don't understand how that constitutes my interest in him being high. can you explain?

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@BigD56
20 Years500+ PostsAquarius

"the way guys work is that they will they will take the slightest openness as a sign to open the floodgates!"

AKA u give em an inch and they'll go for the mile...

NEWS FLASH...ladies work the same way...

I'd say ignore him, but I'm still getting text messages from women I completely forgot about and it's making me sick...so u may even have to change your number 😢 depending on how serious u feel about him stalking you.

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@tollbooth
18 Years1,000+ Posts

Yeah baby76, he really is interested in you, and you gave him the sign that you 'might' be interested in him. Its not easy for us dudes to just heel down after doggedly pursuing a female for months on end. Truthfully, it doesnt sound like he was totally up in your grill for all that time while waiting for you to come around. He just decided that it was better to take a shot at going to your office to do the deliveries or whaytever he does. If you said he brought you coffee and bagels each time, and started writting poems for you, leaving flowers on your windshield and psycho shit like that, then I doubt you would have even looked at him again, let alone called.

But like I said, Im guessing its already over for this guy.

Give a bruthah a chance will 'ya, geez!

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@baby76
18 Years

he got my number because i forgot to block it before i called him. i have been cursed out called bit**** told fuck you and other things when i have tried the " no thank you i'm not interested " response (at my job). therefore to keep the peace and not take a chance of another scene i just accept the number. like i said he did seem nice. i'm just not interested to that extreme. i will make up something. asap. he texted and said he would be coming to my job tomorrow. i didn't respond.

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@baby76
18 Years

just to clarify i'm not calling him a stalker i'm just asking does he have stalker potential? i guess basically i'm not use to someone coming on so strong after only a brief conversation.

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@thelibran
20 Years1,000+ Posts

Libra can be a stalker at an early age. I was one. That normally begins when we start thinking "whats wrong with this girl? why is she behaving in a weird way". then we begin our mindgames to get to the bottom of ur thoughts.

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@baby76
18 Years

this guy's birthday is aug 9th. i kept ignoring his phone calls like i said. figured he would go away. yesterday i got a call from a number i didn't recognize. i answered it because my friend changed her number and she said she was going to call me from her new phone.it was him. i was like dude why are you calling me from a different number? because you wren't answering my calls. i told him i wasn't interested like that. i thought he was cool as a possible friend but that was all. i told him i had to go and said goodbye. he texted this morning said how was the party? i didn't respond and i also didn't tell him i was going to a party last night.

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@baby76
18 Years

heck yeah i went to a party saturday. that's what really freaked me out. i swear i did not tell him i was going to a party. i wasn't anwering his calls or texts. i'm still not. i decided to change my number and hope that works.

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@Lady_M
20 Years10,000+ Posts

Tell him you need to pick up your estrogen pills, you know the kind you get before😛 a sex change 😉

It will either scare him or turn him on...see what he's really made of 🙂

The one random leo guy I know is creepy too. I'd have fun with him, but they do get angry pretty easily.