What happened? (Aqua Sun Gemini Moon Capricorn Venus/Mars Guy)

So the beginning of last month I met this guy. I don't really remember meeting him because he was kind of off in his own world making music, doing his own thing which is why I noticed him. So I was shocked when he asked me if he could have my number before leaving.

I have my rising in Gemini, my sun (mercury/venus) in Cancer, and my moon in Aquarius so when a guy asks me for my number and doesn't text me within the first 24 hours I get somewhat intrigued. When he did finally text me, 48+ hours later I could hardly tell he was interested in me besides the occasional 'pretty lady' or 'beautiful' at the end of the text. Other than that it was mostly just us talking about our days, talking about what we liked, ect. When we did finally hangout because we were both so busy, he was extremely attentive to me. Not in a romantic sense, but as if he wanted to know and understand everything. So by the end of the night the most he had done was sit close to me so when he walked me to my car we talked for a minute and after he told me to text him when I got home, I kissed him lightly. To which he responded by grabbing me and kissing me back.

After that we texted but I liked texting him because there was no pressure involved. He didn't get mad when I took half a day to text him back and vice versa. The next time we hung out I kind of gave him the cold shoulder by not really paying attention to him and talking to my/his friends at a kickback he invited me to until later that night. So we ended up drinking and talking then next thing we had sex but it was probably the most amazing and spontaneous sex I had had in awhile (my mars is in Virgo so makes sense why it would be so good) and after that we somewhat made it a routine to try to have sex when we were hanging out but him having his mars in Cap everything would have to be perfect timing. But some nights we wouldn't have sex either and even though we were always with friends he would find a way to hold my hand or stand close to me or hold me.

I would get annoyed because we would make plans but he would either oversleep it or drink too much the night before to go out during the day but he would always make it up by seeing me sometime that week. So two weeks ago we saw each other and I introduced him to my best friend (who is a guy) and he acted normal until I was leaving he seemed somewhat cold but I didn't question him about it and kissed him goodbye. Then he didn't text me although I had texted him because he seemed distracted that night when we were hooking up so I apologized for if I did anything and he has been busy with work the two times I asked him to hangout but didn't try to see me either. Then I drunkenly sent him something sexual and he never responded. But mercury is also in retrograde and my rising and his moon are in Gemini so I don't want to assume but I also don't want to stick around for nothing or a well known Aqua/Gemini/Cap disappearing act. My ex is a double Virgo with a Venus in Libra lol.

So do you think I should just let it go or stay for a little longer? Because part of me wants to stay around because I like him and haven't really been intrigued by a guy in a long time but i'm also not the type to wait around. I get bored really easily but that's kind of what ruined everything with my ex and I from the start because before we established anything he kind of just disappeared and I ended up getting with an ex of mine a couple weeks later and when he came back he acted like we were still a thing and when I told him I had gotten with my ex while he was away because I simply didn't know if he was coming back it put a real dent in the relationship because even though he ended up forgiving me and we dated for two years after he never really forgave me.

one thing my husband has done smartly and intelligently to keep me by his side is to marry me, and make me his queen.

so basically, he keeps me by his side daily and I love it. of course, in the beginning of our relationship, i'll open up and say, it was, whoaaaaa so freaking passionate, I love that you see, but damn, when he wanted to get married, i wanted that deeply but there's FEAR in my heart too because i think, what if he leaves me and abandons me and his words are not true? what if i am left crying and crying and i can never trust a man again? that would be horrible. I can "pretend" to the outside world i'm happy but deep inside i'm blue and crying deeply.

you know that song,

by aquarius sun/cancer moon singer, smokey robinson....

it is like that exactly. But i am not the life of the party like he is. but he is a man, and he "pretends" to be HAPPY, laughing and being fun with people but deep inside he's crying deeply. he will never show that to anyone unless he is given hope that you love him deeply.





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but your guy is Gemini moon/ air moon. lol So, well...it's gonna be different. Capricorn anything will want to be re-assured of your love.



and well you are Gemini rising/ aquarius moon, so emotionally you will be "lighter" and need space/detachment,

as you said yourself you get too bored easily.

Gemini moon men i have no blue. Maybe Tiziani could help you. (i remember he is Gemini moon)

ops I mean No CLue. not no blue. lol

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So do you think I should just let it go or stay for a little longer? Because part of me wants to stay around because I like him and haven't really been intrigued by a guy in a long time but i'm also not the type to wait around. I get bored really easily but that's kind of what ruined everything with my ex and I from the start because before we established anything he kind of just disappeared and I ended up getting with an ex of mine a couple weeks later and when he came back he acted like we were still a thing and when I told him I had gotten with my ex while he was away because I simply didn't know if he was coming back it put a real dent in the relationship because even though he ended up forgiving me and we dated for two years after he never really forgave me.

yeah you gota have lots of patience. We detach emotionally then come back whenever we feel like it. You gotta learn to deal with that behavior

Sounds like you could gain more by moving on. But do what your heart says

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At this point I have moved on for the most part, I kind of just want closure. Not closure exactly, but just to know what went wrong from the source himself. For me, I just have to know everything and why someone does what they do and once I know that, I don't care anymore, but until then it is all I think about. It's a very annoying trait but mercury is prominent in my chart lol.

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So do you think I should just let it go or stay for a little longer? Because part of me wants to stay around because I like him and haven't really been intrigued by a guy in a long time but i'm also not the type to wait around. I get bored really easily but that's kind of what ruined everything with my ex and I from the start because before we established anything he kind of just disappeared and I ended up getting with an ex of mine a couple weeks later and when he came back he acted like we were still a thing and when I told him I had gotten with my ex while he was away because I simply didn't know if he was coming back it put a real dent in the relationship because even though he ended up forgiving me and we dated for two years after he never really forgave me.

yeah you gota have lots of patience. We detach emotionally then come back whenever we feel like it. You gotta learn to deal with that behavior

Sounds like you could gain more by moving on. But do what your heart says

At this point I have moved on for the most part, I kind of just want closure. Not closure exactly, but just to know what went wrong from the source himself. For me, I just have to know everything and why someone does what they do and once I know that, I don't care anymore, but until then it is all I think about. It's a very annoying trait but mercury is prominent in my chart lol.

yeah thats what most people find annoying in air signs. He will likely come back trying to be a friend in your life

I couldnt say the reason but from my experience I'd say he just wasnt sure to begin with and saw his reaction and yours as an excuse to distance himself

with us its the whole "its not you, its me" deal is pretty true

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Yeah, I have a lot of air in my chart so I understand to a certain degree. Like I will hang out with one of my friends non-stop for about a month, then do a complete 180 and not contact them/ignore them for the next two months not even thinking about it just because I am so bad with getting back to people via text/calls. Like there is a joke among my group of friends to enjoy me while you have me, because unless you are my absolute best friend, who is a Libra with a Scorpio moon male, I will probably drop you for a while without even noticing until it has been x amount of months and I see something that reminds of you. But at the same token, because I am a sun/mercury/venus Cancer so when I like someone romantically, I won’t just disappear on them without telling them to avoid hurting them.