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Why does my Aquarius ex come in and out of my life?
Posted by GiveMeAqua
Lmao I wish I had an answer for you. My ex does the same thing, going on 6 years since our break up and he still pops up out of the blue then disappears when it gets too deep.. He probably wants you, but is too chickenbutter to follow through. You should take it as a compliment lol
Lol exactly! He hasn't dated anyone after me.. Whenever we're in a relationship he's such a stereotypical Aqua. No emotions. When he wants me back he gets all butt hurt. Such a strange guy.
Posted by infpgiftncurse
Because he wants you back. That's what I used to do with my Libra ex. Stop frontin and let him have You.
He gotta work for dis
Posted by Koniuchaa
I have a Libra guy that is starting to do this. Every few months. The thing is that I want him and I have shown that. I tell him I still have feelings for him and off he goes, into the deep, deep wilderness againUgh
I swear I'm not anything like a Libra guy!!!! I never disappear. It's usually me getting dumped lol. Why would he not want a relationship? Do you think it's cause he gets lonely and the cops out?
Posted by Koniuchaa
I have a Libra guy that is starting to do this. Every few months. The thing is that I want him and I have shown that. I tell him I still have feelings for him and off he goes, into the deep, deep wilderness againUgh
I swear I'm not anything like a Libra guy!!!! I never disappear. It's usually me getting dumped lol. Why would he not want a relationship? Do you think it's cause he gets lonely and the cops out?
Oh no, I wasn't trying to say that you are! That just happens to be my example.
I don't know, he said he wasn't looking for one and I said I am. All I know is I feel very strongly and it sucks.
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You're good... I'm just really not like a Libra guy. It's weird. And then why tf does he come back
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-
He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
Because you let him and entertain him when he does.
How many women here have stories of this happening when they DIDN'T answer those texts or DIDN'T entertain his popping in and out of your lives?
Vote of hands?
How many women here have stories of this happening where they DID answer those texts and DID entertain his popping in and out of your lives?
Hands?
Yeah. They can try all they want, but it's you that nips that shit in the bud. There's no mystery or hidden feelings of him actually wanting you AAAAALLL over again. The only thing he wants is your lady bits or an ego boost from you responding to his user bs (lolz, I still have this silly bitch on a string. She'll always be an option).
Ladies, there's a LOT of power in the word "no," you know. Use it more. Stop being so damned desperate for bad attention. Bad attention destroys your psyche. Knock it off.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
You're being strung along as an option, honey.
Why do you continue this "friendship" with the guy?
Posted by Koniuchaa
I have a Libra guy that is starting to do this. Every few months. The thing is that I want him and I have shown that. I tell him I still have feelings for him and off he goes, into the deep, deep wilderness againUgh
Again, you're being strung along as an option. He's really not that into you.
Guys who flit in and out of your lives like this are not into you. Pay the fuck attention, ladies. Your personal desires are blinding you to the reality of the situation. Life is not a rom com and there's not any grey area here.
Posted by GiveMeAqua
Lmao I wish I had an answer for you. My ex does the same thing, going on 6 years since our break up and he still pops up out of the blue then disappears when it gets too deep.. He probably wants you, but is too chickenbutter to follow through. You should take it as a compliment lolLol exactly! He hasn't dated anyone after me.. Whenever we're in a relationship he's such a stereotypical Aqua. No emotions. When he wants me back he gets all butt hurt. Such a strange guy.
My Aqua ex is the hot and cold guy. First he reaches out but is still cool towards me, then he's hot then cold again, then hot and cold the he turns it up a notch and he's hot lava then subzero, hot lava, subzero etc.. Then he finally professes all the gooey insides of himself and wanting to share a life with me then disappears without a trace and I don't exist.. Strange men indeed..
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He's getting off on the idea that he still "has" you at his convenience.
What is wrong with all you ladies entertaining this shit? Where is your self esteem?? WHY are you so desperate for this negative attention??
Posted by MoonshineLeo
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
You're being strung along as an option, honey.
Why do you continue this "friendship" with the guy?
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I haven't talked to him in about a month and I don't plan on it. If he asked I'll tell him straight up I don't play games. I think you're right and I do only see myself as an option but I also think he's hesitant with me because I won't baby him like his libra gf. And that's great she's more of a fit for him than me and I think he knows this
Posted by MoonshineLeo
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
You're being strung along as an option, honey.
Why do you continue this "friendship" with the guy?
I haven't talked to him in about a month and I don't plan on it. If he asked I'll tell him straight up I don't play games. I think you're right and I do only see myself as an option but I also think he's hesitant with me because I won't baby him like his libra gf. And that's great she's more of a fit for him than me and I think he knows this
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You shouldn't be communicating with him at all given his confessions and the fact he has a girlfriend. You do realize you're the potential "other woman" here, right? You're better off deleting his number, blocking him on social media, etc. and being done with it.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
You're being strung along as an option, honey.
Why do you continue this "friendship" with the guy?
I haven't talked to him in about a month and I don't plan on it. If he asked I'll tell him straight up I don't play games. I think you're right and I do only see myself as an option but I also think he's hesitant with me because I won't baby him like his libra gf. And that's great she's more of a fit for him than me and I think he knows this
You shouldn't be communicating with him at all given his confessions and the fact he has a girlfriend. You do realize you're the potential "other woman" here, right? You're better off deleting his number, blocking him on social media, etc. and being done with it.
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I will not be the other woman hahahah I'm too smart to play his bullshit game. That's exactly what he wants is my attention to get his ego boost. I'm good.
It's fun lol and a lot better than dating random new ppl
Posted by WaterBearerer
It's fun lol and a lot better than dating random new ppl
"I shamelessly use other people's time and emotions to benefit me because I'm lazy and can't be bothered to meet new people who will drop me for this shitty tendency."
Posted by MoonshineLeo
My bestfriend Aqua male does this to me too. He has told me he has feelings for me but he has a gf at the moment and it's hard for him to leave because she pays all his bills -_-He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me but does NOTHING about it! He texts me when she's not home and wants to hang out but as soon as she's back he poof disappears like I wasn't his friend for the last 12 years. I'm so sick and tired of the aqua game
You're being strung along as an option, honey.
Why do you continue this "friendship" with the guy?
I haven't talked to him in about a month and I don't plan on it. If he asked I'll tell him straight up I don't play games. I think you're right and I do only see myself as an option but I also think he's hesitant with me because I won't baby him like his libra gf. And that's great she's more of a fit for him than me and I think he knows this
You shouldn't be communicating with him at all given his confessions and the fact he has a girlfriend. You do realize you're the potential "other woman" here, right? You're better off deleting his number, blocking him on social media, etc. and being done with it.
I will not be the other woman hahahah I'm too smart to play his bullshit game. That's exactly what he wants is my attention to get his ego boost. I'm good.
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Yet you still call him your "best friend..."
Posted by WaterBearerer
It's fun lol and a lot better than dating random new ppl"I shamelessly use other people's time and emotions to benefit me because I'm lazy and can't be bothered to meet new people who will drop me for this shitty tendency."
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lol such a rude paraphrase. we have no problem making new friends or meeting new love interests, but anyone we liked enough to actually date gets put in a special place. everyone doesnt feel comfortable mindlessly running around and fucking new ppl at their leisure like ur stereotypical aries or something lol
Posted by WaterBearerer
It's fun lol and a lot better than dating random new ppl"I shamelessly use other people's time and emotions to benefit me because I'm lazy and can't be bothered to meet new people who will drop me for this shitty tendency."
lol such a rude paraphrase. we have no problem making new friends or meeting new love interests, but anyone we liked enough to actually date gets put in a special place. everyone doesnt feel comfortable mindlessly running around and fucking new ppl at their leisure like ur stereotypical aries or something lol
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Not as rude as you viewing others as personal commodities in typical air sign fashion. "Oh you'll do for now because I'm a lazy user."
Yes, SO much better than what you've pegged Aries for. *eyeroll*
Tell us more about the one year when you were dating. And why it ended? Did he freak out?
Posted by GiveMeAqua
Lmao I wish I had an answer for you. My ex does the same thing, going on 6 years since our break up and he still pops up out of the blue then disappears when it gets too deep.. He probably wants you, but is too chickenbutter to follow through. You should take it as a compliment lol
I think your ex stills loves you. The disappearing thing is all about rebooting himself. The moment he hears that he loves you then he don't have to work out for that but at the same time he will be very happy thinking you loves him. He can be cold but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He needs mind stimulation more than emotional connection. Very less people can deal with him on that.
I've came to the conclusion that Libra + Aquarius are a match. Addicted to each other can't let go . It's just time for someone to grow up & say something
Posted by ladybull711
I've came to the conclusion that Libra + Aquarius are a match. Addicted to each other can't let go . It's just time for someone to grow up & say something
He's the only aqua I know!
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We dated for a year.... Three years ago. He always pops back up wanting to have another go every so often. I think it's strange.