Am I Reading Into This?

Hi everyone!

I created an account here five years ago when dealing with a nasty heartbreak with a Pisces- back again to understand an aries in my life who for whatever reason, has captured my attention. (I’ve been dating and happy to say I’ve put the Pisces behind me.)

I’m a Taurus, 9 May. She’s 24 March, and unfortunately I don’t know much else regarding her sign (nor mine).

We work together in the same organization, different offices. We’ve circled each other for close to a year, strictly in work capacities. I had actually met her in another work organization prior to this, and her impression on me was that she was attractive and nice. I also remember that as I was leaving her office that day, we locked eyes.

Last year, she was hired into my organization and we’ve worked together on some projects. She’s very task focused and doesn’t really joke around while working (I certainly do, it’s stressful when I don’t!). I’d catch her in the hallway or across from me in meetings staring- and when I looked back at her, she wouldn’t break her gaze nor smile. I would be the shy one and look away, feeling like my face was on fire!

Several months ago, there was this moment when she rounded a corner and we saw each other right at the same time. The word that comes to mind when I think about her body language after she saw me was... strut... super sexy, and even now makes me laugh. She completely played it cool, strutted right by me and gave me a casual hello while she connected with another coworker down the hall, and I literally sprinted down to the other end. Way to play it cool, Killjoy.

I will constantly see her across the room in meetings from the corner of my eye, staring at me. My eyes give a lot away, so I don’t usually look back. This woman strikes some serious curiosity/fear in me, haha.

The last two weeks- don’t know if something is in the air or what- it’s like someone cranked up the heat on us. She laughs around me a lot. A few days ago, we were walking to another meeting together and it was like she lost all her words- it was the first time I’d seen her act shy around me, as normally she is bold and assertive. And the staring- always the staring. It doesn’t bother me at all- it makes me feel curious. And certainly interested.

Yesterday, we were in another meeting and I didn’t know that she saw me there. Afterwards, she playfully asked me, “why didn’t you look at me? I know you weren’t looking at me on purpose!” And I had no idea what to say because in typical Taurus fashion, I am feeling this crush with every fiber however I’m afraid that I’m looking at this through a hopeful lens and not a realistic one.

There’s just something about her eyes. She stares, and sometimes she smiles a little when she does but her eyes are very intense. I’m normally fairly assured, but when she looks at me, I dissolve internally. I feel like a teenager all over again, clumsy and inarticulate.

After a meeting yesterday, she came to my office and I could see her studying everything I had on the walls, on the shelves. I was watching her studying me. I do not see her interact with anyone else this way, but again not sure what this means, if anything.

So to sum up, lots of meetings and lots of staring, haha. Or rather- I sit in a lot of meeting with her where she stares. And the last few days, she has sat right next to me even when the other side of the table is unoccupied. Anytime I see her (outside of meetings, too), she normally just talks to me and no one else around us. And her eyes, I feel like they’re aware of everything I’m thinking.

You Aries women... wow. I would not say I’m the typical Taurus with the jealousy and possessiveness, but certainly with the cluelessness at times. Can anyone give this 40-year old teenager some wisdom in what to do, say or how to perceive this?

Crushing like crazy,

Killjoy

Quite cute

Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

Well, definitely here because I’m having trouble deciphering language with non-verbals! ... always feel it’s better to share the details that stood out to me versus leaving it to the imagination 😉

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

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I agree with non-action, its annoying 🙂

but, its a workplace, caution is warranted

dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

I agree with non-action, its annoying 🙂

but, its a workplace, caution is warranted

dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason

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However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

I agree with non-action, its annoying :

but, its a workplace, caution is warranted

dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason

However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️

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Kind of my thinking.. I’m open to anything really, I’m just not sure I understand her signals! I’m intrigued, and curious to see where this goes.

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

I agree with non-action, its annoying :

but, its a workplace, caution is warranted

dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason

However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️

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Kind of my thinking.. I’m open to anything really, I’m just not sure I understand her signals! I’m intrigued, and curious to see where this goes.

Ask her out for drinks after work with a few other people.

See if theres a vibe

Stop looking for signals and start talking

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

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Exactly. Typical Taurus

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Not sure if you're into astrology that much being an aries she might have some taurus in her chart too.

Interesting, I hadn’t thought of that! Thank you, my friend. I definitely feel this really great connection. However I am a chicken shit and heard that Aries like to chase. And I don’t mind being chased 😉 Makes work a lot more interesting for both of us... haha.

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Posted by Arielle83

Cute

I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔

I agree with non-action, its annoying :

but, its a workplace, caution is warranted

dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason

However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️

Kind of my thinking.. I’m open to anything really, I’m just not sure I understand her signals! I’m intrigued, and curious to see where this goes.

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Are you the man or what? Keep on staring until not even cigars will help...🤦‍♀️

Posted by greylatern

Well she definitely doesn't mind you staring at her. She even missed it when you didn't. Either she enjoys your attention or also has a crush on you. Either way it is a green light to take a step closer.

That was a pretty big signal to me too.

Put yourself out there in a subtle way.

Posted by greylatern

Well she definitely doesn't mind you staring at her. She even missed it when you didn't. Either she enjoys your attention or also has a crush on you. Either way it is a green light to take a step closer.

Thanks my friend. Feeling a little more courageous to go for it with some caution. Always a risk, sometimes worth it haha!

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I like learning about th signs, different ways we show things or express ideas. It helps in dealing with some of the complexities of humans and relationships. Yes I am a Taurus and slow to move, however I am dealing with an over cautious heart (who isn’t?) and don’t want to scare this beauty away. It’s been a year of the staring, haha. But like I said it’s like someone cranked up the heat in recent days and it’s thrown me for a loop. So I’m tripping over my own feet here... adult teenager, like I said. Lol.

Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

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Lol at least you recognise you do talk alot of unhelpful shit. Not all the time mind you. I'm just kidding lol

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

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I love Gemini sign by the way. Some of my nearest and dearest are this sign.

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

Lol at least you recognise you do talk alot of unhelpful shit. Not all the time mind you. I'm just kidding lol

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I know right? 🤦‍♀️

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Posted by Sunmoonrising

Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

I love Gemini sign by the way. Some of my nearest and dearest are this sign.

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😀

We love you too. But we love us more...❤️❤️

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

I think those badges ‘Dxp mediator’ weren’t available anymore...🤷‍♀️

I love Gemini sign by the way. Some of my nearest and dearest are this sign.

😀

We love you too. But we love us more...❤️❤️

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Yes I need to learn to be more self absorbed like a gem but I love their independence and attitude for it. Wish I could be more the same at times

A year of staring? That's unheard of. And you know her from before that!? Nows the time if you feel the heat is cranking up. Just play with her and see how she responds if you're not sure about asking her out bluntly. Her response will put you on track. Also it is summer so heat usually cranks up literally as much as sexually at that period of the year....

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A year of staring? That's unheard of. And you know her from before that!? Nows the time if you feel the heat is cranking up. Just play with her and see how she responds if you're not sure about asking her out bluntly. Her response will put you on track. Also it is summer so heat usually cranks up literally as much as sexually at that period of the year....

Hey mate, I think the difference over the last few months is that I’m actually paying attention... I didn’t really think she was interested before, because I’m pretty clueless... but even I think she’s throwing me some signs now. This flirting stuff keeps us young, eh?

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Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.

On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.

Thank you my friend! And yeah, the insights are much more helpful than some of the jokes, though I do think they are funny... love Gemini’s...

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A year of staring? That's unheard of. And you know her from before that!? Nows the time if you feel the heat is cranking up. Just play with her and see how she responds if you're not sure about asking her out bluntly. Her response will put you on track. Also it is summer so heat usually cranks up literally as much as sexually at that period of the year....

Hey mate, I think the difference over the last few months is that I’m actually paying attention... I didn’t really think she was interested before, because I’m pretty clueless... but even I think she’s throwing me some signs now. This flirting stuff keeps us young, eh?

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Yes it does! So enjoy it!

But I can also see how taking it a step further can kind of break this excitement Hahah.

None the less sounds like she's all over you so you have to go.

All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.

Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.

She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.

All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.

Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.

She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.

Noooooo

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Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

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Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

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That shit sucks

Hopefully she was referring to her dog

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Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

That shit sucks

Hopefully she was referring to her dog

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Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.

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Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

That shit sucks

Hopefully she was referring to her dog

Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.

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Lol I’m glad I could help!

I swear Taurus and Aries can never get off the ground. I want me a Taurus man but it never goes anywhere. I’m talking to one and the other one just ghosted me.

Good thing you all are cautious because it could have gone left! I know sometimes Aries are accused of flirting but we’re just being nice and friendly. I’m a shy Aries when I like someone, like I get really closed off and barely look ya in the eye and others are more forward but from what you shared something is there! I’d say be friends and take her up on the invite for drinks at her place. Learn more about her. What if you’re wrong? Wait for a real confirmation. Get out your comfort zone Tauri.

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Posted by bkbella86

Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

That shit sucks

Hopefully she was referring to her dog

Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.

Lol I’m glad I could help!

I swear Taurus and Aries can never get off the ground. I want me a Taurus man but it never goes anywhere. I’m talking to one and the other one just ghosted me.

Good thing you all are cautious because it could have gone left! I know sometimes Aries are accused of flirting but we’re just being nice and friendly. I’m a shy Aries when I like someone, like I get really closed off and barely look ya in the eye and others are more forward but from what you shared something is there! I’d say be friends and take her up on the invite for drinks at her place. Learn more about her. What if you’re wrong? Wait for a real confirmation. Get out your comfort zone Tauri.

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Thank you!! Yeah, I agree. I’m glad I didn’t step on myself. And I do definitely definitely feel there’s a lot of chemistry between us... people will say there’s not much to staring but I’m telling you, her eyes say a lot. I’m the same as you, I get really shy and can barely look the other person in the eye. Not her though. And I don’t want to sound like a creeper but when I’m around her, I can barely think. I noticed this a year ago but I think it’s been within the past few weeks that it’s just gotten more intense for me. So I’m not sure if I’m noticing the situation more, or if it’s been mutual!

It’s made this summer interesting, at any rate!! I’ll update for anyone interested in our telenovela, lol! Staying on my best behavior, though 😉

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Posted by bkbella86

Noooooo

Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!

That shit sucks

Hopefully she was referring to her dog

Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.

Lol I’m glad I could help!

I swear Taurus and Aries can never get off the ground. I want me a Taurus man but it never goes anywhere. I’m talking to one and the other one just ghosted me.

Good thing you all are cautious because it could have gone left! I know sometimes Aries are accused of flirting but we’re just being nice and friendly. I’m a shy Aries when I like someone, like I get really closed off and barely look ya in the eye and others are more forward but from what you shared something is there! I’d say be friends and take her up on the invite for drinks at her place. Learn more about her. What if you’re wrong? Wait for a real confirmation. Get out your comfort zone Tauri.

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Also, good luck with your Tauruses!! They must be just as clueless as me if they’re not completely into an amazing Aries. Some of us are a lazy lot, too stubborn. We need a lot of patience, lol!

Really just posting as I’m punch drunk on this Aries and curious to hear from people at some point who have had the same experiences. I’ll try to keep it short for my Gemini friend lol.

I’d found out a few days ago that she is either married or in a relationship, which is a non-starter for me. Previously I’d posted on here about an affair I had with a Pisces, lessons learned and tough ones at that.

My boss actually attends the same church as this Aries and said she has never seen her with a partner, just her two kids. And she doesn’t wear a wedding ring. She told me that at one time, the Aries made a comment about how her and her SO don’t celebrate Valentines Day. To each their own, I love that day.

Again with the staring. Except yesterday, I did catch her eye and when she saw me looking at her, she raised her eyebrows really quick and sort of smirked at me. Got my blood going immediately! Helps that’s she’s always got a pen near her mouth too lol. She’s stunning.

She won an award yesterday and I sought her out to congratulate her post-ceremony. I do admire her for many reasons but her work ethic is attractive regardless of how I feel about her in other ways. She pulled me close and gave me a hug, even in the middle of the group.

Biting my lip later, I sent her a congratulatory note and told her we could not do what we do without her and her team. She replied and said it was my turn to make her blush. My heart jumped in my throat as I did not think she noticed or picked up on how shy I am.

It’s like there’s drugs in the air when I’m around her. Holy shit lol.

Treading lightly, to be continued...

You seem to be living in your head and I'm afraid reality may someday soon bite you in the azz. You need to ask her if she is in a relationship. She may have meant that "we" as she and her children. Who knows what is going on with her and that is why you need to ask up front soon. Pick a good day/time and just get it out somehow. You don't want this to go on the point that if it doesn't end well, it will be another black cloud over your head. My mother used to say "sheet or get off the pot" lol that's what I'm saying - for your sake. Plus work relationships are difficult. I'm a Taurus female. I have Aries in my chart and was in a long relationship with an Aries but that was a total bust. Good luck and keep us posted.

I do agree... and I feel on the fence about my own feelings about this. Turns out- she is indeed married, though a mutual friend said it was more like “co-habitating” for the sake of their kids more than a relationship. She said it’s virtually platonic.

Aye. Confusing, exciting, scary as shit.

well now you know and what pray tell do you do about that - she might be a good time but that's about as far as it goes

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well now you know and what pray tell do you do about that - she might be a good time but that's about as far as it goes

That’s what I’m thinking... far too much trouble and potential drama than what I need in life at this stage. Ah well.

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well now you know and what pray tell do you do about that - she might be a good time but that's about as far as it goes

That’s what I’m thinking... far too much trouble and potential drama than what I need in life at this stage. Ah well.

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yes unfortunately it would be difficult for you and could be difficult for everyone even if she went for it