Okay, story goes I met a very cute, random and funny girl (and she gives me that tingle) a few weeks back and we have hung out a lot the other night in a club she was very, very flirtatious and we had a little drunken kiss...anyway she came over yesterday evening and said sorry because she texted me and said she would be over in a couple of hours...well 5-6 hours later she showed and said "hey I brought you a gift" and I said "oh yeah what is it?" and she coyly said "Me...oh and I brought you your fave drink".
That was all fine and we chatted and laughed and took pics of each other etc...but she had to go somewhere...yada yada.
What annoys me is she woke me up by texting me at 6:30 am this morning and said she was coming over...we texted back and forth and she said she would text me when she was outside my place...she hasn't shown up.
Is this just a game to her?, because she told me she was sorry yesterday when I said to her "don't do that, don't tell a guy you are coming around and then not show up for hours and hours".
I am pretty sure she likes me, as she touches me when we talk and told me I was an awesome guy.
I am start to getting a little annoyed here....any advice, thoughts please?
"I'd seriously tell this chick that you like her, but she better get her act together and not play with your time or feelings or you're out. Aries women respect that, and it may even turn her on a bit so that she'll kinda look at you in a new light. If she feels you're a pushover, she won't respect you, which she's already showing she's testing you. "
"If she feels you're a pushover, she won't respect you,"
That is a great part. Always work for sorting idiots out of worthful ones. No one should never be feeling agitated when someone is willing to discuss the situation. Otherwise, it does not worth the time and energy to stay with a woman. Unfortunately such people are extremly rare. Look all over boards. Many people ask their question here first instead of asking to the person of the topic. That quality is my first filter with people and anyone who does not suit in to that criteria...is out!
I think the most important part in such things is voicing your both contents and discontents. This stage of relationship is cruical for such things. Once things set in motion and new stage and level of relationship comes, especially after this one, there will be no way to turn back into this stage and discuss all again. That will definetly destroy all trust between two people, because someone did not feel enough respect to voice necessary discontent in the beginning. Yes, I see this as irresponsibility towards the other person. Surely it's also irresposibility towards yourself, because you might feel yourself stranded between what you have and what you are.
she could either a)like u but is too shy to take it to the next level (does happen with aries girls they like) b) exactly like the male aries-enjoys the thrill of the chase and wants to prolong it as much as she can or c) an attention whore who is looking for someone to fill her emotional needs for the time being.
prob doesnt help much but just my thoughts.
i agree with haffo in that communication with her at this stage is crucial. in my experience with scorps, they work on the unspoken in relationships which is often hard for the upfront cards on your table aries type to understand. for myself communication b/w scorps and aries is a challenge in itself
They're game players. My taurus bro married one, and she has more spark than anyone else, but holy $ hite she causus him STRESS!!! She does mean well, but told me she often will do controversial stuff just to liven things up. She's used frustrating people, embarrasing people to death, it comes down to their heart though. 🙂
More advice would be much appreciated...I haven't heard from her today and asked her if she was keen for the movies today?...am I moving too fast?...what does she expect she was all over me like a rash on Friday Night.
If she feels that you went on her very hard by texting your last message, I think she does not worth your time. Yeah, many women would not take that. This is kinda commitment phobia maybe.
Maybe she just tried your worthliness. She might wanted you to be not a man of her but just a b!tch who would please her. Which makes her mind player yes, but that is just another possibility. That possibility is coming from my own experience with fire signs.
u didnt say what happened after u messaged her that mssg?
did she reply.... n what was her reply like? i know scorps dun like to share such stuff but we r all anonymous here...
what i suggest is that u pick up a copy of linda goodmans sun signs and read the aries woman chapter (or find it online) linda describes the aries character accurately, describing exactly hw aries women behave when they r involved....
from my own point of view, if an aries girl loves u or is serious about u, she's not gonna play around at all..... we are generally very direct in love, no games no playing around and testing and all thzat........... hey u water signs are experts at hiding ur emotions and wearinf masks n being complex!! 🙂
she never replied back so I am just going to froget about her, I have other options and just got caught up in her...it happens...I dated an Aries last year and it didn't last very long, but the sex was incredible he he...she might come around I don't know...but the sad thing is she is actually an addict of a messed up drug and I want to help her.
I had an aries years ago - very kinky. But disatrous, I swear he had the worst A.D.D. as well as the worst blowup temper. We're friends now though. Ah, you might be better off.
you might be better off— lol i was with a taurus for 6 years and i can tell you it wasn't the most pleasurable experience (except in the bedroom *g*)
taurusgoddess...wow that link you posted up put things in perspective...no she hasn't replied but I don't care and I have already moved on...she might not have credit or she may need time to sort her self out.
Ah, smart man, she might need time to sort herself out; yet it's good you're acknowleging that and walking away with respect. That's good you don't point to one sum up of her. Women can be complicated, and it's best not to make up a reason, sometimes it's just not the right time. Wish you luck to find the hottie love of your dreams! 🙂
Oh and tupeline, yes, taurus can be a nightmare to date - can't deny that.
I found out that she has hooked up with the guy that she was staying with for a week, so maybe I'm just a pawn in a jealousy game or something...I want to contact her but I'm not going too...because I think she is really unfair and I thought I understood but I obviously don't...thank you taurusgoddess I appreciate what you say.
Oh I know my hottie is out there...it just might take some time.
lol at you kids having conversations to yourself here...right...I rang her last night and asked her what her story was and as I expected she was so wasted she couldn't even talk properly, so I called her a useless drug addict that is selfish and should be more careful how she acts around guys and I told her don't ever contact me again, I shouldn't have worry about someone that obviously doesn't care when someone is reaching out, trying to help and care about them.
OMG, do you even WANT a chick that needs help? Into the helpless, issue girls?!! Trust me, BAD IDEA!!! My last scorp guy kinda hinted that I was supposed to support him and help him get his shi*e together. I'm like , "NOT the anchor girlfriend!" Those dependant, helping, issue relationships are such a turn off.
AB, you got some very intereting points there. Thinking of the pisces, scorps & cancers I've known, that kinda sounds like their characters. My scorp sis is a missionary though, but she really is gifted and reaching into people deeply. When she dates, it's guys that need some help too. The cancer I knew was insecure and I think secretly wished I was more helpless. He seemed to hate my independence.
You are pretty right, needy people seem to gravitate towards me and I can't help but to try and help them...I never thought of it as wanting to control others, but I do like to feel needed. Then again, I am a TRIPLE Cancer with Virgo Rising so...
Maybe game players isn't the right description. Aprilbaby is solid and not the usual female Aries. There isn't much difference between the males and females for the typical ram.
It's attention and nothing more. They want to be in the spotlight, all eyes upon them. They are very self-centered and egotistical. That is not a bad thing, really because there are people who want to live and devote theirselves to someone else. Who better than an Aries who will absorb the attention and affection. Your Aries friend is a ram through and through. Most likely, the problem is that she is young and not aware of herself yet. Not comprehending that she can find the attention that she believes she deserves from one person who is sincere.
Your course of action may not catch your ram, but, they are good at processing their environment. It will be another experience for her to reflect on and someday, when she grows up, she will become solid too.
Everytime she phones, or texts you, and you agree to let her come over - that is all she needs. She doesn't need you, an Aries doesn't need anyone - they just need to know that they got your attention. Your acceptance puts her in control of your devotion to her. That is where the Aries hides, that is where they are safe. If she actually let you in, then she might lose the power of controlling your attention because then you might see that she deep down inside, her whoreism of attention is because she feels inferior, out of control.
There's nothing wrong with feeling weak, sometimes, to most people. But, an Aries will not allow theirselves to feel anything except strong and in charge. So, naturally, their weakness is a vulnerability. Where can control be gained? Adoration, devotion - even if it's superficial.
Every Aries I know is like this when they are young. She'll find herself, it just takes a little more time than most signs because she's inherently self-centered. It takes time for them to learn that their feelings aren't the only ones. But, every Aries I know, once they mature - are incredible people, kind and compassionate.
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That was all fine and we chatted and laughed and took pics of each other etc...but she had to go somewhere...yada yada.
What annoys me is she woke me up by texting me at 6:30 am this morning and said she was coming over...we texted back and forth and she said she would text me when she was outside my place...she hasn't shown up.
Is this just a game to her?, because she told me she was sorry yesterday when I said to her "don't do that, don't tell a guy you are coming around and then not show up for hours and hours".
I am pretty sure she likes me, as she touches me when we talk and told me I was an awesome guy.
I am start to getting a little annoyed here....any advice, thoughts please?